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Be the Change

Change is inevitable! It is the only thing constant in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life. One way you can embrace the changes, which are occurring in your life, is by acknowledging your part in the change.

One Friday afternoon, a woman, who hated her job and wanted out, manifested the job of her dreams after a Resonance Repatterning® session. In the session, she admitted that she really wanted a more rewarding job, but was procrastinating. We identified the unconscious pattern that was holding her back and shifted her resonance to deserving a much better, higher-paying, creative position that showcased her unique gifts and talents.

Lo and behold, when she went to work the following Monday morning, she was summoned to her boss’s office and promptly fired. She called me very irate and blamed me for her getting fired. I encouraged her to look at how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance. I reminded her of how she had been procrastinating about finding a better job and could now embrace and be grateful for the opportunity to create the job of her dreams. . .and so she did!

While change is inevitable, it can also be emotional, especially when your partner moves on from what you thought was a committed relationship. Rather than engaging in finding fault and placing blame, simply be willing to accept what is so about the situation. Life is too short to resist change and perceive it as “it shouldn’t be this way.” The sooner you stop judging and assessing what was good from what was bad, and who was right from who was wrong, the quicker you will be empowered and experience inner peace. By embracing change and granting yourself the grace to let your partner go, you will have more energy to move forward with ease, grounded in the fact that from what you learned in this relationship, you will be able to attract an even better partner who wants to be with you.

The quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world,” profoundly transformed the relationship I had with my father. After having four children, my mother and father divorced. He remarried and started a new family. On the rare occasions that we talked, it seemed that he just reported how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many of those memorable activities. I found myself becoming more and more envious.

I noticed that what was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledging me for being a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for the difference I was making in the lives of my clients. These were things he had never told me before.

It’s true, by being the change you want to see in the world — providing the very thing you think is missing in your relationships — you too can experience what your heart desires, just as I did. In the very giving of it, my father gave back to me genuine love and acknowledgement. It was quite remarkable.

So, be the change, embrace the change, expect the change and you too can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire — a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion, and fulfillment.

Lovingly Submitted,
Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author – What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life

 

A New Year – A New You

Reinventing ourselves comes from within. It does help to have a planetary shift similar the one we had on the winter solstice December 21, 2012 which coincided with the end of the Mayan calendar. 2018 was all about building and laying down a new foundation. The upcoming planetary shift in 2019 is all about making things tangible and material, so if you have a goal or dream, this will be the year to start making steps to transform your dream into reality.

What I found necessary was to reclaim the parts of myself that I had lost, given away, or given up on. I suggest you do the same. The Fusion Modality in the Resonance Repatterning® method retrieves this lost quality. It will free you to be more authentically who YOU are out in the world.

In a workshop called, Owning My Purpose, one of the exercises we did was to inquire about what we did, or how we survived our family dynamics growing up. One of the things I discovered that I did to survive, to be acceptable, and to get my needs met was to find out what the rules are and follow them. I then saw that even to this day, I find out what the rules are and live within the parameters of them, even if I do not agree with them, or even if have to settle. Growing up, I became the good girl, nice and pleasing. I found out what others needed and did whatever it took to make them happy–harmony at all cost!

The next exercise in this workshop was to distinguished what qualities we left behind to survive, like our uniqueness, our creativity, our curiosity, adventure, etc. I discovered that I left behind, my inner desires, my true authentic playful nature, my full self-expression, my dignity, and most importantly my values.

We then talked about what we are passionate about, like making a difference, nature, animals, helping adopted people find their biological parents, etc. I discovered I have many passions! The four I spoke about were my passion to free people from their past and move forward to fulfill their dream; to take risks, be adventurous and playful; to be in an environment where there are wide-open spaces; and to be free to be myself.

From there, in the quietness of my inner sanctuary I created and later declared and claimed my purpose. I stood up in front of the whole group — and on camera to boot — owned my purpose. My purpose is to inspire and empower others’ greatness to live extraordinary lives! What I realized is that I am already doing that. Energy surged throughout my whole being and a rush of emotion filled my eyes. It was total validation of what I have been all about for many years.

The group was then asked to pick a project to fulfill within six months that would allow us to tangibly experience our purpose and move us into unhesitating action. I could not imagine taking on yet another project. So, I chose one I had yet to complete: publishing my first book, What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life. I created a structure to fulfill my goal with support from those who love and care about me. The paperback was published December 2017 by my own company which you can visit at www.ExtraordinaryOutcomesPublishing.com. The eBook came out in May of 2018 and got to #1 on Amazon the first day. It was exciting!

