“What happens when people fail to find their life purpose?”
BY GAIL GLANVILLE
One answer is this:
The World Health Organization predicts that by 2020 the leading cause of disability in women worldwide will be…depression. And not to be selective, the numbers for men are on the rise, too.
Don’t you think this represents a significant opportunity for Resonance Repatterning® practitioners?
There are literally hundreds, even thousands, of people in your market who suffer from depression. 80% of them are going untreated, which leads to lost opportunities, absenteeism, broken relationships and even suicide.
I suggest that the biggest opportunity for making a difference in this country is to target depression and anxiety in your practice (just as practitioners Laura Frisbie and Trine Whist are doing). Help people reconnect with the joy of their life purpose.
Remember the results of Joel Bennett’s Pilot Research Study? 95% of clients felt “better to a lot better” after a session with a Resonance Repatterning practitioner.
Recently I heard from a student who wanted to know how to promote herself, how to talk about her work with Resonance Repatterning so she could start attracting clients. I suggested she focus on depression, and gave her a sample elevator speech:
“Do you know how many people suffer from depression in this state? You’ll recognize them because they’ve lost their joy in life, their sense of accomplishment and meaning. They’ve stopped doing things they love. Most of them struggle along untreated, barely dragging themselves through their days. I wonder if you may sometimes feel the same.
“What I offer are private sessions in a new method of energy psychology that finds the specific source of depression and lifts it 95% of the time…
“So that you regain your zest for life, reconnect to people you love and experience your life as a journey to joy. So that you find your life purpose and begin to create anew on your terms. So that you can become so fulfilled and satisfied that you feel happy all the time.
“My name is Jane Doe, and I am a Resonance Repatterning practitioner. I can help you feel better even after just one session. Rather than telling you about what I do, let me show you, by phone or in person. Here’s my card.”
There is a secret to this approach, which is to resist the temptation to describe the FEATURES of Resonance Repatterning.
Instead weave a story around the proven “feel better” BENEFITS. How are clients actually changed by a session? How are they moved out of depression towards the joy of expressing their life’s purpose?
It is my belief that if a majority of practitioners offered Resonance Repatterning as a solution to depression like this, four things would happen:
Resonance Repatterning would have a better chance of becoming a household word.
Practitioners would build stronger practices.
Both clients and practitioners would enjoy a greater sense of meaning and purpose.
PS: You’re welcome to use any or all of the elevator speech in groups or on your website.
Gail Glanville Is a member of the RPA Hall of Fame and former Managing Director of the Resonance Repatterning Institute. She provides Repatterning sessions by phone and also teaches holistic marketing to practitioners. She is the editor of the Nun Karma Repatterning and author of the Food Repatterning manual.
As a Resonance Repatterner and student of metaphysics, I discovered that to live a purpose-filled life, I have to ask consciously of anything: What is this for, what do I want to come of this?
Eventually, we will all know how difficult it is to answer questions regarding the purposefulness of life because at some pivotal point during the growing cycle of our human consciousness, we will all ask ‘what is a better way to live?’. Regardless of any difficulty, inability or unwillingness to delve deep to find answers to these questions, it remains that it is the coherent or non-coherent focus we give to any aspect of living that will determine its purpose; consciously or unconsciously.
This seems on the surface like an enormous task, self-indulgent navel gazing with no room to enjoy living, and persistently engaged in introspection. But it is more than just a daunting task. For this question of ‘what is it for?’ can move us toward satisfying our inherent yearning to express ourselves coherently from our core. Asking ‘what do I want to come of this?’ as a means to living a purpose-filled life, is not only limited to the grand perspective of what constitutes a purpose-filled existence on earth, but includes the seemingly prosaic ‘what do I want to come from saying ‘hello’ to Joe Smith on the street?’.
I recently had a ‘reading’ with a wonderfully talented psychic who looked at my impulse to come to earth ‘this time around.’ She related, through her symbolic word-pictures, that from on high, so to speak, and with a teenage angel perspective, I saw that my soon-to-be biological father, who in a larger context I already knew and loved, was very sad and confused on earth, so I jet-propelled myself into physical existence on a rescue mission. Without a ‘by your leave’ of wiser counsel, I simply made up my mind this was the right thing to do and took off, only to discover very quickly the foolhardiness of my choice.
Asking whether this story is true or not is unimportant, since the asking is merely a tactic of my mind to divert me away from what is helpful. For what is helpful is how it relates to my actions now. It symbolically demonstrates that my decision, to act from a place of love to save someone from themselves, I made up, and did so from conclusions based on faulty perceptual beliefs which I was not aware of at the time. Consequently, the great important special purpose for my living on earth was a myth. (Where was Resonance Repatterning when I was a goofy teenage angel?)
As a Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, I cannot ignore this awareness, nor the data from hundreds of session notes, that it is the myths already conceived from the viewpoint of the observer mind that determines what we choose to see and experience with our time in a world. Further, researchers who study the holographic nature of our reality agree that it is the judging of a goal’s merits at the onset, and decisions based on them, that predetermine what happens in the outcome, before an event takes place.
However, there is no wrong way to live a life since, if we view it correctly, Life is a schoolroom. There are consequences, but everyone is given liberty to make decisions for their life. An infringement on any way of living comes when we do not honor and respect an individual’s ability to choose for themselves. At times, due to lack of comprehension, we include others unnecessarily in our life cycles, and dramas. However, infringing on the personal liberty to choose for oneself is the greatest hinderance to the enjoyment and freedom of creating a meaningful existence.
One guideline for living a purpose-filled life as we ask ‘what is it for?’ I cannot overemphasize. The love within us needs an outlet. Whether we believe in the idea that we are created beyond time and space, or whether we simply embrace the idea that we are a product of a physical mother and father does not matter. For love is a very important factor motivating humanity.
We are born of lovemaking so that we may love.
Releasing love from within, and extending it into some viable and pleasurable outlet, enriches beyond an individual, regardless of whether another agrees with the format of that self-expression or not.
How can we tell if we are living a life from love in the best and most meaningful way, since we have to do something with time once we find ourselves in a world.
We will experience a feeling of overwhelming compassion for ourself and humankind.
