“You need to laugh” she said, as I lay there barely able to breathe, bandages tightly wrapped around my chest.
“You’ve got to be kidding me. There’s no way,” I said weakly.
She continued checking what I needed. Then she looked at my other sisters sitting there and told them, “She needs the color red” …
In Resonance Repatterning©, we do some powerful modalities. Are they hard or complicated? Do you need special training to be able to do them? My sister and I had been taking Resonance Repatterning© classes. Had we learned enough to really help me through a tough time?
I’d just had major surgery – a mastectomy for breast cancer. The day after surgery, I could not keep down even ice chips. I could barely stay awake. They said it’s because my body is having a reaction to the anesthesia.
…. My 2nd sister jumped up and started running around the room looking for something red. Then everyone was looking for red things. I began snickering. Suddenly, she grabbed a crayon from her daughter and told me to stick it in my nose. I burst out laughing.
Well, there’s my laughing modality, I thought. I was feeling better… but I was not done yet. My sister doing the muscle checking said to me, “You need an ECR”…
An ECR or Energy Constriction Release is pretty much just like it sounds – releasing energy that is constricted in the body. Identifying the feeling holding the energy stuck is the key.
…She muscle checked where the constricted energy was being held, and then, she held her hand near my armpit, by my breast. The exact spot where my lymph nodes had been removed. She looked at me and said, “Deby, it feels like a fan is blowing on my hand.” After a couple minutes, she removed her hand. “It’s complete.”
I sat up in bed. The energy of everyone in the room was spiraling up. The urine from my catheter bag had been bright blue. Now, they noticed, it is bright green. Yellow and blue make green, right? The anesthesia had left my system! We were all ecstatic!
You might think my sister had years of experience giving sessions. The truth is my sister and I had been to only two basic classes. The fact is that we had not even been taught the ECR in class yet. She simply followed the directions.
This is an example of how simple and yet powerful a session and the energizing options in Resonance Repatterning© can be.
Change is inevitable! It is the only thing constant in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life. One way you can embrace the changes, which are occurring in your life, is by acknowledging your part in the change.
One Friday afternoon, a woman, who hated her job and wanted out, manifested the job of her dreams after a Resonance Repatterning® session. In the session, she admitted that she really wanted a more rewarding job, but was procrastinating. We identified the unconscious pattern that was holding her back and shifted her resonance to deserving a much better, higher-paying, creative position that showcased her unique gifts and talents.
Lo and behold, when she went to work the following Monday morning, she was summoned to her boss’s office and promptly fired. She called me very irate and blamed me for her getting fired. I encouraged her to look at how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance. I reminded her of how she had been procrastinating about finding a better job and could now embrace and be grateful for the opportunity to create the job of her dreams. . .and so she did!
While change is inevitable, it can also be emotional, especially when your partner moves on from what you thought was a committed relationship. Rather than engaging in finding fault and placing blame, simply be willing to accept what is so about the situation. Life is too short to resist change and perceive it as “it shouldn’t be this way.” The sooner you stop judging and assessing what was good from what was bad, and who was right from who was wrong, the quicker you will be empowered and experience inner peace. By embracing change and granting yourself the grace to let your partner go, you will have more energy to move forward with ease, grounded in the fact that from what you learned in this relationship, you will be able to attract an even better partner who wants to be with you.
The quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world,” profoundly transformed the relationship I had with my father. After having four children, my mother and father divorced. He remarried and started a new family. On the rare occasions that we talked, it seemed that he just reported how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many of those memorable activities. I found myself becoming more and more envious.
I noticed that what was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledging me for being a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for the difference I was making in the lives of my clients. These were things he had never told me before.
It’s true, by being the change you want to see in the world — providing the very thing you think is missing in your relationships — you too can experience what your heart desires, just as I did. In the very giving of it, my father gave back to me genuine love and acknowledgement. It was quite remarkable.
So, be the change, embrace the change, expect the change and you too can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire — a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion, and fulfillment.
Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author – What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life
I first heard this poem read online by author David Whyte. When he reads a poem his voice tone truly adds to the dimension and my understanding of the poem. Imagine an earthy Irish brogue voice reading this:
“Why are you unhappy?
Because 99.9 per cent
Of everything you think,
And of everything you do,
Is for yourself —
And there isn’t one.”
From “Ask The Awakened” by Wei Wu Wei
The question “Why are you so unhappy” triggers us to put a name to any malaise we may be experiencing. In a nanosecond before finishing the first line, we’ll hear in our head a rapid firing of all our grievances that add up to “Why we are so unhappy”. BUT! – our excuses and reasons are short lived. Author Wei Wu Wei, takes the juice of justification and tells us the truth. We don’t exist. We don’t have a self that can be made happy. In the broad scheme of the universe or the end goal of enlightenment, we discover that we are nothing or no thing. We are part of the vast universe of emptiness from which all things arise. Wrap your mind around that! Then know that we do exist in relation to each other – part of the vast interconnection of the grid of humanity. It may change your orientation to having status, stuff or having things for yourself… as your motivation for what makes you happy.
When you realize that everything we think and do is for everyone, we suddenly lose an orientation toward choice and instead embody an obligation to serve the whole. In each present moment, we ask “What is my purpose here for the highest and best for everyone?” “How are my choices benefiting me and everyone else?” “What do I appreciate about myself and everyone here?”
The poem is from a classic book of poetry and essays written by an anonymous author who went by the name of Wei Wu Wei. Google his name for a very interesting story. He wrote a number of books from 1958 to 1974. ‘Why are you so unhappy’ is from the book “Ask the Awakened – The Negative Way”, first published in 1963.
To help integrate repatterning sessions I often recommend clients take time to reflect on a session and journal about their experiences. On the path of enlightenment or healing, the writing of Wei Woo Wei can help you reflect a little deeper on life and living.
With love and light
Reinventing ourselves comes from within. It does help to have a planetary shift similar the one we had on the winter solstice December 21, 2012 which coincided with the end of the Mayan calendar. 2018 was all about building and laying down a new foundation. The upcoming planetary shift in 2019 is all about making things tangible and material, so if you have a goal or dream, this will be the year to start making steps to transform your dream into reality.
What I found necessary was to reclaim the parts of myself that I had lost, given away, or given up on. I suggest you do the same. The Fusion Modality in the Resonance Repatterning® method retrieves this lost quality. It will free you to be more authentically who YOU are out in the world.
In a workshop called, Owning My Purpose, one of the exercises we did was to inquire about what we did, or how we survived our family dynamics growing up. One of the things I discovered that I did to survive, to be acceptable, and to get my needs met was to find out what the rules are and follow them. I then saw that even to this day, I find out what the rules are and live within the parameters of them, even if I do not agree with them, or even if have to settle. Growing up, I became the good girl, nice and pleasing. I found out what others needed and did whatever it took to make them happy–harmony at all cost!
The next exercise in this workshop was to distinguished what qualities we left behind to survive, like our uniqueness, our creativity, our curiosity, adventure, etc. I discovered that I left behind, my inner desires, my true authentic playful nature, my full self-expression, my dignity, and most importantly my values.
We then talked about what we are passionate about, like making a difference, nature, animals, helping adopted people find their biological parents, etc. I discovered I have many passions! The four I spoke about were my passion to free people from their past and move forward to fulfill their dream; to take risks, be adventurous and playful; to be in an environment where there are wide-open spaces; and to be free to be myself.
From there, in the quietness of my inner sanctuary I created and later declared and claimed my purpose. I stood up in front of the whole group — and on camera to boot — owned my purpose. My purpose is to inspire and empower others’ greatness to live extraordinary lives! What I realized is that I am already doing that. Energy surged throughout my whole being and a rush of emotion filled my eyes. It was total validation of what I have been all about for many years.
