There is no end of possibilities for what we can repattern in our life to create a better life story….
Mercury retrograde is coming again—June 29 to July 23—and this one in Cancer feels less like a cosmic prank and more like a heartfelt invitation. Instead of imagining Mercury gleefully scrambling our emails, think of it as a patterned frequency loop: the solar system broadcasting a very specific “review and realign” signal through the communication bandwidth of our lives.
Astronomically, nothing actually moves backwards. It is our perspective that changes. And in repatterning terms, that’s the point. When Mercury appears to retrace its steps, it’s as if life highlights a slice of our story—home, family, emotional safety this time in Cancer—and says, “Let’s replay this section. What patterns are you ready to update?”
The usual Mercury retrograde headlines focus on tech glitches, travel delays, and miscommunications. Underneath those outer events, I see frequency patterns: the resonance of old family rules about speaking up (or staying silent), inner narratives about being misunderstood, and inherited beliefs about how safe it is to ask for what we need. When emails go missing or conversations go sideways, it can feel like you are being punished, but it’s just natural feedback from the field.
This particular retrograde in Cancer emphasizes our bonding patterns—how we create home, how we care, and how we protect ourselves. You might notice themes repeating around family stories, housing or home projects, or emotional boundaries in close relationships. Rather than bracing against it, you can treat this period as a pre‑scheduled clinic for your inner operating system.
A few playful ways to collaborate with the pattern:
Keep a “Mercury Log” of every delay, glitch, or emotional trigger and ask, “If this were a dream, what would it be showing me?”
Use the slower energy to revisit half‑finished conversations, home projects, or creative ideas with fresh eyes.
Notice where your first impulse is to retreat into your shell—and where a gentle, clearer communication might repattern the whole experience.
If you’d like structured support to align with, rather than resist, this cycle, I invite you to join astrologer Julie Simmons and me for our Aligned for Mercury Retrogradeprogram. Julie brings her deep astrological insight; I bring repatterning processes to shift the frequencies this retrograde is highlighting for you. Together, we’ll help you receive this Cancer Mercury retrograde as a powerful ally for emotional clarity, belonging, and a more resonant “home” within yourself.
During Mercury retrograde (that astrological event that happens 3 x per year) —and especially when it rubs against Uranus—we feel the paradox of tech: it empowers our work and relationships, and it can destabilize them in a heartbeat. Frozen screens, lost files, misfiring emails, and video call chaos are invitations to set boundaries, slow down, and choose consciousness over reactivity. The goal isn’t to fear retrogrades; it’s to outsmart the meltdowns with practical rituals and a sense of humor.
Start with intention. In energy work, intention organizes outcomes; what we focus on grows. Imagine your systems “Teflon-protected,” then translate that energy into basics: commit to caring for your setup, learning a little more each week, and staying vigilant. Empowerment here is practical—small habits that keep destabilization at bay.
Practical habits make the difference: • Don’t ignore update prompts—schedule them at day’s end so you’re never caught mid-meeting. • If you click a link and your intuition pings “suspicious,” pause and investigate; change passwords and run a quick security scan. • Clean up files weekly, run backups, and book a quarterly tune‑up with your tech support. • Review credit card statements for unused subscriptions and cancel them—free your money and your mental bandwidth. • Read critical emails twice, then once more aloud before pressing send. Retrogrades love rushed messages; you don’t have to feed them.
When things go sideways on a video call, breathe. Name what’s happening, offer a quick plan (“I’m switching audio; give me 30 seconds”), and keep your humor. Establish a backup: a dial‑in number, a co‑host who can screen‑share, or a pre‑sent slide deck so the room stays anchored.
I remember my colleague Jennifer Johnson, tentative about technology, hosting one of her first World Peace Hologram repatterning sessions as a YouTube live stream. She did everything right—or so she thought—and began her monologue using Hearing Repatterning to tune the group for world peace. Unfortunately, she forgot to unmute. It took 20 minutes for participants to sleuth her number and reach her husband to get the audio back on. The irony wasn’t lost on the viewer who sent multiple LOL messages. The lesson: build a ritual pre‑flight checklist—audio, video, screen share, links, backups—and laugh when retrograde reminds you you’re human.
