Through my twenty years of working with clients and talking to some of the elderly at the end of their life, one of their main concerns was whether they fulfilled their life’s purpose. I would talk to them about what they thought their purpose was. I reminded them that not everyone was going to be an Oprah Winfrey, Deepak Chopra or Chloe Faith Wordsworth and that their purpose was very personal. They did not have to be famous, up on stage, have books and CD’s out, be wealthy, married, or whatever they thought and believed might be a worthy purpose.
I would have them do a ‘life review,’ starting in childhood, naming all their accomplishments and, more importantly, the qualities they embraced as they influenced all the people in their lives. From here, they would discover, on their own, what their theme or consistent quality or way of being was that really made a difference for them and the people whom they positively affected personally and professionally. Some of them commented that they were loving, patient, compassionate and/or kind-hearted. Others said, “I was a good mother or good father. I was helpful, generous and supportive. I was a good provider.” As you can imagine, the list went on and on. I then helped them see that what they accomplished in their lives and the qualities they exuded was their life purpose and that it was enough. Being a loving mother was enough. Being a good provider was enough. Taking a stand for peace and being peaceful was enough. Being light-hearted, humorous, and optimistic was enough! Knowing this opened their hearts, and a sense of peace and calm came over them. It actually brought them to tears, tears of knowing that they indeed did fulfill their purpose and lived a purpose-filled life!
I would not recommend waiting until the end of your precious life to discover your life purpose. Sit down when you have uninterrupted time. Light a candle, if you wish. Fill the room with your favorite scent. Close your eyes, take some slow deep breaths and do your own ‘life review.’ Start when you were a child. What qualities or attributes did you radiate back then? Then continue by listing your accomplishments as an adult and use them to determine the qualities you used to make a difference in those around you. You will be amazed at what you discover. Keep writing. You will see a theme emerge. Now, go into the quiet of your inner essence and allow yourself to claim your life’s purpose. You may experience that you are already living a purpose-filled life!
Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.