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Heal your relationship with your mother first.

To live a magical life—filled with magical experiences, magical people, magical creativity, a magical career, magical moments with your children, friends, colleagues, neighbors, spouses, lovers, etc.—you must heal your relationships with your biological parents first.

You can never separate yourself from the sperm of your father and the egg of your mother—whether they are known to you or not—and no matter how far you try to distance yourself from them, you will always be a product of them.

Parental figures also include: step-parents, adoptive parents, foster parents, and anyone else who you would describe as a parent. In the event that there was abuse from any parental figure (physical, emotional, mental, sexual, and spiritual), set aside your reluctance and consider healing the wounds.

Consider that there are many reasons such as, emotional overwhelm, lack of support, inherited disciplinary customs, mental disorders, impatience, etc.—which are not necessarily intentional—and that you can grant your parents forgiveness with more compassion for their hurtful reactions and behaviors.

This is how I healed my relationship with my mother.

• Growing up, I felt my mother had my destiny in her hands. So, I believed it was best to do and say what she told me to do and say—even though deep inside I knew it was wrong. One of the most hurtful things she did, when my parents separated, was to tell me horrible things about my father that I believed. I thought I had to reject my father to live peacefully with her. So, I spent very little time with him and when we were together, I was distant and looking for evidence that my mother was right. This left me feeling confused, anxious, and guilty because I loved my father. I got stuck with these emotions at age 12.

• My relationship with my mother continued to be turbulent throughout my adulthood. After my second divorce, I moved across the country and stayed with my mother until I got settled. After I got a great job and a place to live, I moved out. It was then that I realized counseling was necessary for me to focus on healing our relationship.

• I had been working diligently with my counselor to heal the many harmful incidents in my childhood relative to my mother. One day my mother came over to my apartment—unannounced—to let me know she had lost her job and the only way she could survive was to move in with me. She told me all the things she had done for me throughout her life, and therefore I owed it to her to take her in. Regardless of how much work I had done to heal myself, I still just acquiesced and said, “Yes.”

• About an hour later at my counseling session, it was brought home to me that I had reverted emotionally to the little girl who always obeyed her mother—no matter what. I became determined not to do that.

• When I got home, my mother was happily awaiting both my return and the prospect of living together. I mustered up the courage to tell her that coming to live with me would not work. I offered to pay her rent and help in any other way I could. Even in the midst of my fear about her reaction, I felt powerful and proud of standing up for myself. How I related to my mother after this, was never again driven by that little 12-year-old girl.

• She told me I was an ungrateful brat, disowned me, and left. She called for several days afterword and was verbally abusive. Each time, I simply told her that when she could talk to me with respect, I would be glad to have the conversation, and that I was hanging up now. She eventually stopped calling, and we didn’t speak to each other for about five years.

• During this 5-year timeout, I continued to work with my counselor to heal all the incidents with my mother that were still impacting my life. Eventually, I reached a place where all the wounds of the little girl inside me were healed, and I felt free and at peace with my mother.

• I released many stored emotions and gave the responsibility and guilt back to her. I visualized my mother communicating sincere apologies to me, starting with “I am sorry for all the things I did that hurt you. You didn’t deserve that.” I imagined her promising to get the help she needed to heal her past. With each incident, I energetically asked her to say to me what I needed to hear, and asked her to do what I needed her to do for me in order to restore the relationship. Then I imagined her saying, as well as doing, what I had asked.

• At 40, I could look back—from an adult perspective—and put myself in my mom’s shoes. I was able to feel compassion for what she was going through at the time and could understand some of the choices she made. There were many behaviors with which I did not agree and yet I generously chose forgiveness and set myself free.

• When I completed counseling and was feeling strong. I wrote down all the ways I had turned out great. I included all the positive skills, abilities, and strengths I developed and integrated into my life as a result of the responsibilities that my mother entrusted to me as a child. I filled a whole page!

• Afterward, I reached out to my mother to ask whether we could get together and talk. She said it would be a while before she was ready to see me, but she was willing to talk over the phone.

• During the next year, we talked and worked through the issues we still harbored. I came to understand and have compassion for her. We each took responsibility for the harm we caused one another and when we were both ready, we met. The reunion was heartfelt and loving. We have been able to maintain a caring, respectful relationship most of the time.

• I was her advocate as she transitioned into assisted living. She is now super appreciative of the time I spend with her which feels good to hear and feeds my soul.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“Forgiving my parents didn’t excuse their behavior, but it allowed me to move past the hurt.” ~ Tracey Casciano

Grow in your capacity to love and be loved.

