What Would Love Do Right Now, in Your Professional Relationships?

Wherever you are right now in your career, business, or job is just that—it’s where you are. You may be judging where you are by saying to yourself, “I should be further along at this age. What went wrong?” Each time you put yourself down, you stop the flow. Or perhaps you have the perfect job and you’re thinking, “I love my job and I hope it never changes.” Consider that change is inevitable and that this point of view may also stop the flow by preventing you from seizing new opportunities.

By examining what consistently occurs in your work life that blocks your path to success—being bypassed for promotion; harassed; treated unjustly; expected to take on every task offered; less than fairly compensated; or volunteering to do more than you can handle—you can then take action toward fulfilling your professional goals.

Along the way, you may also recall some negative messages you heard from your parents and influential adults in your life, like the following:

“To provide for your family and get a pension, you have to work for thirty years at the same job, even if you don’t like it.”

“I didn’t go to college. I’m not paying for you to go. Get a job.”

“Girls can’t be doctors. / Boys can’t be nurses.”

“The only way to make real money is to run your own business.”

“You’re not talented enough to be in the movies.”

You are where you are because of the decisions you made based on limiting messages, past experiences, as well as unconscious conclusions and patterns. Identifying these decisions will help you understand why you are where you are today, and how they impact your work relationships with co- workers, bosses, employees, and clients.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with limiting messages you’ve heard, the resulting poor decisions you made, as well as, the unconscious conclusions and patterns that ensued. It can also help you to heal wounds from past harmful work experiences. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted, Victoria Benoit, M.C.

 Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

What Would Love Do Right Now in Your Romantic Relationships?

A loving romantic relationship can be one of your most sacred experiences—as well as the most risky. Given the rewards, it is always worth the risk. I love the statement from Erica Jong’s book, How to Save Your Own Life — “Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”

My philosophy about intimate relationships is that when you make a commitment to love, everything unlike love arises to be released and healed. Your reaction to what arises originates from unresolved issues, idealized concepts of romance, and conclusions you came to through observing your parents’ relationship. Every romantic relationship you have will reflect and reinforce these issues, concepts, and conclusions until you release and heal them. You will then have an opportunity to experience the very love you desire.

Your Parents’ Relationship

Examining the relationship your parents had, can provide insight into your experience of love and romance. How did they treat one another? Were they loving? Did they argue a lot? What was happening at significant ages while you were growing up? How did their relationship influence you?

As a child, you witnessed your parents’ interactions and made decisions about romantic relationships based on those observations. We tend to have romantic relationships that are either just like our parents’ or the exact opposite. For example, if your parents argued a lot, you may have decided that love is confrontational, so your relationships are tumultuous, violent, or chaotic. Perhaps one parent was weak and the other was domineering, so you decided the key to a winning relationship is to be equal in every way. Maybe your parents were overly affectionate, and you decided that a romantic partner must be lovey-dovey or they don’t love you.

Remember, in your healing process, you are not pointing a finger at your parents or blaming them for the way your relationships turned out. You are identifying how YOU responded to what happened between them and the conclusions YOU came to about romantic relationships. The good news is, since you drew the conclusions—YOU can change them.

Your Romantic Relationships

Remember, you ARE love. Being LOVE is allowing yourself to be who you are and who you are not; and accepting your partner for who they are and who they are not. It isn’t always easy. However, it is essential if you want to experience an intimate relationship beyond what you think is possible. BEING love is the greatest gift you can bring to your relationship.

The concepts of being present and getting gotten are particularly powerful in creating affinity and intimacy in romantic relationships. It’s what was so extraordinary in my relationship with my late Beloved Bernie.

In the beginning of our relationship, Bernie understandably wanted to know about my past relationships. I told him, “I’ll share my past experiences with you, if you will celebrate who I’ve become as a result of healing my past and changing my old behaviors.” He lovingly said, “Yes, I can do that.” This started a wonderful foundation of love and respect. I also let him know; he had the best me yet!

This was the first relationship I’d ever been in where the love got deeper and stronger and better over time, rather than worse. What was different? I was different! I was less serious, more playful, more patient, kind, understanding, and loving. I also took responsibility for my part in a situation sooner than I had done before. It was very humbling at times, but always rewarding.

Developing a foundation of intimacy requires a willingness to tell your partner what’s really going on with you; to care about what’s going on with them; to share deep aspects of yourself—especially those things you don’t want anyone else to know or ever find out—and to listen to them share things that you’re not sure you want to hear.

Everything is relational. You’re in relationship with everything and everyone. Your intimate romantic relationship can be either a source of fun and pleasure or pain and suffering. To have extraordinary intimate relationships, it is essential that you heal wounds you’re holding onto from past relationships.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with unresolved issues, idealized concepts of romance, and conclusions you came to through observing your parents’ relationship. It also allows you to heal wounds you’re holding onto from past relationships. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted, Victoria Benoit, M.C.                                                                    

Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

What Would Love Do Right Now in Your Formative Relationships?

As a newborn baby, you smell so good and feel so soft. You are kissable and huggable. You express yourself fully, holding nothing back. Even when you fill your diaper, others see it as an accomplishment.

Newborn babies are so miraculous. They are fresh, untouched, and unscathed by life, love, boys, girls, parents, school, other kids, or siblings. They are pure and precious. Each of us enters the world in this state.

So, what happened? When does this begin to change for us? What happened is life in its fullest measure with all its giving and taking, its longings, disappointments, pleasures, pains, hurt, trauma, abuse, and even death. Over time, we become hardened, dry, unexpressive, angry, bitter, and mean; sometimes we even get abusive. You may not know any other way to be; you may take things out on others around you, especially those you love the most, and the cycle continues. You may be asking, “Is this all there is? There has to be more to life than this.” I am here to tell you…there is!

