“Be” the Change

Change is inevitable! It is the only thing consistent in life. You can either resist it, or embrace it like an adventure. It is not always easy to do, but it is necessary if you want to live an extraordinary life.

One way you can embrace the changes that are occurring in your life is by acknowledging your part in the change. I remember doing a Resonance Repatterning® session on a woman who hated her job and wanted out. She was procrastinating about looking for a new one, even though she really wanted something more rewarding. We identified her unconscious pattern of ‘not deserving better’ and shifted her resonance to deserving a creative outlet for her gifts and talents and getting paid well for them. Lo and behold, when she went into work on Monday, she was fired. She called me irate and blamed me for being fired. I encouraged her to look how powerful she was and how fast the universe provided her with verification of her new resonance.  I reminded her how difficult it was for her to take action to look for what she really wanted in a job and that now was her opportunity to be grateful for the opportunity and embrace it.  I acknowledged her for coming in for a session and taking action on discovering ‘her part’ that was keeping her from her heart’s desire. I encouraged her to see this as a gift and to take advantage of the time she now had to create the ‘job of her dreams’.

Another example could be a partner wanting to move on and leaving the relationship that you have been in for some time. The more you take responsibility for how you caused this or the part you played, rather than blaming the other, the quicker you can be at peace and see the opening you have to grow and learn from the relationship and let them go. Would you really want to be with someone who does not really want to be with you? You could then evaluate what worked and what did not work in the relationship, give yourself time to heal and then prepare to draw to you an even better partner. I am not saying that all this is simple; however, if you embrace the change rather than fighting it, you will have more energy to move forward with ease and grace.

Another concept I like to use in my own life is to ‘be’ the change I am looking for. One day I did an experiment with my father. It seemed to me that when he called me he was reporting how things were going with him and his new family. He would tell me all the things I wished I had done with him when I was young, but since we did not live together, my siblings and I did not get to do many activities. I found myself getting envious of what they were getting that I did not. What was missing for me in his calls was acknowledgment for who I was in his life. So, I started acknowledging him for being such a great father to his other three children and how fortunate they were to get to do all the things they were doing and to have him as a Dad. After just two phone calls, he started asking about me and my life and acknowledged me for being such a great daughter. He also acknowledged me for how much of a difference I was making in my client’s lives. These were things he had not told me before. So, the very thing I thought was missing, I gave him, and in the very giving of it, I experienced acknowledgement and seemingly out of the blue, he gave to me the very thing I was previously missing. It was quite remarkable. The switch was very dramatic. So, if there are qualities you are lacking in relationship with others, ‘be’ that quality with them or bring that quality to the situation and watch how you are actually experiencing the very quality you previously thought was missing. You will be amazed.

            ‘Be’ the change, and you can live an extraordinary life filled with everything you desire – a life where you can hardly wait to get up and one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment.

Lovingly submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and former Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 20 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

 

 

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Author: Victoria Benoit, M.C.

I am Victoria Benoit, a Mind/Body Repatterning™ practitioner, as well as a #1 bestselling author/publisher, residing in Phoenix, Arizona. I absolutely love the difference I make in the world. I received my Master's Degree in Counseling 1993 and became a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner 1994. I opened the Center for Extraordinary Outcomes in 1996 and became a Certified Resonance Repatterning Teacher and taught for fifteen years. I served on the Repatterning Practitioners Association Board of Directors for five years providing Repatternings for the Board members as well as being on the Certification Committee, where I was instrumental in updating the Certification Procedure and Manual. I also wrote uplifting articles on various topics for the Journal. I’ve recently been reinstated to serve on the RPA Board yet again, and continue to enjoy writing Journal articles to inspire its members. In order to impact even more people, I started writing transformational books that evolved into an Amazon #1 Bestselling Extraordinary Outcomes Series. My books include, "What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life" and "Three Magical Words for a Magical Life." I am committed to motivating people to live the life they were born to live with an abundant capacity to love and be loved. Contact Information: Victoria@ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com www.ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com 602.864.7662

One thought on ““Be” the Change”

  1. Victoria – Really love this article as it reminds me of all the surprising outcomes that can happen for us when our energy is coherent and we become the change.

    For myself, I notice this especially when driving. If I forgive the road ragers, and selfish bad moves of others, often providing explanations for what is happening (they are on their way to an emergency) etc. I find traffic suddenly flows, other drivers extend spontaneous courtesies to me lettting me in a long line changing lanes for example. Just last week, I was driving back into Toronto on the mighty 401 westbound with no less than 12 lanes in one direction at one point, and a place where I normally am gripping the wheel to make the required lane changes and was surprised to find virtually no traffic behind or ahead of me. It was like I had the road to myself and could easily make the exist.

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