Apply the following Magical Healing suggestions for success. Regardless of whether you are healing the unresolved hurt from those who have harmed you, or from those you have harmed.

• 1. Remember to pace yourself. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Whether you process one incident per day, per week, or per month really doesn’t matter. What matters the most is completing this process in the time that works for YOU. Be sure to give yourself some integration time between each person and acknowledge yourself for the courage it took to heal your relationship.

• 2. Acknowledging yourself. At the end of each healing session, whether you have healed with one person or a dozen, do something special for yourself as a way to acknowledge the courage it took. Doing this feeds your soul and provides support to continue healing. Know that you are doing what it takes to create a magical life.

• 3. Contacting people. For those individuals who have the capacity to listen and take responsibility, reach out and share that you’re creating a magical life. Explain that you’re in the process of forgiving yourself for the harm you’ve caused others, making amends to them, and forgiving those who have caused harm to you. During the process, you’ve discovered some hurt feelings in your relationship with them. Ask whether they would be open and willing to participate in a forgiveness healing process and grow in their capacity to love and be loved. After they say yes, set up a time to get together. If they say no, allow them to be how they are at the moment—don’t take it personally—they may change their mind and contact you later.

• 4. Patterns. As you’re healing incidents, you may see patterns of behavior that happened with multiple people. If this occurs, do the Magical Healing Process with everyone who comes to mind that fits the pattern. I used this process to heal the pattern of harm caused by five individual friends, each of whom ended their friendship with me abruptly without an explanation. I realized the pattern began with never forgiving my father for packing up and leaving the family without an explanation. I healed that as soon as I saw it. As a result, the pattern has not reappeared.

• 5. Priority. Make resolving your past experiences urgent and important by scheduling time regularly until you have healed and feel peaceful. As you make the effort to heal each incident, notice how much freer and lighter you feel and over time how all the areas of your life are becoming richer, fuller, and more meaningful.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“If you never heal from what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” ~ Tamara Kulish

Free your heart. Free your mind. FREE YOUR SOUL!

Applying the Magical Healing Process to people YOU have harmed. Do this to liberate yourself from the guilt of any harm you caused—or think you caused—to other people in your life. Often, the way we have been harmed is the way we harm others. This is not for the accidental times you hurt someone. This is for the times when you were angry, jealous, afraid, or hurt and didn’t know how to respond other than to take it out on the other person.

• For example: Those times when you acted out, lied, cheated, tattled, stole, took the credit, shifted the blame, sabotaged another, etc.

The survival ego part of you reacted rather than responded. That was you in the past. Now is now, and NOW is the time to let go and free yourself from these experiences. Free your heart. Free your mind. Free your soul.

Have compassion. No need to judge yourself harshly if you think there are too many people you have hurt, just love yourself, and pace yourself. This isn’t a race. It’s better to get everything out and in the process of healing than to keep it bundled inside. Take a couple of deep breaths and relax. This may not be as comfortable as healing with those who harmed you, although, you’ll have a lot more energy available to you just by doing this. You’ll have to trust me on this one.

The Magical Healing Process with people you have harmed. This recipe also has four ingredients: 1) recalling and recording the incidents; 2) releasing your associated feelings; 3) energetically taking back the responsibility and guilt; and 4) giving your authentic and sincere apology.

Recalling. For each relationship category—your parents, your intimate partners, your children and siblings, your extended family, your friends, teachers, coaches, clergy, and your work associates—recall an incident where you harmed another.

Recording. In your Healing Notebook, include your age and what happened in as much detail as possible (i.e. what you did or didn’t do—what you said or didn’t say), as well as the person’s name along with their relationship to you.

• For example: You might start by saying, “I’m ready now to face and heal the harm I have done to others,” then, accept whatever arises. Remember, your mind doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imaginary. Don’t spend time wondering whether something really happened—just work with it.

Releasing. As you recall each experience, allow your emotions to surface. Whatever the emotion is, really feel it and let it out.

• For example: when you feel remorse, regret, grief, sadness, shame, embarrassment, or anger—REALLY feel it and express it—cry, journal, punch your pillow, whatever works for you. The only rule is to not harm yourself or others. Keep going until you experience a sense of freedom and calmness. Releasing your feelings begins the process of healing.

Freeing. It’s now time to energetically free the other person from the harm you caused by taking back the responsibility and guilt for what happened. Close your eyes and visualize the other person standing in front of you. Say the following statement aloud:

• “I take back the responsibility and accept the guilt for the harm I caused you. It is no longer necessary for you to assume this responsibility. I give you my blessings as you move forward in your life.”

