“What happens when people fail to find their life purpose?”
BY GAIL GLANVILLE
One answer is this:
The World Health Organization predicts that by 2020 the leading cause of disability in women worldwide will be…depression. And not to be selective, the numbers for men are on the rise, too.
Don’t you think this represents a significant opportunity for Resonance Repatterning® practitioners?
There are literally hundreds, even thousands, of people in your market who suffer from depression. 80% of them are going untreated, which leads to lost opportunities, absenteeism, broken relationships and even suicide.
I suggest that the biggest opportunity for making a difference in this country is to target depression and anxiety in your practice (just as practitioners Laura Frisbie and Trine Whist are doing). Help people reconnect with the joy of their life purpose.
Remember the results of Joel Bennett’s Pilot Research Study? 95% of clients felt “better to a lot better” after a session with a Resonance Repatterning practitioner.
Recently I heard from a student who wanted to know how to promote herself, how to talk about her work with Resonance Repatterning so she could start attracting clients. I suggested she focus on depression, and gave her a sample elevator speech:
“Do you know how many people suffer from depression in this state? You’ll recognize them because they’ve lost their joy in life, their sense of accomplishment and meaning. They’ve stopped doing things they love. Most of them struggle along untreated, barely dragging themselves through their days. I wonder if you may sometimes feel the same.
“What I offer are private sessions in a new method of energy psychology that finds the specific source of depression and lifts it 95% of the time…
“So that you regain your zest for life, reconnect to people you love and experience your life as a journey to joy. So that you find your life purpose and begin to create anew on your terms. So that you can become so fulfilled and satisfied that you feel happy all the time.
“My name is Jane Doe, and I am a Resonance Repatterning practitioner. I can help you feel better even after just one session. Rather than telling you about what I do, let me show you, by phone or in person. Here’s my card.”
There is a secret to this approach, which is to resist the temptation to describe the FEATURES of Resonance Repatterning.
Instead weave a story around the proven “feel better” BENEFITS. How are clients actually changed by a session? How are they moved out of depression towards the joy of expressing their life’s purpose?
It is my belief that if a majority of practitioners offered Resonance Repatterning as a solution to depression like this, four things would happen:
Resonance Repatterning would have a better chance of becoming a household word.
Practitioners would build stronger practices.
Both clients and practitioners would enjoy a greater sense of meaning and purpose.
PS: You’re welcome to use any or all of the elevator speech in groups or on your website.
Gail Glanville Is a member of the RPA Hall of Fame and former Managing Director of the Resonance Repatterning Institute. She provides Repatterning sessions by phone and also teaches holistic marketing to practitioners. She is the editor of the Nun Karma Repatterning and author of the Food Repatterning manual.
As a Resonance Repatterner and student of metaphysics, I discovered that to live a purpose-filled life, I have to ask consciously of anything: What is this for, what do I want to come of this?
Eventually, we will all know how difficult it is to answer questions regarding the purposefulness of life because at some pivotal point during the growing cycle of our human consciousness, we will all ask ‘what is a better way to live?’. Regardless of any difficulty, inability or unwillingness to delve deep to find answers to these questions, it remains that it is the coherent or non-coherent focus we give to any aspect of living that will determine its purpose; consciously or unconsciously.
This seems on the surface like an enormous task, self-indulgent navel gazing with no room to enjoy living, and persistently engaged in introspection. But it is more than just a daunting task. For this question of ‘what is it for?’ can move us toward satisfying our inherent yearning to express ourselves coherently from our core. Asking ‘what do I want to come of this?’ as a means to living a purpose-filled life, is not only limited to the grand perspective of what constitutes a purpose-filled existence on earth, but includes the seemingly prosaic ‘what do I want to come from saying ‘hello’ to Joe Smith on the street?’.
I recently had a ‘reading’ with a wonderfully talented psychic who looked at my impulse to come to earth ‘this time around.’ She related, through her symbolic word-pictures, that from on high, so to speak, and with a teenage angel perspective, I saw that my soon-to-be biological father, who in a larger context I already knew and loved, was very sad and confused on earth, so I jet-propelled myself into physical existence on a rescue mission. Without a ‘by your leave’ of wiser counsel, I simply made up my mind this was the right thing to do and took off, only to discover very quickly the foolhardiness of my choice.
Asking whether this story is true or not is unimportant, since the asking is merely a tactic of my mind to divert me away from what is helpful. For what is helpful is how it relates to my actions now. It symbolically demonstrates that my decision, to act from a place of love to save someone from themselves, I made up, and did so from conclusions based on faulty perceptual beliefs which I was not aware of at the time. Consequently, the great important special purpose for my living on earth was a myth. (Where was Resonance Repatterning when I was a goofy teenage angel?)
As a Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, I cannot ignore this awareness, nor the data from hundreds of session notes, that it is the myths already conceived from the viewpoint of the observer mind that determines what we choose to see and experience with our time in a world. Further, researchers who study the holographic nature of our reality agree that it is the judging of a goal’s merits at the onset, and decisions based on them, that predetermine what happens in the outcome, before an event takes place.
However, there is no wrong way to live a life since, if we view it correctly, Life is a schoolroom. There are consequences, but everyone is given liberty to make decisions for their life. An infringement on any way of living comes when we do not honor and respect an individual’s ability to choose for themselves. At times, due to lack of comprehension, we include others unnecessarily in our life cycles, and dramas. However, infringing on the personal liberty to choose for oneself is the greatest hinderance to the enjoyment and freedom of creating a meaningful existence.
One guideline for living a purpose-filled life as we ask ‘what is it for?’ I cannot overemphasize. The love within us needs an outlet. Whether we believe in the idea that we are created beyond time and space, or whether we simply embrace the idea that we are a product of a physical mother and father does not matter. For love is a very important factor motivating humanity.
We are born of lovemaking so that we may love.
Releasing love from within, and extending it into some viable and pleasurable outlet, enriches beyond an individual, regardless of whether another agrees with the format of that self-expression or not.