We will feel fully appreciated, and appreciative of the efforts of others.
The form of our chosen self-expression of love becomes a vehicle that expresses the love in us all, and we will recognize it as such.
We will impinge on no one, only carry the love inherent in us forward on to others.
We will congratulate ourselves, not with superficial ego aggrandizement, but in a genuine flow of gratitude for expressing what extends from our heart.
As our love flows, we will feel it return to us and ‘thank us’ for celebrating itself though us,
And, it will bring peace, satisfaction and contentment.
Now, no one can decide this, express it exactly, nor determine its value for any of us, for the love in us has a goal beyond us. It rejoices in the flow of itself, unhindered and unburdened by anything unlike itself that may try to restrict it.
(Restrictions come from impinging values that we do not personally determine. Values as to the rightness or wrongness of our chosen way of living. Those subtle innuendoes and judgements often encourage self-deprecation and belittlement, creating sore spots and woundings.)
However, it is not necessary to spend as much time as one would think healing wounds before we can express love in a meaningful way. Since we will discover that the capacity to fully hear our inner call to love, whatever its expression, will weave itself into the tapestry of our life, along with all personal hurts. The wounds and hurting created by infringement on personal rights can become the jewels and the nuggets in the tapestry, if carefully transformed by the process of forgiveness.
The jewels of our transformations offset and give brilliant contrast to the ordinary and similarity between two weavings. Unhealed, they appear as rips and holes in the fabric of our life, but transformed they brighten and enhance the dullness of similarity and sameness.
It is not necessary to think that the jewels and nuggets are essential to live a life of expressed love, but they do catch attention and draw the eye to their brilliance and what is possible.
What do I personally want to come of this life as I learn to correct my impulsive teenage angel goofiness: what is it now for? For me, a purpose-filled life is to discover the essence of life itself, the nature of love, and what is true and what is false. This positive purpose is a worthwhile pursuit for me since I have already experienced it breathing life into a flailing spirit, and I know that it has the potential to resuscitate my life further into heightened states of self-awareness.
Therefore, my pursuit of a truer purpose that will obtain for me a more heartfelt connection to the Principal of Life that created me relies upon an intrepid investigation. I know that if I have enough staying power to turn my fear of asking and looking into courage, I will be rewarded with remembering the forgotten song of my liberated spirit.
Bio – Zumi Potts is a Certified Member of RPA since 2004 and has served as a volunteer for the World Peace Hologram. She has a Resonance Repatterning® practice in Rhode Island, USA and conducts sessions by phone, Skype and proxy . She is also a spiritual counselor, energy therapist and teacher of metaphysics. She may be contacted at:
Magui Block knows how to support people in transforming their relationships very well. When I heard that she is creating a new relationships workshop, I wanted to hear more.
Sally: You are the author of two excellent Resonance Repatterning® workshops—one called Healing the Family and one called Healing the Family Systems and Healing the Systems—Family, Groups, and Organizations. What is the next workshop that you are developing?
Magui: My next workshop will address intimate relationships– one with one relationships. It is more for couple relationships, but it can be beneficial for any other intimate relationship such as parent/child or siblings; boss/employee relationships, close friends.
I want many people to attend. I want to do it outside of the Resonance Repatterning umbrella, so everybody can attend, not only Resonante Repatterning practitioners. Chloe, who has always supported and guided my work, likes the idea and is close to me in this project.
There will be two manuals—one for Resonance Repatterning participants and one for people who are not trained to do Resonance Repatterning. Participants who are not Resonance Repatterning Practitioners can learn the work through another, more simple system—another pathway. They will still be able to identify non-coherent patters, identify the issues that hold the non-coherence in place and identify the modality. They can do the same process without needing to use muscle checking.
I hope that this approach will help increase the number of students studying Resonance Repatterning. By taking this workshop, they will feel motivated to take additional courses.
Some of the chapters of this new workbook include:
How Families of Origin affect the Dynamics of the Couple
How to Attract and Manifest an Intimate Relationship
The Dynamics of Male/Female Interactions
Setting Limits in Relationships
Ending a Relationship
In this manual, I address why there are more divorces now. I address how to manage power in a relationship such as in relationship to money and control. And finally, I address what happens when one member of a couple grows and moves in life and that threatens the couple staying together.
Sally: When is this workshop first going to be taught?
The first workshop will be held in Spain in late November—in Spanish.
Participants will include couples and singles, Resonance Repatterning Practitioners and people who are not repatterners, psychologists and social workers, etc. They will learn the tools. I won’t teach them the skills of how to help others heal. If they have those skills, they can use this tool in their practice. If not, they will be able to use this tool for themselves.
Sally: Will you be using Bert Hellinger approaches again in this workshop?
Magui: I use his principles a little when teaching “dynamics of the soul”. But primarily I am using other approaches. I am presenting what I have seen to work with my clients who are addressing couples issues.
The work is very serious, but I address it in a light way. I use stories and case histories. The way the manual is written is designed to heal. I meditated and received inner guidance. This workshop is very different than what I have presented in the past. It is simpler.
Sally: When doing modalities, do you recommend that the practitioner follow the instructions from the book exactly as they are written, or do you recommend that they change the processes as they feel appropriate?
Magui: If a practitioner is connected with spirit, with their wisdom, the modality goes well. If not connected with spirit, the energy is denser and there is more suffering. This work must touch your spirit.
For example, with the modalities for trauma: It’s not the trauma, but the trauma’s energy that gets stuck. Let that energy do what ever it needs to be doing. What does the energy need to do? The described modalities are only one way to heal. If the given modality gives you a different idea, it is recommendable to do that different process. The suggestions in the book can be used to take a different direction.
Do the work with the heart, not the head. The modalities are a limitation in a way. We have many more tools. When a client is having an experience, the modalities are only ideas of how to address the experience. Maybe the client has other ideas.
….It is beneficial to take workshops many times. When you see a lot of different scenarios, your learning and grasp of the process will become deeper.
Sally: Do you have specific goals for this workshop?
Magui: The books are design to support transformation, to avoid repeating old patterns, and to create new coherent patterns.
