What Would Love Do Right Now in Opening Your Heart?

Opening your heart fully may require courage to release resentment, animosity, or guilt associated with the past. It’s really about accepting your humanity and the humanity of others.

Forgiveness

Freeing yourself from resentment and animosity toward others may be accomplished through forgiveness. There are many interpretations of what it is to forgive another.

My aha moment came when I read Doreen Virtue’s Forgiveness card. I realized that forgiving someone doesn’t mean what they did is okay, it simply means I’m no longer willing to hold onto any negative feelings in response to what happened—I don’t have to forgive the action, just the person, to be at peace.

In the PragerU.com video on forgiveness, Stephen Marmar explains that forgiveness is a very complex concept. He reviews three types of forgiveness: exoneration, forbearance, and release.

Exoneration is when a person is truly sorry for hurting you and takes full responsibility (without excuses) for what they did, as well as assures you that they will not do it again—it wipes the slate entirely clean and restores the relationship.

Forbearance is when an offender makes an inauthentic apology, or blames you somehow for causing them to behave badly. It leaves you with a degree of watchfulness yet cautiously optimistic, like forgive but not forget or trust but verify, and allows you to preserve relationships with people who, while far from perfect, are still important to you.

Release is critically important for your well-being: it allows you to let go of what’s weighing you down and eating away at your chance for happiness. It does not require that you continue the relationship, but like Doreen Virtue’s concept, it asks that you let go of your bad feelings and preoccupation with the negative things that have happened to you.

Stephen Marmar concludes with, “To forgive may be divine, but when we understand its dimensions, we find that it is within our ability to do it.”

If you need an apology to forgive someone you’re unable to locate, or who is deceased, write a letter from them to you and mail it to yourself. When you read it a few days later, imagine it’s coming from the other person, allow yourself to receive the apology, and forgive them.

Forgiveness Specific to Child Abuse

Child abuse is one of the most difficult experiences to resolve, release, and heal. Some people assume the guilt and try, for many years, to forgive their abuser(s) without success, while others are determined not to forgive and are left living with the ongoing shame, pain, and hate without relief.

According to Bert Hellinger’s philosophy of forgiveness—relative to children who have been psychologically, physically, or sexually abused—if a child forgives the abuser, in addition to the abuse the child suffered, the child will assume the guilt and responsibility for the abuser’s behavior. Therefore, he insists that the child must not forgive the abuser. Based on Hellinger’s philosophy, Magui Block’s book, Healing the Family, presents a process through which abused children can heal themselves from the pain they’ve endured by giving the guilt and responsibility for the abusive behavior back to the abuser.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with any unhealed parts of yourself that would keep you from forgiving yourself and/or others. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit

Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life    

You Are Love

What is Love?

There are many types of love: love of self, love of your work, love of your parents who gave you life, love of your friends, love of your children, and love of your pets. Then there is romantic love, love of country, and love of God. Each has a different meaning and unique experience. Throughout history, many have attempted to define love. There are biological theories, cultural theories, and psychological theories about various types and styles of love. You name it and someone has written about it. I believe the word love can be used in the process of transforming many areas of your life.

The love I’m speaking about is a heart-centered love—the primal essence of love that permeates all life. It is moving from your head to your heart, surrendering your ego and moving into compassion, understanding, and a deep sense of caring. Asking yourself, “What would love do right now?” from this place, allows you to be more loving in all your interactions.

When two lovers are making love, looking into one another’s eyes and relishing the moment of bliss, they are sharing their experience together so completely that for them nothing else is happening in the entire world. They are engaging in the primal essence of love, shutting out the outer world— nothing intrudes. They are being present in the moment.

I hope you’ve had this experience. If not, maybe you’ve experienced the pure essence of love with a puppy or a newborn baby. This is unconditional love at its finest.

Now that you know the type of love I’m talking about, are you ready to experience it again, or for the very first time? It’s really a choice. However, if you have unhealed incidents from the past, it may not feel like you have a choice. This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method was developed by Chloe faith Wordsworth, and has been my saving grace since 1989. It releases the resonance with any unhealed parts of yourself that would keep you from experiencing the unconditional love of which I am speaking. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

You Are Love

Knowing that you ARE love can change the course of your life forever. You can never separate yourself from love—ever! Nevertheless, it may seem as though you’re separate. It is time to awaken to the love you are—to universal love, the primal essence of love that permeates all life.