The group was then asked to pick a project to fulfill within six months that would allow us to tangibly experience our purpose and move us into unhesitating action. I could not imagine taking on yet another project. So, I chose one I had yet to complete: publishing my first book, What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life. I created a structure to fulfill my goal with support from those who love and care about me. The paperback was published December 2017 by my own company which you can visit at www.ExtraordinaryOutcomesPublishing.com. The eBook came out in May of 2018 and got to #1 on Amazon the first day. It was exciting!
As you move forward reinventing yourself, be sure you are gentle with yourself and get the support you need from those who love and care about you. It will be easier than you think! If I can do it, YOU can do it too! Have fun!
Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author of
What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life
Most of us didn’t have our essential needs met as children and life often felt threatening. When we felt unwelcome, unloved, unheard or unseen, and we were unable to express this, we shut down, stopped breathing or moving freely. In the Resonance Repatterning process, the energy constriction release is like a beautiful piece of ritual theatre, where our younger selves can experience a sense of safety and nurturing. We are supported to breathe into whatever we are feeling, stay embodied, free the flow of our life energy and embrace our innocence. We receive the update that we are not alone anymore, that we now have the support we need and are encouraged to experience the joy of being our true selves, of being natural, free of the fear of rejection or the illusion of separation. This is self love and acceptance.
We all have the same core needs. Many of our problems come from the belief we are alone, disconnected, and our pain is unique to us. We hide in shame and reach for unfulfilling substitutes. We can choose to break this cycle and free ourselves from our prisons of isolation. From my own experience, nothing is worse than the scenarios my fearful mind conjures up. Yet when I have risked intimacy, revealing the aspects of myself I felt most ashamed of, it has often been surprisingly enjoyable.
Rather than repeating our stories, or going through the motions in our relationships, we can create lasting transformation and move beyond blaming and complaining, beyond the old human story of victim, persecutor and rescuer. We can step into the awareness of our interconnection and the freedom of taking responsibility for every choice we make. We can find out what we are unconsciously committed to, and make the necessary changes. These tiny shifts in perspective ripple out and affect the whole.
Life is precious and we matter. When we can relax into being held, dare to breathe and feel whatever arises, let our bodies move and our voices sound, we reclaim our aliveness.
Resonance Repatterning is not the only way to do this, of course, however, it is a powerful, gentle, elegant, creative and playful way.
I wrote this poem shortly after I’d completed one of my HR (Holographic Repatterning, renamed Resonance Repatterning in the 2000s) self-sessions in my home, in late 1999.
It was a moment of a higher level of well-being, vitality, feeling energised, happy, excited, with positive thoughts, that all led me, then and there, to express into words the feelings of my first and only poem so far. I saved the poem and took it out recently.
RR (Resonance Repatterning) points clearly on to our actual work in the process of identifying and transforming our resonance with the negative into the positive. We all tend to resonate with our Problems and do not resonate with our Positive Intentions. Fortunately, we have Resonance Repaterning, an extraordinary process System, that allow us to transform our negative life patterns into positive ones and so achieve the positive life changes that we want. Resonance Repaterning can help us manifest our well-being, strengths, vitality, our talents (known and unknown), our creativity, and it inspires us for good in ourselves and others.
At the time when I wrote this poem, I was already a Certified HR practitioner for several years and had experienced many successful self-sessions, and had given and received sessions with others including my colleagues and my clients. I have continued over the years until the current time doing successful Resonance Repatterning sessions, as a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, on myself and others and seen many positive changes for all.
I feel that my creativity to write my Poem was inspired by HR/RR, and feel that I may be surprised to have similar RR inspired creativity for another poem, other writings, or elsewhere in my life.
I feel that anyone who is interested to inspire or promote any of their creativity could benefit from doing RR.
I hope you all enjoy my poem.
My Tribute to HR/RR
I AM GOING, GOING, GOING…….
I am Going, Going ….There,
I Feel, I Know,
I am Going … There,
I will meet you.
I am going…. There,
Light is, Where God is.
I am going…. There,
I will be there
Life and happiness,
Never imagined before, is.
No problem, illness, age,
Can stop me,
Doing HR/RR will take me There,
Where I need and want to go
Where light is where Love is.