When we get triggered by our old patterns, we get to see how our old patterns are in relationship to us. How do we develop the ability to not repeat these old patterns? First we identify our patterns and then we go on to our relationship patterns. We address what triggers us. What ever triggers us shows how we are in relationships and this reflects how we relate to ourselves.
In one of the chapters, for example, I address that people are often alone, not by conscious choice, but are afraid to be with someone. They do not want to open their hearts—but that decision happens on an unconscious level. They are choosing by not choosing. They are losing time, love and experiences.
Then there are others who have relationships, but do not open up, they stay safe. They do not have a sense of community. They can’t open to someone, can’t open to others. They stay stuck in unhealthy relationships. They don’t finish with the relationship because they are afraid.
In this workshop, and in the book, I talk in a way that is light, very light. That is the way I teach. Not heavy. The issues are heavy, but the presentation is light and the healing is with love.
I am hoping to present Resonance Repatterning in a way that will help Resonance Repatterning will grow. I hope to find ways to make it attractive to more people.
Sally: Thank you Magui for all you have done for Resonance Repatterning. I look forward to taking this new workshop.
Magui Block lives in Cuernavaca, Mexico. She has received accreditation in several fields in psychotherapy: Person Centered Focus, Gestalt Psychotherapy, Gestalt for Children and Teenagers, Dreams, Biomnemics (body therapy), Gestalt to treat Symptoms, Family Therapy, E.M.D.R., Eriksonian Hypnosis. She is also trained as a Family Constellation Therapist by the Bert Hellinger Institute of Berlin.
Magui has been a Resonance Repatterning Certified Practitioner since 1999, and teaches the Empowering Yourself seminar. She is the author of the Resonance Repatterning seminars “Healing The Family Systems” and “Healing The Systems- family, groups and organizations”. She was the first President of the Mexican Resonance Repatterning Association during 2000 and 2001, when it was created.
Sally Herr is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, a Speech Language Practitioner, MA/CCC, and a Biodynamic CranioSacral Therapist (RCST). She lives and works in Portland, Maine. Her website is SallyHerr.com.
Certification Corner is a regularly appearing column in the Repatterning Journal. Written by the members of the Certification Board, Meryl Chodosh-Weiss, Shirley Lanyi, Mary Cameris and Paula Caplan. Each issue will focus on information about the RPA Repatterning Certification process and Certification issues. If you have a question that you would like to be answered in the Repatterning Journal you can email Meryl at email@example.com.
Happy Autumn everyone! This season of the Metal element is about releasing and letting go of all that is no longer necessary so that values, quality, respect, organization, inspiration and a sense of the ideal can be energized and permeate our relationships in every aspect of our lives.
We are delighted to announce that Isabel Thomas, from Mesa Arizona, is our newest RPA Certified Practitioner. We send heartfelt congratulations to you Isabel for successfully completing your Certification Journey!
The Summer Seasonal conference call was widely attended and we hope that even more students and student practitioners will bring their questions and concerns to our Autumn Seasonal Conference call on Monday, November 14, 2011. The call begins at 7pm Eastern time and it will end at 8pm Eastern time. It will include a group repatterning. You can register by clicking here
The next Certification Board meeting is also on November 14, 2011, so you have just enough time to send in your Certification package if you are ready to apply to the Board.
Currently scheduled Practitioner Skills Development classes are:
New York, NY. with Meryl Chodosh-Weiss, November 12, 2011.
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The newly revised Resonance Repattering® books–up to Transforming Chakra Patterns–are now on sale at the Resonance Repatterning/eStore website. The Journal Committee wanted to find out what’s different about these books and so we called Chloe Wordsworth, author of these books and the Founder of Resonance Repatterning to find out.
Sally: In the beginning, when you began doing this work, what inspired you to write the Resonance Repatterning books?
Chloe: By 1990 I had spent 20 years studying many different healing systems, including the Five Elements system of Acupuncture. Although I had a successful private practice as an Acupuncture practitioner for eight years (meaning that I loved the results I saw), I was still constantly searching for yet more and better ways to help my clients. I was pretty driven–never satisfied! This had lead me to study all kinds of modalities—Polarity Therapy, Edu-K, nutrition, Feldenkrais and much more–always searching for the underlying cause of people’s problems; what was the panacea that would help people create the change so they would feel better?
What inspired me to create Resonance Repatterning, that is to put together a whole different system from anything I had studied, practiced and taught, was my realization that healing modalities in themselves were not enough. In my practice, from 1972 onward, I had observed that people were driven by repetitive patterns. By 1989 I began to experiment with identifying these patterns and using healing modalities to transform resonance with them.
My clients were fascinated with what I was doing and felt beneficial results, so in about 1991 they began asking me to teach them what I was doing. This meant I had to write something down, because everything I did was in my head. I worked with my clients in the moment, muscle checking everything they needed from my own internal data base. Nothing was written down!
So I wrote a one page synopsis of everything the new students might need–now we have ten books! After that I wrote out the four “Repatternings” for changing our attitudes and beliefs: these were the pre-cursors to the four Repatternings we learn in the Fundamentals seminars. Actually, one of them was called the Umbilical Repatterning, which I later realized was a muscle check rather than a Repatterning! The more people wanted to learn, the more information I wrote down to meet their need. At the same time I was still developing the work in my full-time practice. So everything I wrote down was in a constant state of flux, changing from week to week. For me this was a time of ferment: thinking, creating, talking to friends and family, reading, analyzing, doing sessions on myself over and over, and on clients too. So from the first class, which had a handout of one page, we went to the next class, which received two pages, and bit by bit over the years the books were written and revised.
Sally: Tell me about your relationship to creating the books.
Chloe: Relationship? Well, as we know, everything is energy or frequency wave patterns that influence everyone else’s frequencies–synchronizing with our frequencies or out of sync with our frequencies. If we say the word “yes,” it strengthens our muscle response and brings our frequencies into sync a little. If we say the word “no” our muscle response weakens and our frequencies go out of sync a little (or a lot!). So in all relationships, we either have a strengthening effect or a weakening effect: we either help people’s frequencies come into sync, or, if they resonate at a certain level with us, our frequencies go out of sync when we are with that person.