To protect family well‑being during these cycles, set “digital sabbath” windows where devices live in another room, create household norms for respectful texting and response times, and agree on a bedtime tech cut‑off that honors nervous systems. Uranus may jolt the system; your boundaries give it somewhere safe to land.
Have you ever wondered why an enlightened leader or guru can be very evolved spiritually yet their relationships, finances, or career are riddled with scandals and problems? Or why family members don’t get along? Or at some macro level why can’t world leaders have civilized discussions to work out problems instead of going to war?
Our self work and numerous repatternings may often still leave us searching for answers and a new way of being in the world.
In my quest to evolve a repatterning system I found the work of Ken Wilber and Integral Theory to be immensely helpful. Clients seem to sigh a breath of fresh air when they come to understand the developmental stages of transcendence and how it relates to their challenges – especially when they clear the resonance involved. It explains a lot – allowing you (as integralists would say…) to be bothered about more things but hurting a lot less.
The premise is this…
There are many internal maps we can access to clear our field of energy and spiral up on our journey of becoming our true self, living our potential and waking up each day anticipating something wonderful happening for us. The ancient maps of the chakra system of India or the Five Elements and Meridian maps of Acupuncture are thousands of years old and are often used in healing work such as repatterning. They provide us with information about our patterns and where and what we need to do for more coherence.
However, in recent decades the research of adult development and consciousness has revealed yet additional naturally occurring internal maps we can activate in order to grow our capacity for transcendence and happiness in life. These internal maps are known as levels accessed in a sequence from oldest to newest.
Transcending and including: We access these levels of thinking in an ordered sequence. They are built like a pyramid with each level providing a platform for the next level to evolve. Like Red Cross swimming lessons, we can’t skip levels but in the process of evolving, our understanding of the upper levels often precedes our personal activation of these levels. We can cognitively or mentally understand a higher level from our current activated one. However, we may have difficulty living from that place. On our journey of personal growth, our goal is to transcend our current level – taking the positive lessons of that level with us as we leave it behind and move into the next higher level.
Map of Integral Awareness…
Researchers from the Integral Theory community say that we transcend and include each level. When we have learned the lessons of our current level we may encounter experiences that begin the process of leaving it behind in order to activate the next level of conscious awareness.
Each level has been mapped back to its origin in the development of humanity with level 1 – called Archaic being the oldest at thousands of years old and Levels 7,8 and now 9 or 10 being the newest emerging only a few decades ago. How we think and process today is much different than just a generation ago. Each level comes with its own values, identity, perspectives and other characteristics.
Levels within Tiers – Levels one through six are referred to as Tier 1, and levels 7 and 8 are referred to as Tier 2. Research has also identified the recent emergence of what has been dubbed ‘supermind’ or Tier 3.
At Tier 1 each of the levels believes their perspectives and values are the correct ones and everyone else is wrong. By contrast people who have activated tier 2 within themselves are driven towards wholeness and consider each person to be at least partially right and holding a partial truth.
The value of learning about these maps is that it can help the activation process within us, support our inner growth and well-being and give us more perspective. We start tolerating the family discord with because of our inner ‘Aha!’ understanding. The more we access these maps within us, the more life begins to make sense, we are more compassionate, less judgmental, more generous and abundant. We come into harmony and resonance with and consequently experience what is ‘good, beautiful and true’(Ken Wilber) in our life.
While there are a number of researchers documenting these levels, my Life Repatterning system is adapted from the Integral Theory works of Ken Wilber and his supporting community. In my system we look at patterns of mindfulness that help us move through the levels. Using our present moment experiences we clear the left over patterns from unfinished levels of development that are holding us back.
We are then better able to transcend and include levels reaching for more options, more perspectives and ways of being that make us happy. For more information about how I incorporate integral understanding into repatterning visit my website… www.LightTravels.com . To learn more about integral theory visit the community website: www.IntegralLife.com
Never, ever stop celebrating life with reckless abandon.
I have diligently made many vision boards, some overarching, and some for only one specific future I wanted to manifest. In doing so, so much more has opened up. Many things I visualized have come to fruition, and I have been granted opportunities I never imagined could or would be possible.
Here’s more of my many ongoing results.
