Love makes all things possible.
How I came to create the Magical Healing Process. People who know me, know that I have a standard in my life about being on time. When I tell someone that I’ll be somewhere at a certain time, I do what it takes to arrive ON TIME. If I realize I’m going to be even five minutes late—out of respect—I call the other person to let them know my new ETA.
My beloved was always late. During the time Bernie and I were not yet living together, and I knew he was coming over, I did a lot to make sure I was ready at the time he said he’d arrive. Bernie, on the other hand, was continually late and he never called to let me know.
Blah, blah…blah, blah, blah. I was getting increasingly frustrated when he’d show up late. Each time he’d say, “I’m sorry I’m late, I got distracted.” Then, he’d go on and on, protecting and defending his tardiness with all his reasons and excuses, which were all valid to him—but not valid to me. It even got to the point where he wouldn’t commit to a specific time so, in HIS mind, he’d be off the hook.
Finally, the day of reckoning. I sat my beloved down and explained all the things I did to prepare myself to be ready and available at the time he said he’d be over. I told him, “I return all my phone calls. I finish the work projects I can complete. I clean my condo. I take a shower and pretty myself up. I get dinner started at the right time, so it’s ready when you walk in the door.”
I also told him, “I feel disrespected and dishonored when you are late. It makes me feel like you don’t value my time, and your ‘I’M SORRYS’ just don’t cut it anymore.” He let me know that he had no idea the impact his tardiness had on me. I then asked him, “What are you going to do differently so this doesn’t happen again?” He committed to leaving 30 minutes earlier than usual to make sure he would be on time. I let him know I thought that would probably work—BUT something was still missing.
We co-created a new future. What I needed from Bernie was for him to do something special that demonstrated to me that he was serious about making amends. By making it up to me, I could forgive him and we could release the past and move forward with a fresh start.
Bernie was masterful at making special—EXTRA SPECIAL. He took me to a fabulous, local five-star steakhouse as a way to reestablish our connection. We had a wonderful, loving experience.
From impossible to possible. From that day forward, Bernie honored his promise to always be on time, and to be considerate, responsible, and accountable for the impact his actions—or lack thereof—had on me and others. His earnest transformation allowed me the grace to heal my heart and restore my compassion for his humanity.
Saying “I am Sorry” is not enough. Working through this challenge with Bernie, I knew I had to write a book so others could benefit from the insightful healing process and create a magical life for themselves. May the outpouring of my experience provide wisdom that touches your life in profound ways.
Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.
There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.
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Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.
“Never forgive if you are not ready to forget. Forgiveness is not something we do for other people, we do it to heal ourselves and move on.” ~ Author Unknown