Sometimes we feel like love is missing and we look to others to provide it. Actually, look no further, you have everything you need—you are love.

What would life be like if you were to wake up and love governed all of your actions and decisions? What would you do, as love? You might start your day by looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you.” Perhaps you would meditate or journal in a sacred space. As love, you could jog, walk, or tend your garden in the morning sunlight. You might take some time to go to breakfast with friends or pick up chocolate-covered donuts on the way to work. When you bring the love you are—to all areas of your life throughout your day—love is what you will experience moment by moment.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.                                                                                                          Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

“Loving Order Shines Amidst the Chaos” from the NUN KARMA REPATTERNING

What would it be like to watch a massive tsunami push away everything you’ve known and loved—your home, neighborhood, car, even friends and family members who will never return? Where do you find the courage to start over when you have nothing left?

Sometimes art and poetry show the way.

When I went to the Martha’s Vineyard Film Festival this spring, I came away feeling overwhelmed by powerful stories of school bullying, opioid addiction in the military, environmental threats, how to start a revolution, and other topics that a young generation of filmmakers did not hesitate to present with brilliant, in-your-face clarity.

By the time The Tsunami and The Cherry Blossom was screened, I was barely able to absorb its sounds and colors. But out of the chaos of all those images, this movie has stayed with me like a quiet beacon.

The documentary by filmmaker Lucy Walker is described as “a stunning visual poem about the ephemeral nature of life and the healing power of Japan’s most beloved flower,” the cherry blossom.


It seems that, just when life seemed most desperate for the survivors in northern Japan, cherry blossom season began. All over the hardest hit areas, pink and white blossoms appeared to create whole and perfect webs of hope. Their stunning beauty helped survivors revive and rebuild their lives.

Isn’t this how coherence helps us thrive through chaos?

When I lived through the 1994 Category 5 hurricane and tornadoes in St. Thomas, the day after was like walking across some kind of tragic alien landscape. So many buildings destroyed; even steel girders twisted and tossed about. Trees lay akimbo.

All the lush tropical foliage had been stripped from its hold on trees and bushes, and whipped into a fetid green slime that coated everything.

But what I remember most is how quickly and insistently nature began to restore itself. Fresh sprouts of green and flowering buds poked up within weeks, even days, creating their own kind of visual poetry.

I remember how those signs of an inherently coherent Nature, even after the storm’s chaos, lifted my heart and gave me hope.

Gail Glanville

 

Gail Glanville Is a member of the RPA Hall of Fame and former Managing Director of the Resonance Repatterning Institute. She provides Repatterning sessions by phone and also teaches holistic marketing to practitioners. She is the editor of the Nun Karma Repatterning and author of the Food Repatterning manual.

 You can reach Gail at

Book Review: Fractal Time – The Secret of 2012 and a New World Age, by Gregg Braden

Reviewed by Nancy Martin

“This book is dedicated to our discovery of time as the language of our past, the map to our future, and the world to come.” December 21, 2012, the winter solstice, is identified by the Mayan calendar as the end of a world age, the cycle that began this 5th world age in 3114 B.C. (1,800 years before the time of Moses and the biblical exodus), which is approximately 5,125 years ago. Comparisons of world-age references include traditions of the Hopi, Ancient India  (the Vedas first written in 1500 B.C.), Aztec and Maya. Oral transmission of the stories probably went back thousands of years before the literature.

Four generations experienced the end of a world-age and survived changes in global magnetic fields and climate, diminishing resources and rising sea levels, for the end of one world age is the beginning of the next. Completing the cycle is necessary before the next can start, which means experiencing the greatest distance in our orbit from the core of our home galaxy, the Milky Way.

Emotional/spiritual effects are evident, as well as the physical changes, in the sense of a loss of connection–separate and lost. The farther we go from the source of such powerful energy the deeper we go in darkness, leading our ancestors to chaos, war, greed and destruction. The dominant theme in that period of greatest darkness at the end of a world age is discord, contention and quarrel. In spite of the fears of such negative outcomes, our ancestors also had an awareness of abundant peace, love, healing, and compassion at the same time.

Now technology and understanding the need affords us new choices, the realm of all possibilities where we can shape our future. Earth and our solar system move into alignment, passing an imaginary line that defines the top of our galaxy and the bottom as the equator defines the Northern hemisphere and the Southern hemisphere, with the mysterious source of energy at the heart of the Milky Way. The winter solstice 2012 is the center of the transition zone, beginning well before and after 12/21, involving possibly years on each side. This alignment was predicted by the Mayans to repeat in another 26,000 years and represents moving through the 12 familiar zodiac signs/constellations, forming a circle of 360˚.

We need to update our time concepts. The ancient traditions saw time as an ongoing dance of cycles, waves of energy pulsing across the universe, incorporating repeats of patterns over a wide scope of dimensions—fractals–that carry the conditions of the past, but with greater intensity, into our future. Albert Einstein introduced us to the unity of time and space, which he called space-time, and that events of everyday life on all levels–peace, war, the cosmos, the economy, personal relationships and civilizations–happen within it. The fractal interplay between planets, galaxies and our personal lives relates to the ancient axiom, “As above, so below.”

Cycles abound in nature and vary in magnitude—from the smallest pattern of subatomic particles to galaxies–in increasing nests of cycles. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Our life is an apprenticeship to the truth that around every circle another can be drawn; that there is no end in nature, but every end is a beginning.”

What happens within cycles is seen as a place in the cycle, a seed event. It’s the repeat of conditions that make a particular outcome possible, depending on the choices we make in life. Knowing where we are in the cycle, we know what to expect when it repeats.

This relates not only to cosmological changes but also to worldwide conflicts and the personal events in one’s life. Braden has developed a Time Code Calculator that shows us what to expect in all of the above. Through current technology we can anticipate the cyclical changes and a choice point that allows us to select a new outcome for the returning pattern of conditions. The key is understanding Phi/phi, described as 1.618/ .618, the golden ratio, which is repeated in infinity in nature and often in architecture. Fibonacci discovered during the early 14th century the sequence of  numbers that create the golden ratio, namely adding the last two numbers that expand a spiral or dividing the number that immediately precedes it. Spirals seem to be the pattern for much of the universe.

Beauty in our world is represented by this ratio—proportions of the human body, the pattern of seeds in a sunflower, the structure of elegant Grecian temples, arms of the Milky Way galaxy. It also applies to brain states of consciousness and proportions of DNA.

Not only cycles of growth and proportion are evident in the golden ratio but also in the timing and separation of occurrences in a person’s life. The only way we relate to time is through our experiences of events within it. Time and events can’t be separated. Now we have moved beyond classical Newtonian physics to quantum physics where we conceptualize zones of energy described as probabilities.

The Hopi language is the same for describing what is and what has happened. For them “is” refers to a quantum possibility that became manifest. Einstein said, “This past, present and future is only an illusion.” However, the “problem of time” is approached through  the theory that space-time has the form of a wave., something that moves in a special way and follows a special path—that of a spiral with the effect called a torsion field. These spirals of space-time are key to nature’s code.

Now the convergence of so many cycles  present an optimum time to commence new patterns of growth. In our personal lives this is an opportunity to release beliefs that have caused pain emotionally and physically and to embrace new life-affirming beliefs in their place. Opt for cooperation instead of competition for our world. “A change in the way we feel about ourselves and our world has the potential to affect the world itself.” Through the silent language of the heart we can harmonize our bodies with the life-sustaining fields of the earth; achieving global coherence can affect the quality of the common field that connects us. Conditions may repeat but the events don’t have to. We have a choice!

How One Psychotherapist Utilizes Resonance Repatterning With Clients In A Private Practice

As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker I am a fully qualified mental health practitioner with the immense good fortune to live my professional life assisting others in their efforts to become their most expanded selves.

On a day to day basis I witness subtle and not so subtle evidence of change in my clients as they relax into new awareness.

I notice the changes in how they are holding themselves in their bodies, in the freed –up expressiveness of their faces, in the very color of their skin tone and circulation as they embrace new coherence in their body-mind systems.

I am blessed to have the right tools at the right time to facilitate the changes. The most comprehensive tool in my toolbox is all that Resonance Repatterning has to offer.

Our colleague Dr. Shirley Lanyi wrote an article in the August, 2010 RPA Journal Thoughts On The Resonance Repatterning Practitioner-Client Process which focuses on the healing relationship. She explores the connection and necessary conditions for an effective therapeutic alliance.

She states

“In conclusion,…. We are part of our clients’ process. Our ability to act with loving kindness, on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual planes, via our responses and reactions, conscious and unconscious, facilitates our clients’ process, healing and growth, as well as our own.”

This will always be the most important aspect of any practitioners work. What we do is secondary to how it is done, who we are, and what we bring to the therapeutic partnership.

That being said, I’d like to share some applications of Resonance Repatterning in a psychotherapeutic practice.

Naturally, one application is to use the whole process intact with some clients. This allows a practitioner, via muscle checking for what is needed, to access what the specific client needs from the full resources of the system.

We could fill volumes of successful interventions in this category!

Most interesting is the fact that many strategies would be impossible without Resonance Repatterning. For example, one of my clients adopted a newborn child several years ago. With the adoptive mother muscle checking by proxy for the infant, and with a visible sign of permission from the infant when asked out loud, we proceeded to do a series of in person repatternings to deal head on with the infant’s separation from the birth mother.

As the child grew older, repatternings were done to handle other life issues and the child would ask for a session when he felt it was something that he needed.

Clearly even a non- traditional psychotherapy practice would not have been able to embrace this kind of preventative work.

While working with psychotherapy clients several aspects of the Resonance Repatterning system are utilized routinely.

In establishing the framework of the therapeutic alliance verbally and non-verbally there is emphasis on the fact that the person intrinsically has the keys to attain their own sense of well being and wholeness. My job is to assist them in accessing their own wisdom. Although I can provide a safe container for exploration and I can participate as a team member towards the achievement of their goals, I can neither do the work for them nor can I dictate what needs to be done.

Again, this view of a therapeutic partnership is key to the foundation in the Resonance Repatterning client-practitioner endeavor.

Even before introducing the concept of muscle checking with a psychotherapy client, throughout sessions there is the routine use of pauses, nose breathing and simple grounding modalities. As sessions continue, muscle checking for the client’s needs can be incorporated into the psychotherapy session.

With this essential tool accessed, stress reduction and counter-anxiety modalities can be taught to the client according to exactly what that person’s system dictates. Additionally, a session can not only begin with the social work cardinal rule of starting where the client is, but the verbal explorations in a session can be viewed with the perspectives of Problems and Opportunities.

Once we begin using the context of Problems and Opportunities for discussion, statements are written and can be energetically cleared with a modality, if appropriate, so that the psychotherapy session often incorporates profound energetic shifts of material brought to the discussion.

The result is that clients frequently leave their psychotherapy session feeling empowered, ready to integrate changes made and eager to uncover more material in their next session. This is in contrast to the situation that frequently occurs in psychotherapy when the client finally gets to the real “meat” and primary issue of a session just before they need to walk out the door.

These “doorknob revelations” leave the client feeling frustrated and thwarted, like they are on the edge of discovering something great that may be easily lost in transit.

Although toleration of frustration and respect for the boundaries that time limitations impose may be important elements in developing the emotional resiliency necessary for wholeness, when this is added frequently to the mix of the psychotherapy client’s experience of raw vulnerability it may destroy the motivation to continue the process.

As with all things in life, balance is essential. Using muscle checking to determine what is best as dictated by a person’s higher self is a way to grow optimal well-being not only for the Resonance Repatterning client, but for the psychotherapy client as well.

 

 

 

 

Meryl Chodosh-Weiss is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice in New York City. She is the leader of the ongoing NYC Practitioner Skills Development Group,  an RPA Designated Observer,  a member of the RPA Hall of Fame,  a former member – past Chair of the RPA Certification Board and a former Resonance Repatterning teacher.

You can reach Meryl at

Email:  meryl@beyourbliss.info
Phone: 212-628-8260
Web Site:  www.www.beyourbliss.info
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