Reinventing ourselves comes from within. It does helps to have a planetary shift like the one we had on the winter solstice December 21, 2012. I now feel stronger than ever, I have taken more action in the last month than probably the previous three months. I am ‘on fire!’ Watch out world, here I come!
What I found necessary was to reclaim the parts of myself that I had lost, given away or given up on. I suggest you do the same. It will free you to be more authentically who YOU are out in the world. In the Resonance Repatterning® Method, this process is done by doing the ‘Fusion Modality’ where one retrieves a lost quality. If this speaks to you, many certified practitioners can assist you. Go to http://www.repatterning.org. You will find a list of practitioners there. Find someone you resonate with to help you.
I recently did a play shop called “Owning My Purpose” through a new company called Raised Vibration, http://www.raisedvibration.com. One of the exercises we did was to inquire about what we did, or how we survived our family dynamics growing up. One of the things I discovered that I did to survive, was to find out what the rules are, in order to be acceptable and to get my needs met, and follow them. I then saw that even to this day, I find out what the rules are and live within the parameters of them, even if I do not agree with them, or have to settle. Growing up, I became the ‘good girl,’ nice and pleasing. I found out what others needed and did whatever it took to make them happy–harmony at all cost!
Robert Fulghum coined the phrase in his book, “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten.” Maybe it should state, “Everything I learned about how to deal with life is formulated by the time I get to kindergarten.”
In the play shop, we then distinguished what qualities we left behind to survive, like our uniqueness, our creativity, our curiosity, adventure, etc. I discovered that I left behind, my inner desires, my true authentic playful nature, my full self-expression, my dignity and most importantly my values.
We then talked about what we are passionate about, like making a difference, nature, animals, helping adopted people find their biological parents, etc. I have many passions! The four I spoke about were my passion to free people from their past and move forward to fulfill their dream; to take risks, be adventurous and playful; to be in an environment where there are wide-open spaces; and to be free to be myself.
From there, in the quietness of our inner sanctuary we created and later declared and claimed our purpose. We stood up in front of the whole group–and on camera to boot–owning our purpose. My purpose is to inspire and empower others’ greatness to live extraordinary lives! What I realized is that I am already doing that. Energy surged throughout my whole being and a rush of emotion filled my eyes. It was total validation of what I have been all about for many years.
We were then asked to pick a project to fulfill within six months that would allow us to tangibly experience our purpose and move us into unhesitating action. I could not imagine taking on yet another project, so I chose one I have wanted to complete: publishing my first book, “What Would Love Do Right Now?” It got very daunting last year, so I gave myself a sabbatical from the book. Now I am ready. I have a structure in place to fulfill my goal with support from those who love and care about me. My commitment is to have it on the shelf by August 24, 2013.
As you are moving forward reinventing yourself, be sure you are gentle with yourself and get the support you need from those who love and care about you. It will be easier than you think! If I can do it, YOU can do it too! Have fun!
Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.