Confidence and Presence: Why they Matter a LOT

Healers, creative types, solo-preneurs, and many women shy away from attention and being seen.

You, too? If you’re afraid of getting attention, being “too big” or “too visible,” this will hold you back from success in business, attracting a mate, and even in being seen and heard in your family and working life.

A few years ago I did the Nun Karma Repatterning on myself and the pattern of “invisibility” came up. Suddenly I saw how I was operating under the radar and mostly invisibly. I was working at home on the phone, doing much of my marketing online.  I didn’t stand up in front of people often and I never “tooted my own horn.” I rarely spoke to people about my work.  It wasn’t helping my business grow and I was too isolated. The pattern of “invisibility” was my hologram, and it was everywhere in my life.

That took me through a two-year clearing journey, including becoming a teacher of the Art of Feminine Presence. What I’ve been learning is that what draws people to work with you goes beyond having a great website or elevator speech–it’s your presence.

As women, we have a built-in advantage in this area–if we are comfortable with being and expressing our Feminine Presence. It can be part of our power–but this is power defined in a whole new way.  It’s not about being like a man . . . isn’t that a relief?

A naturally confident woman is noticed when she enters a room. With her Feminine Presence “turned on,” she is magnetic, grounded, easily heard and gets our attention–without being flashy, loud or aggressive.  Both men and women are drawn to be around her—it just feels good!

This presence, this confidence communicates to others “I am open and receptive to your attention–and I welcome it.  I feel safe to be heard–and to take up space. I can express my feelings, thoughts and point of view without shrinking and I have something important to say.”  This attitude, this stance, shows up in what we say, how we move, what we do in our business, and how we relate to people. It even comes through our written words, our voice on the phone and in audios, and on videotape.

These days it’s a lot harder to stand out in the crowd–there are many more people offering energy healing, coaching and holistic services.  Having a powerful method is great, but we must go much further than that to really get attention. Developing your presence, having the courage and confidence to be seen and heard is more important than ever.

It’s what I teach in Art of Feminine Presence classes, and it’s also the focus of my session at the Repatterning World Summit.  My topic is “Confident, Clear and Courageous: step into your value and stand in the value of your work.”

Office Worker Meditating at WorkAre you curious about what I mean by confidence?  I see it as a two-sided coin, two different “faces” which are inseparably linked to the other:

INNER CONFIDENCE is  expressed from the inside out, based on how you feel about yourself, your inner self-image, and your self-talk.

OUTER CONFIDENCE is the kind that shows in your body language and your voice.  It shows in how you walk and move, and in the ways you express yourself—clearly, warmly and self-assured, without hiding or apologizing.  A cool tip: You can use OUTER confidence to grow INNER confidence.  Ask any performer or public speaker!

Why will having more confidence be such a great benefit to you?

With more confidence, you feel better about yourself, value your work more, express yourself more clearly and with more impact, and bring in more clients.

Confidence supports you to:

■ Know–and be able to say–what is special and unique about you;

■ Be clear about the results your clients have and that your work makes a difference in people’s lives;

■ Create services, programs and content that shine with quality and value;

■ Let go of having to be perfect and putting off your success;

■ Feel more at ease sharing your expertise as you relax into being yourself;

■ Have more ‘presence’ and enjoy more attention–people remember you;

■ Gain more of that “know-like-trust” factor  that builds an audience and draws clients;

■ Enjoy marketing as a conversation and opportunity to connect with others.

GREAT STUFF, isn’t it?  You might actually start enjoying marketing as it becomes more of a conversation than a sales pitch.  What about having more joy, ease and heart connection with prospects, and having more FUN while attracting great new clients?

Hey…how would it be to enjoy being yourself more, in every part of your day?  Now that sounds truly awesome!

Ellen Shapiro

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Ellen Shapiro is a Success mindset and prosperity coaching for women business owners. Self-mastery energy psychology tools and accelerated belief clearing for consciously evolving women and men.  She is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner and has served on the RPA board of directors and a variety of volunteer roles.

Contact Ellen Shapiro
http://repattern.com

Integrating what you know with what you know!

