Change is inevitable! It is the only thing constant in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life. One way you can embrace the changes, which are occurring in your life, is by acknowledging your part in the change.
One Friday afternoon, a woman, who hated her job and wanted out, manifested the job of her dreams after a Resonance Repatterning® session. In the session, she admitted that she really wanted a more rewarding job, but was procrastinating. We identified the unconscious pattern that was holding her back and shifted her resonance to deserving a much better, higher-paying, creative position that showcased her unique gifts and talents.
Lo and behold, when she went to work the following Monday morning, she was summoned to her boss’s office and promptly fired. She called me very irate and blamed me for her getting fired. I encouraged her to look at how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance. I reminded her of how she had been procrastinating about finding a better job and could now embrace and be grateful for the opportunity to create the job of her dreams. . .and so she did!
While change is inevitable, it can also be emotional, especially when your partner moves on from what you thought was a committed relationship. Rather than engaging in finding fault and placing blame, simply be willing to accept what is so about the situation. Life is too short to resist change and perceive it as “it shouldn’t be this way.” The sooner you stop judging and assessing what was good from what was bad, and who was right from who was wrong, the quicker you will be empowered and experience inner peace. By embracing change and granting yourself the grace to let your partner go, you will have more energy to move forward with ease, grounded in the fact that from what you learned in this relationship, you will be able to attract an even better partner who wants to be with you.
The quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world,” profoundly transformed the relationship I had with my father. After having four children, my mother and father divorced. He remarried and started a new family. On the rare occasions that we talked, it seemed that he just reported how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many of those memorable activities. I found myself becoming more and more envious.
I noticed that what was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledging me for being a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for the difference I was making in the lives of my clients. These were things he had never told me before.
It’s true, by being the change you want to see in the world — providing the very thing you think is missing in your relationships — you too can experience what your heart desires, just as I did. In the very giving of it, my father gave back to me genuine love and acknowledgement. It was quite remarkable.
So, be the change, embrace the change, expect the change and you too can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire — a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion, and fulfillment.
Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author – What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life
3 thoughts on “Be the Change”
Great clip Victoria, Change WILL happen, relax, another coffee? Lol.
Your words really spoke to me – how true that change is inevitable and it is going to happen anyway, whether we resist it or not. This idea I have heard before, but what I had have never contemplated is the idea that I can embrace change by acknowledging my part in it! This too is so true – but not always something we want to focus on, especially if we only look at the situation on the surface, and we don’t like it!
It has taken me years to learn that I need to do a thing because I believe it is the right thing to do, regardless of the outcome. And I do it knowing that I am willing to take responsibility for my actions and live with the consequences, however things turn out. Sometimes it takes daring and courage to step into that place, and the outcome can seem uncertain and risky. But by dint of that very conviction, the outcome can be better for all. Daring to speak out, and speak one’s truth can clear the air in a stuffy situation, and be refreshing for all.
Like Fiona, I read your article too Victoria, thank you for the time and effort you put into this valuable offering.
I especially appreciated your comments Fiona MacKenzie, in response to her article. It drives home the point, WE have input and while it may take courage to ‘show up’ with this risky opportunity, it can bring a refreshing closure to life circumstances and relationships. Loved the input!
I will carry both of your lessons with me, forwarding these gems to inspire others as they are needed.