• I am deepening my relationship with God, and I receive daily guidance, which I follow.
• I am enjoying new friendships, which are deep, rich, and rewarding.
• I am singing up a storm, and dancing like nobody’s watching!
• I am acquiring new referral sources for my business that recommend people who become perfect, wonderful clients.
• I am taking action to ensure that my body is strong, flexible, and fit, and, as a result, I feel vibrantly ALIVE.
Here’s some goals I have yet to realize.
• I am still manifesting my perfect home—in the perfect location.
• I am actively pursuing my perfect husband—with the perfect qualities.
Alfred A. Montapert once said, “To accomplish great things, we must first dream, then visualize, then plan…believe…act!” Never, ever stop celebrating life with reckless abandon. Always and forever acknowledge the courage you possess to heal your past and restore each and every relationship in your life. Believe with all your heart that anything and everything IS possible! It all starts with Three Magical Words and ends with A Magical Life!
Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.
There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.
Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.
You may have encountered people who just seem to get what they ask for without much apparent effort—things just drop into their lap—you might even have had this happen to you. This is the power of designing your life and manifesting your visualization using the universal law of attraction. This means that as soon you declare what it is you want, you will begin to see opportunities appear. Your job is to accept them with gratitude.
Manifestation isn’t magic,it takes some work. One way to improve your ability to have what you want is to create a project, or a series of projects, from the magical life you’ve designed.
Manifestation is not about expecting projects or desires to fall out of the sky. As you improve your ability to manifest, things may become more efficient and effective, with less stress, struggle and resistance. The time it takes to achieve the things you desire will appear swift and effortless—and that, my friends, looks like falling into your lap.
This is how I manifested one aspect of my magical life.
• I wanted to make a difference in the lives of people through writing successful books. I’d never authored a book—how should I go about doing it? I was open to learning whatever it took.
• Before starting any research, I visualized the project. I saw myself writing my books and being supported by a team of professionals. I visualized being a successful and well-respected author and saw people changing their lives through reading and practicing what I had written. I knew that being an Amazon #1 best-selling author was key to attaining credibility in this arena, so I visualized that too. Next, I wrote down, in great detail, everything I had visualized; then I created a fantastic vision board and put it on my desk so I could see my future every day.
• The next logical thing to do was to take action. I knew my friend, Dr. Margaret Mears, conducted a creative writing course, Write from Your Heart™, so I signed up. After completing that course, a book title, What Would Love Do Right Now?, popped into my mind—loud and clear. I grabbed a notebook. I wrote the title and my name on the first page and drew a big heart right in the middle. Easy peasy—I had a book cover which was to become my FIRST Amazon #1 Bestselling book! Hurray!
• However, I couldn’t seem to write anything for months and months. Back to the drawing board—or more succinctly, back to the vision board. I never stopped believing that my desire to write a book would happen.
• To tell the truth, I was overwhelmed by the idea of authoring a whole book—creative writing is one thing, completing a book is another. Out of the blue, a colleague suggested I attend Tom Bird’s retreat, Write Your Book in 5 Days™. That sounded just like what I needed—I thanked her and God for showing me the way. Back on track!
• I researched the retreat and found that it was only 90 minutes away and within my budget, so I signed up. The day it started, I grabbed my original notebook and headed for Sedona. The workshop was intense, fun, and revealing. I completed the first draft of my first book during those five days—WOW! What a ride. Things are finally looking up.
• So, now what? I had a rough draft but it was nowhere near being finished and my goal was to get my book on the Amazon #1 Best-Seller list. YIKES! I knew nothing about how to do that. Then I found out that Tom Bird also offered a Publish Now Program which I thought had everything I needed to accomplish my goal. Nothing’s going to stop me now! I was on my way and so excited to get started.
• This is when my book finally became a bona fide project. I went home and created my production schedule. I chose the date I wanted to have my book available on Amazon. I wrote down all the things I needed to accomplish one month before the end date. I kept identifying what needed to be done month by month working backward until I reached the starting date of the Publish Now Program.