We influence and are influenced by others for better or for worse, depending on what we resonate with. So my relationship to creating the books means that I have a responsibility to be coherent and that the system supports people in synchronizing their frequencies to support their self-healing and self-transformation. This means that how I am, my state of coherence as I write the Resonance Repatterning books, is important. That energy is there. This is true whether I am writing a book, or inserting corrections at 2 a.m. My attitude is important: if you love what you do; if you are grateful; if you want to be guided by the highest values, it has an effect. This is why I come from intention before I write or do anything, so the books will have a positive energetic effect upon the reader.
Sally: That is why I would come to one of your workshops, even if you were teaching how to wash dishes!
Chloe: That’s nice! It’s true, whatever we do, however small and seemingly unimportant, the inner attitude we resonate with develops our character and the values we live by and hopefully has a positive influence on our world. It’s the same with teaching: I believe that if I am coherent when I teach, the students, and me, too, will receive what we need from the field of limitless possibilities–a new awareness that is life-changing, a healing of an old wound, new learnings, new ways of seeing, the Aha! that changes our understanding. Without coherence and love, transformation doesn’t happen. This is why we must constantly do our own personal development work–none of us is complete!
This is our relationship to the work. For me, it meant doing the Repatternings on myself over and over as I developed them, and improved them, and transforming my own patterns when life problems arose. Then I would do repatterning sessions with other people, which helped me enliven the work more. Demonstrating them on students in the seminars helped me identify additional improvements. I had to think, feel and practice before any of the repatternings could move to their “final” completion point. It’s all very organic!
Sally: What makes these present books different from the previous books?
Chloe: I just got an e-mail regarding the Primary Patterns book. The practitioner wrote, “The new books are great! I love them!” To give you a few more details:
In the Orientation Section of the Process Guide(Rainbow Book) and the Primary Patterns book, I added an orientation to “the point of choice”. Self-healing begins when we choose healing. The Point of Choice is different from Intention.Point of Choice motivates us to achieve and manifest our intentions. Life offers us a constant wobble—between order and disorder. The Point of Choice is the edge between stability and instability–a place of huge creative potential. The Point of Choice is about going for this creative potential, rather than being stuck in the disorder and instability of our problems and our unmanifested intentions.
The Point of Choice is an opportunity to realign ourselves with our deepest values and priorities. It is how our mind, body and energy become vehicles of consciousness.
Also in the Orientation section of the Rainbow Book, we address “resonating with trust and love.” To really be oriented we need to orient to feeling loved. If we do not have basic orientations to trust and love, how can we heal?
In the “Problems” section of the Process Guide and in the Primary Patterns book, we go deeply into the fear that underlies the problem. Under any problem is a fear and our belief that our fears are true. This belief we resonate with holds us back.
In the “Problems Into Opportunities” section of the Rainbow Book, we have a section to identify the negative attitude. Underlying every problem is a negative attitude, which makes extraordinary change impossible. This is the triangle of the perpetrator, who blames and complains; the victim, who feels helpless; and the savior, who feels it is their responsibility to save the person or situation, or come up with a solution. I’ve listed specifics for each of these negative attitude states so we can quickly move out of these patterns (and switching from one to the other in a few minutes) and take personal responsibility for the fact that all our problems reflect an aspect of our own state of mind.
I have also clarified the Intention for a New Possibility Section. The Headings include:
The Intention for a New Possibility (What we want to do or achieve.), whether by choice, from the list or a Daily Empowerment Intentions.
The second section is what motivates action toward the achievement of our intentions (including the point of choice, the positive feeling our intentions give us, the underlying need our intentions fulfill for us, and our life vision that motivates all our daily intentions.)
The third section identifies the resources we need in order to manifest our intentions, and the various aspects of this section.
And finally, every Intention takes Commitment. The fourth section supports our resonance with this.
All of these new inputs makes the “Intentions” section more powerful and clear.
Sally: And what about the new Transforming Unconscious Patterns (TUPs) book?
The new TUPs book goes deeper into the brain and the power of our brain. For instance, the brain has 100 billion nerve cells which are connected to other nerve cells or neurons. Brain researchers have estimated that there are more nerve connections in the human brain than there are stars in the Universe! Talk about potential! So this book is about supporting this massive potential within us. I am also seeing how the neuroanatomy of the brain relates to the on/off muscle response used in Resonance Repatterning. Quite exciting!
In the TUPs book I go into the seven major neurotransmitter-peptide-endorphins that are needed for optimal body/brain functioning, listing the qualities we need to resonate with.
With respect to self-help modalities and positive actions, there is a list of thirty or more activities proven to support neurotransmitter production and keeping our brain youthful and flexible. For example, something as simple as sleep— that less than seven hours has been shown to lower brain function; and people low in essential fatty acids are at higher risk for ADD, depression, Alzheimer’s, suicidal attempts, and obesity. This section includes information regarding how people can get what they need naturally, through correct eating plus details on what supports brain functioning: for instance, the herb sage has an A-level rating for the highest possible scientific evidence that it enhances memory! That’s amazing! TUPs has lots of important and practical information on what creates positive change of resonance via our brain.
TUPs also goes deeply into the power of forgiveness.
Sally: How do you define “forgiveness”.
Chloe: You know, forgiveness is such a huge subject. Perhaps we can do another interview on that so we can focus more deeply on the power of forgiveness as the ultimate healer. But for now, in the TUPs book we get to identify certain overactive parts of the brain that may be making forgiveness difficult.
Another new aspect in all the books is that I give an overview of each repatterning. If a student or practitioner is short on time, they can glance through the A.B.C. overview of the repatterning in its introduction, and quickly see the sections they want or need to cover.
Sally: And what about the Chakra Patterns book–that, too, is the completed version?
Chloe: Yes it is. In the Transforming Chakra Patterns book, everything has been revised and improved! The Sound Frequency Repatterning is so much easier–and of course, these books are all edited.
There is one thing I am sorry about and that is the page numbers! As we are still working with various versions of the books, you will find inconsistencies with the page numbers. We hope to correct this as soon as possible. In the meantime, here and there you will need to insert your own correct page numbers!