Your Relationship with Your Parents

Loving and being loved fully starts by healing your relationship with your parents. It’s never too late, even if they are deceased or no longer in your life. Most of your current reality stems from unresolved past experiences while growing up with your parent(s) or primary caregiver(s).

As a young child, the world was all about you and you believed everything bad that happened was YOUR FAULT. For example: if your mother was crying, it was your fault; if your father was angry, it was your fault; if your parents divorced, it was your fault. As a result, you may have thought, “If I were more helpful, my mother wouldn’t be sad,” “If I were quieter, my father wouldn’t yell,” or “If I behaved better, they wouldn’t get divorced.”

As a teenager, you may have shifted the blame to your parents believing every bad thing that happened to you was THEIR FAULT. For example: if your boyfriend broke up with you, it was somehow your mother’s fault; if you didn’t make the team, it was somehow your father’s fault; if you failed your driver’s test, it was somehow your parents’ fault. As a result, you may have thought, “There’s something wrong with me,” “I’m unlovable,” or “I can’t count on anyone.”

As an adult, you may have come to understand that your parents did the best they could, and yet they were less than ideal parents. Like you, your parents were once children. They also experienced many unmet needs, disappointments, hurts, betrayals, and feelings that were never resolved. Like you, out of these unresolved experiences, they drew negative conclusions and developed beliefs about themselves, others, relationships, finances, and life in general, such as: “I’m unworthy and don’t deserve anything good,” “Men hurt me/Women smother me,” or “Life is unsafe and scary.”

It’s important to note that your parents behaved as if these conclusions, beliefs, and judgments were true—they could not be or act any other way— and neither can you.

However, if your inner child is still harboring feelings of hurt and betrayal, or any experiences of neglect, abandonment, or abuse, resolving them— putting them in the past where they belong—can free you to be the person you know you can be.

It’s important to identify and change your resonance with the earlier experiences, the unresolved feelings, and conclusions you came to about yourself, others, and life that are currently keeping you from attaining the extraordinary life you are here to live.

It is never too late to have a great relationship with your parents.

Your Relationship with Others

While you were growing up, in addition to your relationship with your parent(s), your relationships with other people also continue to have an impact on how you relate to others in your day-to-day life.

Consider, as a child, there were moments in your relationships with your playmates or siblings when you may have felt jealous, superior, protective, rejected, shamed, etc. Also, you may have felt forced to interact and be on your best behavior with other family members—grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins. During your school years, how your teachers and coaches related to you may have had a significant effect on your beliefs about your own intelligence, capacity to learn, and ability to compete. All of these relationships continue to affect how you relate to yourself and others, your self-confidence, as well as your view of life today.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with unresolved harmful experiences, the unmet life needs, along with the resulting feelings and beliefs. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.                                                                                                          

Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

Four Steps to Making Amends

Making amends is about others and restoring those relationships that you have broken or damaged. The desire to make amends arises when you’re willing to take responsibility for what happened and the impact it had on those involved. It’s not suitable for everyday mishaps—it’s best used for significant incidents that warrant extra consideration and may simply depend on the importance of the relationship.

When you harm others and make no effort to repair the relationship, you tend to avoid those people and large areas of your life become closed off. When you begin making amends, you have the opportunity to restore your relationships and have those areas open up again.

Seeking to mend a relationship involves forgiving yourself, offering a sincere apology, making necessary restitution, and accepting responsibility by taking steps to avoid making the same mistake in the future.

Step 1: Forgiving Yourself

Being able to make amends to others starts with forgiving yourself. In his tiny buddha® blog Michael Davidson says, “Forgiving yourself is far more challenging than forgiving someone else, because you must live with yourself and your thoughts 24/7.”

When you’ve done something you consider wrong, the accompanying emotion registers in your nervous system. For example, you may feel guilty if you mistreated someone; or you may feel sad, if you made a mistake that cost you a friendship. When these emotions register, they usually contribute to negative thoughts and limiting beliefs you have about yourself, like “I can’t do anything right,” or “I’m a bad person.”

More than anything else, forgiving yourself requires that you acknowledge your actions have consequences for yourself and others. However, any attempt to forgive yourself—before letting go of the negative emotions and beliefs—won’t work. You’ll just continue to berate yourself, because your nervous system is in control.

Step 2: Offering a Sincere Apology

In order for an apology to be effective, it must be genuine and go to the heart of the matter for the person you wronged. Consider carefully what you’re going to say. Be accountable—don’t make excuses or deflect blame. Be sure to include the crucial words, I’m sorry.

  • State what happened.

“I’m sorry I didn’t pay you back when I promised I would.”

  • Acknowledge the impact your actions had on the other person to show that you fully understand.

“I know it was my fault that you had to cancel your vacation.”

  • Express your desire to restore this relationship.

“Our relationship means a lot to me.”

Step 3: Making Restitution

Whether you’ve robbed someone of time, money, property, trust, attention, dignity, or well-being, it’s important to do what you can to restore that which you’ve taken.

The essence of restitution is finding out what the other person needs and determining if, and when, you can provide that. It starts with an inquiry.

  • Ask what the person needs from you to restore the relationship.

“How can I make it up to you?”

Then, let the other person respond. Just listen. If the request is ethical and you’re willing to fulfill on it, you have two options:

  • Agree to their request and time frame.

“I can do that when I get paid on Friday.”

