Living An Artful Life

The act of creating art and the journey of healing emotional insecurity may, at a glance, appear to belong to different spheres of human experience—one grounded in the external world of form and color, the other in the unseen landscapes of the heart and mind.

Yet, upon closer inspection, I have noticed remarkable similarities in the principles that guide both endeavors. The artist’s studio and the sanctuary of self-reflection are not so far apart. Through years of painting alongside my personal exploration of emotional wounds, I have found that these two paths share similar principles. This article explores the primal forces that parallel the creative process with the inner work of healing insecurity, offering insights for artists and seekers alike.

The Courage to Begin

Every blank canvas is an invitation to vulnerability. The first stroke is a leap into the unknown, much like confronting the roots of insecurity. Both artistic creation and emotional healing demand a willingness to start, despite uncertainty, fear of judgment, or the possibility of failure.

To be an artist is to embrace not knowing—to trust that meaning will emerge from the act of doing. Healing, too, asks us to begin without a guarantee of outcome, to step into our pain with the hope that understanding and transformation will follow. In both endeavors, stagnation is often the greatest enemy, and movement—however tentative—is the doorway to growth.

Embracing Imperfection

Artists soon learn that perfection is an illusion. A painting gains life through its unexpected textures, its happy accidents, and the marks that were once considered mistakes. Similarly, healing emotional insecurity requires letting go of the myth of flawlessness, both in ourselves and in our process.

Self-acceptance blooms in the soil of imperfection. The brush that trembles, the line that wavers, the feeling that overwhelms—all become part of a sacred whole. When I allow myself the grace to fail on the canvas, I practice the same compassion that soothes my inner critic. In both art and healing, progress is measured not by flawlessness, but by the richness of experience and the authenticity of the journey.

Patience and Perseverance

Great works of art are rarely born in a single sitting. They emerge layer by layer, each addition a conversation with what has come before. The process of healing emotional insecurity is similarly incremental; old patterns rarely dissolve overnight.

There are days when the colors muddy and nothing looks right. There are moments in healing when old insecurities resurface and progress seems to vanish. Yet if we persist—if we return, again and again, to the work—transformation takes root. The artist’s patience, the healer’s perseverance: both are acts of faith in something yet unseen.

The Dance Between Control and Surrender

Creating art is a delicate balance between intention and letting go. There is a vision, surely, but also the wisdom to allow the piece to evolve beyond what was imagined. In the same way, healing emotional insecurity involves both conscious effort and a willingness to surrender—trusting the deeper currents of the psyche to guide us where logic cannot.

I have learned, both with brush in hand and heart open, that holding too tightly stifles growth. Real beauty and healing often arise in the spaces where I relinquish control and listen for what wants to emerge. Allowing the process to unfold, rather than forcing an outcome, is a principle that nourishes both artist and seeker.

Witnessing and Expression

Art is, at its core, a form of witnessing—the artist observes the world, internalizes it, and returns it transformed. Similarly, healing emotional insecurity is facilitated by the act of witnessing our own pain without judgment. Expression is the bridge between the inner and outer world.

Journaling, music, movement, or painting: all are ways to give voice to what is within. When I create, I am both observing and being observed—a duality that mirrors the healing process. The more honestly I express myself, the more space I create for understanding and acceptance, both from myself and from others.

Community and Connection

Though art can be a solitary pursuit, it thrives in community. Feedback, support, and shared inspiration enrich the artist’s journey. Healing, too, accelerates in the presence of empathetic witnesses—therapists, friends, or loved ones who listen and encourage.

Both artists and those healing from insecurity benefit from connection. When I share my work or my truth, I make myself vulnerable, yet I also invite resonance. I have found that the courage to reveal my inner world—on canvas or in conversation—diminishes shame and fosters belonging.

Reframing Failure

In both art and healing, what appears as failure is often a doorway to something deeper. The piece that doesn’t work out, the relapse into old insecurity, the frustration with progress—these, too, are part of the process.

I have learned to reframe these moments, to see them as information rather than judgment. What isn’t working can guide me toward what might. Each setback becomes a lesson, each imperfection a stepping stone. This mindset shift is transformative, allowing both the artist and the healer to approach challenges with curiosity rather than self-reproach.

Discovering Identity

Art is a journey of self-discovery. Each creation reveals something about its maker. As I paint, I discover not only what I can do, but who I am. Healing emotional insecurity is, at its heart, a reclaiming of identity—a gentle unveiling of the self obscured by doubt and fear.

Both processes ask: Who am I, beyond the roles or expectations imposed by others? What do I truly feel, believe, desire? In seeking answers, I have found that authenticity in art fosters authenticity in life, and vice versa.

Celebrating Progress

Both the artist and the person healing must learn to celebrate small victories: a breakthrough in technique, a moment of self-compassion, the courage to share a piece or speak a vulnerable truth. Progress is not always linear or dramatic, but it deserves recognition.

I make time to look back at early sketches, to notice the distance I’ve traveled. In healing, I reflect on moments when I responded differently or felt more secure. Acknowledging growth sustains motivation and reinforces the possibility of continued transformation.

Conclusion: The Art of Becoming Whole

The parallels between being an artist and healing emotional insecurity are woven through every stage of the journey. Both require courage, patience, acceptance, community, and a willingness to embrace the unknown. Both are acts of creation—one of external form, the other of internal wholeness.

In honoring these shared principles, I have come to see my art and my healing not as separate paths, but as reflections of the same longing: to know myself, to express my truth, and to become whole. Whether with brush or with breath, with color or with compassion, I continue the work—one mark, one moment, at a time.