Visualize the other person gladly receiving your communication and imagine them saying to you—with honor and respect:

• “I appreciate the generosity and courage it took for you to admit that your unkind behavior offended me deeply.”

NOTE: I recommend copying these statements into your Healing Notebook so they’re easily accessible when you’re healing each experience.

Offering an authentic apology. To complete the process, recall the incident you want to heal along with the person you harmed and provide the following:

First: A genuine, authentic and complete apology with no excuses or equivocation.

• For example: “I am sorry for disrespecting you. You didn’t deserve that.”

Then: Action(s) that ensure it won’t occur again.

• For example: “I promise to be kind, considerate, and honest in the future.”

Next: A way to restore the relationship.

• For example: “How can I make it up to you?”

Finally: Picture them telling you what they need—then you COMPLYING. Imagine the other person accepting your blessings.

Integration. After healing each experience, it’s a good idea to be gentle with yourself and take some time to embrace the healing.

• For example: Breathe deeply through your nose, which will help you to relax. Breathe in love and breathe out any tension that you may be holding in your body.

Take a break before continuing with the next person. After you’ve integrated the healing between you and others, you may see positive, loving actions to take with people in your life.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“Making amends does not indicate weakness ~ It’s a willingness to embrace your most vulnerable self.” ~ Author Unknown

Set yourself free. Start here. START NOW!

Applying the Magical Healing Process to people who have harmed you. This recipe has four ingredients: 1) recalling and recording incidents from your past; 2) releasing your associated feelings; 3) energetically giving the responsibility back to the other person; and 4) receiving the other person’s sincere apology.

Recalling. Within a relationship category—your parents, your intimate partners, your children and siblings, your extended family, your friends, teachers, coaches, clergy, and your work associates—recall a harmful incident with as much detail as possible.

Recording. Using your Healing Notebook, record what happened along with the person’s name and their relationship to you. Remember to include the age you were and your feelings at the time.

• For example: You might start by saying, “I’m ready now to face and heal my past hurts,” then, accept whatever arises.

Your mind doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imaginary. Don’t spend time wondering whether something really happened—just work with it.

Releasing. As you recall each experience, allow your emotions to surface. The feelings being released may include anger, betrayal, sadness, grief, humiliation, confusion, shame, etc. Whatever the emotion is, REALLY feel it and let it out.

• For example: when you feel angry—really feel it and express it—go for a run, beat on some pillows, sit in your car and scream, or whatever works for you. The only rule is to not harm yourself or others. When the anger dissipates, it’s likely that another underlying feeling will arise. Express this feeling just as vigorously. Keep expressing each underlying feeling as it arises until you experience a sense of freedom and calmness. Releasing your feelings begins the process of healing.

Freeing. You can energetically free yourself from the harm. Simply give back to the person who harmed you, the responsibility you’ve been assuming for their behavior. Close your eyes and visualize the other person standing in front of you. Say the following statement aloud:

• “I’m giving you back the responsibility I’ve been assuming for the harm you caused me. By giving you back your responsibility, I’m also giving you back your dignity. I know you have the strength to carry it. Please, give me your blessings as I direct my energy and attention—which are now free—to create my magical life.”

Visualize the other person gladly receiving your communication and imagine them saying to you—with honor and respect:

• “It’s no longer necessary for you to assume my responsibility for the harm I caused you and I accept the guilt for my behavior. I give you my blessings as you move forward in your life.”

NOTE: I recommend copying these statements into your Healing Notebook so they’re easily accessible when you’re healing each experience.

Receiving an authentic apology. To complete the process, recall the incident you want to heal and the other person providing:

First: A genuine, authentic and complete apology.

• For example: I am sorry for all the harm I caused you, when I said/did _____.”

Then: Action(s) that ensure it won’t occur again.

• For example: “I’ll speak respectfully so I don’t cause you anymore harm.”

Next: A way to restore the relationship.

• For example: “How can I make it up to you?”

Finally: Picture what you need—and VISUALIZE them doing it. You may want to write down the imaginary responses and refer to them as a way to discover patterns.

Restoring the relationship. Stephen Marmar, in a Prager University video, states that, “Exoneration can occur when a person is truly sorry for hurting you and takes full responsibility (without excuses) for what they did, as well as assures you that they will not do it again—it wipes the slate entirely clean and restores the relationship.”

It may be enough that they authentically apologized—or it may be there is nothing they could do to make up for the harm—or you may know specific actions that they could take to restore your relationship.

