Transformation

Transformation

What is it really to transform something or someone?? What are we really doing when we facilitate sessions?  I love to begin with Webster: Transformation: 1. to change the form or outer appearance of, 2. to change the condition, nature or function of – to convert, 3. to change the personality or character of, 4. to change one form of energy into another.

He continues to say that transformation in the broadest scope of these terms, implies a change either in external form, inner nature or in function (she was transformed into a happy girl). From its earlier use in alchemy, it suggests a change in basic nature that seems to be miraculous, like from being shy to gregarious. To convert implies a change in details so as to be suitable for new use, like converting an attic into an apartment, or from not being in an intimate relationship for years to dating and enjoying it. It is like a metamorphosis, suggesting a startling change produced as if by magic, like a caterpillar into a butterfly.

How exciting it is to know that what we are doing with people is in the dictionary! This is exactly what we do. Each session we provide change, helping someone become distinctly different – a transformation of character and replacing it with something better. As I follow up with clients after their session, it continues to amaze me what they experience: “My father called me after 30 years of no contact.”, “My breast lump shrunk.”, “I passed the Bar exam after not passing 3 other times.”, “I created and found the job of my dreams and I start tomorrow.”, “My boyfriend asked me to marry him and asked my father for my hand in marriage.” “I won my court case. I’ll be receiving my check for $100,000.00 next week.” I could go on and on and on. Thank you Chloe for developing such a profound transformational system that we can help ourselves and others!

As practitioners, I believe we have a responsibility to encourage our clients to look for how life is different because they did the session and they will see it everywhere. I remind them that what they look for in life is what they see, so rather than waiting for some results to show up, actively be aware, notice what is different and acknowledge it. This is actually part of the transformation. Then when I do my follow-up call with them, we celebrate their results and what they are noticing that has improved. I find this especially effective with my clients who are having their first session.

As I contemplate how this process works so well, I am reminded of the sessions I have had with different practitioners and what they did to facilitate such a profound transformation in me. I would have to say it was their ‘presence’ that made such a difference. I felt safe to go deep, safe to reveal, safe to be vulnerable. They had the ability to get out of their world and a genuine interest to get into mine.  I felt heard, acknowledged and ‘gotten’.  There is nothing quite like getting ‘gotten.’  Consider this a reminder to do the same with your clients and do the personal preparation you need to do before each session, so you can be fully present for them.

Receive sessions from other practitioners yourself. Do sessions on yourself as a part of your routine, your self care.

The more the client feels safe and taken care of, the more they will trust you with their friends and loved ones and the more personal referrals you will receive from them.  The results speak for themselves, but the caring healing space you create speaks volumes. How exciting it is to be in the business of transformation!

Lovingly,


Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662

Transformation: our business and our magic

We are in the business of transformation in Resonance Repatterning. I often thank new clients for their courage in coming in to do a process that will always bring about transformation on some level. And I watch people everyday try to avoid that same transformation.

We get so attached to how things are. The way we talk to our friends or co-workers, the way we take care of ourselves or how we don’t take care of ourselves. The food we eat, the thoughts we think.

The truth is that transformation is an exciting adventure and also scary as all get out. We love to watch movies about characters who make a major transformation in 2 hours. And yet when we ask ourselves to transform a habit, it can take us years.

The truth is, we are now involved in a universal pattern of change and as the Lakota elders say, “It’s time to let go of the riverbank and surrender to the current in the river.” We may be surprised by whom we recognize out in the middle of that fast moving current.

So how are you holding on to the riverbank? What habits or attitudes are you holding onto, even when you know it would be more fun to let go. Smoking or eating sweets, sarcasm with yourself or your family, criticism of the world or others instead of taking action yourself?

The trick is that whatever we have asked for in the past is now what we are flowing towards. It may not look like what we asked for because the packaging may be different. Or we may be being directed through all the clean-up of the past before we can get to the outcome. But be assured, it is some form of what you asked for weeks or months or years ago.
When you say you want a different job and then you lose the job you have, know that you were a part of creating that. When you say you want a relationship in your life that has meaning to you, and you come across a person who all of a sudden wants to be more involved in your life, know it’s part of the outcome you wanted.

The truth is that transformation is hard work when we are fighting to control it. It can be a huge adventure when we welcome it.  What would happen if you opened your arms to your life each day, knowing that it was bringing you something you had asked for in the past. Kind of like Christmas everyday. Our Reptilian brains say, “but what if I can’t handle it?, what if I feel out of control? what if others I care about won’t be there for me, if I change something?” These are all valid questions and yet they are part of change for all of us.

The best thing we can do is reassure that survivor, the Reptilian part of ourselves, trusting that we can handle anything we have asked for. Because the truth is, if we can imagine it, we are ready for it.

Transformation is the magic of life. It’s the alchemy of healing and feeling whole. It’s the ability to jump onto the trapeze of life and trust that life will be there to catch us and if not, the net is always below. And to know that if we fall into the net, we meet someone interesting in the fall.

As I grow older, I find that the only regrets I have are the things I didn’t give myself permission to try. And the best stories that I most value are the stories of times when I felt I had botched things the most. Don’t get me wrong, I am a Leo personality, with 7 planets in Leo. My ego and need to do things right is huge and yet taking a risk and showing up less than perfect are when I have bonded and loved more deeply than at any other time.

So I invite you into this elegant and messy time of transformation. As you look at the world, see all the possibilities of this chaos and conflict you can. People are being forced to look within themselves and find new ways of doing and being. And some of those ideas are miracles. What kind of miracles do you want to invite into your life? And how much of a limit do you want to put on that? And when you feel overwhelmed by it all, remember there are all kinds of processes that help to keep you aligned and clear about what you want. Resonance Repatterning certainly does that for me and I watch it help my clients everyday with just that. It provides the clarity and the energetic housecleaning that we all need in order to find the way to our extraordinary and miraculous outcomes.

Love yourself enough to let go of the riverbank and join us in the current of this fast moving river. It’s already flowing in the direction you asked for, just do what you need to do to relax and enjoy the ride. And if you feel like you are going under a bit, there are a lot of us out there to support you and each other.

Welcome to the ride of your life!!

Bobbie Martin