What is it really to transform something or someone?? What are we really doing when we facilitate sessions? I love to begin with Webster: Transformation: 1. to change the form or outer appearance of, 2. to change the condition, nature or function of – to convert, 3. to change the personality or character of, 4. to change one form of energy into another.
He continues to say that transformation in the broadest scope of these terms, implies a change either in external form, inner nature or in function (she was transformed into a happy girl). From its earlier use in alchemy, it suggests a change in basic nature that seems to be miraculous, like from being shy to gregarious. To convert implies a change in details so as to be suitable for new use, like converting an attic into an apartment, or from not being in an intimate relationship for years to dating and enjoying it. It is like a metamorphosis, suggesting a startling change produced as if by magic, like a caterpillar into a butterfly.
How exciting it is to know that what we are doing with people is in the dictionary! This is exactly what we do. Each session we provide change, helping someone become distinctly different – a transformation of character and replacing it with something better. As I follow up with clients after their session, it continues to amaze me what they experience: “My father called me after 30 years of no contact.”, “My breast lump shrunk.”, “I passed the Bar exam after not passing 3 other times.”, “I created and found the job of my dreams and I start tomorrow.”, “My boyfriend asked me to marry him and asked my father for my hand in marriage.” “I won my court case. I’ll be receiving my check for $100,000.00 next week.” I could go on and on and on. Thank you Chloe for developing such a profound transformational system that we can help ourselves and others!
As practitioners, I believe we have a responsibility to encourage our clients to look for how life is different because they did the session and they will see it everywhere. I remind them that what they look for in life is what they see, so rather than waiting for some results to show up, actively be aware, notice what is different and acknowledge it. This is actually part of the transformation. Then when I do my follow-up call with them, we celebrate their results and what they are noticing that has improved. I find this especially effective with my clients who are having their first session.
As I contemplate how this process works so well, I am reminded of the sessions I have had with different practitioners and what they did to facilitate such a profound transformation in me. I would have to say it was their ‘presence’ that made such a difference. I felt safe to go deep, safe to reveal, safe to be vulnerable. They had the ability to get out of their world and a genuine interest to get into mine. I felt heard, acknowledged and ‘gotten’. There is nothing quite like getting ‘gotten.’ Consider this a reminder to do the same with your clients and do the personal preparation you need to do before each session, so you can be fully present for them.
Receive sessions from other practitioners yourself. Do sessions on yourself as a part of your routine, your self care.
The more the client feels safe and taken care of, the more they will trust you with their friends and loved ones and the more personal referrals you will receive from them. The results speak for themselves, but the caring healing space you create speaks volumes. How exciting it is to be in the business of transformation!
Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.