  • Suggest an alternative if you’re unable to comply.

“I can’t pay you in full now, but I will make weekly payments.”

Step 4: Accepting Responsibility

Accepting responsibility is about making a genuine change in your behavior and taking on a whole new way of living.

Everyone has made mistakes, but the only mistakes that will undermine your happiness are the ones you’re unwilling to admit.

Be honest in expressing what you’ve learned from this mistake. This helps the other person trust that you’re sincerely making amends for your past behavior. Describe the ways in which you’re making changes in your life to refrain from repeating the wrongdoing.

  • Admit your transgression.

“I was wrong to take your money and not honor my agreement.”

  • Tell what you’ve learned.

“I’ve learned that I’ve been totally unreliable about money.”

  • Declare any action(s) you’re taking.

“I’m participating in a debt management course, and I’m having 10% of my paycheck directly deposited into a savings account.”

Keep it simple. A long apology will start to lose its power. Make your points clearly and effectively.

Give the other person time to respond. Grant them the space, time, and freedom to vent, if necessary. Be willing to listen without judgment and accept their point of view, even if some of their perceptions of the situation seem inaccurate. They have every right to feel the way they feel.

Keep in mind, although making amends can free you, it doesn’t always mean that the relationship will be restored—or that the process will be sufficient for the other person to forgive you.

In the Alcoholics Anonymous’ 12-Step program, Step 9 states, “Make direct amends to those people you have harmed wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” When direct amends is not possible or appropriate, there are many ways to complete the four-step process without personal contact. For example: you could write the person a letter; you could imagine yourself having a conversation with the other person; you could create a collage. Your mind does not know the difference between what is real and imagined, which is why visualization is so powerful.

You will be amazed how clean the slate becomes by making amends. Remember to be gentle with yourself throughout the process.

If someone is making amends to you, let them. Be generous and be gracious. Refrain from making the restitution you request out of proportion with what they did.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with any unhealed parts of yourself that would keep you from forgiving yourself and/or others. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

You Are Love

What is Love?

There are many types of love: love of self, love of your work, love of your parents who gave you life, love of your friends, love of your children, and love of your pets. Then there is romantic love, love of country, and love of God. Each has a different meaning and unique experience. Throughout history, many have attempted to define love. There are biological theories, cultural theories, and psychological theories about various types and styles of love. You name it and someone has written about it. I believe the word love can be used in the process of transforming many areas of your life.

The love I’m speaking about is a heart-centered love—the primal essence of love that permeates all life. It is moving from your head to your heart, surrendering your ego and moving into compassion, understanding, and a deep sense of caring. Asking yourself, “What would love do right now?” from this place, allows you to be more loving in all your interactions.

When two lovers are making love, looking into one another’s eyes and relishing the moment of bliss, they are sharing their experience together so completely that for them nothing else is happening in the entire world. They are engaging in the primal essence of love, shutting out the outer world— nothing intrudes. They are being present in the moment.

I hope you’ve had this experience. If not, maybe you’ve experienced the pure essence of love with a puppy or a newborn baby. This is unconditional love at its finest.

Now that you know the type of love I’m talking about, are you ready to experience it again, or for the very first time? It’s really a choice. However, if you have unhealed incidents from the past, it may not feel like you have a choice. This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method was developed by Chloe faith Wordsworth, and has been my saving grace since 1989. It releases the resonance with any unhealed parts of yourself that would keep you from experiencing the unconditional love of which I am speaking. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

You Are Love

Knowing that you ARE love can change the course of your life forever. You can never separate yourself from love—ever! Nevertheless, it may seem as though you’re separate. It is time to awaken to the love you are—to universal love, the primal essence of love that permeates all life.

Sometimes we feel like love is missing and we look to others to provide it. Actually, look no further, you have everything you need—you are love.

What would life be like if you were to wake up and love governed all of your actions and decisions? What would you do, as love? You might start your day by looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you.” Perhaps you would meditate or journal in a sacred space. As love, you could jog, walk, or tend your garden in the morning sunlight. You might take some time to go to breakfast with friends or pick up chocolate-covered donuts on the way to work. When you bring the love you are—to all areas of your life throughout your day—love is what you will experience moment by moment.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.                                                                                                          Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

Laughing and the color Red

“You need to laugh” she said, as I lay there barely able to breathe, bandages tightly wrapped around my chest.
“You’ve got to be kidding me. There’s no way,” I said weakly.
She continued checking what I needed. Then she looked at my other sisters sitting there and told them, “She needs the color red” …

In Resonance Repatterning©, we do some powerful modalities. Are they hard or complicated? Do you need special training to be able to do them? My sister and I had been taking Resonance Repatterning© classes. Had we learned enough to really help me through a tough time?

I’d just had major surgery – a mastectomy for breast cancer. The day after  surgery, I could not keep down even ice chips. I could barely stay awake. They said it’s because my body is having a reaction to the anesthesia.

…. My 2nd sister jumped up and started running around the room looking for something red. Then everyone was looking for red things. I began snickering. Suddenly, she grabbed a crayon from her daughter and told me to stick it in my nose. I burst out laughing. 

Well, there’s my laughing modality, I thought. I was feeling better… but I was not done yet.  My sister doing the muscle checking said to me, “You need an ECR”…

An ECR or Energy Constriction Release is pretty much just like it sounds – releasing energy that is constricted in the body. Identifying the feeling holding the energy stuck is the key.

…She muscle checked where the constricted energy was being held, and then, she held her hand near my armpit, by my breast. The exact spot where my lymph nodes had been removed. She looked at me and said, “Deby, it feels like a fan is blowing on my hand.”  After a couple minutes, she removed her hand. “It’s complete.”

