What Would Love Do Right Now in Your Romantic Relationships?

A loving romantic relationship can be one of your most sacred experiences—as well as the most risky. Given the rewards, it is always worth the risk. I love the statement from Erica Jong’s book, How to Save Your Own Life — “Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”

My philosophy about intimate relationships is that when you make a commitment to love, everything unlike love arises to be released and healed. Your reaction to what arises originates from unresolved issues, idealized concepts of romance, and conclusions you came to through observing your parents’ relationship. Every romantic relationship you have will reflect and reinforce these issues, concepts, and conclusions until you release and heal them. You will then have an opportunity to experience the very love you desire.

Your Parents’ Relationship

Examining the relationship your parents had, can provide insight into your experience of love and romance. How did they treat one another? Were they loving? Did they argue a lot? What was happening at significant ages while you were growing up? How did their relationship influence you?

As a child, you witnessed your parents’ interactions and made decisions about romantic relationships based on those observations. We tend to have romantic relationships that are either just like our parents’ or the exact opposite. For example, if your parents argued a lot, you may have decided that love is confrontational, so your relationships are tumultuous, violent, or chaotic. Perhaps one parent was weak and the other was domineering, so you decided the key to a winning relationship is to be equal in every way. Maybe your parents were overly affectionate, and you decided that a romantic partner must be lovey-dovey or they don’t love you.

Remember, in your healing process, you are not pointing a finger at your parents or blaming them for the way your relationships turned out. You are identifying how YOU responded to what happened between them and the conclusions YOU came to about romantic relationships. The good news is, since you drew the conclusions—YOU can change them.

Your Romantic Relationships

Remember, you ARE love. Being LOVE is allowing yourself to be who you are and who you are not; and accepting your partner for who they are and who they are not. It isn’t always easy. However, it is essential if you want to experience an intimate relationship beyond what you think is possible. BEING love is the greatest gift you can bring to your relationship.

The concepts of being present and getting gotten are particularly powerful in creating affinity and intimacy in romantic relationships. It’s what was so extraordinary in my relationship with my late Beloved Bernie.

In the beginning of our relationship, Bernie understandably wanted to know about my past relationships. I told him, “I’ll share my past experiences with you, if you will celebrate who I’ve become as a result of healing my past and changing my old behaviors.” He lovingly said, “Yes, I can do that.” This started a wonderful foundation of love and respect. I also let him know; he had the best me yet!

This was the first relationship I’d ever been in where the love got deeper and stronger and better over time, rather than worse. What was different? I was different! I was less serious, more playful, more patient, kind, understanding, and loving. I also took responsibility for my part in a situation sooner than I had done before. It was very humbling at times, but always rewarding.

Developing a foundation of intimacy requires a willingness to tell your partner what’s really going on with you; to care about what’s going on with them; to share deep aspects of yourself—especially those things you don’t want anyone else to know or ever find out—and to listen to them share things that you’re not sure you want to hear.

Everything is relational. You’re in relationship with everything and everyone. Your intimate romantic relationship can be either a source of fun and pleasure or pain and suffering. To have extraordinary intimate relationships, it is essential that you heal wounds you’re holding onto from past relationships.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with unresolved issues, idealized concepts of romance, and conclusions you came to through observing your parents’ relationship. It also allows you to heal wounds you’re holding onto from past relationships. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted, Victoria Benoit, M.C.                                                                    

Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

Author: Victoria Benoit, M.C.

I’m Victoria Benoit, Healer, Speaker, #1 Best-selling Author and Publisher, residing in Phoenix, Arizona. I am a fun-loving, optimistic woman living an extraordinarily rich life, filled with passion, love and enthusiasm. Along with my professional life, I enjoy ballroom, country, and west coast swing dancing, singing, biking, hiking, spending time in nature, and traveling to beaches around the world. My friends and family are especially dear to me, no matter what we’re doing. I was raised in Milwaukee with my three siblings who I helped raise. At 20 years old, I seized an opportunity to move to the big city of Chicago, knowing no one, relying solely on my own sense of adventure. Over the next 18 years, I began my spiritual journey of personal growth through the study of metaphysics, had a very successful career in medical ultrasound, and was married and divorce twice. In 1989, I decided it was time to move on—from the Windy City to the Valley of the Sun. Shortly after moving, I was forced to change careers due to a physical injury. In examining what to do next, I saw that through my work as a neonatal ultrasound technologist, I had experienced my natural ability to provide a space of profound love and compassion for couples in the initial stage of grief over the loss of their baby. I applied this insight to create a new career in supporting people through tough times. The next step in my journey was to attain my Master’s Degree and begin working as a Licensed Professional Counselor. I was quickly frustrated with my clients’ lack of progress using traditional methodologies. I decided to study other approaches to support people in creating lives they loved. This guided me to become a Certified Practitioner of Resonance Repatterning®, Soul Memory Discovery™, Spiritual Healing for Indigo's, Grigori Grabovoi Method, and Spiritual Healing for Indigos™. I found these methods to be highly-effective in restoring my clients’ physical, emotional, mental, financial, and spiritual well-being. In 1996, I opened the Center for Extraordinary Outcomes. Now, with countless clients experiencing extraordinary outcomes, I was again able to enhance the difference I make in the lives of others by moving beyond providing individual sessions to include teaching Resonance Repatterning for 15 years and conducting group repatterning sessions. Out of my passion and commitment to help people achieve their goals and dreams, I then developed and facilitated my ‘Heal Your Birth Journey-Heal Your Life’ workshop for over twelve years which has made a huge difference in the lives of many. I’ve been offering my, ‘Heal Your Family System – Heal Your Life’ workshop for over five years. While the Center continues to expand, I’ve created yet another way to make an even bigger difference—with even more people—I published my first Amazon #1 best-selling book, What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life. In this step-by-step guide to living an extraordinary life, I share my philosophy about the power of love, forgiveness, making amends, and emotional healing in those areas and relationships that effect one’s quality of life today—family, career, romance, health, finances, and self-expression. The readers—themselves—are able to release and heal the pain and suffering from past heartaches, disappointments, and failures that undermine their ability to manifest their dreams and that prevent them from living the life they were born to live. I’ve also penned six other books which are in the queue for publishing: "Living on the Skinny Branches of Life", “Relationship - A Sacred Journey to Your Greatness", "Three Magical Words for a Magical Life", "Conversations with the Fairy Realm", "Adventures with the Fairy Realm", and “No Weeping Widow Here.” I absolutely love the difference I make in the world! I am committed to helping people live a life they love—one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment. Contact Information: Victoria Benoit Victoria@ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com www.ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com 602.864.7662

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