How can we tell if we are living a life from love in the best and most meaningful way, since we have to do something with time once we find ourselves in a world.
We will experience a feeling of overwhelming compassion for ourself and humankind.
We will feel fully appreciated, and appreciative of the efforts of others.
The form of our chosen self-expression of love becomes a vehicle that expresses the love in us all, and we will recognize it as such.
We will impinge on no one, only carry the love inherent in us forward on to others.
We will congratulate ourselves, not with superficial ego aggrandizement, but in a genuine flow of gratitude for expressing what extends from our heart.
As our love flows, we will feel it return to us and ‘thank us’ for celebrating itself though us,
And, it will bring peace, satisfaction and contentment.
Now, no one can decide this, express it exactly, nor determine its value for any of us, for the love in us has a goal beyond us. It rejoices in the flow of itself, unhindered and unburdened by anything unlike itself that may try to restrict it.
(Restrictions come from impinging values that we do not personally determine. Values as to the rightness or wrongness of our chosen way of living. Those subtle innuendoes and judgements often encourage self-deprecation and belittlement, creating sore spots and woundings.)
However, it is not necessary to spend as much time as one would think healing wounds before we can express love in a meaningful way. Since we will discover that the capacity to fully hear our inner call to love, whatever its expression, will weave itself into the tapestry of our life, along with all personal hurts. The wounds and hurting created by infringement on personal rights can become the jewels and the nuggets in the tapestry, if carefully transformed by the process of forgiveness.
The jewels of our transformations offset and give brilliant contrast to the ordinary and similarity between two weavings. Unhealed, they appear as rips and holes in the fabric of our life, but transformed they brighten and enhance the dullness of similarity and sameness.
It is not necessary to think that the jewels and nuggets are essential to live a life of expressed love, but they do catch attention and draw the eye to their brilliance and what is possible.
What do I personally want to come of this life as I learn to correct my impulsive teenage angel goofiness: what is it now for? For me, a purpose-filled life is to discover the essence of life itself, the nature of love, and what is true and what is false. This positive purpose is a worthwhile pursuit for me since I have already experienced it breathing life into a flailing spirit, and I know that it has the potential to resuscitate my life further into heightened states of self-awareness.
Therefore, my pursuit of a truer purpose that will obtain for me a more heartfelt connection to the Principal of Life that created me relies upon an intrepid investigation. I know that if I have enough staying power to turn my fear of asking and looking into courage, I will be rewarded with remembering the forgotten song of my liberated spirit.
Bio – Zumi Potts is a Certified Member of RPA since 2004 and has served as a volunteer for the World Peace Hologram. She has a Resonance Repatterning® practice in Rhode Island, USA and conducts sessions by phone, Skype and proxy . She is also a spiritual counselor, energy therapist and teacher of metaphysics. She may be contacted at:
Through my twenty years of working with clients and talking to some of the elderly at the end of their life, one of their main concerns was whether they fulfilled their life’s purpose. I would talk to them about what they thought their purpose was. I reminded them that not everyone was going to be an Oprah Winfrey, Deepak Chopra or Chloe Faith Wordsworth and that their purpose was very personal. They did not have to be famous, up on stage, have books and CD’s out, be wealthy, married, or whatever they thought and believed might be a worthy purpose.
I would have them do a ‘life review,’ starting in childhood, naming all their accomplishments and, more importantly, the qualities they embraced as they influenced all the people in their lives. From here, they would discover, on their own, what their theme or consistent quality or way of being was that really made a difference for them and the people whom they positively affected personally and professionally. Some of them commented that they were loving, patient, compassionate and/or kind-hearted. Others said, “I was a good mother or good father. I was helpful, generous and supportive. I was a good provider.” As you can imagine, the list went on and on. I then helped them see that what they accomplished in their lives and the qualities they exuded was their life purpose and that it was enough. Being a loving mother was enough. Being a good provider was enough. Taking a stand for peace and being peaceful was enough. Being light-hearted, humorous, and optimistic was enough! Knowing this opened their hearts, and a sense of peace and calm came over them. It actually brought them to tears, tears of knowing that they indeed did fulfill their purpose and lived a purpose-filled life!
I would not recommend waiting until the end of your precious life to discover your life purpose. Sit down when you have uninterrupted time. Light a candle, if you wish. Fill the room with your favorite scent. Close your eyes, take some slow deep breaths and do your own ‘life review.’ Start when you were a child. What qualities or attributes did you radiate back then? Then continue by listing your accomplishments as an adult and use them to determine the qualities you used to make a difference in those around you. You will be amazed at what you discover. Keep writing. You will see a theme emerge. Now, go into the quiet of your inner essence and allow yourself to claim your life’s purpose. You may experience that you are already living a purpose-filled life!
Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.
The RPA Executive Board is pleased to announce that Magui Block (Family System I & II) will be doing the Keynote presentation for our 2012 Annual Conference. Magui will be speaking about her brand new work involving intimate relationships, which is a 21-step program to manifest love in your life. Magui will also facilitate a repatterning based on this work after the Keynote address.
FEBRUARY 25th Conference
Annual Meeting – 1:00PM Eastern
(Open to all members)
Keynote Address 2:30PM – 4:00PM Guest Speaker: Magui Block (registration required)
“Attracting the Love of Your Life, or Improving the One You Have” –Experience the new work of Magui Block with this group repatterning.
Magui Block knows how to support people in transforming their relationships very well. When I heard that she is creating a new relationships workshop, I wanted to hear more.
Sally: You are the author of two excellent Resonance Repatterning® workshops—one called Healing the Family and one called Healing the Family Systems and Healing the Systems—Family, Groups, and Organizations. What is the next workshop that you are developing?
Magui: My next workshop will address intimate relationships– one with one relationships. It is more for couple relationships, but it can be beneficial for any other intimate relationship such as parent/child or siblings; boss/employee relationships, close friends.
