How do you feel about elections and voting? For many it can be a gut wrenching time, filled with family feuds or arguments, or becomes a topic to be avoided in polite company. Our family values and expectations at election time, may cause a huge inner conflict at the voting poll that spirals our energy downward. As a result, we may grow in disdain for these democratic events and rights. Thinking about it from an energy perspective may help us to resolve our issues and vote with a coherent attitude that makes a difference to our energy system and ultimately to the country.
The nature of democracy and voting is that everyone is entitled to vote from their conscience with the respect of society for doing so. Of course, we may find democracy works very well for us, when our whole family system votes the same way because we have a shared sense of values, vision for our country, and a shared perspective of how things are to work. Our shared understanding may forge an unspoken rule for the consciousness of our group whether it is a family, a small community or other shared interest group–a rule that says “we” vote a particular way for a particular candidate. If we are personally in agreement with how our group votes, our field of energy expands with civic pride for having voted, and we may even experience great joy and delight when our chosen candidate wins.
However, life is constantly in motion and everyone changes and grows including groups, political parties and their candidates. It may be difficult to sustain our coherence when as individuals we come to a realization that the candidate endorsed by our group no longer meets our personal expectations or values. We may feel uncomfortable making a different choice or voicing our opinions aloud. It may be very difficult for us to exercise our freedom to vote from our conscience, feeling guilty for opposing the unspoken rule of our group for how to vote. As a result, we may no longer resonate with voting, freedom, democracy and either avoid voting altogether, or place for our vote with great reluctance or other diminished feelings. The mere discussion of politics may break out in non-coherent arguments and physical rage if the rule broken with a contrary vote is very important to the group. What we are feeling is the systemic guilt that is generated by opposing our groups rules.
In the set of repatterning’s from Magui Block’s “Healing The Family System,” feeling guilty when we have done something wrong is normal and helps us to compensate for something wrong that we have done. Neurotic guilt, according to Magui, is a sensation of anxiety that covers up an emotion, such as repressed anger. It does not lead us toward growth or responsibility. However, systemic guilt is the guilt we feel when our family has voted one way for generations, but own research and consideration leads us to vote in an opposite way. When our vote is different from that of our group, we may feel that it separates us from the group, and maybe we are afraid we no longer belong. We may perceive ourselves as ‘bad’ or unacceptable. These are very powerful feelings. The systemic guilt generated may be so strong that, in fact, we abandon our choice to vote in a different way and choose instead to vote in a way that supports the group or we don’t vote at all. The energetic benefits to be reaped from exercising our right to vote is lost.
If you find yourself voting against the rules of your group, whether for an election or by breaking any other rule that defines them, you are testing the limits for growth of the group. While we may feel systemic guilt in the short run, if our choice is based on growth, we will transform by breaking the rules. Chances are the group will grow as well, because our choices caused them to consider new information. Our choice for growth will be good for us personally and, in the long run, for the group as well–even if we are in opposition. The price we pay for growth and, for that matter, democracy is the hard choice of voting from our hearts, especially when our choices contradict popular opinion.
Of course, making a decision for ourselves that is contrary to our family or group and doing so with confidence and clarity is much easier if we have the coherence to do so. Resonance Repatterning practitioners using the Repatternings such as “Peace Repatterning” or “Systemic Loyalties Repatterning” from Healing the Family System can help anyone clear these issues and vote with energy that spirals upward.
The nature of democracy is growth and freedom. Addressing any patterns that are triggered within us will contribute to a deep sense of civic pride and to a stronger community and country.
With love and light,
Carolyn is a past president and a long time volunteer with the Repatterning Practitioners Association. She is a Holographic Coach at http://www.LightTravels.com providing personal sessions and unique online long distance sessions. She uses the Healing the Family Systems Repatternings in her popular Ancestral Echoes online group repatterning sessions. Recently, she has taken on the role of Seminar Online Coordinator at www.Ozardis.com
One thought on “Perspectives On Family Patterns Triggered by an Election”
I know what you mean. Talking about who you voted for can be added to the socially accepted taboo topics like sex, money and religion. When a family member asked who I voted for and I told her, she got very reactive. I held my own and said we’ll need to agree to disagree and the subject was dropped. I did have a sense of pride, freedom and growth.