As you move forward reinventing yourself, be sure you are gentle with yourself and get the support you need from those who love and care about you. It will be easier than you think! If I can do it, YOU can do it too! Have fun!

Lovingly Submitted,
Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author of
What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life

Learning From the Inside Out

The world wide web provides so many avenues of learning and getting information these days. Facts are at our fingertips. There are even websites to verify the facts. In grade school and high school, I remember having to access a set of Britannica Encyclopedias or needing to go to the library to get information. It took hours to research for a paper that was due the following week. Today, I can get information instantaneously using my cell phone! What a difference!

MP910216413[1]Growing up I remember that one of the ways to get acknowledgement and a pat on the back was to get good grades. You may have also heard something like, “Good job, you got 3 B’s, 1 A and 1 C. Now let’s bring everything up and keep the A.” Then perhaps came the bribes, “For every A you get $15, every B you get $10 and C’s get $5.” I know for me, it set up a conclusion that my value came from getting good grades, so I went to work memorizing to make sure I got goods grades rather than really learning. It was so rote and tedious: flash cards, 3×5 cards, repetition, and re-reading, re-writing notes. I remember having to work so hard for my grades while others in the class goofed around, did not even take their books home, and got the same grade I did. Not fair!

What I realize today on reflection, my previous experience of learning was clouded with expectations from my parents, not a genuine thirst for knowledge. I remember not even enjoying reading because it was associated with needing to remember what I was reading, comprehending, and then applying it to some answer on a test. It is rather ironic because today my passion for learning is enormous, “I can’t get enough.”

As I evaluate the difference from learning growing up and learning as an adult, I realize that my learning today comes from a desire in my heart to get as much knowledge as I can to help my clients and myself, where as before it was to receive recognition from an outside source, my parents.

I remember having a session with a NLP practitioner recently. I wrote a book couple years ago called, “What Would Love Do Right Now?” and I really felt stuck with editing the book for publication. He had me do what I call a gestalt with the ‘already published, out on the shelves’ book. I put the book in a chair out in front of me and realized that the book itself had a release date and –within it–all the information I needed to have it actually released by that date. Then I slowly walked toward the chair and sat in the chair. I allowed myself to grasp all the information the energy of the book had for me. I accessed a place of oneness of some sort, the ‘one mind’ where all knowledge and wisdom is. Then I slowly walked backward, looking at the published book as I came back to my chair. I realized that I now had within me the time-line, the final draft of the book and the confidence that I had all the answers I needed. Since then I have created a visual time-line with the release date and what needs to be done by when, regarding the book. The ‘to do’s’ at every stage are much more manageable because they are in small chunks rather than having the whole book’s ‘everything to do’ right on my lap. This is one way you might ‘learn’ by accessing the ‘matrix morphogenic field, ’ where all knowledge and wisdom is. Try it when you need information to empower yourself to accomplish something you previously thought was overwhelming. Alternatively, try it with simple information you need or want. Let me know how it works for you. It has made such a big difference in my life.

As Resonance Repatterning® Practitioners, we use what I call the ‘innate wisdom’ within the client to not only direct the session, but to access the knowledge of what the unconscious patterns are that keep the client from having what they want in life. I suspect that we are accessing the ‘one mind’ within the client. How cool is that! As practitioners, we can now relax, knowing the client has all the answers within, and we can create the sacred space they need to go deep, trusting the process to allow the old patterns to surface to be transformed into new ways of being in the world.

Learning from within, trusting that you have all the answers inside, can be very liberating and empowering. As you experiment with doing this more often, your ability to trust and act on the information will be easier. Your intuitive connection with ‘all there is’ will be enhanced and your dance through life can be an adventure, filled with curiosity and wonder! Enjoy!

Lovingly Submitted,
Victoria Benoit, M.C.

 

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Victoria Benoit, M.C. –   has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

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Looking Within – A New Era of Consciousness

Have you noticed all the ways we are being asked to look within? We are no longer able to point a finger and blame someone or something outside of ourselves. When we try, have you noticed that it backfires? For those of you who know what I mean and can relate, you are consciously entering into a “New Era of Consciousness” where ultimately there is freedom, wisdom and, most importantly, PEACE.

This process can be arduous or transformative. We can kick and scream with resistance or we can move into acceptance of  ‘what is.’ We get to say. I love one of the statements that Chloe Faith Wordsworth (developer of Resonance Repatterning®) has in her latest Intention for New Possibility section. It says: “I accept that whatever is not aligned with my intentions emerges for my own growth and transformation.” If we resonate with and really grasp the opportunity in this statement, our lives can be a platform for self-discovery, growth, and fine-tuning ourselves, so we and others can experience who we really are. Our Divine nature will be palatable as we let our light shine.