I want many people to attend. I want to do it outside of the Resonance Repatterning umbrella, so everybody can attend, not only Resonante Repatterning practitioners. Chloe, who has always supported and guided my work, likes the idea and is close to me in this project.
There will be two manuals—one for Resonance Repatterning participants and one for people who are not trained to do Resonance Repatterning. Participants who are not Resonance Repatterning Practitioners can learn the work through another, more simple system—another pathway. They will still be able to identify non-coherent patters, identify the issues that hold the non-coherence in place and identify the modality. They can do the same process without needing to use muscle checking.
I hope that this approach will help increase the number of students studying Resonance Repatterning. By taking this workshop, they will feel motivated to take additional courses.
Some of the chapters of this new workbook include:
How Families of Origin affect the Dynamics of the Couple
How to Attract and Manifest an Intimate Relationship
The Dynamics of Male/Female Interactions
Setting Limits in Relationships
Destructive Relationships
Ending a Relationship
In this manual, I address why there are more divorces now. I address how to manage power in a relationship such as in relationship to money and control. And finally, I address what happens when one member of a couple grows and moves in life and that threatens the couple staying together.
Sally: When is this workshop first going to be taught?
The first workshop will be held in Spain in late November—in Spanish.
Participants will include couples and singles, Resonance Repatterning Practitioners and people who are not repatterners, psychologists and social workers, etc. They will learn the tools. I won’t teach them the skills of how to help others heal. If they have those skills, they can use this tool in their practice. If not, they will be able to use this tool for themselves.
Sally: Will you be using Bert Hellinger approaches again in this workshop?
Magui: I use his principles a little when teaching “dynamics of the soul”. But primarily I am using other approaches. I am presenting what I have seen to work with my clients who are addressing couples issues.
The work is very serious, but I address it in a light way. I use stories and case histories. The way the manual is written is designed to heal. I meditated and received inner guidance. This workshop is very different than what I have presented in the past. It is simpler.
Sally: When doing modalities, do you recommend that the practitioner follow the instructions from the book exactly as they are written, or do you recommend that they change the processes as they feel appropriate?
Magui: If a practitioner is connected with spirit, with their wisdom, the modality goes well. If not connected with spirit, the energy is denser and there is more suffering. This work must touch your spirit.
For example, with the modalities for trauma: It’s not the trauma, but the trauma’s energy that gets stuck. Let that energy do what ever it needs to be doing. What does the energy need to do? The described modalities are only one way to heal. If the given modality gives you a different idea, it is recommendable to do that different process. The suggestions in the book can be used to take a different direction.
Do the work with the heart, not the head. The modalities are a limitation in a way. We have many more tools. When a client is having an experience, the modalities are only ideas of how to address the experience. Maybe the client has other ideas.
….It is beneficial to take workshops many times. When you see a lot of different scenarios, your learning and grasp of the process will become deeper.
Sally: Do you have specific goals for this workshop?
Magui: The books are design to support transformation, to avoid repeating old patterns, and to create new coherent patterns.
When we get triggered by our old patterns, we get to see how our old patterns are in relationship to us. How do we develop the ability to not repeat these old patterns? First we identify our patterns and then we go on to our relationship patterns. We address what triggers us. What ever triggers us shows how we are in relationships and this reflects how we relate to ourselves.
In one of the chapters, for example, I address that people are often alone, not by conscious choice, but are afraid to be with someone. They do not want to open their hearts—but that decision happens on an unconscious level. They are choosing by not choosing. They are losing time, love and experiences.
Then there are others who have relationships, but do not open up, they stay safe. They do not have a sense of community. They can’t open to someone, can’t open to others. They stay stuck in unhealthy relationships. They don’t finish with the relationship because they are afraid.
In this workshop, and in the book, I talk in a way that is light, very light. That is the way I teach. Not heavy. The issues are heavy, but the presentation is light and the healing is with love.
I am hoping to present Resonance Repatterning in a way that will help Resonance Repatterning will grow. I hope to find ways to make it attractive to more people.
Sally: Thank you Magui for all you have done for Resonance Repatterning. I look forward to taking this new workshop.
Sally Herr
Magui Block lives in Cuernavaca, Mexico. She has received accreditation in several fields in psychotherapy: Person Centered Focus, Gestalt Psychotherapy, Gestalt for Children and Teenagers, Dreams, Biomnemics (body therapy), Gestalt to treat Symptoms, Family Therapy, E.M.D.R., Eriksonian Hypnosis. She is also trained as a Family Constellation Therapist by the Bert Hellinger Institute of Berlin.
Magui has been a Resonance Repatterning Certified Practitioner since 1999, and teaches the Empowering Yourself seminar. She is the author of the Resonance Repatterning seminars “Healing The Family Systems” and “Healing The Systems- family, groups and organizations”. She was the first President of the Mexican Resonance Repatterning Association during 2000 and 2001, when it was created.
Sally Herr is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, a Speech Language Practitioner, MA/CCC, and a Biodynamic CranioSacral Therapist (RCST). She lives and works in Portland, Maine. Her website is SallyHerr.com.
The newly revised Resonance Repattering® books–up to Transforming Chakra Patterns–are now on sale at the Resonance Repatterning/eStore website. The Journal Committee wanted to find out what’s different about these books and so we called Chloe Wordsworth, author of these books and the Founder of Resonance Repatterning to find out.
Sally: In the beginning, when you began doing this work, what inspired you to write the Resonance Repatterning books?
Chloe: By 1990 I had spent 20 years studying many different healing systems, including the Five Elements system of Acupuncture. Although I had a successful private practice as an Acupuncture practitioner for eight years (meaning that I loved the results I saw), I was still constantly searching for yet more and better ways to help my clients. I was pretty driven–never satisfied! This had lead me to study all kinds of modalities—Polarity Therapy, Edu-K, nutrition, Feldenkrais and much more–always searching for the underlying cause of people’s problems; what was the panacea that would help people create the change so they would feel better?
