Healers, creative types, solo-preneurs, and many women shy away from attention and being seen.
You, too? If you’re afraid of getting attention, being “too big” or “too visible,” this will hold you back from success in business, attracting a mate, and even in being seen and heard in your family and working life.
A few years ago I did the Nun Karma Repatterning on myself and the pattern of “invisibility” came up. Suddenly I saw how I was operating under the radar and mostly invisibly. I was working at home on the phone, doing much of my marketing online. I didn’t stand up in front of people often and I never “tooted my own horn.” I rarely spoke to people about my work. It wasn’t helping my business grow and I was too isolated. The pattern of “invisibility” was my hologram, and it was everywhere in my life.
That took me through a two-year clearing journey, including becoming a teacher of the Art of Feminine Presence. What I’ve been learning is that what draws people to work with you goes beyond having a great website or elevator speech–it’s your presence.
As women, we have a built-in advantage in this area–if we are comfortable with being and expressing our Feminine Presence. It can be part of our power–but this is power defined in a whole new way. It’s not about being like a man . . . isn’t that a relief?
A naturally confident woman is noticed when she enters a room. With her Feminine Presence “turned on,” she is magnetic, grounded, easily heard and gets our attention–without being flashy, loud or aggressive. Both men and women are drawn to be around her—it just feels good!
This presence, this confidence communicates to others “I am open and receptive to your attention–and I welcome it. I feel safe to be heard–and to take up space. I can express my feelings, thoughts and point of view without shrinking and I have something important to say.” This attitude, this stance, shows up in what we say, how we move, what we do in our business, and how we relate to people. It even comes through our written words, our voice on the phone and in audios, and on videotape.
These days it’s a lot harder to stand out in the crowd–there are many more people offering energy healing, coaching and holistic services. Having a powerful method is great, but we must go much further than that to really get attention. Developing your presence, having the courage and confidence to be seen and heard is more important than ever.
It’s what I teach in Art of Feminine Presence classes, and it’s also the focus of my session at the Repatterning World Summit. My topic is “Confident, Clear and Courageous: step into your value and stand in the value of your work.”
Are you curious about what I mean by confidence? I see it as a two-sided coin, two different “faces” which are inseparably linked to the other:
INNER CONFIDENCE is expressed from the inside out, based on how you feel about yourself, your inner self-image, and your self-talk.
OUTER CONFIDENCE is the kind that shows in your body language and your voice. It shows in how you walk and move, and in the ways you express yourself—clearly, warmly and self-assured, without hiding or apologizing. A cool tip: You can use OUTER confidence to grow INNER confidence. Ask any performer or public speaker!
Why will having more confidence be such a great benefit to you?
With more confidence, you feel better about yourself, value your work more, express yourself more clearly and with more impact, and bring in more clients.
Confidence supports you to:
■ Know–and be able to say–what is special and unique about you;
■ Be clear about the results your clients have and that your work makes a difference in people’s lives;
■ Create services, programs and content that shine with quality and value;
■ Let go of having to be perfect and putting off your success;
■ Feel more at ease sharing your expertise as you relax into being yourself;
■ Have more ‘presence’ and enjoy more attention–people remember you;
■ Gain more of that “know-like-trust” factor that builds an audience and draws clients;
■ Enjoy marketing as a conversation and opportunity to connect with others.
GREAT STUFF, isn’t it? You might actually start enjoying marketing as it becomes more of a conversation than a sales pitch. What about having more joy, ease and heart connection with prospects, and having more FUN while attracting great new clients?
Hey…how would it be to enjoy being yourself more, in every part of your day? Now that sounds truly awesome!
Ellen Shapiro is a Success mindset and prosperity coaching for women business owners. Self-mastery energy psychology tools and accelerated belief clearing for consciously evolving women and men. She is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner and has served on the RPA board of directors and a variety of volunteer roles.
Contact Ellen Shapiro