Anything can be resolved in communication. Withholding communication or not speaking your truth may show up in your body, affect your clarity of mind, shape your emotional well-being, and impact your spiritual connection. Taking responsibility and letting other people know what is really going on with you can resolve conflict, deepen intimacy and closeness, and free you to be truly connected with others.
Honoring yourself, speaking your truth, and expressing your natural way of being includes asking powerfully for what you need, voicing your wants, desires, and longings, letting others know what you will and will not do, and honestly answering yes or no when others ask you to do something.
One very powerful communication principle is to take responsibility—in the moment—for how you perceive challenging situations. It’s not always easy when you’re emotionally activated to take ownership for your attitude, words, and actions—however, doing so can deepen your relationship with others.
An effective method I have used to express responsibility in my communication is what I call a do-over.
One day my late beloved Bernie walked through the door right after I had a frustrating conversation with the phone company. I was very angry and snapped at him as he came in the door. I immediately knew that was not how I wanted to greet him, and he didn’t deserve that. So, I paused and took a deep breath and said, “I am so sorry for blasting you when you came in. I am really glad you are here. Can we have a do over? If you could please go back outside and return in about two minutes, I will greet you from the love I have for you in my heart.” He answered, “Sure.” He left, came back in and said, “Hi, honey, how are you doing?” I replied, “Hi, honey, it’s great to see you. Actually, I just got off the phone with the phone company and I am very angry right now. I need a few more minutes to cool off so I can get back to normal and really be with you.” He responded, “Okay, no problem; if you want my input about the phone company, I’d be glad to help you.” I said, “Thanks.” I took five minutes and when I came out, I was able to listen to his perspective, it turned out to be one I could embrace and apply. The rest of my time with Bernie that evening was delicious and delightful. The icing on the cake was getting a different response the following day when I called the phone company back. Coming from my heart instead of my head made a noticeable difference.
This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with fears you may have regarding speaking your truth, asking powerfully for what you need, as well as, voicing your wants, desires, and longings. It also releases generational beliefs and unconscious conclusions and patterns that keep you from letting others know what you will and will not do, and honestly answering yes or no when others ask you to do something. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results
May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!
Victoria Benoit, M.C.