The Rainbow Book is also completely revised. In the Repatterning section we now list of all the Repatternings from the Living In Tune web radio program as quite a lot of students and practitioners are using them. I have divided these twenty-five Repatternings into three sections: eight Repatternings for Personal Coherence, eleven for Achieving the Best of Who You Are and six Repatternings for One-on-one and Group Relationships.
Sally: If someone is interested in acquiring the Living In Tune repatternings that you wrote for your radio programs, how can they get them?
Chloe: At this time, anyone can download them from the Resonance Repatterning website/downloads. In the future, I will edit and update all the transcripts and create a book out of the twenty-five Repatternings, based on the above three categories.
Sally: Is there anything else you can think of that has been updated?
Chloe: An important change is in the Underlying Needs section of the Process Guide. In place of the list of Life Needs and Spirit Level needs, I identified five major categories of needs. Each category has a list of nine to twenty specific needs in it. The five categories include:
1. The need for security, nurturance and love.
2. The need for health and energy.
3. The need to achieve your best, go beyond your limits and manifest your potential.
4. The need for love, respect and happiness in relationship.
5. The need for purpose, meaning, spiritual happiness and love from within.
The Process guide has been totally changed and is much easier to follow. The front cover looks much like the previous version with the mandala, but the back cover now has the Coherence Continuum, which illlustrates the most fundamental concept of Resonance Repatterning.
Sally: Yes, I agree. In examining the Process Guide, as well as the various books, the material is much clearer and goes to greater depth.
Sally: Another question people ask is about the “subtle levels” that you refer to in your books.
Chloe: There are twelve subtle levels, which represent frequencies that exist at the subtle level of the energy field– perhaps some ancient generational pattern we still resonate with but don’t need to identify more specifically, or for those who believe in past lives, they could be seen as some non-coherent frequency still held in the subtle field from the past, again, that doesn’t need to be identified, that is having a negative impact on the present.
Sally: Tell me about the books that have not, to this date, been revised.
Chloe: All of the remaining books are on the verge of being complete. That said, the final editing always takes more time than we realize! I will be working on the Modalities book in November and December, but then it needs a very careful final edit, and probably some re-writing. This Modalities book will be available to the general public, so they can use these modalities in their daily life. I’ll also be working on the Five Elements and Meridian book this October, November and December. The Visions and the Energetics of Relationships books are waiting their final editing. One book at a time. The exciting Inner Cultivation book, which now includes some phenomenal information from the bio-physicist Fritz-Albert Popp and Russian research teams on light, is also in its process of completion. So people who attend these seminars get the most up-to-date version, but without its final editing process.
Sally: Thank you very much, Chloe, for this interview. I greatly appreciate being given this overview. What you have said helps me see the new books in a new light and in particular those sections that you described. I wish you the best with your classes.
Chloe: Thank you Sally. It’s great being able to bring people up to date in this way.
Sally Herr is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, a Speech Language Practitioner, MA/CCC, and a Biodynamic CranioSacral Therapist (RCST). She lives and works in Portland, Maine. Her website is SallyHerr.com.
Relationships are very intriguing to me. You are in relationship with everyone, from your banker to your lover and everyone in between. How you experience relationships can be uplifting or debilitating depending on how you are in the relationship. Every interaction counts.
Have you ever noticed that the experience you have in an interaction depends on how you approach the person? I have done many conversation experiments, and what I have come to know is the more loving, friendly, and compassionate I am, the more the person I am talking with is that way with me. I have observed this especially when talking to someone, for example, at the phone company when I call in asking for clarity or resolution regarding my bill. Try it next time and notice the difference!
Another experiment I did, many years ago, was with my father. It seemed to me that when he called me, he was reporting how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many activities. I found myself getting envious of what they were getting that I did not. What was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment that I still mattered in his life and that I meant a lot to him. So, I started acknowledging him for being such a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a Dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and told me how important I was to him. He also acknowledged me for how much of a difference I was making in the lives of my clients. This was something he had not done before. So the very thing I thought was missing I gave him, and in the very giving of it, I experienced acknowledgement and seemingly out of nowhere, he gave to me the very thing I was previously missing. It was quite remarkable. The switch was very dramatic. So, if there are qualities you are lacking in relationship with others, bring that quality to them or the situation and watch how you are actually experiencing the very quality you previously thought was missing.
There are so many things I have learned over the last few years especially when it comes to relating with men. I would like to honor Allison Armstrong, the developer of the “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” series, http://www.understandmen.com. She has spent over thirty years studying men. I would like to share some of the things that have made a difference when I speak with men that I have learned from Allison’s inquiry.
Allison has come to know that men are wired to provide, so I let men know what it is that they would be providing for me if they helped me, and they seem to jump at the opportunity. Since men love to make women happy, I might say to my beloved partner Bernie, “It would really make me happy if you would call me before you left your house to come over, so I know when you might be here. It would provide me more time to get ready to see you after I get caught up on my emails.” Even when men I do not know help me, I make it a habit to tell them what they provided for me. Their chest puffs up, knowing they have just made a difference; they love it!
According to Allison, men are also wired to protect women. For example, I might say to Bernie while he is driving us somewhere, “I would feel much safer if there were more distance between our car and the car in front of us.” The interaction is not making him wrong for driving so close, rather, it is about proving safety for me. He naturally slowed down and I made sure I appreciated him by saying, “Thank you, I feel much safer now.” It is important as women that we let men provide safety for us and then appreciate them for it.
I have learned so much about my partner Bernie, just from listening to him. Asking him a question, then being quiet, gives him the time he needs to disclose what he chooses. Over time, he reveals more and more of who is and what he is up to, just in his speaking. Being present for another and listening is such a wonderful gift we can give each other.
I have also learned over the years to ask a man what he thinks rather than how he feels. You would be surprised how much information you get. You can actually learn what means a lot to men, what men value and what men hold dear and near just by listening. Men feel acknowledged and respected when they are listened to and men love respect and acknowledgement!
Allison also talks about how important men’s opinions are to them. She states that men’s opinions are to them, as women’s feelings are to women. So, just by asking their opinion, you can hear their inner longings, goals and what they are up to. You can also hear their sincere desire to help and make a difference in your life. Start really listening and notice the difference!