• For example: doing 30 days of community service, donating to your favorite charity, taking you out to dinner, treating you to your favorite sporting event, or whatever it is you need.

Be reasonable. The action you request should be something that’s within reason. For being constantly late, it might be dinner out, going to a movie, or a massage—not a week-long vacation in the Bahamas at an all-inclusive resort.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“Healing doesn’t mean the pain never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.” ~ Author Unknown

Turn your wounds into wisdom.

The Magical Healing Process. It’s not just about saying the words, “I am sorry,” it’s about having these three words make a positive difference in your relationships and your life. By taking your precious time to engage in the Healing Process, you can free yourself to have a magical life. Here’s the recipe I discovered that really works.

The Magical Healing Process with those who have harmed YOU is slightly different than the one used with those you have harmed.

Capture tool. Use a notebook or electronic device to capture 1) what happened; 2) the name of the person(s) involved; 3) their relationship to you; 4) the age you were at the time; and 5) what you were feeling when it was happening. I will refer to this as your Healing Notebook. Organize it by relationship category (family, friends, associates, etc.) or by incident (chronologically) for ease of adding things you recall.

Recall and record. As you recall information about each incident you want to heal, record it. The process will work even if the person is deceased or no longer in your life at all.

Stored emotions cause issues. Every emotion is stored in every cell of our body. Now is the time to release any harmful emotions from your past so you can heal and move forward in your life. In the book, You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay states that stored negative emotions cause a wide variety of unpleasant symptoms and physical ailments in the body.

Feel free to ask for support. Examining harmful recollections can be difficult. Don’t hesitate to have someone you trust available to support you. Feel safe in knowing that you indeed survived these hurts. Although you cannot undo what happened, you can energetically release the harm that you’ve been harboring for years. This does not, however, excuse your behavior or the behavior of others.

Be courageous. The degree to which you participate in this healing work is the degree to which you will free yourself from the past. You will then have more room in the present to experience love, optimism, hope, and peace of mind to create a magical future filled with new possibilities, beyond what you ever imagined.

Everything begins with intention. As you begin each healing session, it’s important that you bring your energy and awareness into your precious heart. This makes authentic forgiveness and amends possible.

Access your innate wisdom. Set aside enough time to allow yourself to go deep into your inner knowing—where all your answers are. Find a private place where you won’t be interrupted. Get comfortable and close your eyes. Center yourself in the present moment by taking a few deep breaths—slowly in and out through your nose. This activates your parasympathetic nervous system, which will cause you to be calmer and more relaxed.

The key to a magical life. There is genuine value in doing this with everyone who has harmed you or who you have harmed. It will not only set you free, it will set them free as well. Wow, what an opportunity!

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“Turn your wounds into wisdom.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Be courageous—making amends is worth it.

Making amends. To bear your soul and admit that you have made a mistake, or said something you regret, takes a big person. To honor another as you would like to be honored, and treat another as you want to be treated, is a special gift you bring to yourself and the other person. To be open and vulnerable takes a lot of courage. Be courageous—making amends is worth it.

Receiving amends. When someone reaches out to make amends, be generous, listen, and let them apologize. It will set you both free. Remember to separate the person from their behavior—it’ll be easier to let go of the hurt. It’s also an opportunity for you to take inventory of what you did that might have hurt them and apologize.

Personal responsibility. Consider, we’re all doing the best we can with all the negative experiences we’ve been through and the limited opportunities and options

available to us to facilitate healing our hearts. The more information and transformational tools we have at our disposal, the more responsibility we have to use them.

Respect yourself. Even though you know that we are all doing the best we can, it doesn’t mean you need to stay in a relationship with someone who is abusive, hurtful, or who won’t participate in resolving challenges.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“Humility leads to strength and not weakness. It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes and make amends for them.” ~John J. McCloy

The way to release this bitterness is through forgiveness.

Let’s talk about forgiveness. Dr. Rick Hindmarsh said, “I have been a physician for four decades and have seen more lives destroyed by bitterness than cancer, addiction, heart disease, diabetes, and contagious diseases combined.”

The moment we take on the harm of an incident, bitterness sets in, which can destroy us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. The way to release this bitterness is through forgiveness.

Be at peace. Doreen Virtue, PhD., Counseling Psychologist, states, “Forgiving someone doesn’t mean what they did is okay, it simply means that you are no longer willing to hold onto any negative feelings in response to what happened—you don’t have to forgive the ACTION, just the person—so you can be at peace.”