• What surprised me the most was how manageable this project seemed to be. With everything written out on a timeline on a big poster board, I could envision its success—and most importantly—discovered I didn’t have to accomplish everything the first month. It was apparent who I needed to call and when, as well as, who I needed to secure contracts with for different services that weren’t included in Tom Bird’s publishing package. I could now breathe in—as well as out!
• Just when I thought it was safe to go back in the water, my ignorance bit me in the wallet. Being a new author, I hadn’t known all the right questions to ask and I didn’t know the difference between the terms, “copy editing” and “line editing.” The Publish Now Program contract included copy editing only.
• I was assigned a copy editor who I thought would be the answer to my prayers. After several months of working with him, going back and forth with very little progress and lots of frustration, he informed me that what my book desperately needed was called “line editing” and it was going to cost me extra—A LOT extra.
• The answer to my prayers was turning into a dispirited ordeal. The editor became less and less responsive and I realized he was not going to be able to finish the project. My expectations were thwarted. I felt so defeated I just gave up and stopped. Stick a fork in me—I’m done.
• Every day I looked at my vision board—sitting there on my desk—reminding me of my sincere desire to make a difference in the lives of people by sharing the book I titled, What Would Love Do Right Now?
• Knowing that the universal law of attraction is always working, I decided to focus on what I had declared, believe that it would happen, and expect opportunities to appear.
• Soon after, God nudged me once more and I thought, “Let me try again.” I contacted a colleague, who was also a writer, and she offered to edit my book with me. We spent four solid days together, during which time I had the feeling that she was taking “ME” out of my own book. She said things like, “This isn’t true,” “You can’t say that,” “I don’t agree with your philosophy,” “You need to update your approach,” and then she added her own ideas. By now, I was so insecure about my ability as an author, I just broke down into tears and went home. Needless to say, I didn’t use her version as my final manuscript. I forged ahead, undaunted, aligned with my original intention and vision. Nothing could, or would, stop me now!
• Fortunately, yet unbeknownst to me, two of my dearest friends while having lunch, were discussing the editing dilemma I was having with my book—frankly, both of them were sick and tired of listening to all the problems I was having with editors—so they stepped up to the plate and offered to assist with getting my book published.
• Betsy, who is a creative writer and award-winning graphic designer, polished my content and designed my book cover, as well as my publishing website. Paula, who is an excellent editor, did everything from style editing to grammar, punctuation, and proofreading. Both are extraordinary wordsmiths.
• With my dream team on board, I established a new production schedule and we rolled up our sleeves and started right away. The three of us worked together diligently, burning the midnight oil, and turned my original rough draft into a fabulous manuscript ready to publish. We had a blast. It was magical!
• We managed to format both the print and eBook versions on time. My print version went up first and got to #12 on Amazon, just through word of mouth by my family, friends, colleagues, and clients. I set about to find out what else I needed to do to get my book to #1.
• Enter Denise Cassino. She works with authors and guarantees that their books achieve an Amazon #1 best-selling status. Sure enough, less than 24 hours after the eBook was available, it went to #1 and I became a best-selling author!!!
• This credential gave me avenues to manifest my desire to make a difference in the lives of other people. I now have regular opportunities to speak to spiritual development groups, hold book-signings, and deliver workshops. I also facilitated a 10-week group forum, discussing and applying the principles from each chapter of my book. It made a significant difference in the lives of the participants, exactly what I wanted!
Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.
There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.
Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.
What you feel you attract…what you imagine you create.
To live a magical life, you must first free yourself from your suffering, struggling, bitterness, deep regret, and the hurts and harms that bind you to the past. It starts with you granting forgiveness, making amends, and being forgiven.
When your past is in the past where it belongs, you can begin to design your magical life! Visualizing, recording, and vision boarding—are all powerful ways to support you. Explore one method then another or use all three until you discover which combination works best for you. The most important thing is to START!
These are the methods I used to design my magical life.
• 1) VISUALIZING: I went to my meditation/healing room in my home, where I knew I could have quiet time by myself. I began by getting comfortable in my chair, then took some slow deep breaths in and out through my nose. I brought my energy and awareness down into my precious heart and said to myself, “I am open and ready to see, feel, sense, and hear the magical future that is mine to have in alignment with divine guidance and my purpose.” I let the thoughts and images flow.