I like to look at intimate relationships as a sacred journey. We can use everything that ‘comes up’ for us and triggers us as an opportunity to heal. For those of us who are privileged to do Resonance Repatterning®, we can find and clear, or inquire and resolve, what happened in the past that is unresolved that is underneath the current upset. In this way, your intimate relationship can be like a journey, a sacred journey into your greatness, if you will. If you are in an intimate relationship, I encourage you to change your perspective and notice how much more freedom and love you share. Those of you who are not in an intimate relationship, the more you clear what is still unresolved from your past relationships, the more you will be open to the qualities you want to attract in a partner. Those of you who do not do the Resonance Repatterning® process, I would encourage you to find a practitioner in your area or have a phone session with a certified practitioner that you really connect with. The sessions are very profound. You can find one at: http://www.repatterning.org.
Relationships can be more uplifting if you are part of the solution, rather than part of the problem. If you go into the interaction with this intention, you will always get a different response, and your relationship with whomever will be a sacred journey– a source of personal transformation, joy and love.
Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.
For the anxious person, relationships can be a living hell. Far from the oasis of warm support and connection most of us associate with relationships, the anxious person is caught in a vicious cycle of stress responses that create yet more anxiousness.
An anxious person typically has the most difficulty in romantic relationships, followed by friendships and work relationships. Oddly, the research doesn’t mention family relationships.
I worked with one woman whose relationship with her romantic partner was wonderful. She came from an intensely religious family and as a gay woman she felt insecure and rejected. Told she would burn in hell by her (otherwise loving) family, she needed friendships to fill the role of family for her.
However, when there were changes in her friendships she found herself panicking. She couldn’t trust the bond of friendship to weather the natural disruptions of life such as someone moving or even being very busy. She couldn’t trust her close friendships to continue to be “like family”–that they wouldn’t abandon her–because on a deep level, her family had abandoned her.
See the catch 22? For her, family, intimacy, bonding, love–all mean being abandoned at the primal, core level of accepting who she is as a gay woman. When her friends needed space to work out their lives, she became needy and demanding, “making it all about me,” as she put it.
Relationship anxiety is an internal battleground where the desperate need for reassurance and security are the very things that threaten the relationship.
The anxious person is caught in a catch 22. The obvious need is to trust—but at the same time when trust is most needed she absolutely must not collapse into trusting her overwhelming sensations of anxiety.
“I am driving my partner crazy with my drama and neediness and I can’t stop! My anxiety is pushing him away… and that just makes me even more anxious,” is a typical complaint.
In 2004 the Anxiety Disorders Association of America (ADAA) conducted a survey of GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) sufferers on the effect their anxiety on their romantic partner relationships.
Seventy percent of GAD sufferers believe their relationship anxiety has a negative effect on their relationships. Compared to non-anxious partners in romantic relationships GAD sufferers were:
Half as likely to perceive themselves as being in a “healthy, supportive” relationship.
Twice as likely to experience relationship problems in communication, social activities, arguments, and sexuality.
Three times more likely to avoid sexual intimacy.
Seventy-five percent believed their anxiety impaired their ability to participate in normal activities with their partner.
Relationship anxiety often creates mental state of suspiciousness and worry about their partners’ love, care, or faithfulness.
Becoming aware of their anxiety only serves to make them suspicious of their own thoughts and feelings. The inverse holds true as well: Suspicions about their own thoughts creates anxiety. The perception is there nothing to trust. Any evidence of love and care on the part of the other gets lost in the fear and confusion.
Persistent needs of reassurance, dramatic confrontations and destructive impulses create even more stress in the relationship. Intolerable mental-emotional states create an urgent need for relief (but make for bad decision making.) There is a downward spiral.
Anxious people blame themselves for not overcoming feelings of fear and panic and for the negative effects it has on their relationships. Despair takes hold. Traditional therapy leaves them “knowing better….but not being better.”
What we see as a pattern underneath the anxious person is someone who wants and needs (but is unable to receive) the closeness and security of relationship.
What we see in the relationship patterns of an anxious person is someone who desperately needs assistance with healing.
What we see in the unhealed stress responses requires much more, or something much different, than what either medication or thought-out rational explanations or problem-solving can even begin to provide.
What I see is a great need for Resonance Repatterning.
“The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.” Frederick Buechner
PRACTICAL ADVICE is a regularly appearing column in the RPA Journal. Elizabeth Tobin, JD; Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner answers your questions about creating a thriving Resonance Repatterning practice. If you have a question that you would like answered or if you would like to share your views about any of the topics discussed here, we welcome your comments.
Q: Given that Resonance Repatterning is an empowering process for positive change that can be used on any problem – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual– should I really develop a “target market?”
A:The short answer is, “Yes!” There’s an old adage that says if your market is everyone, then your market is really no one. This means that if you cast too wide a net in terms of who you want to attract as a client then it’s difficult to connect with people on a personal level.
Marketing experts agree that when you are writing sales materials — whether it’s emails, on-line sales pages, flyers, print ads, radio ads, etc. – the most effective approach is to write as if you are speaking to only one person. If you have identified your target market and know what they want and need it will be easier for you to develop effective outreach material.
In this information age, people get bombarded with input so they filter it. In just a few seconds they’ve already decided what’s relevant and what’s not.
You need to get people’s attention, then you need to hold their attention long enough to let them know how you can help. The more specific your message the more likely it will get filtered in to the people whom you most want to reach. That is, the people who are really interested in what you have to offer. If your message is too general it’s more likely to get filtered out – by everyone.
The way to get people’s attention is to be very specific and to speak their language. For example, I am currently offering a 12 session series called “Transforming Money Archetypes and Karmic Contracts” and I’ve written specific Repatternings for the different archetypes and karmas. My target audience is people on a spiritual path who are tuned into the evolution of consciousness and the great cosmic shift that is happening. If I was marketing these same Repatternings to business clients I would use very different language. I wouldn’t talk about archetypes and karma. Instead, I might say “Success Profile,” or “Money Type.”