What inspired me to create Resonance Repatterning, that is to put together a whole different system from anything I had studied, practiced and taught, was my realization that healing modalities in themselves were not enough. In my practice, from 1972 onward, I had observed that people were driven by repetitive patterns. By 1989 I began to experiment with identifying these patterns and using healing modalities to transform resonance with them.
My clients were fascinated with what I was doing and felt beneficial results, so in about 1991 they began asking me to teach them what I was doing. This meant I had to write something down, because everything I did was in my head. I worked with my clients in the moment, muscle checking everything they needed from my own internal data base. Nothing was written down!
So I wrote a one page synopsis of everything the new students might need–now we have ten books! After that I wrote out the four “Repatternings” for changing our attitudes and beliefs: these were the pre-cursors to the four Repatternings we learn in the Fundamentals seminars. Actually, one of them was called the Umbilical Repatterning, which I later realized was a muscle check rather than a Repatterning! The more people wanted to learn, the more information I wrote down to meet their need. At the same time I was still developing the work in my full-time practice. So everything I wrote down was in a constant state of flux, changing from week to week. For me this was a time of ferment: thinking, creating, talking to friends and family, reading, analyzing, doing sessions on myself over and over, and on clients too. So from the first class, which had a handout of one page, we went to the next class, which received two pages, and bit by bit over the years the books were written and revised.
Sally: Tell me about your relationship to creating the books.
Chloe: Relationship? Well, as we know, everything is energy or frequency wave patterns that influence everyone else’s frequencies–synchronizing with our frequencies or out of sync with our frequencies. If we say the word “yes,” it strengthens our muscle response and brings our frequencies into sync a little. If we say the word “no” our muscle response weakens and our frequencies go out of sync a little (or a lot!). So in all relationships, we either have a strengthening effect or a weakening effect: we either help people’s frequencies come into sync, or, if they resonate at a certain level with us, our frequencies go out of sync when we are with that person.
We influence and are influenced by others for better or for worse, depending on what we resonate with. So my relationship to creating the books means that I have a responsibility to be coherent and that the system supports people in synchronizing their frequencies to support their self-healing and self-transformation. This means that how I am, my state of coherence as I write the Resonance Repatterning books, is important. That energy is there. This is true whether I am writing a book, or inserting corrections at 2 a.m. My attitude is important: if you love what you do; if you are grateful; if you want to be guided by the highest values, it has an effect. This is why I come from intention before I write or do anything, so the books will have a positive energetic effect upon the reader.
Sally: That is why I would come to one of your workshops, even if you were teaching how to wash dishes!
Chloe: That’s nice! It’s true, whatever we do, however small and seemingly unimportant, the inner attitude we resonate with develops our character and the values we live by and hopefully has a positive influence on our world. It’s the same with teaching: I believe that if I am coherent when I teach, the students, and me, too, will receive what we need from the field of limitless possibilities–a new awareness that is life-changing, a healing of an old wound, new learnings, new ways of seeing, the Aha! that changes our understanding. Without coherence and love, transformation doesn’t happen. This is why we must constantly do our own personal development work–none of us is complete!
This is our relationship to the work. For me, it meant doing the Repatternings on myself over and over as I developed them, and improved them, and transforming my own patterns when life problems arose. Then I would do repatterning sessions with other people, which helped me enliven the work more. Demonstrating them on students in the seminars helped me identify additional improvements. I had to think, feel and practice before any of the repatternings could move to their “final” completion point. It’s all very organic!
Sally: What makes these present books different from the previous books?
Chloe: I just got an e-mail regarding the Primary Patterns book. The practitioner wrote, “The new books are great! I love them!” To give you a few more details:
In the Orientation Section of the Process Guide(Rainbow Book) and the Primary Patterns book, I added an orientation to “the point of choice”. Self-healing begins when we choose healing. The Point of Choice is different from Intention.Point of Choice motivates us to achieve and manifest our intentions. Life offers us a constant wobble—between order and disorder. The Point of Choice is the edge between stability and instability–a place of huge creative potential. The Point of Choice is about going for this creative potential, rather than being stuck in the disorder and instability of our problems and our unmanifested intentions.
The Point of Choice is an opportunity to realign ourselves with our deepest values and priorities. It is how our mind, body and energy become vehicles of consciousness.
Also in the Orientation section of the Rainbow Book, we address “resonating with trust and love.” To really be oriented we need to orient to feeling loved. If we do not have basic orientations to trust and love, how can we heal?
In the “Problems” section of the Process Guide and in the Primary Patterns book, we go deeply into the fear that underlies the problem. Under any problem is a fear and our belief that our fears are true. This belief we resonate with holds us back.
In the “Problems Into Opportunities” section of the Rainbow Book, we have a section to identify the negative attitude. Underlying every problem is a negative attitude, which makes extraordinary change impossible. This is the triangle of the perpetrator, who blames and complains; the victim, who feels helpless; and the savior, who feels it is their responsibility to save the person or situation, or come up with a solution. I’ve listed specifics for each of these negative attitude states so we can quickly move out of these patterns (and switching from one to the other in a few minutes) and take personal responsibility for the fact that all our problems reflect an aspect of our own state of mind.
I have also clarified the Intention for a New Possibility Section. The Headings include:
The Intention for a New Possibility (What we want to do or achieve.), whether by choice, from the list or a Daily Empowerment Intentions.
The second section is what motivates action toward the achievement of our intentions (including the point of choice, the positive feeling our intentions give us, the underlying need our intentions fulfill for us, and our life vision that motivates all our daily intentions.)
The third section identifies the resources we need in order to manifest our intentions, and the various aspects of this section.
And finally, every Intention takes Commitment. The fourth section supports our resonance with this.
All of these new inputs makes the “Intentions” section more powerful and clear.
Sally: And what about the new Transforming Unconscious Patterns (TUPs) book?