• I imagined my perfect home; in the perfect location; with the right man who loves, cherishes, and adores me. My healing/coaching business is thriving, and I have the perfect referral partners. I have published six Amazon #1 best-selling books. I sing weekly in the Higher Vibration Healing Choir, and my husband and I dance at the local studios, as well as travel together for pleasure and business, whenever and wherever we want—all of which feeds my soul.
• My friendships are rich and meaningful. We have open and honest communication, we speak our truth, we hear and accept each other exactly as we are. We have fun together and support each other in accomplishing our dreams and goals—we even set each other straight, occasionally.
• My body is strong, flexible, and fit, and I am vibrantly healthy. Most importantly, I have deepened my relationship with God, and I receive daily guidance which I follow.
• 2) RECORDING: I wrote down everything I had seen in my mind’s eye and I added a few more things that came to me as I was writing. I knew that I was onto something when I was moved to tears as I let the words flow onto the paper.
• 3) VISION BOARDING: I gathered many magazines as my source for suitable pictures. I found a picture of a beautiful, plantation-style home that was located on a tropical peninsula overlooking a white, sandy beach. It felt like home. I cut it out and placed it on a poster board.
• I cut out pictures that revealed the many facets of the man of my dreams. In one picture, he was well-dressed sipping wine on the balcony of a Royal Caribbean cruise liner. Another picture showed him dancing, laughing, living and loving life at Mardi Gras. Yet another picture showed him in a tuxedo, standing at the altar with his best man, smiling from ear to ear. Woohoo!
• Next, I found pictures of a woman speaking to an expansive audience. I was thrilled to find another picture showing a woman at a writing desk with a bookshelf displaying best-selling books behind her, and a picture of a woman being interviewed on a national morning TV show regarding her book tour.
• I sprinkled the poster board with the words: fun, romance, love, adventure, passion, and joy, around the pictures along with the phrases, “I declare it will happen,” and “I proclaim it is mine.” Every morning when I wake up, and every night as I am falling asleep, I feel blissful as I gaze at each picture I chose, that embodies my magical life.
Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.
There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.
Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.
“Imagination is more important than knowledge. For while knowledge defines all we currently know and understand, imagination points to all we might yet discover and create.” ~ Albert Einstein
Observing and healing a child’s suppressed behavior begins with creating a safe space.
Paying close attention to a child’s odd behavior can reveal suppressed emotional wounds that are a silent cry for help. It’s best to proceed with care and a genuine desire to release and heal what they are hiding.
Creating a safe space for a childbegins by initiating eye contact, giving them focused attention, and offering reassuring touch as needed. Including all three while engaging with a child will forge a greater bond of love. It is imperative to let the child know there is nothing wrong and nothing bad will happen to them. Assure them that they are safe to say whatever is on their mind or in their heart.
Encouraging a child to express what they want in the safe space supports you in getting to know them at a deeper level. In turn, they experience how much you really care about their wishes. They also realize that you are truly interested in them and appreciate the attention they’re receiving.
This is how a relationship between a child and her father was healed.
• When I was in 1st grade, in Chicago, my school had an after-school program called, “Learn to Play the Piano.” I really wanted to take lessons, so I asked my dad who said, “Before you can take lessons, you have to get straight ‘A’s on your report card.” The years passed and finally in 7th grade I did it. My dad honored his word and let me take piano lessons. I was thrilled beyond belief!
• The classes and practice times were available at the school, so we didn’t need to buy a piano. Dad just had to pay a fee. At the school music recital, my father recorded my performance and was shocked at how good I was. I still have that tape recording.
• At the end of the year, my teacher told me and my parents that I had real talent and was a quick study. She also told us, that she thought music and piano were something I should pursue.
• The next year we moved to another school where this program was not available. I was very disappointed until I noticed that our new next-door neighbor had a grand piano and someone told me she gave lessons. One day after school, I knocked on her door and asked, “If I take lessons from you, can I practice on your piano?” She said, “Yes.” I was so excited! I went home and told my dad. He became infuriated and yelled, “How dare you let the neighbors know that we can’t afford a piano.” He then made me lie to our neighbor by telling her that I couldn’t take lessons because my schoolwork was more important, thus ending my piano career. The shame I experienced after that upsetting incident was unbearable.