An Interview with Karen Kent, Resonance Repatterning Practitioner by Ardis Ozborn

I had the privilege recently of interviewing Karen Kent, the president of the RPA . We discussed  how she integrates what she has studied throughout her life with Resonance Repatterning. Karen has a rich background. She studied at the University of Kansas and received undergraduate degrees in psychology and fine arts. She went on to get her Masters degree in social work and started her career. Karen worked in a hospital with a specialty in geriatrics. She became frustrated with the limitations of working for a federal agency. They required extensive paperwork and did not encourage creativity. She was introduced to Resonance Repatterning and quickly realized the potential to help people in a deeper more creative way. After 25 years, she left the medical/hospital experience and opened a  private psychotherapy practice. With this freedom she was able to combine her new learning and alternative approaches with her solid psychological foundation to her clients. At the same time Karen was raising two children. In dealing with the challenges of raising her children she soon realized that her situation was not unique. There were many children and parents experiencing the same issues. She found the opportunity of the problem by creating a support system for parents and children who were struggling. I think you will find her ideas very interesting and perhaps will inspire you to integrate what you have learned in the past with Resonance Repatterning.

We are drawn to this work because we want to heal ourselves and others. Many students and practitioners, who have a rich and diverse background, are not sure  how to blend their knowledge into this structure. Resonance Repatterning  invites your expertise. It’s not either/or but how to include ALL that we know to enrich our practice.

Enjoy this recording.

Warmly,

Ardis Ozborn

PS – My interview with Karen has inspired me to explore this topic further with practitioners.  Find Out more at my blog and join us.

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Bio – Ardis Ozborn is one of the founding members of the Repatterning Association and held the role of President when it was called the Holographic Repatterning Association.  She is a long time licensed teacher of Resonance Repatterning, an adviser and facilitates teacher training in addition to presenting seminars.

250_KarenKent011Karen Kent is a Certified Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Certified Spiritual Response Therapy Consultant and Teacher, Certified Spiritual Restructuring Teacher, Holistic Health Counselor from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, Certified American Association of Drugless Practitioners, Masters of Social Work, Licensed Clinical Social Worker.  She has a full time practice in Hightstown, New Jersey.  Find out more about Karen and her work at her website:  Windsor Holistic Health

The Practice and Refinement of Resonance Repatterning

I have been teaching Resonance Repatterning since 1995 and have been privileged to teach some amazing practitioners. I recently interviewed two of them. (Ardis Ozborn, Resonance Repatterning teacher)

Interview with Julie Steve, certified practitioner since 2010

How did you first learn about Resonance Repatterning?
A friend introduced me to a practitioner who did body scans. The scan validated the stress in my body as we explored the emotions held in the organs, and a light bulb went off in terms of my childhood traumas. She suggested a Resonance Repatterning session to identify negative thought patterns and beliefs that I was still resonating with. I began the session from a negative space and at the end I felt like wonder woman! I was ready to tackle the world. I felt so completely different each time I received a session that I decided to learn how to do this myself.

What have you enjoyed most about learning Resonance Repatterning?
I can help  become more grounded, positive and focused. When I have a problem or issue I realize it’s a pattern I can shift. I get excited about helping other people make such a transition in their sessions. When those I love have issues I can offer them a session, too.

What kind of practice have you created?
I work a lot with young women and children. I think that has a lot to do with my personal history. I relate to their experiences and feel compassion for what they are going through. Since I have dealt with many of the same issues, I can meet them where they are. I love children. Because of all my repatternings, I am more in touch with my little girl. Children know when you are being real with them. My clients help me as I help them–especially when patterns come up that I have worked on myself. It gives me a great appreciation for their process.

You are a Jehovah’s Witness and devout in your practice. Has there been any conflict for you in studying and practicing Resonance Repatterning?
No. I researched Resonance Repatterning carefully before I began my studies. No religious teaching is brought into the trainings. It is based on science, energy medicine, and psychological principles. I appreciate that very much.

You have retaken the classes many times. What has that given you?
In my Kingdom Hall we read the entire Bible through every year. Each time it deepens my faith. It’s like that when I retake the courses. Each time it builds on my depth of understanding and appreciation for it’s complexity.

Who would you recommend these seminars to?
Anyone who takes responsibility for working on one’s self could benefit. I always struggled in school and was afraid it would be like that again. I was pleasantly surprised that they were fun and easy for me. I was learning without realizing that I was learning. At the end of the day, I was amazed at the amount of energy I had. I felt so alive and absorbed so much. When I came home my energy had shifted, and those around me shifted, too. That was a bonus!

Interview with Bobbie Martin, certified practitioner and teacher from Kansas City, Missouri:

How long have you been practicing?
I started in 1997. I had a session that I enjoyed and then agreed to organize a series in Kansas City, where I took the training. I backed into it totally. I was open to new ideas. With the many things I have learned and practiced in  the past, I get what I need and move on. I have been doing this for 15 years now and I am still stimulated. There is always more to learn and grow with. It is very respectful to the client–efficient and respectful of their own timing as well. We can both relax and know that things will only come up when you are ready for them.