Restoring the relationship. Stephen Marmar, in a Prager University video, states that, “Exoneration can occur when a person is truly sorry for hurting you and takes full responsibility (without excuses) for what they did, as well as assures you that they will not do it again—it wipes the slate entirely clean and restores the relationship.”

Give back the guilt. Bert Hellinger’s Family Constellation Forgiveness Theory explains that it is not up to us to forgive. Since we generally want to have peaceful relationships, we unconsciously take on the pain caused by others, along with any guilt for their behavior—in the hope they will harm us less. Therefore, it’s up to the person who caused the harm to take responsibility for their behavior and ask the Divine to forgive THEM. Our job is to energetically allow them to take back the guilt and pain they caused, so we can heal. The use of this approach is especially effective for people who have been abused.

Forgiveness is not a feeling, it’s a decision. Keep in mind, forgiveness is different than trust. Forgiveness is granted. Trust is earned. Each path to forgiveness can be of value depending on your circumstances.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponder

It’s important to heal the hurt and pain from the past.

Magical words that make a difference. Many books have been written about magical words. The words that I want to talk about, you may not have previously thought were magical. Nevertheless, they are magical indeed! I bet you are wondering what the three words are. Perhaps you think they are, “I love you.” Actually, it’s much easier to say, “I love you,” than to say the three magical words, “I am sorry.” Yet, as you will discover, it’s more than just saying those words that makes the difference.

Subconscious beliefs. There may be many negative images and thoughts that come up for you when you hear, “I am sorry.” You may have jumped all the way back to a childhood incident, such as being spanked while being told, “I’m sorry,” and decided that love hurts. Later, as an adult, you may have attracted a husband, a wife, or a partner to you that hurts you because of this subconscious belief.

Begin by healing your past. It’s important to release all your negative experiences associated with the words, I am sorry, so they can become magical words. To have a magical life filled with full self-expression, creativity, and joy it’s important to heal the hurt and pain from the past. It’s difficult to create and live a magical life if your unresolved past is unconsciously intruding. Going into the hurtful experiences from your past may not be easy, nonetheless, it is necessary if you want to live a magical life filled with love, adventure, passion, and joy.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“I never knew how strong I was until I had to forgive someone who wasn’t sorry and accept an apology I never received.” ~ Author Unknown

The journey IS the reward.

A beautiful life is a wonderful journey. I am often reminded that everyone is on their own path. People are in our lives for specific purposes; sometimes they appear for just a few weeks, several months, many years; or some stay a lifetime. Brian Chalker said it best in this memorable poem:

A Reason, A Season, or A Lifetime

“People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,

it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with

guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up

or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our

need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

When someone is in your life for a SEASON,

it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

And, like Spring turns to Summer and

Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must

build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson; love the person or people involved;

and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships

and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind

but friendship is clairvoyant.”

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“True friends are never apart. Maybe in distance, but never in heart.” ~ Author Unknown

Today is the first day of your magical life!

What is a Magical life? Magical lives are just that; magical, extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous.

How is this possible? It’s possible by being curious, open, honest, loving, and humble. For those who are here to be all you can be—to love and be loved in profound ways and to make a meaningful difference in the lives of others—this process can be your ticket to these possibilities and more!

What are the three magical words? Most people think those three words are, I LOVE YOU. But really, they are I AM SORRY. By authentically expressing I AM SORRY to the people in your life and encouraging them to do the same, causes a global impact starting with YOU!

How do you start? Start by using the three magical words with the people in your life and encouraging them to do the same. This can have a global impact starting with YOU! Letting go of your past hurts and the harm you have caused others is the key. When your past is in the past where it belongs, you’ll have a clean slate in the present to create and live a magical life.

Does the Magical Healing Process really make a difference? Yes, and to live a magical life, there’s no hope in avoidance. Going into the unknown parts of yourself from your past may not be easy, however, it is necessary.

There are only two predominant things going on in your life. You either have something you don’t want (shame, blame, guilt, anger, envy, frustration, resentment, or regret). Or, you want something you don’t have.

Is transformational support available? For those who want to have an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, outstanding, incredible, phenomenal, unbelievable, amazing, astonishing, astounding, marvelous, fantastic, magnificent, wonderful, sensational, miraculous, fabulous, stupendous, out of this world, terrific, awesome, and wondrous life, feel free to choose a certified practitioner on the Repatterning Practitioners Association website who can support you in identifying and releasing negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, habits, and detrimental patterns that prevent you from living a magical life.

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Mind/Body Repatterning Practitioner

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life, and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Speaker

“Don’t settle for ordinary. Dare to live a magical life.” ~ Debasish Mridha