If you, too, walk these twin paths, may you find solace in their harmony and strength in their shared wisdom. The masterpiece of your life, like any work of art, is created through steady hands, an open heart, and a willingness to begin anew.

“Be” the Change

Change is inevitable! It is the only thing consistent in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life.

One way you can embrace the changes that are occurring in your life is by acknowledging your part in the change. I remember doing a Resonance Repatterning® session on a woman who hated her job and wanted out. She was procrastinating about looking for a new one, even though she really wanted something more rewarding. We identified her unconscious pattern of ‘not deserving better’ and shifted her resonance to deserving a creative outlet for her gifts and talents and getting paid well for them. Lo and behold, when she went into work on Monday, she was fired. She called me irate and blamed me for being fired. I encouraged her to look how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance.  I reminded her how difficult it was for her to take action to look for what she really wanted in a job and that now was her opportunity to be grateful for the opportunity and embrace it.  I acknowledged her for coming in for a session and taking action on discovering ‘her part’ that was keeping her from her heart’s desire. I encouraged her to see this as a gift and to take advantage of the time she now had to create the ‘job of her dreams’.

Another example could be a partner wanting to move on and leaving the relationship that you have been in for some time. The more you take responsibility for how you caused this or the part you played, rather than blaming the other, the quicker you can be at peace and see the opening you have to grow and learn from the relationship and let them go. Would you really want to be with someone who does not really want to be with you? You could then evaluate what worked and what did not work in the relationship, give yourself time to heal and then prepare to draw to you an even better partner. I am not saying that all this is simple; however, if you embrace the change rather than fighting it, you will have more energy to move forward with ease and grace.

Another concept I like to use in my own life is to ‘be’ the change I am looking for. One day I did an experiment with my father. It seemed to me that when he called me he was reporting how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many activities. I found myself getting envious of what they were getting that I did not. What was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being such a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a Dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledged me for being such a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for how much of a difference I was making in my client’s lives. These were things he had not told me before. So, the very thing I thought was missing, I gave him, and in the very giving of it, I experienced acknowledgement and seemingly out of the blue, he gave to me the very thing I was previously missing. It was quite remarkable. The switch was very dramatic. So, if there are qualities you are lacking in relationship with others, ‘be’ that quality with them or bring that quality to the situation and watch how you are actually experiencing the very quality you previously thought was missing. You will be amazed.

            ‘Be’ the change, and you can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire – a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment.

Lovingly submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

 

 

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Center for Extraordinary Outcomes

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Significant Opportunity

“What happens when people fail to find their life purpose?”

BY GAIL GLANVILLE

 

One answer is this:

The World Health Organization predicts that by 2020 the leading cause of disability in women worldwide will be…depression. And not to be selective, the numbers for men are on the rise, too.

Don’t you think this represents a significant opportunity for Resonance Repatterning® practitioners?

There are literally hundreds, even thousands, of people in your market who suffer from depression. 80% of them are going untreated, which leads to lost opportunities, absenteeism, broken relationships and even suicide.

I suggest that the biggest opportunity for making a difference in this country is to target depression and anxiety in your practice (just as practitioners Laura Frisbie and Trine Whist are doing). Help people reconnect with the joy of their life purpose.

Remember the results of Joel Bennett’s Pilot Research Study? 95% of clients felt “better to a lot better” after a session with a Resonance Repatterning practitioner.

Recently I heard from a student who wanted to know how to promote herself, how to talk about her work with Resonance Repatterning so she could start attracting clients. I suggested she focus on depression, and gave her a sample elevator speech:

“Do you know how many people suffer from depression in this state? You’ll recognize them because they’ve lost their joy in life, their sense of accomplishment and meaning. They’ve stopped doing things they love. Most of them struggle along untreated, barely dragging themselves through their days. I wonder if you may sometimes feel the same.

 

“What I offer are private sessions in a new method of energy psychology that finds the specific source of depression and lifts it 95% of the time…

 

“So that you regain your zest for life, reconnect to people you love and experience your life as a journey to joy. So that you find your life purpose and begin to create anew on your terms. So that you can become so fulfilled and satisfied that you feel happy all the time.

 

“My name is Jane Doe, and I am a Resonance Repatterning practitioner. I can help you feel better even after just one session. Rather than telling you about what I do, let me show you, by phone or in person. Here’s my card.”

 

There is a secret to this approach, which is to resist the temptation to describe the FEATURES of Resonance Repatterning.

Instead weave a story around the proven “feel better” BENEFITS. How are clients actually changed by a session? How are they moved out of depression towards the joy of expressing their life’s purpose?

It is my belief that if a majority of practitioners offered Resonance Repatterning as a solution to depression like this, four things would happen:

  1. Resonance Repatterning would have a better chance of becoming a household word.
  2. Practitioners would build stronger practices.
  3. Both clients and practitioners would enjoy a greater sense of meaning and purpose.
  4. We’d prove the World Health Organization wrong!

What’s your belief?

Gail Glanville

PS: You’re welcome to use any or all of the elevator speech in groups or on your website.

Gail Glanville Is a member of the RPA Hall of Fame and former Managing Director of the Resonance Repatterning Institute. She provides Repatterning sessions by phone and also teaches holistic marketing to practitioners. She is the editor of the Nun Karma Repatterning and author of the Food Repatterning manual.

You can reach Gail at

Phone: 401 383 3451