• Around this time, my 20-year-old sister, living in California, bought a piano and started taking lessons. Four years later the company she worked for transferred her to France. Before she left the country, she planned a short leave to come home for a month.
• One night at dinner, about a week before my sister was due to arrive, my father announced, “I think we should buy a piano so Anna has a way to practice while she’s here.” He looked over at me and asked, “You play the piano too, don’t you?” I was dumbfounded. I could only manage to nod my head as feelings of animosity, resentfulness, and outrage overwhelmed me. How could he not remember my impressive recital, the recording he made, and my teacher’s acknowledgment? I just sat there and said nothing.
• The very next day my parents and I went shopping for a piano. We ended up buying the most beautiful, shiny black, upright Baldwin—known by the slogan, America’s Favorite Piano. I could not have been more delighted. While my sister may only be home for a month, that piano was going to remain in my living room—which meant I could play it anytime I wanted—and refuse to play it anytime my father was home.
• After a couple of months, my mother noticed that whenever my father was in the house, I wouldn’t play the piano at all, and if I was in the middle of practicing, I would simply stop. What no one knew was that it was the only way I could punish my father for doing what he’d done to me—humiliating me and making me lie.
• While my father was away on a weekend hunting trip, my mother—the astute woman that she was—decided to broach the subject of my odd behavior. She sensed that I might be more open to explaining myself when he wasn’t there. In her loving and understanding way, I eventually poured out everything I had held inside since I was five—the years I struggled to get straight ‘A’s. The shame I felt for lying to our neighbor. I yelled. I screamed. I pounded the table. I paced the floor. For over 20 minutes, I was sobbing so hard I could barely breathe. I even started to tear up my sheet music, but my mother stopped me.
• When I had finally released all of my righteous indignation and I could talk normally again, she calmly said, “Your father has many peculiar rules. I’ll have a talk with him.” I asked her, “Do you think it’s because he doesn’t love me as much as he loves Anna? I don’t remember what she said, because whatever she said, it wasn’t my father saying it.
• A few days later, the three of us talked about what happened and how I felt. I asked my dad why he did and said those things. He apologized and explained that he had made up the rules to avoid admitting he should have bought me a piano years ago.
• I knew he deeply regretted his actions. As we hugged each other, he told me that he loved me dearly and I forgave him. I am forever grateful for that genuine act of forgiveness as it provided me with an open heart to accept opportunities over the course of my life that have been so much more rewarding than had I pursued a career in music. In spite of my dad’s rules, I have made a real difference in the world.
Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.
There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.
Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.
Increase your job satisfaction by reducing anxiety and conflict at work.
Appreciation and job satisfaction seem to go hand in hand. Here are some statistics I thought might interest you. Several studies over the past few years on job satisfaction in America has shown: only 45% of workers say they are either satisfied or extremely satisfied with their jobs; 85% of employees are indifferent to the organization for which they work and give their time, but not their best effort, creating approximately $7 trillion in lost productivity; and 69% of them say they’d work harder if they were better appreciated.
Healing the workplace starts with one work environment at a time, including: babysitting, a paper route, helping out on the family farm, waiting tables to pay for college, internships, working in a large corporation, owning a business—whatever you deem to be work. Healing your relationships in the workplace can provide a more harmonious environment with less conflict, stress, and anxiety, as well as greater job satisfaction with increased productivity.
Workplace relationships include: your boss, your co-workers, your subordinates, your clients, vendors, etc.—everyone you consider to be part of your work environment.
When you consider there are many reasons such as, having an unhappy home life, feeling unappreciated, being overworked, undermined, pressured to produce, passed over for promotions, the target of workplace gossip, etc.—which are not necessarily intentional—you can grant your co-workers forgiveness with more compassion for their hurtful reactions and behaviors.
This is how I healed my relationship with my boss.
• I remember one time when I took a huge risk and stood up for myself not knowing if I would be fired on the spot.
• I was a highly-trained Medical Ultrasonographer working in the perinatology department at a local hospital. My patients were women with high-risk pregnancies. Dr. Pierce, the head of the department, was extremely competent and respected, although I thought his bedside manner could use some work.
