Practical Advice

PRACTICAL ADVICE is a regularly appearing column in the RPA Journal. Elizabeth Tobin, JD; Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner answers your questions about creating a thriving Resonance Repatterning practice. If you have a question that you would like answered or if you would like to share your views about any of the topics discussed here, we welcome your comments.

Q: Given that Resonance Repatterning is an empowering process for positive change that can be used on any problem – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual–  should I really develop a “target market?”

A: The short answer is, “Yes!” There’s an old adage that says if your market is everyone, then your market is really no one. This means that if you cast too wide a net in terms of who you want to attract as a client then it’s difficult to connect with people on a personal level.
Marketing experts agree that when you are writing sales materials — whether it’s emails, on-line sales pages, flyers, print ads, radio ads, etc. – the most effective approach is to write as if you are speaking to only one person. If you have identified your target market and know what they want and need it will be easier for you to develop effective outreach material.

In this information age, people get bombarded with input so they filter it. In just a few seconds they’ve already decided what’s relevant and what’s not.

You need to get people’s attention, then you need to hold their attention long enough to let them know how you can help. The more specific your message the more likely it will get filtered in to the people whom you most want to reach. That is, the people who are really interested in what you have to offer. If your message is too general it’s more likely to get filtered out – by everyone.

The way to get people’s attention is to be very specific and to speak their language. For example, I am currently offering a 12 session series called “Transforming Money Archetypes and Karmic Contracts” and I’ve written specific Repatternings for the different archetypes and karmas. My target audience is people on a spiritual path who are tuned into the evolution of consciousness and the great cosmic shift that is happening. If I was marketing these same Repatternings to business clients I would use very different language. I wouldn’t talk about archetypes and karma.  Instead, I might say “Success Profile,” or “Money Type.”

When choosing your target market, it may help to keep in mind these words I once overheard from a fortune teller, “People have 3 areas of concern – health, relationships, and money. If you stick to these 3 areas you’re bound to hit on something that’s relevant to them.” I would add a fourth item: having a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

There’s another old saying that we teach what we most need to learn.

Through the principle of sympathetic resonance you’ll likely attract clients who mirror your issues, so why not focus on the one area of your life that you’d most like to change? For example, when I first started my Resonance Repatterning practice back in 2001, I was unemployed and needed my practice to start earning money from the get go. Because money was an issue for me, the first thing I did was a series called “100 Days of Wealth.” As you can see from my two examples, I’ve been in practice 10 years and I’m still offering Repatternings on the same topic as when I started out.

Here’s another way to decide on your specific niche: Consumers buy from people they know, like and trust. Telling your own success story about how you changed your life with Resonance Repatterning is a great way for people to get to know you. That you’ve been where they are now let’s them know that you understand their pain and you have a solution to get through that pain. By focusing on your own area of greatest transformation you can offer similarly situated people hope. In addition, you’ll have no trouble speaking from your heart and using language that they can connect with. What’s more, your personal experience, knowledge and insight make you an expert on the topic.

This brings us to your Unique Selling Proposition (USP). Identifying your target market ties into what marketers call your USP. Your USP is what makes you stand out in your field.

Once you’ve identified your target market you’ll have more clarity on why you’re the best practitioner for this market.

Your USP lets people know what they can get from you that they can’t get anywhere else. Why should someone choose you over other practitioners? Your unique selling proposition may include the number of years you’ve been practicing as a professional, certifications that you’ve earned, the life experience you’ve gained in overcoming specific hurdles, awards that you’ve won, etc.

Your target market and your USP are integral to your mission and vision for your practice. Think of them as intentions that you set for your business. Having a clear intention can serve as a guide to discern whether a particular task, project or joint venture fits into your business model. Knowing who you are, what you are offering, and to whom you want to offer it brings clarity and power to your marketing activities and your practice as a whole. And as we know from Resonance Repatterning resonating with your intentions is the key to manifesting them. Resonating with your target market and your unique selling proposition is the key to manifesting your thriving practice!

Elizabeth Tobin, JD is a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner has been earning her livelihood through her full-time Resonance Repatterning practice since 2001. Geographically based in Boston, MA, Elizabeth serves an international clientele with individual telephone and skype sessions, global distance healing proxy groups and live workshops. Visit her website at http://LizTobin.com

My Journey with Adrenal Insufficiency

I grew up in an alcoholic home which affected me more than I realized.  I was in a constant state of fear and unhappiness, always looking for a way to make myself feel better.  I assumed that it was only emotional, but found out differently later on.  My search led me to many different healing disciplines:  counseling, birth control pills (hormones), anti-depressants (which made me suicidal), astrology, Lifespring, hypnotherapy, biofeedback, meditation (very unsuccessful – I couldn’t sit still for long), self help books.  Exercise was the best thing I found to help me when things got really bad.  I found Reasonance Repatterning in the 90’s and it really appealed to me because of the idea that one thing does not work for everyone.  It offered one stop shopping for many disciplines with explanations on how they work, in addition to muscle testing, which allows you to determine what you need.

In 2004, after several years of major life changing events (death of sister and mother, ending of long term relationship, job change and pay cut, purchase of 1st house with husband to be, going through decades of accumulated stuff), I was physically worn down and stressed out.  I had a chronic ear infection and my doctor gave me a 12 day pack of prednisone after the usual antibiotics and ear drops did not work.  I didn’t know at the time that steroids will reduce adrenal function for up to a year and I also didn’t know that my adrenals were already shot, so those steroids basically finished me off.  I became very weak. I had no energy at all, like I had been unplugged.  My blood sugar was extremely unstable, putting me on a roller coaster of being weak and shaky from low blood sugar or feeling ill and crashing from high blood sugar.  I felt horrible every minute of every day.  My adrenals would run out of gas about every three weeks, putting me in bed for a day or so (the only way to recharge your adrenals is sleep).  This also put me in menopause.  I would have hot flashes so severe they would make me nauseous.  I was in fight or flight most of the time.  The smallest things would trigger it and I would feel shaky and scared for a long time afterwards.  Normally, your body releases chemicals to turn off the fight or flight response, but mine didn’t work.

It took me about a year to figure out what was actually wrong with me (adrenal insufficiency brought on by steroids) and even then, traditional medicine didn’t have much to offer me in the way of help.  Luckily I have a good medical doctor who put me on Neuroscience targeted amino acid therapy which changes your brain chemistry to bring it back to normal levels (instead of fight or flight). I also have the trio of my acupuncturist, my chiropractor and my massage therapist (I get reflexology).  They give me information about what is going on with my body and they support and verify my perceptions.  While trying to figure out how to cope with my chronic health issue, I realized that I had been stuck in fight or flight most of my life.  By growing up in a high stress environment, my neurotransmitters had become stuck at this high stress setting.  I also realized that this causes a victim mentality.  When your body is in fight or flight, your brain looks for the threat and tries to decide to flee or fight.  However, if you are stuck in fight or flight, you have not really been threatened.  Your brain is still looking for the thing that turned on your fight or flight response.  You blame your job, your boss, your friends, your family, your city/location, etc, anything but yourself because your brain expects it to be external.  When I finally realized that it was my body that was stuck, that there was no outside threat, it was a huge relief.  I realized that my fear was a physical thing and that it was fixable.  So, one of the worst things that has ever happened to me also brought the gift of curing my constant fear and unhappiness that I have lived with for most of my life.  I believe that this is a rampant malady these days because I see this behavior in people all around me in varying degrees.  Most people are very functional, like I was before my bout with prednisone.  It’s very hard to describe to someone else how differently I experience life these days, now that I am not in constant fear.