The new TUPs book goes deeper into the brain and the power of our brain. For instance, the brain has 100 billion nerve cells which are connected to other nerve cells or neurons. Brain researchers have estimated that there are more nerve connections in the human brain than there are stars in the Universe! Talk about potential! So this book is about supporting this massive potential within us. I am also seeing how the neuroanatomy of the brain relates to the on/off muscle response used in Resonance Repatterning. Quite exciting!
In the TUPs book I go into the seven major neurotransmitter-peptide-endorphins that are needed for optimal body/brain functioning, listing the qualities we need to resonate with.
With respect to self-help modalities and positive actions, there is a list of thirty or more activities proven to support neurotransmitter production and keeping our brain youthful and flexible. For example, something as simple as sleep— that less than seven hours has been shown to lower brain function; and people low in essential fatty acids are at higher risk for ADD, depression, Alzheimer’s, suicidal attempts, and obesity. This section includes information regarding how people can get what they need naturally, through correct eating plus details on what supports brain functioning: for instance, the herb sage has an A-level rating for the highest possible scientific evidence that it enhances memory! That’s amazing! TUPs has lots of important and practical information on what creates positive change of resonance via our brain.
TUPs also goes deeply into the power of forgiveness.
Sally: How do you define “forgiveness”.
Chloe: You know, forgiveness is such a huge subject. Perhaps we can do another interview on that so we can focus more deeply on the power of forgiveness as the ultimate healer. But for now, in the TUPs book we get to identify certain overactive parts of the brain that may be making forgiveness difficult.
Another new aspect in all the books is that I give an overview of each repatterning. If a student or practitioner is short on time, they can glance through the A.B.C. overview of the repatterning in its introduction, and quickly see the sections they want or need to cover.
Sally: And what about the Chakra Patterns book–that, too, is the completed version?
Chloe: Yes it is. In the Transforming Chakra Patterns book, everything has been revised and improved! The Sound Frequency Repatterning is so much easier–and of course, these books are all edited.
There is one thing I am sorry about and that is the page numbers! As we are still working with various versions of the books, you will find inconsistencies with the page numbers. We hope to correct this as soon as possible. In the meantime, here and there you will need to insert your own correct page numbers!
The Rainbow Book is also completely revised. In the Repatterning section we now list of all the Repatternings from the Living In Tune web radio program as quite a lot of students and practitioners are using them. I have divided these twenty-five Repatternings into three sections: eight Repatternings for Personal Coherence, eleven for Achieving the Best of Who You Are and six Repatternings for One-on-one and Group Relationships.
Sally: If someone is interested in acquiring the Living In Tune repatternings that you wrote for your radio programs, how can they get them?
Chloe: At this time, anyone can download them from the Resonance Repatterning website/downloads. In the future, I will edit and update all the transcripts and create a book out of the twenty-five Repatternings, based on the above three categories.
Sally: Is there anything else you can think of that has been updated?
Chloe: An important change is in the Underlying Needs section of the Process Guide. In place of the list of Life Needs and Spirit Level needs, I identified five major categories of needs. Each category has a list of nine to twenty specific needs in it. The five categories include:
1. The need for security, nurturance and love.
2. The need for health and energy.
3. The need to achieve your best, go beyond your limits and manifest your potential.
4. The need for love, respect and happiness in relationship.
5. The need for purpose, meaning, spiritual happiness and love from within.
The Process guide has been totally changed and is much easier to follow. The front cover looks much like the previous version with the mandala, but the back cover now has the Coherence Continuum, which illlustrates the most fundamental concept of Resonance Repatterning.
Sally: Yes, I agree. In examining the Process Guide, as well as the various books, the material is much clearer and goes to greater depth.
Sally: Another question people ask is about the “subtle levels” that you refer to in your books.
Chloe: There are twelve subtle levels, which represent frequencies that exist at the subtle level of the energy field– perhaps some ancient generational pattern we still resonate with but don’t need to identify more specifically, or for those who believe in past lives, they could be seen as some non-coherent frequency still held in the subtle field from the past, again, that doesn’t need to be identified, that is having a negative impact on the present.
Sally: Tell me about the books that have not, to this date, been revised.
Chloe: All of the remaining books are on the verge of being complete. That said, the final editing always takes more time than we realize! I will be working on the Modalities book in November and December, but then it needs a very careful final edit, and probably some re-writing. This Modalities book will be available to the general public, so they can use these modalities in their daily life. I’ll also be working on the Five Elements and Meridian book this October, November and December. The Visions and the Energetics of Relationships books are waiting their final editing. One book at a time. The exciting Inner Cultivation book, which now includes some phenomenal information from the bio-physicist Fritz-Albert Popp and Russian research teams on light, is also in its process of completion. So people who attend these seminars get the most up-to-date version, but without its final editing process.
Sally: Thank you very much, Chloe, for this interview. I greatly appreciate being given this overview. What you have said helps me see the new books in a new light and in particular those sections that you described. I wish you the best with your classes.
Chloe: Thank you Sally. It’s great being able to bring people up to date in this way.
Sally Herr is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, a Speech Language Practitioner, MA/CCC, and a Biodynamic CranioSacral Therapist (RCST). She lives and works in Portland, Maine. Her website is SallyHerr.com.
Certification Corner is a regularly appearing column in the Repatterning Journal. Written by the members of the Certification Board, Meryl Chodosh-Weiss, Shirley Lanyi, Mary Cameris and Paula Caplan. Each issue will focus on information about the RPA Repatterning Certification process and Certification issues. If you have a question that you would like to be answered in the Repatterning Journal you can email Meryl at meryl@beyourbliss.info.
Happy Autumn everyone! This season of the Metal element is about releasing and letting go of all that is no longer necessary so that values, quality, respect, organization, inspiration and a sense of the ideal can be energized and permeate our relationships in every aspect of our lives.