• One afternoon shortly before lunch, I was doing an ultrasound on a new patient. Dr. Pierce entered the room, stood there observing the procedure, began criticizing my technique—in front of the patient—then turned and walked out.
• As far as I knew, he had never done anything like that before to me, or anyone else—especially in front of a patient! In a New York minute, not only did I feel infuriated, embarrassed, and humiliated, I was appalled that the patient might think I was incompetent—I almost lost it!
• After the patient left, I stormed down the hall and burst into Dr. Pierce’s office to confront him about what just happened. With every ounce of righteous indignation, I really let him have it.
• “Don’t you EVER reprimand me in front of a patient again. If I would have done that to you, you would have fired me on the spot. I consider you fired!”
• “Oh, Victoria, you’re way too sensitive,” he said in a condescending manner.
• “That’s insulting! I’m NOT too sensitive. The only difference between you and me is you have a penis and more education— THAT’S IT! For your information, I am a qualified, certified, and highly-respected ultrasound technologist. You have no right to humiliate me like that. It’s demeaning and I won’t tolerate it. Anytime you feel the need to critique my work, feel free to set up a personal, private, training opportunity. I am not mistake proof and I’m willing to listen and learn.”
• “I see your point. I am sorry I spoke harshly to you in front of a patient. It was inappropriate,” he admitted.
• “OK, then, I accept your apology. In the future, please be more considerate. You may find that you’ll get more of what you want or need from everyone who works with you through kind and thoughtful interactions.”
• “I get it, I’ll give it my best,” he said.
• After this incident, our relationship became mutually respectful—I felt more like a colleague than a subordinate. Interestingly, when my birthday came around the next month, he gave me a $100 gift certificate. I believe that it was because I spoke up for myself and he had more respect for me.
Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.
There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.
Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.
“When employees respect each other and get along in the workplace, it’s amazing how productivity increases, morale increases and employees are more courteous to customers.” ~ Maureen Wild
Stop avoiding others and experience being fully self-expressed.
Healing hurt feelings with people in your community—who impacted you in childhood, or as an adult—gives you the freedom to be yourself, fully self-expressed and able to speak your truth to others. It gives you the capacity to expand and accept others just the way they are, and actively participate in activities with others you previously avoided.
Extended community members include: friends, family friends, babysitters, students, kids on the playground, schoolyard bullies, teachers, coaches, neighbors, clergy, club and scout leaders, librarians, doctors, nurses, landlords, social media contacts, etc.—everyone you consider to be part of your community.
When you consider there are many reasons such as, gossip, addictions, intimidation, intolerance, negative outlook, paranoia, mistrust, hatred, etc.—which are not necessarily intentional—you can grant your community members forgiveness with more compassion for their hurtful reactions and behaviors.
This is how I healed my relationships with several friends.
• In January of every year, I take an inventory of my life and my relationships. It occurred to me that several friendships had ended abruptly—out of the blue—without so much as an explanation. And, to this day I still have no idea why.
• To resolve the grief I felt, I was committed to healing the rejection, confusion, betrayal, devastation, sadness, and anger I experienced with each friend and then to reveal and heal the origin of the pattern. First, let me tell you a little about each friend and what happened.
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• SUE. We met while attending Alison Armstrong’s Understanding Men, Celebrating Women workshop. We were talking weekly, by phone, openly sharing what was going on with the men in our lives and exchanging feedback. We were inspiring each other to remember what we had learned in the workshop. We both signed up for a second workshop in California and decided to share a hotel room, to cut down on expenses. Since Sue was flying in, I drove over from Phoenix with a couple of coolers of food for both of us. We spent the week together enjoying each other’s company.
• I noticed that Sue was a get up, get ready, and get out the door kind of gal—and I’m not. I really enjoy taking my time in the morning.
• One morning, when I had just gotten up, Sue announced she wanted to leave in ten minutes. I got ready as quickly as I could. However, I needed to wash my hair, so it was almost an hour before I was ready. I knew she was upset, and I could feel her frustration, but I really couldn’t—with a moment’s notice—make it work for both of us.
• I respectfully requested, “In the future, please let me know what your plans are, so I can accommodate your needs and still stay true to myself.” Without further discussion, I drove us to the workshop and picked up coffee on the way. The rest of our time together at the workshop went well. I assumed the incident was resolved.