When choosing your target market, it may help to keep in mind these words I once overheard from a fortune teller, “People have 3 areas of concern – health, relationships, and money. If you stick to these 3 areas you’re bound to hit on something that’s relevant to them.” I would add a fourth item: having a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
There’s another old saying that we teach what we most need to learn.
Through the principle of sympathetic resonance you’ll likely attract clients who mirror your issues, so why not focus on the one area of your life that you’d most like to change? For example, when I first started my Resonance Repatterning practice back in 2001, I was unemployed and needed my practice to start earning money from the get go. Because money was an issue for me, the first thing I did was a series called “100 Days of Wealth.” As you can see from my two examples, I’ve been in practice 10 years and I’m still offering Repatternings on the same topic as when I started out.
Here’s another way to decide on your specific niche: Consumers buy from people they know, like and trust. Telling your own success story about how you changed your life with Resonance Repatterning is a great way for people to get to know you. That you’ve been where they are now let’s them know that you understand their pain and you have a solution to get through that pain. By focusing on your own area of greatest transformation you can offer similarly situated people hope. In addition, you’ll have no trouble speaking from your heart and using language that they can connect with. What’s more, your personal experience, knowledge and insight make you an expert on the topic.
This brings us to your Unique Selling Proposition (USP). Identifying your target market ties into what marketers call your USP. Your USP is what makes you stand out in your field.
Once you’ve identified your target market you’ll have more clarity on why you’re the best practitioner for this market.
Your USP lets people know what they can get from you that they can’t get anywhere else. Why should someone choose you over other practitioners? Your unique selling proposition may include the number of years you’ve been practicing as a professional, certifications that you’ve earned, the life experience you’ve gained in overcoming specific hurdles, awards that you’ve won, etc.
Your target market and your USP are integral to your mission and vision for your practice. Think of them as intentions that you set for your business. Having a clear intention can serve as a guide to discern whether a particular task, project or joint venture fits into your business model. Knowing who you are, what you are offering, and to whom you want to offer it brings clarity and power to your marketing activities and your practice as a whole. And as we know from Resonance Repatterning resonating with your intentions is the key to manifesting them. Resonating with your target market and your unique selling proposition is the key to manifesting your thriving practice!
Elizabeth Tobin, JD is a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner has been earning her livelihood through her full-time Resonance Repatterning practice since 2001. Geographically based in Boston, MA, Elizabeth serves an international clientele with individual telephone and skype sessions, global distance healing proxy groups and live workshops. Visit her website at http://LizTobin.com
I grew up in an alcoholic home which affected me more than I realized. I was in a constant state of fear and unhappiness, always looking for a way to make myself feel better. I assumed that it was only emotional, but found out differently later on. My search led me to many different healing disciplines: counseling, birth control pills (hormones), anti-depressants (which made me suicidal), astrology, Lifespring, hypnotherapy, biofeedback, meditation (very unsuccessful – I couldn’t sit still for long), self help books. Exercise was the best thing I found to help me when things got really bad. I found Reasonance Repatterning in the 90’s and it really appealed to me because of the idea that one thing does not work for everyone. It offered one stop shopping for many disciplines with explanations on how they work, in addition to muscle testing, which allows you to determine what you need.
In 2004, after several years of major life changing events (death of sister and mother, ending of long term relationship, job change and pay cut, purchase of 1st house with husband to be, going through decades of accumulated stuff), I was physically worn down and stressed out. I had a chronic ear infection and my doctor gave me a 12 day pack of prednisone after the usual antibiotics and ear drops did not work. I didn’t know at the time that steroids will reduce adrenal function for up to a year and I also didn’t know that my adrenals were already shot, so those steroids basically finished me off. I became very weak. I had no energy at all, like I had been unplugged. My blood sugar was extremely unstable, putting me on a roller coaster of being weak and shaky from low blood sugar or feeling ill and crashing from high blood sugar. I felt horrible every minute of every day. My adrenals would run out of gas about every three weeks, putting me in bed for a day or so (the only way to recharge your adrenals is sleep). This also put me in menopause. I would have hot flashes so severe they would make me nauseous. I was in fight or flight most of the time. The smallest things would trigger it and I would feel shaky and scared for a long time afterwards. Normally, your body releases chemicals to turn off the fight or flight response, but mine didn’t work.
It took me about a year to figure out what was actually wrong with me (adrenal insufficiency brought on by steroids) and even then, traditional medicine didn’t have much to offer me in the way of help. Luckily I have a good medical doctor who put me on Neuroscience targeted amino acid therapy which changes your brain chemistry to bring it back to normal levels (instead of fight or flight). I also have the trio of my acupuncturist, my chiropractor and my massage therapist (I get reflexology). They give me information about what is going on with my body and they support and verify my perceptions. While trying to figure out how to cope with my chronic health issue, I realized that I had been stuck in fight or flight most of my life. By growing up in a high stress environment, my neurotransmitters had become stuck at this high stress setting. I also realized that this causes a victim mentality. When your body is in fight or flight, your brain looks for the threat and tries to decide to flee or fight. However, if you are stuck in fight or flight, you have not really been threatened. Your brain is still looking for the thing that turned on your fight or flight response. You blame your job, your boss, your friends, your family, your city/location, etc, anything but yourself because your brain expects it to be external. When I finally realized that it was my body that was stuck, that there was no outside threat, it was a huge relief. I realized that my fear was a physical thing and that it was fixable. So, one of the worst things that has ever happened to me also brought the gift of curing my constant fear and unhappiness that I have lived with for most of my life. I believe that this is a rampant malady these days because I see this behavior in people all around me in varying degrees. Most people are very functional, like I was before my bout with prednisone. It’s very hard to describe to someone else how differently I experience life these days, now that I am not in constant fear.