I sat up in bed. The energy of everyone in the room was spiraling up. The urine from my catheter bag had been bright blue. Now, they noticed, it is bright green. Yellow and blue make green, right? The anesthesia had left my system! We were all ecstatic!

You might think my sister had years of experience giving sessions. The truth is my sister and I had been to only two basic classes. The fact is that we had not even been taught the ECR in class yet. She simply followed the directions. 

This is an example of how simple and yet powerful a session and the energizing options in Resonance Repatterning© can be.

Deby Youngquist

Bringing ourselves back to life

Most of us didn’t have our essential needs met as children and life often felt threatening. When we felt unwelcome, unloved, unheard or unseen, and we were unable to express this, we shut down, stopped breathing or moving freely. In the Resonance Repatterning process, the energy constriction release is like a beautiful piece of ritual theatre, where our younger selves can experience a sense of safety and nurturing. We are supported to breathe into whatever we are feeling, stay embodied, free the flow of our life energy and embrace our innocence. We receive the update that we are not alone anymore, that we now have the support we need and are encouraged to experience the joy of being our true selves, of being natural, free of the fear of rejection or the illusion of separation. This is self love and acceptance.

We all have the same core needs. Many of our problems come from the belief we are alone, disconnected, and our pain is unique to us. We hide in shame and reach for unfulfilling substitutes. We can choose to break this cycle and free ourselves from our prisons of isolation. From my own experience, nothing is worse than the scenarios my fearful mind conjures up. Yet when I have risked intimacy, revealing the aspects of myself I felt most ashamed of, it has often been surprisingly enjoyable.

Rather than repeating our stories, or going through the motions in our relationships, we can create lasting transformation and move beyond blaming and complaining, beyond the old human story of victim, persecutor and rescuer. We can step into the awareness of our interconnection and the freedom of taking responsibility for every choice we make. We can find out what we are unconsciously committed to, and make the necessary changes. These tiny shifts in perspective ripple out and affect the whole.

Life is precious and we matter. When we can relax into being held, dare to breathe and feel whatever arises, let our bodies move and our voices sound, we reclaim our aliveness.

Resonance Repatterning is not the only way to do this, of course, however, it is a powerful, gentle, elegant, creative and playful way.

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Be the Change in the World

As international Women’s Day approached this month, I found myself reflecting on how 2017 was quite the year for regular media announcements about women’s rights and women’s equality or the lack of it.
What has seemed different though is the strength of the female voice that has arisen recently. We have had social media for a while now so what has changed, I wonder.

Did we reach a tipping point?
Was that it?

Was it that so many women spoke out, that they were heard by enough others that even those who had until then been quiet, ended up speaking out, too?

Now in the USA training in sexual harassment is taking off in an unprecedented way, and lawyers have more lawsuits on their hands, but little fundamental change is really occurring if you read what those involved are saying …
and little real change will occur until societies norms change.

Norms arise from what we believe and all over the world women have been in second place and their fundamental rights ignored for centuries. Even when we think we have become enlightened we find out that we have not moved on that much. Deep underneath, our unconscious beliefs govern our behavior and it is not until these patterns clear and positive uplifting ones are put in place of the old ones, that we have a chance of transforming our norms.

No matter how much we might protest, what governs what comes into our lives are our unconscious beliefs. Those beliefs that we are unaware of …. the ones we have and are not aware we live by, the ones that are there deep down from previous generations of women who felt powerless to challenge the status quo and whose physical survival depended on the men in their lives. The ones from earlier generations, from our mother’s and our father’s family lines.

So when international women’s day came around on the 8th March this year, and in view of all the unrest I’d witnessed, I found myself taking the only kind of action that I knew could make a difference to the plight of women around the world. I chose to do a Resonance Repatterning session.

In Resonance Repatterning, of the many processes we have for change or transforming negative patterns, we have one called “Intention for a New possibility”. This is an exercise for setting what you want to happen in the short, medium or long term ….. in your life, your work, your relationships, in all areas.

Because we are all connected no matter how near or how far, we can use one person as a proxy for everyone else. In Resonance Repatterning, we first identify all aspects of the change we want to make, and then we find the healing modality that will enable the shift to occur and later check how the resonance has changed. Because we are all connected, we also have the potential to connect with each other and feel any change that occurs.

On 8th March, when my Resonance Repatterning colleague, Sophia Avramides, and I conducted an Intention for a New Possibility session for women around the world, the statement that emerged was:

“We close the gender gap in pay around the world. Everyone receives equal pay for equal work regardless of gender, age, race or anything else”

At the start of the session, we were not resonating with this intention; at the end of the session, after identifying all of the different aspects and after doing the modality for change, we were resonating with closing the gender gap in pay around the world and everyone receiving equal pay for equal work regardless of gender, age, race or anything else. Beautiful!
You can listen to a recording of the session and also get a pdf document of the same by going to this write up at the World Peace Hologram website.

Here I want to write more about the healing modality that came up for the session. Through muscle testing we identified that the Hatha Yoga Lion Pose was needed, and at the end of the session it also came up as a positive action.
When a post session positive action comes up, it does so to embed the energy shift that has already taken place. In this case though what was most unusual was that it came up to repeat this every day until the end of the month – another twenty three days.

My thought about this was that the shift that was needed around the world through the many different cultural beliefs and norms was so enormous, that the energy needed to keep being amplified, one person at a time, all around the globe until we were all connected.

Can you imagine all of us connecting in this way ….

with the same positive action,

one highly visible easy to do pose?