I know it is not always easy; however, the results are always worth the effort. So, how does one accomplish what I am referring to? When we are up against a challenging situation, the first step is to breathe, slowly and deeply in through your nose and out through your nose. This activates the parasympathetic nervous system for calm and relaxation. From this state of calm, we can respond rather than react, which always brings more of what we want. We can tell the person, “I need to take a ‘time-out.” I am having a reaction to what you just communicated, and I want figure out why so I can take responsibility for my reaction and respond from a loving place.” If communicated in this manner, the other person gladly agrees so they can do the same. The question you might ask yourself is, “What happened in the past that this resembles?” The unresolved event usually pops in and we come to an understanding, and this alone can transform the situation. Coming back together, you can both share what you discovered and love is restored.

When I look at the earlier experience from my reactions, it helps when I ask myself, “Did they really intentionally try to hurt me, or sabotage me?” The answer is usually, “No.” Putting myself in their shoes, I have more compassion and understanding, which brings me release from the past so I can be free and return to love and experience more peace. You may want to consider doing the same.

This takes practice so be gentle with yourself. When we can share our vulnerabilities and shortcomings it opens others to do the same, which leads to more intimacy (into me, you see), and ultimately more love. Welcome to the “New Era of Consciousness!”

Lovingly submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

 

 

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Are You Living a Purpose-Filled Life?

Through my twenty years of working with clients and talking to some of the elderly at the end of their life, one of their main concerns was whether they fulfilled their life’s purpose. I would talk to them about what they thought their purpose was. I reminded them that not everyone was going to be an Oprah Winfrey, Deepak Chopra or Chloe Faith Wordsworth and that their purpose was very personal. They did not have to be famous, up on stage, have books and CD’s out, be wealthy, married, or whatever they thought and believed might be a worthy purpose.

I would have them do a ‘life review,’ starting in childhood, naming all their accomplishments and, more importantly, the qualities they embraced as they influenced all the people in their lives. From here, they would discover, on their own, what their theme or consistent quality or way of being was that really made a difference for them and the people whom they positively affected personally and professionally. Some of them commented that they were loving, patient, compassionate and/or kind-hearted. Others said, “I was a good mother or good father. I was helpful, generous and supportive. I was a good provider.” As you can imagine, the list went on and on. I then helped them see that what they accomplished in their lives and the qualities they exuded was their life purpose and that it was enough. Being a loving mother was enough. Being a good provider was enough. Taking a stand for peace and being peaceful was enough. Being light-hearted, humorous, and optimistic was enough! Knowing this opened their hearts, and a sense of peace and calm came over them. It actually brought them to tears, tears of knowing that they indeed did fulfill their purpose and lived a purpose-filled life!
I would not recommend waiting until the end of your precious life to discover your life purpose. Sit down when you have uninterrupted time. Light a candle, if you wish. Fill the room with your favorite scent. Close your eyes, take some slow deep breaths and do your own ‘life review.’ Start when you were a child. What qualities or attributes did you radiate back then? Then continue by listing your accomplishments as an adult and use them to determine the qualities you used to make a difference in those around you. You will be amazed at what you discover. Keep writing. You will see a theme emerge. Now, go into the quiet of your inner essence and allow yourself to claim your life’s purpose. You may experience that you are already living a purpose-filled life!

Lovingly submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662

Relationship as a Sacred Journey

Relationships are very intriguing to me. You are in relationship with everyone, from your banker to your lover and everyone in between. How you experience relationships can be uplifting or debilitating depending on how you are in the relationship. Every interaction counts.
Have you ever noticed that the experience you have in an interaction depends on how you approach the person? I have done many conversation experiments, and what I have come to know is the more loving, friendly, and compassionate I am, the more the person I am talking with is that way with me. I have observed this especially when talking to someone, for example, at the phone company when I call in asking for clarity or resolution regarding my bill. Try it next time and notice the difference!
Another experiment I did, many years ago, was with my father. It seemed to me that when he called me,  he was reporting how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many activities. I found myself getting envious of what they were getting that I did not. What was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment that I still mattered in his life and that I meant a lot to him. So, I started acknowledging him for being such a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a Dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and told me how important I was to him. He also acknowledged me for how much of a difference I was making in the lives of my clients. This was something he had not done before. So the very thing I thought was missing I gave him, and in the very giving of it, I experienced acknowledgement and seemingly out of nowhere, he gave to me the very thing I was previously missing. It was quite remarkable. The switch was very dramatic. So, if there are qualities you are lacking in relationship with others, bring that quality to them or the situation and watch how you are actually experiencing the very quality you previously thought was missing.
There are so many things I have learned over the last few years especially when it comes to relating with men. I would like to honor Allison Armstrong, the developer of the “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” series, http://www.understandmen.com. She has spent over thirty years studying men. I would like to share some of the things that have made a difference when I speak with men that I have learned from Allison’s inquiry.
Allison has come to know that men are wired to provide, so I let men know what it is that they would be providing for me if they helped me, and they seem to jump at the opportunity. Since men love to make women happy, I might say to my beloved partner Bernie, “It would really make me happy if you would call me before you left your house to come over, so I know when you might be here. It would provide me more time to get ready to see you after I get caught up on my emails.” Even when men I do not know help me, I make it a habit to tell them what they provided for me. Their chest puffs up, knowing they have just made a difference;  they love it!

According to Allison, men are also wired to protect women. For example, I might say to Bernie while he is driving us somewhere, “I would feel much safer if there were more distance between our car and the car in front of us.” The interaction is not making him wrong for driving so close, rather, it is about proving safety for me. He naturally slowed down and I made sure I appreciated him by saying, “Thank you, I feel much safer now.” It is important as women that we let men provide safety for us and then appreciate them for it.
I have learned so much about my partner Bernie, just from listening to him. Asking him a question, then being quiet, gives him the time he needs to disclose what he chooses. Over time, he reveals more and more of who is and what he is up to, just in his speaking. Being present for another and listening is such a wonderful gift we can give each other.
I have also learned over the years to ask a man what he thinks rather than how he feels. You would be surprised how much information you get. You can actually learn what means a lot to men, what men value and what men hold dear and near just by listening. Men feel acknowledged and respected when they are listened to and men love respect and acknowledgement!
Allison also talks about how important men’s opinions are to them. She states that men’s opinions are to them, as women’s feelings are to women. So, just by asking their opinion, you can hear their inner longings, goals and what they are up to. You can also hear their sincere desire to help and make a difference in your life. Start really listening and notice the difference!

I like to look at intimate relationships as a sacred journey. We can use everything that ‘comes up’ for us and triggers us as an opportunity to heal. For those of us who are privileged to do Resonance Repatterning®, we can find and clear, or inquire and resolve, what happened in the past that is unresolved that is underneath the current upset. In this way, your intimate relationship can be like a journey, a sacred journey into your greatness, if you will. If you are in an intimate relationship, I encourage you to change your perspective and notice how much more freedom and love you share. Those of you who are not in an intimate relationship, the more you clear what is still unresolved from your past relationships, the more you will be open to the qualities you want to attract in a partner. Those of you who do not do the Resonance Repatterning® process, I would encourage you to find a practitioner in your area or have a phone session with a certified practitioner that you really connect with. The sessions are very profound. You can find one at: http://www.repatterning.org.

Relationships can be more uplifting if you are part of the solution, rather than part of the problem. If you go into the interaction with this intention, you will always get a different response, and your relationship with whomever will be a sacred journey– a source of personal transformation, joy and love.

Lovingly submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662

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Health is an Inside Job

To be healthy is to be happy on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. And to be happy is to be healthy on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It sounds like an easy remedy and the good news is, it can be. You can start right where you are, just the way you are.

It all starts with self-love. It is easy to love yourself when all is going well and according to your plans. However, can you love yourself when you just lost your job, or your partner chooses to leave the relationship you’ve been in for ten years?? Can you love yourself when you’ve been diagnosed with arthritis, cancer or any aliment?? How about when someone close to you makes their transition?

These are the times when you need to rely on the reserves of love you have for yourself. Remember the time you succeeded in achieving your goal? You got the job, finished running the 5K, or sold the first pair of earrings you made? What about when you really wanted to move and you did, or when it was best for you to leave a relationship you have been in for a while and you did. How about when you took your first Resonance Repatterning® seminar and you said to yourself, “I am going to go for my professional certification”, and you did. Remember the energy you had when you accomplished your goal? Remember how you celebrated?? This is the energy, the love within, that you can rely on now to help you when you need it the most, for your health.

For the past year, when I have found myself in a growth opportunity, I have used the simple phrase, ‘what would love do right now?’ I may not have been able to do what Mother Teresa would do; however, I’d always do something more loving than I would have done before asking the question. I have shared this phrase with several of my clients, colleagues and friends. They have all shared amazing stories of the difference this inquiry has made. You too can apply this to every area of your life.