We are delighted to announce that Isabel Thomas, from Mesa Arizona, is our newest RPA Certified Practitioner. We send heartfelt congratulations to you Isabel for successfully completing your Certification Journey!
The Summer Seasonal conference call was widely attended and we hope that even more students and student practitioners will bring their questions and concerns to our Autumn Seasonal Conference call on Monday, November 14, 2011. The call begins at 7pm Eastern time and it will end at 8pm Eastern time. It will include a group repatterning. You can register by clicking here
The next Certification Board meeting is also on November 14, 2011, so you have just enough time to send in your Certification package if you are ready to apply to the Board.
Currently scheduled Practitioner Skills Development classes are:
New York, NY. with Meryl Chodosh-Weiss, November 12, 2011.
For more information contact the Designated Observer directly.
Please know that we have volunteered so that each Student Practitioner’s Certification journey can be as harmonious as possible. If there is any way that we can assist you, please do not hesitate to contact us either by calling 1.800.685.2811, option #3, by writing to us atCertification@RPAMembers.organd by attending the Student / Student Practitioner/Certification Board Teleconferences, which are held four times a year.
“The Shadow” is a term coined by Carl Jung, the noted follower of Sigmund Freud, for the unwelcome parts of ourselves that we hide from conscious awareness. This dark side is often explained as a judgment—what we reject in others is what we cannot accept within ourselves. Dualism is the framework, e.g. right/wrong, good/bad, win/lose, hope/resignation, etc. We don’t want to accept as ours the thoughts and behaviors that go against our value system. The more we repress our dark side, the easier it is to present a persona that radiates all “goodness” and light. The unconscious, which Freud saw as the individual’s construct, Jung envisioned as impulses and drives coming from the entire history of mankind. Therefore it is a collective unconscious, shaped by all and incorporating the shadow of all.
By ignoring our dark side, we only intensify its power over our conscious choices. This is witnessed in violent behavior as well as in mild, socially tolerated ways. When consciousness is no longer divided, when what we see is one self in all directions, “a new self and eventually a new world can be born.” Growing beyond our self-imposed limitations of the illusions our dark side imposes, we can gain compassion for self, courage and freedom. The goal is to be empowered with our wholeness, open to expressing our passions and realizing our dreams.
What is the evidence of the collective unconscious behavior in groups? The beginning came through body-mind medicine, the discovery of ‘messenger’ molecules that show how the brain translates emotions into a chemical equivalent, affecting our organs. Studies at Stanford University established the social contagion theory through bad conditions in a prison experiment that let dark forces emerge. A class of students was divided into two groups: guards and prisoners. The ‘guards’ began to severely mistreat the ‘prisoners,’ even though they were all considered good kids studying at a prestige university. They weren’t bad apples–they misbehaved through adopting that “us vs. them” mind-set, where people lose their individuality, becoming just faces in a crowd. If there are no consequences of one’s bad actions, the loss of individuality increases.
N. Christakis and J. Fowler from Harvard analyzed data from the three-decade study of 5,000 people in Framingham, Mass., and found invisible connections that run through a whole society. “When one person gained weight, started smoking, or got sick, close family members and friends were 50% more likely to behave the same way.” Any behavior can be contagious, and three degrees of connection became evident: “a friend of a friend can make you prone to smoking, unhappiness or loneliness, even though you have never met this friend of a friend.”
Our impulse for separation is behind the contrast—light and dark, divine and the devil, saint and sinner. Chopra suggests life has no juice, as in electricity, unless one pole sends a current to the other. He sees the shadow as the separation impulse and the divine impulse as one that seeks unity. The new reality we seek calls for a holographic impulse, one where the whole is represented in each part, no matter how small. Resolution and freedom come from recognizing the shadow is part of our psyche and that whatever exists in it is within our power to dissolve. The shadow tries to keep you unconscious because it’s the hiding place of pain and stress.
The process for nurturing the shadow includes: “keeping secrets from yourself and others; harboring guilt and shame; making yourself and others wrong; needing someone to blame; ignoring your own weaknesses while criticizing those around you; separating yourself from others; struggling to keep evil at bay.”
Choices for diminishing the shadow’s power deal with stopping our projecting, detaching and letting go, giving up self-judgment, and rebuilding your emotional body, which he describes as “the lightness of being,” becoming more whole. It exchanges judgment for the real experience of compassion, love, and forgiveness.
A new worldview is needed—the entire universe is made of consciousness, “infinite, all-embracing, all powerful, and all knowing.” He speaks of coordination of all action: information shared with all parts of the whole in instantaneous communication, energy is perpetually reshaping but never lost, evolution continually produces more intricate forms, and consciousness expands with more complex forms.
Wholeness and healing are very closely connected—always seeking balance within your body, within your life, within your world, as change and the laws of nature progress through transformations. Letting go of the split self with all its dualities is experiencing wholeness and being able to value the dynamics of each without being a slave to any.
Transcending the shadow brings the realization that “the level of the problem is never the level of the solution.” Going beyond the conflict brings a new perspective, a broader context that opens the way to resolution. Willingness to surrender your thinking mind to meditation, switching your focus from mental chatter to perhaps your breathing or chanting a mantra. frees your potential for limitless possibilities for peace and ever expanding consciousness.
PART II – Debbie Ford
Making Peace with Ourselves, Others and the World
A familiar picture is presented of people who pray, wish, and desire to change some vexing behavior—procrastinating, overspending, overeating, resenting . . .while hiding their discontent with a cheery countenance. With this simmering distress often comes forgetting they ever wanted anything other than what they had.
Our egocentric self believes that some change in a stressful person or thing will bring us happiness. Looking outside the self precludes lifting the veil within to see “who we think we are and who we really want to be.” Defending the former image prevents us from discovering our true self, our wholeness. The shadow, our dark side, the part we can’t imagine has anything to do with us and don’t want anyone, especially our loved ones, to see, becomes the major obstacle to realizing our true nature of greatness, compassion and authenticity.
She recalls her inner turmoil of opposing voices when she transitioned from an awkward preadolescent into a pretty young teen—“You’re an idiot.” and “I’m better, prettier, smarter and more talented than everyone else.” Attempting to feel better led her to a sugar addiction and progressed to cigarettes, Pot, pills for uppers and downers and psychedelics.
Success at masking her true feelings and imitating the girls who seemed ‘to have it all together’ deceived herself as much as others until her world crumbled. Finally, at the age of 27 in a drug treatment center, she began to see the havoc of her battle with the dark side. Ultimate surrender in that war revealed a passion to help others on the journey through the human psyche to value their wholeness. The realization that “we possess every human characteristic and emotion, whether active or dormant, whether conscious or dormant” levels our field of reference.
The panoply of self-expression brings the gifts our wholeness manifests, making possible infinite means of well-being and peace—the freedom to truly be and extend love to our oneness. Integrating all the aspects of our journey expands the richness of our days and builds on our potential for gift giving and receiving.
Her beliefs now are that forgiveness, happening in our hearts not our heads, is the “hallway between the past and an unimaginable future; everything happens for a reason; we are always evolving and though oftentimes painful, it serves an important purpose; there is wisdom in every wound; and we are more than we ever dreamed possible.”
PART III – Marianne Williamson
Only Light Can Cast Out Darkness
Struggling over the juxtaposition of so much tender beauty in the world—from sleeping babies and bounteous bouquets of blossoms, love on earth—to wars and inexorable suffering and destruction of living things, she acknowledges an antiforce that gets us to do its bidding because we have forgotten who we are and “thus act as we are not.” This darkness represents not a presence but an absence of light. “And the only true light is love.”
Separated from love, our wholeness and God, we perceive our anger as justified, blame of another is only reasonable, and attacking someone is righteous self-defense. Fear takes over and threatens to crush the soul. The antidote is to change our thinking to a higher frequency—loving unconditionally and unwaveringly, involving radical truth telling, and expanding our sense of love beyond the personal, social and political implications.
Metaphysically, through her work with Course in Miracles, she accepts “Nothing but God’s love exists and what is all-encompassing can have no opposite.” Practically, however, understanding the creative power of our thoughts and words and our propensity for separation, she sees God’s gift of the Holy Spirit, the Illuminator, as a bridge between our shadow and our light. This reminds us that the darkness is not real, and through prayer with the willingness to separate the truth from illusion, we are open to seeing others and ourselves differently.
Cultivating the sacred in our lives gives us space to stay connected to our spiritual reality, seeing how busyness can be our enemy and how communing with others in a holy space can bring balance and peace. With awareness of the ubiquitous negative thoughts, you can place yourself in the flow of gratitude, eliminating self-hatred and affirming others at the same time. “Prayer is a force; meditation harmonizes the energies of the universe; and forgiveness transforms the heart.”
Energy created in a group is a collective shadow, magnified and growing exponentially–with fear or love. The challenge is to love with a greater conviction than to the hate and fear of terrorism. The illumination of our true needs comes not from rational evidence but from a mystery for the realms of pure potentiality.
Apprehension about our shadow is easily seen and felt until we come to see that our darkness also hides our light, and “It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We are powerful beyond measure.” Our consciousness and our choices expand to embrace our wholeness and the love our Source has given to us all.
What do the ipod, telephone, and internet have in common? According to Steve Jobs on a taped forum via the TV show 60 minutes on October 23, 2011, he says the common tool is the iphone. OK, the phone, correct? Is it really far from the old landline that hung on the wall with the dial tone and manual piece, navigated by your index finger? Now this one device, called the iphone, integrates all your products and software into that unit, thus integrating all your communications into one simple tool.
One cannot help but acknowledge how much ‘virtual’ relationships have changed the landscape of communication since the onset of the internet. The passing of Steve Jobs this month brings this to mind for me as he was the creator of the virtual relationship conduit. Because of this technology, we are able to build relationships with people whom we may never meet and shake hands with or hug. That can be viewed as the upside of technology, while the downside is the loss of interpersonal connection or the loss ‘to be seen by the heart,’ as Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen notes in her book “Kitchen Table Wisdom.” To Be Seen By the Heart is the title of the chapter wherein she describes a moment in her life when she was 3 years old and she meets her dying godfather for the very first time. That moment ‘when we are seen by the heart we are seen for who we are. We are valued in our uniqueness by those who are able to see us in this way and we become able to know and value ourselves.’ When her godfather opened his eyes and saw her, he smiled at her and very softly said, ‘I’ve been waiting for you.’ He died moments later.
Our challenge for our current and future relationships is to obtain and maintain the heart connections with each other. Our challenge as a member-driven organization is to maintain relationships and support all of us as best we can. Since we are in the virtual environment, we have to be even more diligent in connecting with each other.
To better serve you as a member of the RPA Association, we continue to improve our systems to meet your needs and improve our relationship. In the light of Steve Jobs’ contribution, I view these RPA changes in the spirit of efficiency, inclusion, expansion of services, and directly going out to meeting and addressing the needs of the uniqueness of each of our members. In addition, we have made some streamlined changes at the Board level, but first before I introduce these to you, I want to share something from Dr. Steven Porges. He is a scientist , researcher, founder and author of the Polyvagal theory. In a recent webinar I attended, he describes his Social Engagement System that centers on the Heart-Face Connection and the importance of voice, eye contact, and facial expressions. Taking his work and fast-forwarding it to the world of Steve Jobs and the current technology, Dr. Porges has this to say about relationships:
“The phone stripped away the voice from the face.
The email stripped the word from the voice.”
While the technology will continue to speed forward, we can promote and demand the relationship coherence we expect and need to be with in partnership with each other.
We are trained as Resonance Repatterners in relationship coherence. I invite you to have that with each other and to have that with the RPA. Mutual give and take in this Association is dependent on the growth and stability of this Association. We have so much room for volunteering and new ideas. Please contact me or any of the Board members or Chairs and offer your support. We look forward to working with you!