However, this didn’t happen overnight and I am still healing. I’ve had to learn ways to cope when my body is out of balance. This is where the healing modalities became invaluable to me. I do RR sessions on myself when I feel really stuck, but the most helpful thing is having something that I can do in the moment, wherever I am. I use Jin Shin Jyutsu, holding my fingers in meetings when I am feeling bad or having a hard time paying attention. I do zip-ups walking down the hall (one day a co-worker asked me if I was cussing someone out in Italian!). I set intentions and do a healing modality when I am having trouble concentrating or to get myself back on track at work. When something happens that puts me in fight or flight, I thump my thymus. It calms me down immediately. I have a routine of modalities that I do in the morning – I can tell it makes a difference because I tend to skip it on the weekend and I definitely feel better during the week! I am very Thankful to Chloe for sharing this information with us and making it so accessible. I have a wonderful tool box to pick from whenever I need it.
I am in my seventh year of taking the Neuroscience supplements and my neurotransmitters are almost normal. The trick is to wean myself off of the supplements and keep my brain chemistry at the new baseline. I’m not 100% fixed and might not ever be, but I feel more like an adult and can make decisions based on clear reasoning, not just safety and survival. I very rarely crash these days but I do still have to watch what I eat to keep my blood sugar stable. I have tools that I can use every day to help myself cope with whatever I am dealing with at the moment, physically or mentally. I believe that health is a constantly changing state of balance and that we can help ourselves by being aware of what we need in the moment and staying conscious of our daily choices concerning food and activities. Health care professionals are an important source of information, but I know my body best and I am ultimately responsible for its daily care. The body will tell us what it needs if we only listen. I share my story with the hope that I can help others help themselves with these simple and wonderful tools.
Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, New York City, NY
Interviewed by Nancy Martin, Certified Practitioner, Providence, RI
Congratulations on your certification, Beth! We welcome this opportunity to introduce you to your colleagues.
Please tell us about yourself—what you do for a living and what is your background?
My name is Elizabeth Polito and I became a Certified Practitioner of Resonance Repatterning® in April of 2010. I am a former Broadway Performer, and have been singing, dancing, and acting since the age of 6. I hold a BA in Theatre and Dance from the University of Buffalo. I am currently working as a healing practitioner and Yoga Instructor. In addition to offering Resonance Repatterning, I am a Teaching Assistant with The Reconnection, a new form of healing that accesses a very broad frequency of energy, light and information. I travel with the team helping to teach seminars worldwide. I am also one of only 6 Certified Reconnective Yoga instructors in the world, and am very involved in bringing this new type of Yoga, which combines these healing frequencies with a Yoga practice, forward and out into the world. You can learn more info about this work at www.TheReconnection.com.
How did you learn about Resonance Repatterning ?
I learned about Resonance Repatterning in 2007 when a friend/teacher mentioned the work to me. I was on Broadway at the time, and was working as a Life Coach teaching Higher Awareness to clients. I became intrigued, and felt like it was something I might like to study. All of the pieces began falling into place–I was thrilled to learn that Meryl Chodosh-Weiss was teaching the work right here in NYC, where I currently live, and I applied and was granted a scholarship from Career Transitions for Dancers to fund part of my training. I began taking the seminars, and I fell in love with Repatterning. I became a regular member of Meryl’s Monthly Practitioner Support Group, and I was able to easily transition my Higher Awareness Coaching clients into Repatterning Clients. The shifts they experienced were huge! Through the support of Meryl and our NYC group, I was able to follow the path toward Certification, fine tune my skills, ask lots of questions, observe fellow practitioners, and practice, practice, practice! I am so proud and grateful to be a member of that extraordinary group of NYC-based practitioners. It makes all the difference to have a support network, especially when you are starting out.
What does Resonance Repatterning mean to you?
I am very proud of my Repatterning work with a not-for-profit called Further Shore, based out of Flagstaff, AZ ( www.furthershore.org). I am part of a team of pracitioners offering pre-hospice healing support and education for terminal patients or those facing end-of-life concerns. We support the mission of living well and dying with dignity. I have had the great honor of doing sessions with terminally diagnosed clients and been the witness to shifts that have transformed them to new places of forgiveness, freedom, and peace before they leave their bodies. And I do all of my sessions with them on the phone! One particular client was able to truly forgive and release a grievance he had been carrying toward his brother for over 20 years! He was able to be in a space of peace and love as he transitioned. It was so beautiful.
I am also proud to have incorporated my love of Repatterning with my love for the Moon. Last May I started a Lunar Repatterning Proxy Group. I do 4 proxy sessions each month that coincide with the New Moon, First Quarter, Full Moon, and Last Quarter. The group is ongoing, and consists of healers, artists, mothers, film-makers, dancers, teachers, yogis, lawyers, and lightworkers. It has been an amazing experience, and I have gotten wonderful feedback from the members. The shifts are truly palpable, and I am always amazed at the depth of the sessions. Many Repatterning Practitioners are members of the Lunar Group, and I would be honored to have more of our RPA members check it out. My website is www.performingonpurpose.com.
What are some examples of a session that stand out in your life?
One of the most powerful sessions that comes to mind is one I received this past January. I was in the middle of grieving a death, had left my 10-year relationship, and had moved homes all within 6 months. My life was completely in transition, and I was non-coherent. I had not eaten in five days, could not stop crying, couldn’t sleep, and was just beside myself. Meryl Chodosh-Weiss did a session with me, and by the end of the session I immediately knew that it had a positive effect because I actually began to feel hungry! I can’t even remember what Repatterning came up, but the session literally moved me through a dark time and allowed me to move forward. I ate a meal that day, and actually became more emotionally calm. I also was able to sleep uninterrupted for the first time in weeks. That repatterning session was a turning point for me. It shifted me out of being “stuck” in my grief and allowed me to move forward toward my future.
What would you like to see RPA do for its newest members?
One thing I would love the RPA to do is to help us get the word out about things we are doing. I would love to be able to reach members to share events or activities that I am hosting or teaching. For example, I am teaching a Reconnective Yoga class in NYC, and I would love to share that with any locals who are interested. I also host a game called Ilumination, The Quest, which is a powerful tool of transformation based on the wisdom of The Tarot. I would love to be able to let people know what I am doing.
What five words would describe you?
Passionate, loving, spunky, sensitive, powerful
Do you have a motto?
A motto? Hmm…Speak your truth fully, gently, and lovingly. If someone has a problem with what you have expressed, that is THEIR stuff!
More information about Elizabeth Polito and her services may be found at the following: