Living An Artful Life

The act of creating art and the journey of healing emotional insecurity may, at a glance, appear to belong to different spheres of human experience—one grounded in the external world of form and color, the other in the unseen landscapes of the heart and mind.

Yet, upon closer inspection, I have noticed remarkable similarities in the principles that guide both endeavors. The artist’s studio and the sanctuary of self-reflection are not so far apart. Through years of painting alongside my personal exploration of emotional wounds, I have found that these two paths share similar principles. This article explores the primal forces that parallel the creative process with the inner work of healing insecurity, offering insights for artists and seekers alike.

The Courage to Begin

Every blank canvas is an invitation to vulnerability. The first stroke is a leap into the unknown, much like confronting the roots of insecurity. Both artistic creation and emotional healing demand a willingness to start, despite uncertainty, fear of judgment, or the possibility of failure.

To be an artist is to embrace not knowing—to trust that meaning will emerge from the act of doing. Healing, too, asks us to begin without a guarantee of outcome, to step into our pain with the hope that understanding and transformation will follow. In both endeavors, stagnation is often the greatest enemy, and movement—however tentative—is the doorway to growth.

Embracing Imperfection

Artists soon learn that perfection is an illusion. A painting gains life through its unexpected textures, its happy accidents, and the marks that were once considered mistakes. Similarly, healing emotional insecurity requires letting go of the myth of flawlessness, both in ourselves and in our process.

Self-acceptance blooms in the soil of imperfection. The brush that trembles, the line that wavers, the feeling that overwhelms—all become part of a sacred whole. When I allow myself the grace to fail on the canvas, I practice the same compassion that soothes my inner critic. In both art and healing, progress is measured not by flawlessness, but by the richness of experience and the authenticity of the journey.

Patience and Perseverance

Great works of art are rarely born in a single sitting. They emerge layer by layer, each addition a conversation with what has come before. The process of healing emotional insecurity is similarly incremental; old patterns rarely dissolve overnight.

There are days when the colors muddy and nothing looks right. There are moments in healing when old insecurities resurface and progress seems to vanish. Yet if we persist—if we return, again and again, to the work—transformation takes root. The artist’s patience, the healer’s perseverance: both are acts of faith in something yet unseen.

The Dance Between Control and Surrender

Creating art is a delicate balance between intention and letting go. There is a vision, surely, but also the wisdom to allow the piece to evolve beyond what was imagined. In the same way, healing emotional insecurity involves both conscious effort and a willingness to surrender—trusting the deeper currents of the psyche to guide us where logic cannot.

I have learned, both with brush in hand and heart open, that holding too tightly stifles growth. Real beauty and healing often arise in the spaces where I relinquish control and listen for what wants to emerge. Allowing the process to unfold, rather than forcing an outcome, is a principle that nourishes both artist and seeker.

Witnessing and Expression

Art is, at its core, a form of witnessing—the artist observes the world, internalizes it, and returns it transformed. Similarly, healing emotional insecurity is facilitated by the act of witnessing our own pain without judgment. Expression is the bridge between the inner and outer world.

Journaling, music, movement, or painting: all are ways to give voice to what is within. When I create, I am both observing and being observed—a duality that mirrors the healing process. The more honestly I express myself, the more space I create for understanding and acceptance, both from myself and from others.

Community and Connection

Though art can be a solitary pursuit, it thrives in community. Feedback, support, and shared inspiration enrich the artist’s journey. Healing, too, accelerates in the presence of empathetic witnesses—therapists, friends, or loved ones who listen and encourage.

Both artists and those healing from insecurity benefit from connection. When I share my work or my truth, I make myself vulnerable, yet I also invite resonance. I have found that the courage to reveal my inner world—on canvas or in conversation—diminishes shame and fosters belonging.

Reframing Failure

In both art and healing, what appears as failure is often a doorway to something deeper. The piece that doesn’t work out, the relapse into old insecurity, the frustration with progress—these, too, are part of the process.

I have learned to reframe these moments, to see them as information rather than judgment. What isn’t working can guide me toward what might. Each setback becomes a lesson, each imperfection a stepping stone. This mindset shift is transformative, allowing both the artist and the healer to approach challenges with curiosity rather than self-reproach.

Discovering Identity

Art is a journey of self-discovery. Each creation reveals something about its maker. As I paint, I discover not only what I can do, but who I am. Healing emotional insecurity is, at its heart, a reclaiming of identity—a gentle unveiling of the self obscured by doubt and fear.

Both processes ask: Who am I, beyond the roles or expectations imposed by others? What do I truly feel, believe, desire? In seeking answers, I have found that authenticity in art fosters authenticity in life, and vice versa.

Celebrating Progress

Both the artist and the person healing must learn to celebrate small victories: a breakthrough in technique, a moment of self-compassion, the courage to share a piece or speak a vulnerable truth. Progress is not always linear or dramatic, but it deserves recognition.

I make time to look back at early sketches, to notice the distance I’ve traveled. In healing, I reflect on moments when I responded differently or felt more secure. Acknowledging growth sustains motivation and reinforces the possibility of continued transformation.

Conclusion: The Art of Becoming Whole

The parallels between being an artist and healing emotional insecurity are woven through every stage of the journey. Both require courage, patience, acceptance, community, and a willingness to embrace the unknown. Both are acts of creation—one of external form, the other of internal wholeness.

In honoring these shared principles, I have come to see my art and my healing not as separate paths, but as reflections of the same longing: to know myself, to express my truth, and to become whole. Whether with brush or with breath, with color or with compassion, I continue the work—one mark, one moment, at a time.

If you, too, walk these twin paths, may you find solace in their harmony and strength in their shared wisdom. The masterpiece of your life, like any work of art, is created through steady hands, an open heart, and a willingness to begin anew.

WE ARE ONE

We are one, and yet…
How is it we do not know it?
Where is the unity?
Where is compassion?
Where is understanding, acceptance and love?
And most importantly of all, what are we without them?

We reject each other
We reject ourselves
We reject our body parts, our thoughts, our emotions
We reject who we are, but where does that get us?

We are so much more than our limitations
We are light
We are bliss
We are love and unity

Let’s let go of our destructive patterns
Let’s leave behind separation and judgement
For we are one,
And we are strong,
And we are powerful,
United

 –Sophia Avramides, Resonance Repatterning Certified Practitioner

You Are Love

What is Love?

There are many types of love: love of self, love of your work, love of your parents who gave you life, love of your friends, love of your children, and love of your pets. Then there is romantic love, love of country, and love of God. Each has a different meaning and unique experience. Throughout history, many have attempted to define love. There are biological theories, cultural theories, and psychological theories about various types and styles of love. You name it and someone has written about it. I believe the word love can be used in the process of transforming many areas of your life.

The love I’m speaking about is a heart-centered love—the primal essence of love that permeates all life. It is moving from your head to your heart, surrendering your ego and moving into compassion, understanding, and a deep sense of caring. Asking yourself, “What would love do right now?” from this place, allows you to be more loving in all your interactions.

When two lovers are making love, looking into one another’s eyes and relishing the moment of bliss, they are sharing their experience together so completely that for them nothing else is happening in the entire world. They are engaging in the primal essence of love, shutting out the outer world— nothing intrudes. They are being present in the moment.

I hope you’ve had this experience. If not, maybe you’ve experienced the pure essence of love with a puppy or a newborn baby. This is unconditional love at its finest.

Now that you know the type of love I’m talking about, are you ready to experience it again, or for the very first time? It’s really a choice. However, if you have unhealed incidents from the past, it may not feel like you have a choice. This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method was developed by Chloe faith Wordsworth, and has been my saving grace since 1989. It releases the resonance with any unhealed parts of yourself that would keep you from experiencing the unconditional love of which I am speaking. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

You Are Love

Knowing that you ARE love can change the course of your life forever. You can never separate yourself from love—ever! Nevertheless, it may seem as though you’re separate. It is time to awaken to the love you are—to universal love, the primal essence of love that permeates all life.

Sometimes we feel like love is missing and we look to others to provide it. Actually, look no further, you have everything you need—you are love.

What would life be like if you were to wake up and love governed all of your actions and decisions? What would you do, as love? You might start your day by looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you.” Perhaps you would meditate or journal in a sacred space. As love, you could jog, walk, or tend your garden in the morning sunlight. You might take some time to go to breakfast with friends or pick up chocolate-covered donuts on the way to work. When you bring the love you are—to all areas of your life throughout your day—love is what you will experience moment by moment.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.                                                                                                          Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

Be the Change

Change is inevitable! It is the only thing constant in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life. One way you can embrace the changes, which are occurring in your life, is by acknowledging your part in the change.

One Friday afternoon, a woman, who hated her job and wanted out, manifested the job of her dreams after a Resonance Repatterning® session. In the session, she admitted that she really wanted a more rewarding job, but was procrastinating. We identified the unconscious pattern that was holding her back and shifted her resonance to deserving a much better, higher-paying, creative position that showcased her unique gifts and talents.

Lo and behold, when she went to work the following Monday morning, she was summoned to her boss’s office and promptly fired. She called me very irate and blamed me for her getting fired. I encouraged her to look at how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance. I reminded her of how she had been procrastinating about finding a better job and could now embrace and be grateful for the opportunity to create the job of her dreams. . .and so she did!

While change is inevitable, it can also be emotional, especially when your partner moves on from what you thought was a committed relationship. Rather than engaging in finding fault and placing blame, simply be willing to accept what is so about the situation. Life is too short to resist change and perceive it as “it shouldn’t be this way.” The sooner you stop judging and assessing what was good from what was bad, and who was right from who was wrong, the quicker you will be empowered and experience inner peace. By embracing change and granting yourself the grace to let your partner go, you will have more energy to move forward with ease, grounded in the fact that from what you learned in this relationship, you will be able to attract an even better partner who wants to be with you.

The quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world,” profoundly transformed the relationship I had with my father. After having four children, my mother and father divorced. He remarried and started a new family. On the rare occasions that we talked, it seemed that he just reported how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many of those memorable activities. I found myself becoming more and more envious.

I noticed that what was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledging me for being a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for the difference I was making in the lives of my clients. These were things he had never told me before.

It’s true, by being the change you want to see in the world — providing the very thing you think is missing in your relationships — you too can experience what your heart desires, just as I did. In the very giving of it, my father gave back to me genuine love and acknowledgement. It was quite remarkable.

So, be the change, embrace the change, expect the change and you too can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire — a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion, and fulfillment.

Lovingly Submitted,
Victoria Benoit, M.C.
Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author – What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life

 

A New Year – A New You

Reinventing ourselves comes from within. It does help to have a planetary shift similar the one we had on the winter solstice December 21, 2012 which coincided with the end of the Mayan calendar. 2018 was all about building and laying down a new foundation. The upcoming planetary shift in 2019 is all about making things tangible and material, so if you have a goal or dream, this will be the year to start making steps to transform your dream into reality.

What I found necessary was to reclaim the parts of myself that I had lost, given away, or given up on. I suggest you do the same. The Fusion Modality in the Resonance Repatterning® method retrieves this lost quality. It will free you to be more authentically who YOU are out in the world.

In a workshop called, Owning My Purpose, one of the exercises we did was to inquire about what we did, or how we survived our family dynamics growing up. One of the things I discovered that I did to survive, to be acceptable, and to get my needs met was to find out what the rules are and follow them. I then saw that even to this day, I find out what the rules are and live within the parameters of them, even if I do not agree with them, or even if have to settle. Growing up, I became the good girl, nice and pleasing. I found out what others needed and did whatever it took to make them happy–harmony at all cost!

The next exercise in this workshop was to distinguished what qualities we left behind to survive, like our uniqueness, our creativity, our curiosity, adventure, etc. I discovered that I left behind, my inner desires, my true authentic playful nature, my full self-expression, my dignity, and most importantly my values.

We then talked about what we are passionate about, like making a difference, nature, animals, helping adopted people find their biological parents, etc. I discovered I have many passions! The four I spoke about were my passion to free people from their past and move forward to fulfill their dream; to take risks, be adventurous and playful; to be in an environment where there are wide-open spaces; and to be free to be myself.

From there, in the quietness of my inner sanctuary I created and later declared and claimed my purpose. I stood up in front of the whole group — and on camera to boot — owned my purpose. My purpose is to inspire and empower others’ greatness to live extraordinary lives! What I realized is that I am already doing that. Energy surged throughout my whole being and a rush of emotion filled my eyes. It was total validation of what I have been all about for many years.

The group was then asked to pick a project to fulfill within six months that would allow us to tangibly experience our purpose and move us into unhesitating action. I could not imagine taking on yet another project. So, I chose one I had yet to complete: publishing my first book, What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life. I created a structure to fulfill my goal with support from those who love and care about me. The paperback was published December 2017 by my own company which you can visit at www.ExtraordinaryOutcomesPublishing.com. The eBook came out in May of 2018 and got to #1 on Amazon the first day. It was exciting!

As you move forward reinventing yourself, be sure you are gentle with yourself and get the support you need from those who love and care about you. It will be easier than you think! If I can do it, YOU can do it too! Have fun!

Lovingly Submitted,
Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author of
What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life