• After returning home from the workshop, we were both very busy and didn’t talk for a couple of weeks. When Sue called me, the first thing she said was, “I no longer want to be friends with you.” She didn’t give me any reason, she just said, “I don’t want to talk about it or tell you what’s going on. I simply need to pull away and no longer engage with you.” I was stunned! I hung up the phone in tears.
• WOW! No explanation! My mind was racing—what did I say or do to deserve this? What could I have possibly done to cause this? Since she wouldn’t tell me anything, I assumed it was because her expectations were not met on that fateful morning in California.
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• REBECCA. We met through mutual friends who had mutual interests. Rebecca and I began hanging out together every month or so, sharing—practitioner to practitioner—our different healing methods. Rebecca had expertise in Native American ceremonies which intrigued me. Although she was quite a bit younger than I, she was exceptionally wise for her years.
• Rebecca asked me to mentor her in the five healing methods I was proficient at, in exchange for therapeutic massages from her. She was curious about all of them and wanted to learn about each one. We got together for a coaching session within a week. She was particularly interested in Resonance Repatterning® so I gave her some of my old books to review and we scheduled another session in two weeks.
• When she called for her coaching session, she told me she had broken her foot, and let me know that she needed time to herself to heal and get ready to move to a new home. She requested to suspend our mentoring sessions for the time being and I agreed.
• I waited a couple of weeks and reached out to her as a friend, just to see how she was doing and to ask if she needed any help moving. She didn’t return my voicemail until a month later.
• That call was fraught with emotion and her tone was harsh and angry. Here’s how the conversation went:
• “You betrayed my trust and I no longer want to have anything to do with you!” she shouted.
• “What are you talking about? What did I say or do that offended you?”
• “I don’t want to talk about it!” she snapped.
• “How can I apologize for something when I don’t even know what happened? Please tell me what’s going on.”
• Silence.
• “Rebecca, I would never intentionally do or say anything to harm you. I care about you.”
• Silence.
• OK, if you ever want to talk about it, just call. Have a great life.” We both hung up.
• WOW! I still have no idea what happened. I assumed one of our mutual friends said something insensitive implicating me and a misunderstanding ensued.
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• ANTON. I met Anton at a dance lesson. I was fascinated by his accent and his eastern European culture. During the four months we were dating, I came to realize that he wanted me to behave in ways that were inconsistent with my true nature. He expected me to eat what he thought I should eat—including things I told him were detrimental to my health; to spend less time with my friends; to stop social activities he didn’t want to participate in; to wear what he thought I should wear; to always watch movies he wanted to watch; it even got down to what time of day I was supposed to take a shower.
• I stopped dating him, although we managed to remain friends, which was working just fine for both of us. We still danced together weekly at the dance studio and saw each other at other social events.
• The holidays were coming and he was scheduled to have major surgery. I called him a few days before his surgery—here’s how the conversation went:
• “Do you want me to take you to the hospital?” I asked.
• “No.”
• “Do you want me to come to the hospital to visit you?”
• “No.”
• “Do you want me to pick up your son, who’s flying in tomorrow?”
• “No.”
• “Do you want to get together for Christmas?”
• “No. I have to go now.”
• “So, this is all you have to say?”
• “Yes.”
• “You’re not going to tell me what’s going on?”
• “No.”
• “OK then. Thanks for the memories. Hope your surgery goes well.”
• “OK.”
• WOW! Again—goodbye, so long, adios, sayonara, arrivederci—dropped like a hot potato with no explanation. I can only assume that our relationship wasn’t worth pursuing because he couldn’t change me to meet his needs and desires.
Since I still have no clue why each friend behaved in such a hurtful manner, I initially blamed them. So, to heal my experience, I imagined each friend genuinely saying to me, “I am sorry.” I suddenly felt so free that I decided to visualize myself apologizing to each of them for any harm I may have caused them.
The Pattern. This deep dive into lost friendships revealed a pattern of people dear to me abruptly leaving without an explanation. It occurred to me that this pattern originated when my father left—without an explanation—when I was 12, so I healed that as well.
Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.
There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.
Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.
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