We are very excited to share these updated and revised opportunities to maintain your CEU’s and share about the new Board structure!
Here are some of the wonderful changes we have made this year:
RPA Board Structure change:
The Board structure has changed from 12 seats on the Board to a 5-member Executive Board. We had our first meeting in October, and I am just thrilled with the Board support in moving in this direction. The Executive Board now consists of: Laura Frisbie, Secretary; Paula Caplan; Joie Jacobsen; Don Giberson; and myself. Josephine Rovari is present during meetings as the RPA Admin Assistant. All the other Board members have moved to Advisory Board chairs of their respective committees.
Continuing Education Changes:
An expanded list of modalities outside of Resonance Repatterning® for continuing education.
This year the Board backdated the timeframe for when non-Resonance Repatterning workshops and events could cover members for CEU’s. We can now go back to July 2010 for programs attended, and if the program is on the list of approved workshops, you can get CEU credit for attendance. Follow the link for the approved modalities list and also to see how you can log your attendance on your MY Account page. Any workshop or program you attend, you will need to provide a copy to the RPA for record-keeping with the approved number of CEU’s stated on your certificate of attendance by your workshop host. Click here to see the expanded list of approved courses:
These are for non-Resonance Repatterning Institute classes earned. You will need to record the number of CEU’s designated and this needs to show up on your certificate of attendance. Instructions are located there on how to record online and where to mail your hard copy of record of attendance or, you can scan your record of attendance showing CEU’s to Josephine Rovari, the RPA Administrative Assistant. The address is provided on the website in this section.
We are very excited about these additions and how our operations are becoming streamlined and coordinated for efficient use of time and efficient ways to stay certified.
Relationships are very intriguing to me. You are in relationship with everyone, from your banker to your lover and everyone in between. How you experience relationships can be uplifting or debilitating depending on how you are in the relationship. Every interaction counts.
Have you ever noticed that the experience you have in an interaction depends on how you approach the person? I have done many conversation experiments, and what I have come to know is the more loving, friendly, and compassionate I am, the more the person I am talking with is that way with me. I have observed this especially when talking to someone, for example, at the phone company when I call in asking for clarity or resolution regarding my bill. Try it next time and notice the difference!
Another experiment I did, many years ago, was with my father. It seemed to me that when he called me, he was reporting how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many activities. I found myself getting envious of what they were getting that I did not. What was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment that I still mattered in his life and that I meant a lot to him. So, I started acknowledging him for being such a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a Dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and told me how important I was to him. He also acknowledged me for how much of a difference I was making in the lives of my clients. This was something he had not done before. So the very thing I thought was missing I gave him, and in the very giving of it, I experienced acknowledgement and seemingly out of nowhere, he gave to me the very thing I was previously missing. It was quite remarkable. The switch was very dramatic. So, if there are qualities you are lacking in relationship with others, bring that quality to them or the situation and watch how you are actually experiencing the very quality you previously thought was missing.
There are so many things I have learned over the last few years especially when it comes to relating with men. I would like to honor Allison Armstrong, the developer of the “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” series, http://www.understandmen.com. She has spent over thirty years studying men. I would like to share some of the things that have made a difference when I speak with men that I have learned from Allison’s inquiry.
Allison has come to know that men are wired to provide, so I let men know what it is that they would be providing for me if they helped me, and they seem to jump at the opportunity. Since men love to make women happy, I might say to my beloved partner Bernie, “It would really make me happy if you would call me before you left your house to come over, so I know when you might be here. It would provide me more time to get ready to see you after I get caught up on my emails.” Even when men I do not know help me, I make it a habit to tell them what they provided for me. Their chest puffs up, knowing they have just made a difference; they love it!
According to Allison, men are also wired to protect women. For example, I might say to Bernie while he is driving us somewhere, “I would feel much safer if there were more distance between our car and the car in front of us.” The interaction is not making him wrong for driving so close, rather, it is about proving safety for me. He naturally slowed down and I made sure I appreciated him by saying, “Thank you, I feel much safer now.” It is important as women that we let men provide safety for us and then appreciate them for it.
I have learned so much about my partner Bernie, just from listening to him. Asking him a question, then being quiet, gives him the time he needs to disclose what he chooses. Over time, he reveals more and more of who is and what he is up to, just in his speaking. Being present for another and listening is such a wonderful gift we can give each other.
I have also learned over the years to ask a man what he thinks rather than how he feels. You would be surprised how much information you get. You can actually learn what means a lot to men, what men value and what men hold dear and near just by listening. Men feel acknowledged and respected when they are listened to and men love respect and acknowledgement!
Allison also talks about how important men’s opinions are to them. She states that men’s opinions are to them, as women’s feelings are to women. So, just by asking their opinion, you can hear their inner longings, goals and what they are up to. You can also hear their sincere desire to help and make a difference in your life. Start really listening and notice the difference!
I like to look at intimate relationships as a sacred journey. We can use everything that ‘comes up’ for us and triggers us as an opportunity to heal. For those of us who are privileged to do Resonance Repatterning®, we can find and clear, or inquire and resolve, what happened in the past that is unresolved that is underneath the current upset. In this way, your intimate relationship can be like a journey, a sacred journey into your greatness, if you will. If you are in an intimate relationship, I encourage you to change your perspective and notice how much more freedom and love you share. Those of you who are not in an intimate relationship, the more you clear what is still unresolved from your past relationships, the more you will be open to the qualities you want to attract in a partner. Those of you who do not do the Resonance Repatterning® process, I would encourage you to find a practitioner in your area or have a phone session with a certified practitioner that you really connect with. The sessions are very profound. You can find one at: http://www.repatterning.org.
Relationships can be more uplifting if you are part of the solution, rather than part of the problem. If you go into the interaction with this intention, you will always get a different response, and your relationship with whomever will be a sacred journey– a source of personal transformation, joy and love.
Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.
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