What was your healing background?
I was already a professional psychic with a full practice. Learning Resonance Repatterning was fun and easier than doing psychic work. It felt like play to me,  not work. I started using it with my existing clients, and it helped me reaffirm that this was led by the client not me “on the pedestal” with all the answers. I empowered my clients, and the process itself kept me intrigued. There was always something new in the sessions that I was stimulated by. With some clients I combined a little psychic work with a repatterning to go deeper when their system was ready to talk to us.

What is your Resonance Repatterning specialty?
What I do well is connect the dots for people. This is my gift. I always did this with my psychic readings. I would get  impressions, and gradually it was a kaleidoscope of pictures that led to the “aha” moments. I do this with Resonance Repatterning–I don’t consciously bring me into it. This is not psychic work. I had to make a conscious choice to make peace with that. I don’t do anything in a session, including giving my input, unless I muscle check that it is appropriate. It can sometimes be a distraction from the session. I keep my focus on honoring their system.

What have you learned along the way?
In a session I am not always sure why things are coming up, but I know it will make sense as we go through it. People value this. I have the ability to bring whole pictures together. At the end of the session they see why things came up, and it all fits. At the start of the session, I ask the client what is going on with them. I take notes and have become a very good scribe! I have learned to value their wording, even an off-hand remark. I muscle check to see if it should be included. Their words have the vibration. If I use their words, I am a good mirror for them, and they are shocked and amazed that the answers they are looking for are the words they just spoke!

This is a PhD in energy medicine. The work is so deep and life changing. When business clients come for help they soon realize that it is their energy driving their business. If it is off, what is going on with them? It’s the same for me. If my appointment base goes off, it’s not the economy.  This is my barometer. It is within me. I use Resonance Repatterning to coach business people and myself.  It’s all about energy. Once you clean up the internal issues the business or practice gets back on track.

Ardis Ozborn

Ardis Ozborn is one of the founding members of the Repatterning Association and held the role of President when it was called the Holographic Repatterning Association.  She is a long time licensed teacher of Resonance Repatterning, an advisor and facilitates teacher training in addition to presenting seminars.

“Be” the Change

Change is inevitable! It is the only thing consistent in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life.

One way you can embrace the changes that are occurring in your life is by acknowledging your part in the change. I remember doing a Resonance Repatterning® session on a woman who hated her job and wanted out. She was procrastinating about looking for a new one, even though she really wanted something more rewarding. We identified her unconscious pattern of ‘not deserving better’ and shifted her resonance to deserving a creative outlet for her gifts and talents and getting paid well for them. Lo and behold, when she went into work on Monday, she was fired. She called me irate and blamed me for being fired. I encouraged her to look how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance.  I reminded her how difficult it was for her to take action to look for what she really wanted in a job and that now was her opportunity to be grateful for the opportunity and embrace it.  I acknowledged her for coming in for a session and taking action on discovering ‘her part’ that was keeping her from her heart’s desire. I encouraged her to see this as a gift and to take advantage of the time she now had to create the ‘job of her dreams’.

Another example could be a partner wanting to move on and leaving the relationship that you have been in for some time. The more you take responsibility for how you caused this or the part you played, rather than blaming the other, the quicker you can be at peace and see the opening you have to grow and learn from the relationship and let them go. Would you really want to be with someone who does not really want to be with you? You could then evaluate what worked and what did not work in the relationship, give yourself time to heal and then prepare to draw to you an even better partner. I am not saying that all this is simple; however, if you embrace the change rather than fighting it, you will have more energy to move forward with ease and grace.

Another concept I like to use in my own life is to ‘be’ the change I am looking for. One day I did an experiment with my father. It seemed to me that when he called me he was reporting how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many activities. I found myself getting envious of what they were getting that I did not. What was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being such a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a Dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledged me for being such a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for how much of a difference I was making in my client’s lives. These were things he had not told me before. So, the very thing I thought was missing, I gave him, and in the very giving of it, I experienced acknowledgement and seemingly out of the blue, he gave to me the very thing I was previously missing. It was quite remarkable. The switch was very dramatic. So, if there are qualities you are lacking in relationship with others, ‘be’ that quality with them or bring that quality to the situation and watch how you are actually experiencing the very quality you previously thought was missing. You will be amazed.

            ‘Be’ the change, and you can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire – a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment.

Lovingly submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

 

 

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

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