However, this didn’t happen overnight and I am still healing.  I’ve had to learn ways to cope when my body is out of balance.  This is where the healing modalities became invaluable to me.  I do RR sessions on myself when I feel really stuck, but the most helpful thing is having something that I can do in the moment, wherever I am.  I use Jin Shin Jyutsu, holding my fingers in meetings when I am feeling bad or having a hard time paying attention.  I do zip-ups walking down the hall (one day a co-worker asked me if I was cussing someone out in Italian!).  I set intentions and do a healing modality when I am having trouble concentrating or to get myself back on track at work.  When something happens that puts me in fight or flight, I thump my thymus.  It calms me down immediately.  I have a routine of modalities that I do in the morning – I can tell it makes a difference because I tend to skip it on the weekend and I definitely feel better during the week!  I am very Thankful to Chloe for sharing this information with us and making it so accessible.  I have a wonderful tool box to pick from whenever I need it.

I am in my seventh year of taking the Neuroscience supplements and my neurotransmitters are almost normal.  The trick is to wean myself off of the supplements and keep my brain chemistry at the new baseline.  I’m not 100% fixed and might not ever be, but I feel more like an adult and can make decisions based on clear reasoning, not just safety and survival.  I very rarely crash these days but I do still have to watch what I eat to keep my blood sugar stable.  I have tools that I can use every day to help myself cope with whatever I am dealing with at the moment, physically or mentally.  I believe that health is a constantly changing state of balance and that we can help ourselves by being aware of what we need in the moment and staying conscious of our daily choices concerning food and activities.  Health care professionals are an important source of information, but I know my body best and I am ultimately responsible for its daily care.  The body will tell us what it needs if we only listen.  I share my story with the hope that I can help others help themselves with these simple and wonderful tools.

Practitioner Interview – Elizabeth Polito

Beth Polito, Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner

Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, New York City, NY

 Interviewed by Nancy Martin, Certified Practitioner, Providence, RI

Congratulations on your certification, Beth! We welcome this opportunity to introduce you to your colleagues.

Please tell us about yourself—what you do for a living and what is your background?

 My name is Elizabeth Polito and I became a Certified Practitioner of Resonance Repatterning® in April of 2010.  I am a former Broadway Performer, and have been singing, dancing, and acting since the age of 6.  I hold a BA in Theatre and Dance from the University of Buffalo.  I am currently working as a healing practitioner and Yoga Instructor.  In addition to offering Resonance Repatterning, I am a Teaching Assistant with The Reconnection, a new form of healing that accesses a very broad frequency of energy, light and information.  I travel with the team helping to teach seminars worldwide.  I am also one of only 6 Certified Reconnective Yoga instructors in the world, and am very involved in bringing this new type of Yoga, which combines these healing frequencies with a Yoga practice,  forward and out into the world.  You can learn more info about this work at www.TheReconnection.com.

How did you learn about Resonance Repatterning ?

 I learned about Resonance Repatterning in 2007 when a friend/teacher mentioned the work to me.  I was on Broadway at the time, and was working as a Life Coach teaching Higher Awareness to clients.  I became intrigued, and felt like it was something I might like to study.  All of the pieces began falling into place–I was thrilled to learn that Meryl Chodosh-Weiss was teaching the work right here in NYC, where I currently live, and I applied and was granted a scholarship from Career Transitions for Dancers to fund part of my training.  I began taking the seminars, and I fell in love with Repatterning.  I became a regular member of Meryl’s Monthly Practitioner Support Group, and I was able to easily transition my Higher Awareness Coaching clients into Repatterning Clients.  The shifts they experienced were huge!  Through the support of Meryl and our NYC group, I was able to follow the path toward Certification, fine tune my skills, ask lots of questions, observe fellow practitioners, and practice, practice, practice!  I am so proud and grateful to be a member of that extraordinary group of NYC-based practitioners.  It makes all the difference to have a support network, especially when you are starting out.

What does Resonance Repatterning mean to you?

I am very proud of my Repatterning work with a not-for-profit called Further Shore, based out of Flagstaff, AZ ( www.furthershore.org).  I am part of a team of pracitioners offering pre-hospice healing support and education for terminal patients or those facing end-of-life concerns.  We support the mission of living well and dying with dignity.  I have had the great honor of doing sessions with terminally diagnosed clients and been the witness to shifts that have transformed them to new places of forgiveness, freedom, and peace before they leave their bodies.  And I do all of my sessions with them on the phone!  One particular client was able to truly forgive and release a grievance he had been carrying toward his brother for over 20 years!  He was able to be in a space of peace and love as he transitioned.  It was so beautiful.

I am also proud to have incorporated my love of Repatterning with my love for the Moon.  Last May I started a Lunar Repatterning Proxy Group.  I do 4 proxy sessions each month that coincide with the New Moon, First Quarter, Full Moon, and Last Quarter.  The group is ongoing, and consists of healers, artists, mothers, film-makers, dancers, teachers, yogis, lawyers, and lightworkers.  It has been an amazing experience, and I have gotten wonderful feedback from the members.  The shifts are truly palpable, and I am always amazed at the depth of the sessions.  Many Repatterning Practitioners are members of the Lunar Group, and I would be honored to have more of our RPA members check it out.  My website is www.performingonpurpose.com.

What are some examples of a session that stand out in your life?

One of the most powerful sessions that comes to mind is one I received this past January.  I was in the middle of grieving a death, had left my 10-year relationship, and had moved homes all within 6 months.  My life was completely in transition, and I was non-coherent.  I had not eaten in five days, could not stop crying, couldn’t sleep, and was just beside myself.  Meryl Chodosh-Weiss did a session with me, and by the end of the session I immediately knew that it had a positive effect because I actually began to feel hungry!  I can’t even remember what Repatterning came up, but the session literally moved me through a dark time and allowed me to move forward.  I ate a meal that day, and actually became more emotionally calm.  I also was able to sleep uninterrupted for the first time in weeks.  That repatterning session was a turning point for me.  It shifted me out of being “stuck” in my grief and allowed me to move forward toward my future.

What would you like to see RPA do for its newest members?

 One thing I would love the RPA to do is to help us get the word out about things we are doing.  I would love to be able to reach members to share events or activities that I am hosting or teaching.  For example, I am teaching a Reconnective Yoga class in NYC, and I would love to share that with any locals who are interested.  I also host a game called Ilumination, The Quest, which is a powerful tool of transformation based on the wisdom of The Tarot.  I would love to be able to let people know what I am doing.

What five words would describe you?

Passionate, loving, spunky, sensitive, powerful

Do you have a motto?

A motto?  Hmm…Speak your truth fully, gently, and lovingly.  If someone has a problem with what you have expressed, that is THEIR stuff!

More information about Elizabeth Polito and her services may be found at the following:

 www.performingonpurpose.com  is my personal site

www.TheReconnection.com  is about The Reconnection and Reconnective Yoga

www.furthershore.org is the not-for-profit I work with

My Abundance Journey

Sometime in the early 1990’s my friend Gladys Murphy recommended a book to me: The Prospering Power of Love, by Catherine Ponder.  Reading this beautiful little book is where my Abundance Journey began.  At that time prosperity or abundance “consciousness” was so far outside the way I perceived the world that when it was first explained to me I’m sure I rolled my eyes and said “yeah right!”  I’d never uttered an affirmation, never believed that I could ask and not only be “listened to” but answered.  Occasionally I felt quite alone and bereft.  I believed that the Divine or Source was separate from me.  Separate from me just as I was separate from all others.  The paradigm of a holographic universe was beyond me; my view was that we were all of us, alone, isolated, and that our little blue and green planet was simply a rock floating in the middle of the sky.  Before I began my journey I believed that Divine Source couldn’t possibly be right there for me and with me, couldn’t possibly supply abundance, plentitude, or “an overflowing fullness of many blessings.”  And belief, as we know is a powerful thing.

My journey continued.  What I believed to be true evolved and abundance slowly crept into my world.  I spent the rest of the 1990’s “working the problem” of feeling deserving, of wrapping my head around the idea that there’s limitless supply and my “having” doesn’t mean someone else “has not.”   Each year I made more money than I had the year before, which certainly felt good, but still there was an underlying tension because deep down I believed that it could all so easily fall away.  As often as I said affirmations and manifested a higher salary, a nicer apartment, and a car I couldn’t stop to be grateful or even pleased about these gifts showing up in my life.  I didn’t know about the “Integration Process for Completions” and I simply continued to speed forward afraid that if I stopped I’d crash, I’d sink into despair, I’d loose my forward momentum and all would be lost.

In May of 1999 a giant step on my journey occurred when I dragged Gladys and another friend to a free demonstration of something called Holographic Repatterning®.  The wonderful Kenya de Rosa hosted the evening and for Gladys and me it was a life changer.  Gladys immediately began taking classes in “Holographic Repatterning,” and both of us joined a weekly group repatterning series that Kenya offered.  For three and a half years Kenya hosted this group for creative artists working to clear away the blockages that kept each of us from achieving all that we desired for our creative selves and lives.  There were lots of different non-coherent beliefs, earlier experiences and issues blocking our ways, but one theme that rose up for us again and again was a lack of abundance–of time, of confidence, and certainly of money.

After a couple of years of showing up weekly and seeing “what was up” for the group that week, Kenya arrived one Monday evening with a book called The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity by–you guessed it–Catherine Ponder.  It had been perhaps ten years since I’d read The Prospering Power of Love, and though I’d bought other books of Catherine’s such as The Dynamic Laws of Healing I hadn’t gotten this, her first book on prosperity.  Kenya suggested that we might want to work on prosperity and abundance exclusively for a while and we all agreed to get the book and go through it week by week.

The Repatterning practitioners reading this article, who’ve had the training and have the tools, all probably make sure that they resonate with any intention or affirmation that comes to them and hopefully enjoy the abundant blessings that Divine Source so happily supplies.  At the time Kenya’s group started on The Dynamic Laws, being able to literally shift myself ON so I was resonating with an affirmation was a revelation for me.  Having been in Kenya’s group I’d become pretty familiar with not only the idea of “resonating” with something, but how that actually felt in my system.  I could look back on things I’d thought, said or done and know when I was resonating with it and when I was suffering from that push-me-pull-you tension of wanting something with part of me while another less visible part was pulling hard against it.

We’ve heard it said and probably say it ourselves: intention is everything.  According to Dictionary.com – “intention” is defined as: “an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result.”  Okay, but what about our mental state when we’re doing the determining?  Only when my system has been shifted ON for a particular affirmation can I feel that I’m physically and mentally pulsing with power and joy while “affirming” it.  This feeling of power and joy is quite different from the feeling of desperation I’d sometimes experienced in the past as I’d endlessly repeated “Divine Love and Divine Wisdom prosper me NOW.”

I originally moved to New York City to study acting and to make my living as an actress.  There are lots and lots of different classes available here designed to help actors find their fire, loosen up their instruments, learn a particular method, become “camera ready” and to radiate “star” quality.  While I was stuck in my earlier beliefs of lack and scarcity, I could never bring myself to spend much money on classes.  I could manage to hand over a weekly rate to a teacher, class by class, but the idea of plunking down hundreds for a seminar or series just froze me.  By the time I’d received some 130 to 150 sessions in Kenya’s group, I felt safe enough to let money flow out and safe enough to trust that it would flow back in.  Interestingly, by this point in my journey, when I was finally able to have a little trust that the abundant universe would supply me with what I needed, I didn’t choose to sign up for an acting seminar; I chose to study Resonance Repatterning® instead.

I signed up to take Fundamentals of Holographic Repatterning in the summer of 2002.  I was nervous but also excited about having Holographic Repatterning as tool and knowing how to use it.  I was delighted that I would soon be able to identify and shift myself ON for new intentions, but also be able to find those problematic beliefs that were keeping some of the icky stuff stuck.   Knowing that I would soon be able to identify this “stuff” and then use a modality to create a shift so I’d be ON for the good–and OFF for the icky stuff–was fantastic.  By the autumn of 2002 I’d taken Fundamentals, Primary Patterns and Transforming Unconscious Patterns.  All the work I was able to now do for myself, as well as the sessions I’d received in the past, helped me get to the point in my journey where I was able to pause and acknowledge when good “stuff” seemed to simply show up in my life.  I was now able to understand physically, emotionally, mentally and in spirit that this is the “overflowing fullness of many blessings” that is the result my being ON for abundance. (Editor’s note:  Holographic Repatterning officially became Resonance Repatterning in May 2006)

I was able to take the basic seminars as well as some of the advanced classes in the next couple of years.  I also had the great good fortune to be in New York City, where the generous and gifted Meryl Chodosh-Weiss teaches Resonance Repatterning, hosts a monthly skills development group, is a designated observer and can certify practitioners.  When the RPA devised the “I Declare” program with the intention of re-categorizing practitioners as “Student,” “Student I Declare,” or “Certified” instead of Level One and Level Two (certified) practitioners, Meryl galvanized our monthly group into action.  Many of us “declared” and set our sights on achieving our certification by the proposed June 2007 deadline.  All of you who are certified practitioners or active “I Declare” students know it takes time and effort to complete the certification process.  It takes people showing up and being willing to work with you and receive sessions so you can get your practice in and master this system.  It takes patience with yourself and a belief that you can do this and are meant to do it.  It takes a sincere belief that the universe will rise up to meet and support you, it takes a belief in abundance; there will be time enough, clients enough, money enough, and determination enough to achieve your goal.  And you better believe we, as group and individually, repatterned and repatterned and repatterned ourselves so we were ON for these abundant beliefs.

I achieved my goal of becoming a certified practitioner of Resonance Repatterning in June of 2007 along with my dear friend and fellow traveler Gladys, but this was certainly not the end of any of my journeys, abundance or otherwise.  From the time I began in Kenya’s group, through my training and certification process I was making my living as an Executive Assistant working in the Financial Services sector here in New York City.  Sometimes I was working for giant companies like Goldman Sachs and others for tiny boutique Investment Banking firms.  I was surrounded by many examples of wealth, both personal and corporate.  I was also surrounded by many individuals who seemed to feel they must continue to speed forward, afraid that if they stopped they’d crash, sink into despair, loose their forward momentum and all would be lost.  On the days when I was most coherent, it was interesting to realize that people making anywhere from three to one hundred times my salary felt less abundant than me.

In 2008 when the economy took its tumble, I joined the millions of unemployed and was granted an opportunity to seize the day, shift my focus and see if I could create a private practice for myself as a practitioner of Resonance Repatterning, along with several other energy modalities I’d begun to study.  I was excited, terrified and a little nauseous when I recalled that, in 2005 during my interview for the job I’d just lost, I’d boldly told my prospective manager that my five-year plan was to have my own private practice as an energy healer by 2010.  As I realized I’d stated this crazy intention out loud, thoughts like “Golly Moses! is that dang universe always listening?” and “This is another fine mess you’ve gotten us into Ollie!” chased their way through my head.

Well, now what?  The abundant universe had just supplied me with the one commodity I’d always found in the shortest supply–TIME.  That may be the scariest thing that’s ever happened to me.  Despite the fact that I’d achieved coherence in many areas of my life, I was still holding onto this bizarre belief that I was like some species of shark–if I stopped swimming I’d die.  And what I most needed to do was take a really big pause, get very very quiet and let myself live in the present moment.  It took me a number of months to work through my relationship with and beliefs about time.  Once I’d made some peace in this area, I was able to be more awake in the present in the moment.  Being more awake in the present moment allowed me to see how Divine Order was playing itself out in my life.  After that, I was able to turn my attention to the task at hand, which I saw as “can I create a private practice for myself and live my life in prosperity, peace and safety?”  Once more the abundant hands of the universe provided me with some amazing assistance.

Just prior to my official termination date from my job, I was put in contact with my wonderful Life Coach Deborah Todd.  Deborah lives in Illinois and is friends with one of my dad’s best friends.  So I found my perfect Life Coach because my father, the plumber, is friends with Deborah’s friend, a master carpenter, and he brought Deborah along one day to deliver a present to my dad.  I got a great gift too!  Deborah and I do an exchange of services and the work we do on both sides has had an enormous and positive effect.  I would not be here today writing this article without her guidance, intelligence, care, support and the gentle but firm pushes that I require from time to time.

I would also not be here today without the amazing support I’ve received from fellow Resonance Repatterning practitioners who embody generosity, intelligence, practicality and community.  In the beginning of 2010 I needed to speak to Liz Tobin about the upcoming Annual Conference and while we were chatting I told her that I was attempting to start my private practice.  She told me that when she began hers someone suggested that she try offering a 100 Days of Prosperity proxy package for $100 – just a dollar a day.  Liz told me she tried it and it worked quite well.  Liz is a master of the proxy group.  I’m currently enrolled in her “Transforming Money Archetypes and Karmic Contracts” proxy group series, its great and if you haven’t checked out her work, I totally recommend it.  I also recommend Beth Polito’s “Lunation” proxy group that works on the lunar cycles.  Being able to receive regular sessions in this manner has had a powerful and profound effect on me, my life and the work I’m able to do.

I officially launched my business in February of 2010 with the arrival of my very own website.  This was one month shy of the five year mark I’d so crazily intended in that long ago job interview.  I’d invested in a MacBook when I lost my job, so I was able to build the site myself using Apple’s iWeb software.  Building the site, and continuing to work on it, has been a surprising joy for me, and engages me on multiple levels.

By April of 2010, I was ready to try out the 100 Days series for myself and got so much out of it.  Once in the groove of doing a proxy session for my group each day I often lost sight of who was the giver and who was receiving.  The energy that the group created to move all of us forward was an honor and a joy to hold.  Doing the series stretched me in wonderful ways and on quite a few occasions I sort of ended up writing our own repatterning from what “was up” in the group.  The series was so well received that I offered a second series in October 2010.  The second series was even more popular and profound than the first and the feedback I’ve received has been tremendous.  A fellow Resonance Repatterning practitioner, who was a member of the group, wrote the following:

“100 days of prosperity–amazing!  A VERY deep healing experience.  While I can honestly say that money flowed more easily into my life, more importantly, areas of my life that were less than functional and coherent were transformed.  During the 100 days, I achieved a comfortable body weight that I have sought for over 3 decades without success. I was able to safely lose 30 lbs. in 7 weeks.   The structure of my financial life shifted.  For example, a gas-guzzling, repair-needing car has been traded in for a fuel-efficient new car that makes the whole family happy.  A computer system to support an additional income source was easily purchased at a very good sale price.  CORE things that affect my entire family’s prosperity shifted.  I recommend anyone who has the chance to do this work!  It is a gift!”

This is a journey and this is life, so there are coherent days and non-coherent days.  There are days when I somehow feel plugged into a giant cosmic engine and other days when I wouldn’t feel grounded if I filled my pockets with rocks and walked barefoot in the grass.  The primary thing I’ve come to understand in my journey thus far is that in working on Abundance we work on the full spectrum of life itself.  Delving down and identifying the blockages we have when it comes to giving and receiving, aligning with our masculine/feminine aspects or feeling safe and deserving touch core patterns that exist across all features of our human landscape.  In working to align with abundance we must chase our every feeling, belief and experience of scarcity, lack or shortage out of the dark and into the light.  We need to be fearless and to be gentle, compassionate and passionate, we need to empower and to allow ourselves to flourish and to thrive.

A Plethora of Power for a Cockatiel

For most of us, a feeling of abundance, or the lack of it, usually goes hand in hand with issues around money and financial success. Since 1998, my clients have all been of the four-legged, winged or finned variety. From rhinos and elephants, to dogs, cats, horses, birds, rabbits and a beehive, I do Resonance Repatterning sessions exclusively for animals. So, how does abundance, as we perceive it, fit into their lives?

We might think that a squirrel, for instance, would be a candidate for an Abundance Repatterning around anxiety about being able to find enough nuts to last through the winter. A packrat’s problem might involve its inability to make a successful getaway after burgling someone’s jewelry box. Or what about a thoroughbred horse that wins the Kentucky Derby? Wouldn’t he feel more abundant thanks to receiving some extra hay?

One of my clients, a cockatiel named Tootie, lost her position as leader in the pecking order with several other birds. She didn’t feel that being a mother to her chick was fulfilling her destiny. In other words, she was suffering from the cockatiel equivalent of postpartum depression. During her session, an Earth Element Repatterning emphasized Tootie’s negative state of self-punishment. To feel nurtured, she would have to accept herself for who she really was. After her session, Tootie’s attitude changed. She began to eat and even ignored her chick’s jealousy when the number one person in their lives paid more attention to Tootie. As that person put it, “She’s getting her power back!

While Chloe Wordsworth stresses the importance of all of the elements – wood, earth, fire, water and metal – in connection with the Abundance Repatterning, in her Introduction she points out that only a finely-tuned water element allows for the easy functioning of one’s power and energy in relationship to the ebb and flow of one’s money and financial reserves. A Water Element Repatterning came up in a session for another client, an elderly Shih-Tzu named Petunia who, having lost her sight, had become a recluse. Her age and blindness were changing the dynamics of her relationship with her person; she felt powerless, hopeless and needy, all negative water element qualities. Reflecting a shift to a positive water element quality, after sharing my session notes with her, Petunia’s person said, “She’s experiencing some really nice changes. We’re in the flow!”

Much more than just having money, wealth and financial success, abundance also means ampleness, bounty, opulence, plenty, plethora, profusion, prosperity and thriving. Recently, I did a session for an elderly whippet who was wasting away because he couldn’t do the things he used to, and he couldn’t live up to his person’s expectations that he would regain at least some of his lost youth. An Integration for Growth Repatterning culminated in a Positive Action in which he and his person had to work together. “It has brought him closer to me in that he allows me to help him. Before, he seemed aloof and did not care about his life anymore,” his person wrote. Abundance was restored to an old dog’s life.

Bailey, a dog with issues around food and females because she had neither been fed nor nurtured by her mother, was “on” for the Earth Element Repatterning statement, “I use others to get money.”  Colostrum (a form of milk rich in nutrients and antibodies that is produced by females in late pregnancy and just after giving birth, something that Bailey never received) came up as her Positive Action. In answer to my question about how she reacted to the colostrum, Bailey’s person responded, “better than peanut butter.” Her person also said, “Bailey is much more attentive to me, less competitive and far less edgy.” No longer was Bailey using her person to get “money,” a word that, in Bailey’s case, can be interpreted as a total lack of abundance that impacted both of their lives which was triggered by Bailey’s unconscious patterns.

In scientific circles, the word “abundance” describes how the relative commonality of an element – wood, fire, earth, water and metal – is measured. How much abundance there might be in honey I have no idea, but my friend, who was head of the Department of Physiology and Biochemistry at the University of East Africa, certainly would. What he didn’t know was how to be a beekeeper when he asked me to do a session for a hive that had been moved to a new and strange location, and the bees were having difficulty adjusting. The session’s “gift” for the bees was: “We rely on our communal strength, abilities and unerring instincts for our survival, we create harmony and abundance in our environment, and we resonate and cooperate with the hopes and dreams of our new beekeeper.” That’s exactly what happened. As my friend reported exultantly, “The repatterned bees are eating us out of house and home. Whereas they used to be happy with one jar of syrup in three days, the little darlings now finish it to the last drop between sunrise and sunset, and look for more!”

Can’t you just visualize those bees and the honey they went on to produce in such abundance? Two thousand years ago, the Chinese Law of Abundance was based on the technique of visualization, which played a pivotal role in a session I did on September 17, 2001 for a male cat named Papoose. According to his person, Papoose was paralyzed by fear as the result of all the renovation going on in his new home. Muscle checking indicated that someone else needed to be proxied into Papoose’s session. To my surprise, that someone turned out to be the rescue dogs who were working at “ground zero” in New York City. In one of the session’s modalities, I had to visualize Papoose offering a message of love and strength to those rescue dogs.

For part of his Positive Action, his person had to sit down with Papoose on two occasions and visualize him as the Commander in Chief of the rescue dogs while sending white light to them from him. The second part of his Positive Action involved something that I hesitated to mention, a name change for Papoose that would project a more confident image out into the world.

“We already have!” his person said when I told her. “Not only is there a definite shift in his energy, but Papoose is now Sher Khan. In the ancient languages of northern India it means Lion King, and he loves it!”

Abundance comes in many forms and guises. It can creep unobtrusively into all our lives, including animals’, on little cat feet, or it can charge in with the force of a stampeding herd of buffalo. A part of all our lives it most definitely is whether we’re human or animal. However we might visualize or interpret abundance, animals seem to be in the catbird seat. With nary a thought for money or financial success, animals live in abundance. They live in the here and now.

Practitioner Interview: Richard Perrin

Welcome to Richard Perrin

Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, Toronto, Ontario

Interviewed by Nancy Martin, Certified Practitioner, Providence, RI

Richard, congratulations on becoming a Certified Practitioner! Your colleagues would like to know more about you.

Please tell us about yourself–what you do for a living and what is your background?

Originally from Sydney, Nova Scotia, living now in Toronto, Ontario.  More of an arts background…music, theater, writing.  Have done some film, t.v., commercial work, stage.  Wrote and acted in the play  “Dangerous Dives and How To Do Them,” 2003. I have a new musical comedy in the works,  “A Tango For Tumultuous Times,” and a novel, nearly completed, “Cechetti For The Common Ant.”
I bartend a few nights a week in a hotel bar.

How did you learn about Resonance Repatterning?

I play the harmonium in a chanting/meditation-based Yoga Center, in Toronto.  In 1999, there were some issues within the music department that were requiring some attention.  One of the members of our department is a friend of Carolyn Winter, a Toronto-based Resonance Repatterning Practitioner.  Carolyn was invited to lead us through a group repatterning and quickly and magically changed the frequency around the issue and got us re-oriented in a  direction that we needed to go in.  Our group was once again harmonious!
I immediately contacted her for a private session.  I love her, she is an amazing practitioner and person. In 2003, Kathie Joblin, led the introductory  one-day Resonance Repatterning Workshop, in Toronto. I was hooked!  I spent the next several years taking the Resonance Repatterning Seminars.  I adored the classes, my wonderful teachers, new friends, and  my travels  to Scottsdale, Kansas City, Austin, and Bellingham.

What does Resonance Repatterning mean to you?