Let’s start with physically. What would love do right now? Love might look in the mirror and say, “I love you and accept you just the way you are, and I want to live a long healthy life. To do that I will find a food plan that supports my well-being, I will go for a walk out in nature every morning, I will get my teeth cleaned, take up yoga, get my eyes examined, etc.” Be sure to follow-up on these ideas or they are just that, ideas.

Emotionally, what would love do right now? Perhaps, love would apologize for something you said that you really didn’t mean to say during a recent argument. Love would forgive someone who you perceived harmed you. Love might take the risk to love again, to share your deep feelings. Remember the quote, ‘I would have rather have loved and gotten hurt, than to have never loved.’ What are you waiting for? I have a quote on my refrigerator by Erica Jong that says “If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.” Wow, how true. What are the steps you can take to open your heart again? Who would you feel safe having a Resonance Repatterning® session with? Call them, make an appointment and keep the appointment. It is never too late to have a fabulous love life if that is something you want.

Mentally, what would love do right now? Love might take the time to focus and get really clear on your goals and write them down. Don’t forget the ‘by when’. Love would get the support you need to accomplish your goals. Love would ask for help. Love would change your attitude and be more optimistic. Perhaps love would write down on paper all the lists you have in your head to create some free moments in your mind. Then love would make a plan to complete the tasks on your list.

Spiritually, what would love do right now? Love might take time each morning to connect with your inner Divinity, even just for twenty minutes. It would also be beneficial to do the same thing right before bed; being grateful for the day with all its wondrous moments and even the less than wonderful ones. The more peaceful you are before sleep, the more restful and rejuvenating your sleep will be.

Every moment you are being given an opportunity to be happy and healthy; to grow and transform. When you engage fully in life, life can fully engage with you. I sometimes tell people that I live out on the skinny branches of life. It is not always easy however, the rewards are extraordinary.

You are responsible for the quality of your life. Take time to nurture yourself. Be good to yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself to wholeness.


Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses. Victoria has just completed her first book, “What Would Love Do Right Now?” It will be available on-line and on the stands in July of 2011.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662

 

 

Transformation

Transformation

What is it really to transform something or someone?? What are we really doing when we facilitate sessions?  I love to begin with Webster: Transformation: 1. to change the form or outer appearance of, 2. to change the condition, nature or function of – to convert, 3. to change the personality or character of, 4. to change one form of energy into another.

He continues to say that transformation in the broadest scope of these terms, implies a change either in external form, inner nature or in function (she was transformed into a happy girl). From its earlier use in alchemy, it suggests a change in basic nature that seems to be miraculous, like from being shy to gregarious. To convert implies a change in details so as to be suitable for new use, like converting an attic into an apartment, or from not being in an intimate relationship for years to dating and enjoying it. It is like a metamorphosis, suggesting a startling change produced as if by magic, like a caterpillar into a butterfly.

How exciting it is to know that what we are doing with people is in the dictionary! This is exactly what we do. Each session we provide change, helping someone become distinctly different – a transformation of character and replacing it with something better. As I follow up with clients after their session, it continues to amaze me what they experience: “My father called me after 30 years of no contact.”, “My breast lump shrunk.”, “I passed the Bar exam after not passing 3 other times.”, “I created and found the job of my dreams and I start tomorrow.”, “My boyfriend asked me to marry him and asked my father for my hand in marriage.” “I won my court case. I’ll be receiving my check for $100,000.00 next week.” I could go on and on and on. Thank you Chloe for developing such a profound transformational system that we can help ourselves and others!

As practitioners, I believe we have a responsibility to encourage our clients to look for how life is different because they did the session and they will see it everywhere. I remind them that what they look for in life is what they see, so rather than waiting for some results to show up, actively be aware, notice what is different and acknowledge it. This is actually part of the transformation. Then when I do my follow-up call with them, we celebrate their results and what they are noticing that has improved. I find this especially effective with my clients who are having their first session.

As I contemplate how this process works so well, I am reminded of the sessions I have had with different practitioners and what they did to facilitate such a profound transformation in me. I would have to say it was their ‘presence’ that made such a difference. I felt safe to go deep, safe to reveal, safe to be vulnerable. They had the ability to get out of their world and a genuine interest to get into mine.  I felt heard, acknowledged and ‘gotten’.  There is nothing quite like getting ‘gotten.’  Consider this a reminder to do the same with your clients and do the personal preparation you need to do before each session, so you can be fully present for them.

Receive sessions from other practitioners yourself. Do sessions on yourself as a part of your routine, your self care.

The more the client feels safe and taken care of, the more they will trust you with their friends and loved ones and the more personal referrals you will receive from them.  The results speak for themselves, but the caring healing space you create speaks volumes. How exciting it is to be in the business of transformation!

Lovingly,


Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662
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