 

It’s as if we have been given a gift to exercise our ability to take part in world wide change. Imagine if we all believed that quantum change were possible, perfectly easy and instantaneously possible.

I am smiling at the thought of all the Lions and all the Lionesses around the world sticking out their tongues, old and young, big and small, all glaring at each other, claws out, paws pointing, roaring and releasing all the anger and frustration of the centuries …. and then letting go of and allowing relaxation to take over ….. each muscle letting go, and a wave of relaxation starting from around the eyes and cheek bones, moving to the jaw, throat and neck and all the way through the shoulders, arms, hand and fingers …. ending with hands now relaxed and calmly resting on your knees, happy to be still and in a comfortable place.

What image comes into your mind when you see this intention being realised …. We close the gender gap in pay around the world. Everyone receives equal pay for equal work regardless of gender, age, race or anything else!!!

We know that thoughts, images, ideas and intentions create our reality.
Think and therefore it is.

Thank you for doing the Lion Pose with us 🙂

 Thank you for changing reality!

** If you would like to comment on how it felt to do the Lion Pose – join us at our Facebook Group called “Universal Resonance”. We’re hoping to collect comments and images from all over in that one place. If you’re inspired to share with friends, use hashtags on your personal facebook or twitter accounts – like #RRLionPose #WomensDay #RRIntentionNewPossibility

Change Your Life Through Handwriting


Developing good habits is the basis of personal growth and development. We all know that. We also know that handwriting tells volumes about who the writer is. Therefore, by developing the habit of writing in an empowering way, we have the power to shape our lives. When I heard about Vimala Rodgers’ kit, Transform Your Life Through Handwriting, the process seemed like a perfect way to communicate with my subconscious, and I immediately bought it.

Vimala recommends practicing forming letters in the new, empowering way daily. She confidently affirms that your life will experience miracles while using this program. Vimala states that each of the letters holds within them, a rich depth of spiritual essence. For each letter, she describes its nature and how to inscribe it.

The letter “O,” for example, “ generates compassion, kindness and understanding. To write it, start at the top and make a circle in a clockwise direction, uncluttered with no loops or hooks.” Keep it simple. Because we write from a left to right direction, the right is about the future and reaching out toward others. When we form the letter “O” in a counterclockwise direction, we are unconsciously looking in the direction of the past, toward the facts, with little consideration at how the listener might feel. When we inscribe the letter in a clockwise direction, we are better able to see the beauty, the truth, and the gifts that lie beyond the mere facts. I mention this letter in particular because as a teacher and a counselor, inscribing the letter “O” simply and in a clockwise direction has enabled me to more strongly love, to see clearly, and to truly understand those with whom I work.

How handwriting has helped me:

Vimala states that miracles will happen if one practices writing letters as she describes. It has been over 40 days since I have been practicing my Vimala Rodgers alphabet. I would like to tell you of my miracles. Maybe these miracles would have happened without this practice, but just the same, I plan to continue this practice. First of all, when I practice my handwriting, it seems as if my mind is expanding, and I feel happier. During these 40 days, I bought new clothes–bright, happy, comfortable clothes. I threw out clothing that did not suit me any more. I started wearing makeup daily. I began getting weekly massages. I became more serious about my food choices, avoiding wheat and dairy products. I consulted an interior designer and am in the process of updating my home and office furnishings.

In other words, my level of self-care has been amped up. People are telling me that I look pretty, they are treating me with higher respect. And–icing on the cake– a friend introduced me to a an attractive, interesting man.

How I have used handwriting with my clients:

Look at first letter of a client’s name: Vimala states that the first letter of one’s first name holds your greatest gift and greatest struggles. If a client is stuck, I have started noticing how the quality of the letter that person’s first name might assist them in some way. For example, as a speech pathologist, I was teaching smart, sensitive five-year-old Ally how to say the “S” sound. (The letter “A” has the quality of Spiritual stardom, transforming ego into Spirit.) After a halfhearted attempt, Ally said, “I can’t.” There was no convincing her otherwise. I paused, then changed the subject. I asked her, “Would you like to learn how to make a star “A?” The letter “A” is the only letter in the alphabet that can be made like a star. Your name starts with an “A,” so that makes you a star, too.” She was very interested in forming this star “A.” After tracing the letter “A” several times, we went back to attempting the “S” sound. Miracle: She could say it! Even bigger miracle: She temporarily lost the ability to say it, but she continued to practice this new way of saying “S.”

By practicing writing the letters ourselves, we make an effect on our clients. One day I was assigned to go new a school to do speech therapy for a new student. However, the teacher only wanted me to observe. I felt angry and felt I was prevented from making a difference in this child’s life. While at that school, observing that child, I remembered the energy of the letter “e” that is about tolerance, and its declaration of intent is “I may be wrong”–very powerful words! The energy of that letter softened my heart. I realized that I could benefit by simply observing this shy child. When I left, I gave the teacher suggestions as to how to support his improved speech. In hindsight, this child felt very insecure about his speech and would succeed more quickly by working with his familiar and loved teacher. Thank you letter “E!”

We can encourage clients to practice writing as homework. One of my clients was in a panic. Her husband wanted a divorce and her two best friends were near death. What could I do to support her through such horrendous experiences? I suggested that she buy Vimala’s handwriting kit. She bought that kit, and this is what she said about her experience after practicing the program for 40 days:

Overall, I’ve become much more calm and grounded, happy, stable, joyful and grateful, and reasonable. My mind is clearer, making my life clearer.

I’ve realized I am happy with or without J–I don’t have the desperate feeling (as much) of thinking of us not being together. My happiness depends on MYSELF. I realized I cannot to look to others for my own happiness.

Remember those lobster boats that used to start sometimes at 4:30 AM and run their engines for 8+ hours, making me want to jump out of my skin?? Well, so far this summer, it’s been at least half as much, and the noise doesn’t bother me nearly as much as it used to… give up the need to control, huh… I think this has been my biggest problem, and my 40 days of “M” ends on Thursday.

Yesterday I drove myself to the beach, alone, and walked on the sand. I can’t remember the last time I went alone–the parking lot there makes me nervous about needing to back up when I leave (it’s from the PTSD – fear of driving), and it was no problem for me.

On Friday, I got dressed in two different cute outfits and went out twice, alone, and actually enjoyed driving.“M” again–“I am at ease in all situations,” and I’ve been writing, “I am at ease driving.” Guess what?–(surprise, surprise!) I really was at ease.

This simple, inexpensive process can open the door to a happy life. I knew it would make a difference in my life as soon as I heard about it. If it resonates with you, I suggest you consider picking up your pen and start writing.

Additional information can be obtained from Vimala’s website or .

 

Sally Herr
Repatterning Journal Committee Chair &
Certified Practitioner Resonance Repatterning
Sally Herr is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, a Speech Language Practitioner, MA/CCC, and a Biodynamic CranioSacral Therapist (RCST).  She lives and works in Portland, Maine.  Her website is SallyHerr.com.

 

Seven Body n Mind Supplements


The body n mind dynamic works both ways.

If the body isn’t getting what it needs, then neither is the mind.

1.  Quality Multivitamins

 

Vitamin companies buy raw materials to produce their products so it is the quality of these raw materials that makes the difference between a good multivitamin and a bad one.

Some companies use deceptive marketing  and  mark up inferior products.  Also, some supplements do not contain what is on the label.   A recent paper was published on ten over-the-counter Vitamin D supplements.  None had the dose of vitamin D that was listed on the label!        

 

What to look for in your multivitamin:

  •  B12 should be in the form of “methylcobalamin” or “hydroxocobalamin.”   If it is “cyanocobalamin” you are wasting your money on an inferior form of B12.
  • Vitamin A should come from “mixed carotenoids” which is its natural form.
  • Vitamin E should come from “mixed tocopherols” or the 4 tocopherols should be listed as alpha, gamma, delta and beta. If it is only “alpha tocopherol” then you are actually harming your body and increasing your risk of heart attack and cancer.
  • Folic acid should be present as “folate” and not “folic acid.” If it says folic acid then you are significantly increasing your risk of cancer.
  •  Magnesium should be in the form of “glycinate.” Most multi’s use “oxide” which is the lowest quality form of magnesium and is not absorbed well.
  • B6 should be in the form of “pyridoxal-5-phosphate” which is the active form of B6.
  • Vitamin D should be in the form of “cholecalciferol” and not “ergocalciferol.”
  • Other minerals such as zinc, manganese, selenium, calcium etc. are best absorbed in a “chelated” form.

Dr. Nik Hedberg recommends the “Twice Daily Multi” from Designs for Health as a basic multivitamin. Companies like Designs For Health can guarantee that everything listed on the label is actually in the product in its fully bio-available form.

 

2. Fish Oil

Improved mood ( read body n mind…. and less depression), optimal fat-burning, increased energy, better brain function (most of the brain is made of DHA…yep body n mind again!), optimal hormone metabolism, proper immune system function and healthy detoxification.

Fish oil reduces inflammation in the body – so everything works better. Fish oil is important for optimal hormonal health. Hormones must communicate with your cells for specific functions in the body. Fish oil optimizes this communication so hormones like testosterone, estrogen, progesterone and thyroid hormone can work their magic. Hormone replacement should not be considered until essential fatty acid status is optimized

Fish oil contains essential fatty acids known as EPA & DHA.  These oils ensure there is a constant flow of nutrients, hormones, water, electrolytes, toxins etc. in and out of your cells. This flow determines how healthy you are.

Are all fish oils created equal?  Definitely not!  There are two forms of fish oil available today – triglyceride and ethyl ester forms. Most oils today are in the ethyl ester form is because the cost is less than the triglyceride form.

  • The ethyl-ester form is produced by heating fish oil under a vacuum and the fatty acids are bound to ethanol. This results in a “semi-synthetic” form of oil which is labeled “omega-3 fish oil concentrate.”
  • Triglycerides are the natural form of fats found in food sources. This form is less prone to oxidation. Triglyceride forms of fish oil are much better absorbed and do not require the same level of digestion in the body. The result is 50% higher plasma levels of EPA and DHA. Triglyceride forms of fish oil also last much longer than ethyl ester forms due to their resilience to oxidation.

Fish oil is a supplement you don’t want to be cheap about. Some fish oils contain toxic metals such as mercury and arsenic as well as environmental toxins. Be sure that you are taking the cleanest, purest form of fish oil available.

3. Iodine

Iodine can save your life!

Iodine is vital for the following processes in the body:  

Growth Use of Energy & Oxygen Heat Production (cold hands and feet anyone?)

Fertility (combined with vitamin D works like a charm)

The use of proteins, carbohydrates, fats, vitamins, electrolytes, and water

Immune system function in the intestine

 

Iodine can be beneficial in the following conditions:  

Hypothyroidism

Fibrocystic Breasts

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome

Goiter Breast Cancer

Thyroid Nodules

Prostate Health

Iodine is essential for the thyroid and other body tissues. The breast requires iodine to be healthy and women with fibrocystic breast disease have been shown to have low iodine.

Iodine enters the thyroid gland and combines with the amino acid tyrosine to make thyroid hormone. In order for iodine to enter the thyroid gland you must have a healthy transport mechanism which is optimized with vitamin C and magnesium. It has been shown that 3,000mg of vitamin C every day will repair the iodine transport mechanism.

Most Americans do not get enough iodine because it is no longer in our food. Iodized salt is not adequate because it does not provide the right type of iodine and it does not contain enough for optimal function. Additionally,  iodine is a powerful antioxidant which is vital for reducing inflammation in the whole body.

There are two forms of iodine that should be ingested:

1. Iodide – Iodide mainly travels into the thyroid gland to provide all of its benefits for your metabolism to make sure you are burning fat, producing heat etc.

2. Iodine – Molecular iodine mainly travels to the other tissues of the body such as the breast, ovaries and prostate gland.

Most of the supplements out there only have iodide which will only help the thyroid, but not the rest of the body.

Iodine should not be taken if you have autoimmune thyroid disease such as Hashimoto’s or Grave’s disease! Make sure that you know this before you begin supplementation because it can have devastating effects on the thyroid gland. You will find many, many websites on the internet telling you that iodine is good for autoimmune thyroid and this is tragic.

Dr. Nik Hedberg recommends a product known as Iosol which is a blend of iodide and iodine.

How much should you take? Each drop of Iosol contains 1.8mg of iodine and iodide. Begin taking 1 drop/day for a week, then increase to 2 drops/day for a week and then maintain at 3 drops/day.  

 

4. Magnesium

  • Magnesium is the 4th most abundant mineral in the body and is required for over 300 regulatory enzymes.
  • Magnesium is an important mineral for those with heart disease, diabetes, depression (yep, there’s that body n mind thing again, migraines, tension headaches, eclampsia and asthma.
  • Magnesium is involved in the metabolism of brain chemicals that affect your mood such as feeling depressed or anxious. It is required for muscle relaxation, bone metabolism, and optimal calcium levels which is important for bone health.
  • Magnesium has been shown by itself to increase bone density without calcium supplementation. Calcium directly competes with the absorption and therefore leads to magnesium deficiency. Magnesium actually blocks the uptake of calcium thus it’s name, “nature’s calcium channel blocker.”  Millions of women are told to take calcium for their bones (which by the way doesn’t do anything) only to deplete themselves of magnesium– which is much more important for bone health than calcium!
  • Magnesium is indirectly involved in every enzymatic reaction in the body because it is required for energy production.
  • Magnesium is required for carbohydrate, protein and fat-burning in the cell.
  • Virtually every hormone in your body requires magnesium to function properly.
  • Magnesium plays an important role in electrolyte balance. Nerves cannot fire efficiently and muscles cannot contract properly without magnesium.
In addition to calcium, birth control pills and hormone replacement also deplete the body of magnesium. Toxic metals such as lead and cadmium deplete the body of magnesium as well. Supplementing with magnesium will actually naturally remove these metals from the body and works just as well as intravenous EDTA-chelation therapy!

Magnesium deficiency has been shown:

  • to cause high blood pressure as well as contraction of the blood vessels that surround the heart and brain.
  • is directly related to the development of osteoporosis.
  • has been shown to be present in diseases such as fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. Magnesium deficiency in these patients is directly related to the muscle pain, muscle weakness, joint pain, fatigue, depression, brain dysfunction and inflammation they experience. Patients with both conditions have been shown to benefit from taking magnesium.

The best form of magnesium to take is magnesium salts in the form of glycinate. These are much better absorbed than the citrate or oxide forms and are better utilized by the body. Citrate is rapidly excreted by the kidney and oxide is not absorbed well at all. In fact, oxide is really only used to induce bowel movements in people with severe constipation.

A good rule of thumb for supplementation dose is 5mg per kg of bodyweight of every day. (150 lbs = 68kg. 68 X 5mg = 340mg daily.)

 

5.  Vitamin C

Our food supply contains very little Vitamin C because of premature food harvesting, artificial ripening and food processing. We are bombarded by environmental insults that increase our need for vitamin C. Prescription drugs, tobacco smoke, alcohol, industrial solvents, pesticides, petroleum products, carbon monoxide, lead, cadmium etc. all destroy vitamin C.

We should all supplement with vitamin C to build a biological barrier to protect our bodies.

Scientifically shown benefits of vitamin C:

• Improved blood vessel and cardiovascular integrity

• Enhances healthy hormone actions

• Promotes immune system health

• Enhances nitrous oxide functions

• Rebuilds the powerful antioxidant glutathione

• Promotes iron balance

• Reduces the accumulation of toxins

• Improves intestinal transit time

• Protects our DNA from damage

• Reduces toxic minerals in the body

•Enhances natural anti-cancer functions

• Rebuilds vitamin E and selenium

• Maintains the integrity of cartilage, bones and teeth

• Increases cellular resistance to many common viral infections

 

So how much Vitamin C do you need? The best way to learn your need of vitamin C is by doing an ascorbate calibration or “vitamin C flush.” Most of Dr. Hedberg’s patients require 2-10 grams per day based on their calibration. By saturating your body with vitamin C you will build a foundation to achieving optimal health

 6.  Vitamin D

When was the last time you had your vitamin D levels checked?  Vitamin D is not just a vitamin that is important for bone health and the prevention of rickets.

Vitamin D is a pro-hormone that is essential for:

  • Modulation of calcium metabolism
  • Cell growth
  • Cardiovascular dynamics
  • Immune/inflammatory balance
  • Neurologic function (yes, brain again)
  • Muscle weakness and pain
  • Insulin production
  • Blood pressure
  • Autoimmune diseases
  • Cancer
  • Adrenal function
  • Genetic expression

It is virtually impossible to get enough vitamin D through diet…even with cod liver oil supplementation. D3 is the naturally occurring form of vitamin D and can be obtained through high quality supplements. D2 is produced by irradiating fungi and is much less efficient as a precursor to the active form of vitamin D.

Dairy products are fortified with D2 providing a vastly inferior source. The amount of D2 put in dairy products is also extremely inadequate — which leads us to the question of how much is safe and effective.

Supplementation of 2,000-10,000 IU for adults is clinically safe since such doses are consistent with physiologic requirements as noted by the amount produced by sun exposure. Vitamin D levels must be measured first and a thorough evaluation by a licensed physician should be completed before beginning supplementation.

Dr. Hedberg’s new patients often bring in calcium/vitamin D combination products. These products usually have a grossly sub-optimal level of vitamin D.

Vitamin D supplementation has been scientifically shown to benefit the following conditions:

  • Cardiovascular disease
  •  Hypertension
  •  Type 2 diabetes
  •  Osteoarthritis
  •  Multiple sclerosis
  •  Prevention of type 1 diabetes
  •  Depression (Vitamin D is yet another body n mind supplement)
  •  Epilepsy
  •  Migraine headaches
  •  Polycystic ovary syndrome
  •  Musculoskeletal pain
  •  Autoimmune/inflammatory conditions such as lupus & rheumatoid arthritis
  •  Cancer prevention and treatment.

It is estimated that as many as 47,000 cancer deaths could be prevented each year in Americaif adequate vitamin D levels were attained.

It is extremely important to have your levels checked through a blood test as well as consistent monitoring of blood calcium levels. Vitamin K plays an essential role in vitamin D metabolism and is vital if you are taking vitamin D. Without sufficient vitamin K, the increased calcium in the blood from vitamin D intake can deposit in soft tissues and also make arteries less elastic.

I use a product that contains vitamin K along with the vitamin D. Vitamin D supplementation should also be accompanied by vitamin A because too much of one will create a deficiency in the other. Since vitamin D is fat-soluble, those individuals with gall bladder dysfunction or impaired fat digestion will not absorb it very well. Obesity can cause a 50% reduction in vitamin D levels even when supplementing with the same dose as a non-obese individual. Estrogen and progesterone are required for optimal vitamin D metabolism so menopausal women tend to have lower levels than others.

7.  Zinc

Zinc deficiency is rampant.  We only consume as low as 47% of the recommended daily intake of zinc.

More than a dozen studies show that zinc reduces the incidence and duration of the common cold due to its immune system supporting powers. Zinc actually directly inhibits the growth of cold-causing viruses. Zinc is involved in more body functions than any other mineral! It is estimated that zinc is involved in 10,000 enzymatic reactions in the body most of which involve the immune system and repair of body tissues.

Zinc is important for:

  • Chemical detoxification (important body n mind connection!)
  • Growth and development
  • Immune function
  • Sexual function
  • Production of white blood cells and it supports natural killer cells that fight infections Healing cannot take place without adequate zinc!
  • Metabolism of proteins, fats and carbohydrates
  • Brain function such as memory and learning –  every enzymatic reaction in the brain
  • Vision, taste and smell

Marginal zinc deficiency can lead to:

  • Diabetes
  • Prostate enlargement
  • Cataracts
  • Ulcers
  • Food allergies
  • Toxic metals accumulation
  • Osteoporosis
  • Infections
  • Decreased sense of taste and smell
  • Hearing impairments
  • Blood sugar imbalances
  • Night blindness
  • Heart disease
  • High blood pressure
  • High triglycerides

Zinc has been shown to be more effective than tetracycline for acne in teenagers. Zinc deficiency can be a contributing factor in other skin conditions as well including psoriasis, eczema, burns and wounds that heal slowly.

Zinc is a vital nutrient for sexual health. It works in virtually every aspect of male reproduction including sperm production, sperm motility and hormone metabolism. Men with low testosterone and low sperm counts are usually zinc deficient.  Men who supplement with zinc can reduce the size of the prostate and symptoms of benign prostatic hyperplasia. Frequent urination and urge to urinate diminishes with zinc supplementation.

Zinc deficiency in women can lead to premature births, low birth weight, delivery problems, growth retardation, spontaneous abortion and toxemia. Zinc deficiency can result in the destruction of nerve cells leading to the formation of plaque tangles found in Alzheimer’s Disease.  When Alzheimer’s patients were given zinc supplements they showed improvement in memory, communication, understanding and social contact. (All of these are important body n mind anti-depression factors.)

How do you know if you need zinc? Dr. Hedberg does a test called a zinc challenge test which is done with liquid containing zinc. If you can taste the metallic flavor that zinc has then you don’t need to supplement. If you can’t taste anything then you are most likely deficient in zinc.

Dr. Hedberg cautions, “When you supplement with zinc be sure your multi contains copper.”

Laura Frisbie

 

http://www.beat-depression-naturally.com

RPA Journal Committee Member
RPA Board Secretary
Dr Nik Hedberg

****I first saw this information in a free e-course from Dr. Hedberg and felt it was important  enough to share.  Perhaps you’d like to share this with your clients?   This is a highly condensed version, see the original version here –  http://drhedberg.com/ Dr. Nikolas R. Hedberg, D.C., D.A.B.C.I.