Well, I was working through some pretty thorny issues for a number of years, (maybe lifetimes!) and although I had worked through the psychology of the problems, which was hugely beneficial and necessary, I still seemed to attract the same type of  conflicts and difficulties into my life.  With Resonance Repatterning I was able to profoundly shift my frequency around the issues, and that is when I began to notice that life was “showing up”  differently for me.  So for me, it really is a wonderful, magical tool to help us co-create our lives.

What are some examples of a session that stand out in your life?

One that stands out for me was in 2006, Healing the Family Systems 1, with Carin Block, in Toronto.  It was Taking the Parents Repatterning, and I was being repatterned by Carin, for the purpose of modeling this section to the class.  The issue that came up, in regard to taking my father, was that everything in my life was a struggle, a huge strain, since I did not have any ‘”father energy” in my life. In fact,  I had never actually met my biological father, and I never really had that type of support.   Well, a week later I was in the hospital being operated on for a hernia that I had had since birth.  Talk about a physical repercussion to an energetic shift!

What would you like RPA to do for its newest members?

I’m pretty wow-ed!  There is so much support!  It’s awesome.  i.e. Carolyn Winter’s 6-week seminar, Practitioner’s Marketing Toolbox, TurboCharge Your Business with Don Giberson and Karen Kent, and Carolyn’s Blogging Clinic. So I’m working through these seminars, and there is such great material and support here. The journal, these interviews! I think RPA is doing lots!  I am really thrilled.

Do you have a motto?  What five words describe  you?

For my work as a  Resonance Repatterning Practitioner:  A steady, loving presence to help others to connect with their innate wisdom, creativity, and healing potential.

More information about Richard Perrin and his services may be found at his website:  www.holographichands.com

Thank you so much, Richard, for sharing your interests, experience and enthusiasm.

Abundance Consciousness Police

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Don't be like the abundance consciousness police!

Abundance Consciousness Police

Ask me what is essential for an abundant life and these four are my response.    

  1. Awareness born of fearless, honest self-reflection.  
  2. Self-acceptance.
  3. The will to change.
  4. And faith in the power to do so.  

Some ideas promoted as abundance consciousness run contrary to these essentials.  Granted they are well intended.  But perhaps the road to well is not paved with good intentions.

Like many good ideas, abundance consciousness has fallen victim to the sound bites of popular advice.  Similar to what has happened to religions throughout time, popular culture has extracted surface meanings, removed thought-provoking depths, and served up pointless palaver.

The first law (according to the consciousness “experts”) is to avoid “I” statements that express negativity.  Here is a direct quote from the number one ranked site for the keyword ‘abundance consciousness,’

“Watch your language! Make sure that what follows “I” or “I am” is what you                  want to manifest. If you say “I am poor,” the Universe will answer you with its              only response: yes!”

Oh honestly!  Well, for one thing, that advice would omit every statement of non-coherence in every Repatterning!!  There is a quality of unquestioned authority around these teachings, a culture of blame growing like mold in a Petri dish.  The message is,  “It is not ok (to not be ok) and it was YOU not being ok that created the problem.”

I have a client who couldn’t finish her sentences.  The consciousness police taught her to fear manifesting an even worse reality through authentic expression. It was often 45 minutes into the session before she’d admit her real issues with the caveat, “I shouldn’t feel this way, wahhhhhh!”  I’ve had clients balk at saying the words “I need (fill in the blank)” for fear of manifesting more need.

While intended as a method for increasing awareness around the power of one’s thoughts, the unfortunate outcome is often an edited, judged, shamed, blamed, and frightened awareness.

They say that what you focus your thoughts on is what you manifest.  Maybe.  Yes.  And, well… no!  Maybe I can sum up by saying that gratitude and appreciation seem to work wonders.  But equally important is the simple truth that when I’m not there, I’m not. I’m just NOT.

The solution is not to deny my authentic feelings, not to pretend I am enlightened when indeed I am not. Abundance consciousness can lead to denial. Denial is formidable.

The hidden treasure in my negative situation is my process, my evolution towards more coherence.  It is an opportunity to discover unmet needs and negative beliefs, hurt feelings and unresolved relationships.  It is nothing less than the opportunity to see where my soul is ready to grow and in order to do so I must feel free to speak my experience, fearlessly trusting in the power of bringing truth to light.

When all IS well in my world, it is not because my mind has created wellness by pretending all is well!  When I am in a bright, clear space within, I don’t get there by “shoulding” my feelings.  When I am in peace and acceptance, when I am “attracting or manifesting” the positive, my focus is on taking action around my “problems”– what I have that I don’t want/ what I want that I don’t have.

In an Energy Constriction Release, I  support their “I need” statement by noting what a wonderful world it would be if everyone had that particular need met.  I say it is a healthy need, worthy of taking a stand for.  This response to their need is often in stark contrast to their feeling guilty and broken for having the need.

Abundance consciousness type solutions are what people resort to when they don’t have Resonance Repatterning.   (The poor impoverished dears!)

Suppressing fear creates a mind at war with itself. A mind that is in fear of its own fear. A mind that insists that its own lack of power is stronger than the power of bringing truth to light.

“I’m trying to change reality with my thoughts,” said another client, owner of a once thriving real estate firm.  “My company is losing money and I can’t pay the bills.  But I still go on trips and take cabs because I’m afraid of poverty consciousness.”

She was trapped in mental turmoil, looking for the blame inside herself.  “How did I create this?” she pondered sleeplessly, believing that if she performed the correct mental gymnastics she would undo the voodoo hoodoo of loss.   She was not fully present to name problems and take positive actions.

How can unmet needs be resolved with love and communication when there is fear, blame and belief that speaking the truth will manifest more of the same?  
Unquestioned belief in “thought manifestation” can result in fear of being.  It is a terrifying idea that you cause your troubles if you are anything other than a bliss ninny.

Naming a lack does not create the lack!  If it did, how could we create anything?  If I say I am thirsty, am I manifesting more thirst?  Am I not more likely to build a bridge if I notice that I need one?  Does putting locks on your doors manifest burglars?  Does using birth control manifest unwanted pregnancies? Does responsible stewardship of resources equal poverty consciousness?

How does abundance consciousness explain the occupation of Tibet or AIDS or genocide or abortion?

The planets are in constant motion, ever changing relationships to one another.  Does the moon not wax and wane and the sun rise and fall?  One must see oneself –not as cause–but as transcending the fickle winds of fate.

Fearing the shame of one’s own negative thoughts is like fearing the gas gauge on the car that indicates it is low.  Obviously, the potential power of the car is not determined by the amount of gas — but it does require gas.  Similarly, our thoughts are merely indicators of an underlying condition that requires healing.  What needs Repatterning is not the thoughts so much as the fear of the thoughts, the  lack of positive power attributed to the experience of  thoughts.  I genuinely ask how this level of consciousness is different than a small child thinking they caused their parents divorce?

Thanks to Resonance Repatterning, which includes the non-coherent within the healing process, both of these clients have turned things around.

They are:

  1. Expressing ALL their feelings, recognizing their needs and facing reality responsibly (awareness born of fearless, honest self-reflection.)
  2. Letting go of blame and forgiving life (self-acceptance.)
  3. Facing and acting on the ‘harsh realities’ of life (the will to change.)
  4. And in the process they are gaining faith in their power to do so.

Necessity is the mother of invention.  Let’s invent ways to perceive needs as the seeds of abundance.  Let’s spread the idea that recognizing needs or lack is what activates our power to create and manifest.  Let’s take a stand for UN conditional awareness.

When we resonate with the power of bring the truth to light, we will finally stop fearing (and denying) fear itself.

What about you?  Have you grappled with these questions in your life?  How about your clients? We’d love to have a discussion about this, feel free to comment.  The more voices heard from the better.

Laura Frisbie

laurafrisbie@gmail.com

http://www.beat-depression-naturally.com

Health is an Inside Job

To be healthy is to be happy on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. And to be happy is to be healthy on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It sounds like an easy remedy and the good news is, it can be. You can start right where you are, just the way you are.

It all starts with self-love. It is easy to love yourself when all is going well and according to your plans. However, can you love yourself when you just lost your job, or your partner chooses to leave the relationship you’ve been in for ten years?? Can you love yourself when you’ve been diagnosed with arthritis, cancer or any aliment?? How about when someone close to you makes their transition?

These are the times when you need to rely on the reserves of love you have for yourself. Remember the time you succeeded in achieving your goal? You got the job, finished running the 5K, or sold the first pair of earrings you made? What about when you really wanted to move and you did, or when it was best for you to leave a relationship you have been in for a while and you did. How about when you took your first Resonance Repatterning® seminar and you said to yourself, “I am going to go for my professional certification”, and you did. Remember the energy you had when you accomplished your goal? Remember how you celebrated?? This is the energy, the love within, that you can rely on now to help you when you need it the most, for your health.

For the past year, when I have found myself in a growth opportunity, I have used the simple phrase, ‘what would love do right now?’ I may not have been able to do what Mother Teresa would do; however, I’d always do something more loving than I would have done before asking the question. I have shared this phrase with several of my clients, colleagues and friends. They have all shared amazing stories of the difference this inquiry has made. You too can apply this to every area of your life.

Let’s start with physically. What would love do right now? Love might look in the mirror and say, “I love you and accept you just the way you are, and I want to live a long healthy life. To do that I will find a food plan that supports my well-being, I will go for a walk out in nature every morning, I will get my teeth cleaned, take up yoga, get my eyes examined, etc.” Be sure to follow-up on these ideas or they are just that, ideas.

Emotionally, what would love do right now? Perhaps, love would apologize for something you said that you really didn’t mean to say during a recent argument. Love would forgive someone who you perceived harmed you. Love might take the risk to love again, to share your deep feelings. Remember the quote, ‘I would have rather have loved and gotten hurt, than to have never loved.’ What are you waiting for? I have a quote on my refrigerator by Erica Jong that says “If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.” Wow, how true. What are the steps you can take to open your heart again? Who would you feel safe having a Resonance Repatterning® session with? Call them, make an appointment and keep the appointment. It is never too late to have a fabulous love life if that is something you want.

Mentally, what would love do right now? Love might take the time to focus and get really clear on your goals and write them down. Don’t forget the ‘by when’. Love would get the support you need to accomplish your goals. Love would ask for help. Love would change your attitude and be more optimistic. Perhaps love would write down on paper all the lists you have in your head to create some free moments in your mind. Then love would make a plan to complete the tasks on your list.

Spiritually, what would love do right now? Love might take time each morning to connect with your inner Divinity, even just for twenty minutes. It would also be beneficial to do the same thing right before bed; being grateful for the day with all its wondrous moments and even the less than wonderful ones. The more peaceful you are before sleep, the more restful and rejuvenating your sleep will be.

Every moment you are being given an opportunity to be happy and healthy; to grow and transform. When you engage fully in life, life can fully engage with you. I sometimes tell people that I live out on the skinny branches of life. It is not always easy however, the rewards are extraordinary.

You are responsible for the quality of your life. Take time to nurture yourself. Be good to yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself to wholeness.


Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses. Victoria has just completed her first book, “What Would Love Do Right Now?” It will be available on-line and on the stands in July of 2011.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662

 

 

Try Humility for More Prosperity Power!

The root of the word humility is “humble.”  In its traditional meaning, which we associate with Christianity and other religious teachings, being humble implies modesty and being unassuming, or even the kind of self-debasement where we make ourselves less than others.  Take the expression “Eating humble pie”–yuck! How on earth could a quality like that be part of creating abundance and prosperity for yourself?

Our mainstream American culture says that anyone can succeed and better themselves, and in fact, there is something wrong with them if they don’t.  The dominant model of success—which is fortunately beginning to shift in the age of the conscious entrepreneur – is about getting attention, standing out, and dominating in the marketplace.   It says we will succeed only by tooting our own horn and the louder the better!   What could be less humble than that? That is if we  define humility as being modest, small, and making oneself less than others.

Two other spiritual traditions I know address the link betwen humility and prosperity—the teachings of Hinduism/yoga, and also Sufi teachings that I’ve absorbed through Mark Silver and his Heart of Business materials.

On the yoga path, a key teaching is “You are not the doer”.  That means that while you may act and serve in various ways, you are a conduit through which Source energy is flowing and expressing itself.  You are not the ultimate cause of what happens, yet you are also responsible for your part in things.  Your results come from a blend of self effort and grace. Humility is there to help us take credit for our achievements and our failures too, while staying  aware that we are also actors on the cosmic stage of life, playing a part in larger trends and  in our individual and collective destinies.  So we can relax and surrender to the fact that we aren’t completely in charge.  From there we can see that everything is part of an interconnected web that takes into account the greatest good for all souls–not just our personal needs and desires.

In the Sufi way, humility is actually a quality of the Divine, and it has to do with accepting a larger, unknowable destiny or grand scheme of life.  So when someone has a great shift after a Resonance Repatterning session, we stand in awe and amazement, we may even be humbled by the wisdom and resilience within our client, or by the power of the work itself—but we don’t take all the credit.  Similarly, if we say something in a session that we later realize wasn’t so skillful, or we realize we haven’t been marketing our business well, we also understand that this is part of our journey and our learning, these seeming failures or disappointments, and we can correct our course at any time.

In terms of money and prosperity, again, humility can help us to be at peace with what is.  We learn to accept what our current situation is and flow with it, even though we may prefer and work towards more prosperity.  Humility here helps us to acknowledge when there appears to be a defeat or setback, that there is a bigger picture, even if we can’t see what it is in the moment, and also to ask for help to change what we can change, and accept and live with what can’t be changed—the serenity prayer.

That brings us to the other aspect of humility–the basic human condition of neediness. As the Sufis remind us, we are creatures of need, right from the beginning.  A baby needs feeding, care, touch, attention, etc. for its very existence. Our entire life is a continuous process of needing things from other people, from the earth and from Source.  We need food to eat, air to breathe, clean water, loving touch, and much more, that we cannot provide for ourselves.  It takes humility to accept that we have needs.  Yet if we do that, we can ask for help when we need it, and we recognize that we are not self-sufficient, that we are truly interconnected.  I believe this kind of humility is more realistic and helps foster working together and a happier world.

As a practitioner, being humble could mean admitting if we were wrong or less than skillful, or being willing to allow and learn from other perspectives.   At times we might need to apologize for not communicating our fees or boundaries clearly.  Humility could also be standing in awe of our clients, or being compassionate and empathic rather than feeling responsible for, or judging their progress or stuckness.   When we have more understanding and compassion for our clients, we become better practitioners and more successful marketers.   Think of how much humility it takes for you—or your clients—to get the point of asking for help with a problem or pattern.   A person generally goes to a healer or coach when they are in pain, are stuck and need assistance with making a change.  So when you are talking to a new or returning client, when you are composing your marketing messages,  remember how humbling and vulnerable a place they are in, and address that with your nurturing Earth element, your appreciative Metal, your optimistic Wood, your empowering Water, or your Fiery warmth and humor.

As a business owner, humility might mean looking closely at what is and isn’t working, and perhaps acknowledging where there are knowledge gaps about marketing or accounting, or even in your skills a as a practitioner.  Humility helps us see when it’s time to get help from a mentor, coach, friend or healer, learning program or an office assistant. Humility helps us be compassionate when things take longer than we expect them to, and to accept that we are imperfect and don’t always know what to do.  Humility helps us step back from time to time and ask “is it time to change course here, or what else is needed?”

One final way humility contributes to prosperity is that it’s a close cousin to acceptance and forgiveness.  As we release our ideas that “this shouldn’t be happening” or our resistance to what actually is—we can be more spontaneous, and more open to creative new ideas and solutions.   As we forgive or give forth, we yield to the way things are, to our feelings, and to the state of the world as it is.  We are more easily able to let go of pride, denial, resistance, our ego identification with outcomes and our judgments about ourselves, our clients, our businesses, lives and the world we live in.

Ironically, humility and acceptance allow us the clarity to see what needs to be addressed and the strength and motivation that comes from being in alignment with our higher purpose, all of which enable us to create greater prosperity.   May you be inspired to cultivate humility and be profited and  blessed by its many gifts!

Ellen Shapiro

LAUGHTER

What a gift ! ! ! It is part of our inherited abundance and available to everyone–at no cost and at every age! Starting out in this world, we laugh before we learn to speak words. At age 92 the Boston marathon runner Gladys Barrow was asked prior to this Patriot’s Day race, her 8th consecutive participation, how she managed to compete? She said she stays fit and always finds things to laugh about. Laughter connects people–to others and to themselves.

There’s more energy and benefit in sharing laughter than laughing by yourself. The bonds created in laughing together with someone act as a strong buffer against stress, disagreements and disappointment. And you don’t need a sense of humor to express laughter, just a willingness to risk some loss of control. Who hasn’t been on a belly-laugh roll and tried to stop because the occasion seems to call for less than hilarity–for some of those present?

Where does laughter come from? It comes from stress that accumulates in the body-mind system–and it seems as if there is more than enough of that to go around. Yes, it comes from stress and it deals with stress most effectively in myriad ways.

Physically, “the diaphragm, thorax, abdomen, heart, lungs, and even the liver are given a massage during a hearty laugh,” according to Dr. Marvin E. Herring of New Jersey’s School of Osteopathic Medicine. Laughter brings more oxygen to the body and brain, increases the count of natural killer cells which help the immune system destroy cancer cells and resist disease, improves blood circulation to the coronary arteries and dilates the blood vessels to help reduce blood pressure (from the work of Dr. Michael Miller of Maryland University), and  Dr. Lee Berk’s study confirms that “laughter therapy significantly helps to bring down blood sugar levels, thereby controlling diabetes.” Ten minutes of healthy laughter is equal to 30 minutes on the rowing machine was established scientifically by Dr. William Fry from Stanford University, who sees it as the best cardio workout with benefits similar to jogging, swimming and cycling.  Through relieving tension and stress, muscles relax and pain is diminished, or at least we are less overwhelmed.

Mentally, laughter affords a different, healthier perspective to problem solving. Not only are the physical benefits supporting the laughing individual, but the person can apply a more playful approach to a challenging issue, increasing the possibilities. It enhances resilience and helps defuse conflict. People practicing Laughter Yoga report higher energy levels and improved mental attitude, and Laughter Yoga groups are springing up all over the country.

Emotionally, laughter impacts the number one sickness in the world–depression–by lowering stress hormones, helping to release neurotransmitters from the brain cells,  lifting mood and increasing intimacy. It brings people to the present moment, eases anxiety and fear, adds zest and joy to life, and promotes a positive, optimistic outlook through difficult situations. That hearty laugh can help you relax and recharge, increasing energy and your ability to stay focused. Making a conscious effort to incorporate more humor and play in your daily interactions can improve your relationships at every level. As Enda Junkins says in her book We Need to Laugh More, “Laughter is feeling deeply which allows us to live fully.”

What do we laugh at? It could be anything and everything that gets our attention and doesn’t fit our expectation. In an effort to break away from being overly serious, laughing at yourself is often suggested. However, being laughed at can carry a negative connotation. So laughing with yourself is a more comfortable approach for me.

I offer a meta exercise, which Chris Belanger defined at his Laughter Meditation workshop as a “loving kindness” exercise. He started the group with everyone giving him/herself a big hug and laughing with self. It doesn’t take long to get really swept up in the laughter roaring, bubbling, chuckling, giggling, snickering, and/or snorting. After many minutes, we were silenced with a chime and instructed to close our eyes and notice what was going on inside our body, how we were feeling. Following the time to integrate that first part, we continued the cycle in sequence: with eyes closed and arms crossed over our chest, we envisioned laughing with someone we loved; with elbows bent and hands raised facing forward, we envisioned laughing with someone we knew casually but not well; with arms extended upward, we envisioned laughing with someone with whom we have had a difficult relationship; with arms extended outward, we envisioned laughing with the world. It was a profound experience for me, one in which during a silence I felt completely at one with the room and all it embraced; there were no boundaries, no limits. I felt the ultimate in peace and calm.

We’ve all heard that laughter is the best medicine AND it feels fabulous! So laugh out loud, look and listen for ever more opportunities to express your feelings in helpful ways and bring others along with you.

Laughter is an instant vacation – Milton Berle

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. – Victor Borge

What soap is to the body, laughter is to the soul. – Yiddish Proverb

Laughter gives us distance.  It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on. – Bob Newhart

The most wasted of all days is one without laughter. – e.e. cummings

Seven days without laughter makes one weak. – Mort Walker

Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face. – Victor Hugo

By Nancy B. Martin

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