Gateway to a Deeper Understanding

Sport has always been an important part of my life, and yet, in recent years, it has fallen by the wayside. I used to think this was because life with small children was just too busy, not to mention the difficulty I faced with communicating in a foreign language. Recently though I have come to the conclusion that it’s actually something else entirely.

My passion has always been for volleyball. I spent most of my adolescence hoping for the opportunity to play and signing up for the volleyball club was practically the first thing I did when I got to university. In fact, my husband and I met on the volleyball court. But in the last few years, he has had to abandon the sport for something less taxing on his shoulders – enter badminton, a sport he now plays extremely well, which he’s spent several years encouraging me to try.

I did – eventually – only to give up pretty quickly. I didn’t like the feel of the racket in my hand – a barrier between me and the ball (shuttle, I should say). I didn’t like that there’s no ‘team’ – not in the same way, even when playing doubles. I didn’t like that the movement on the court was so different…. and so on, and so forth, but these were just excuses. What I didn’t like, really, was the negative self-talk going on inside my head and the fact that I felt discouraged. Things like: “You’re not good enough. You’ll never get the hang of this. You’re the worst player on the court. This is too hard. You’re slowing others down and they don’t want to play with you.”

You see, I recently had an epiphany of sorts when I tried, once more, to play. Something would always happen on, or off, the court that would upset me and then I couldn’t enjoy myself any more. But, this time, instead of giving up, I found myself thinking, ‘Hang on! I can Repattern that!’ And I did. Every time I played badminton, I came home and did a Resonance Repatterning© session on myself, and I began to see a difference. I was having fun again, the negative self-talk went away, my physical conditioning improved, my shots improved, my accuracy, my movement on the court, my understanding of the game, my confidence, my speed.

Mental, emotional, physical limitations fell away (and not just on the badminton court either) and I realised – sport, more than any other area of my life, is the arena in which my negative patterns are revealed. That is why I have avoided it for so long. And that is why I now absolutely love it!

I am ready now, more than ever, to bring these patterns to light and work on them, to strip away the layers of negative beliefs and emotions that get in the way of me living my life to the fullest.

What about you? Which area of your life acts as a magnifying glass to highlight those aspects of yourself you’re ready to work on?

With love,

Sophia Avramides

Book Review of The Greatest Secret of All, by Marc Allen

I enjoy books which are presented in a form that can be turned around into a Resonance Repatterning® process.  Therefore, I was delighted to discover the book The Greatest Secret of All, by Marc Allen.  Marc Allen sets out to identify core beliefs (that can be changed) and conversely core affirmations—that can create.

The core belief process consists of identifying the answers to the following eight questions:

1.  What is the problem?  That one we know.

2.   What are you feeling physically?  Marc states that our negative emotions lie lower in the body than love, which resides in our heart.

3.  What are you feeling emotionally?  At the bottom of all those feelings lies fear.

4.  What am I telling myself repeatedly?  With this question we get  an opportunity to look at the negative statements we repeatedly tell ourselves rather than being their victim.

5.  What’s the worst that could happen?   And then–what’s the very worst that could happen?  In other words, what is behind all these fears?  We often try to hide our worst fears from ourselves.  This question allows the worst to show up.  It is often something that actually could not happen.

6.  What’s the best thing that could happen?  Inevitably the best thing that can happen is much more challenging for us  to connect to than the fear.  We have been telling our worst scenario and rarely do we visit our ideal scenario.

7.  What’s preventing that best-case scenario from happening?  Whatever thoughts float up are your deep underlying beliefs.  Those thoughts are the ‘I am of no value’ type.

8. What affirmation completely contradicts that belief?  That core affirmation is what can create what we desire.

Marc states in his book that you don’t have to believe the positive statements; he says you just have to identify them.  He said that he personally  prefers “I am creating___” statements over “I have___” statements.  He explains that “I am creating_____” statements are easier for the subconscious mind to acknowledge.

Marc summarizes the process as:  Dare to dream and make a plan.

And finally, Marc  describes “greatest secret of all” as becoming our own teacher and trusting our inner guidance,  being the master within.  The greatest secret is about loving and serving yourself and others.  He states that one must become fulfilled before you can help others be fulfilled.  One must serve oneself before one can serve others.

As I said, this formula can easily be used as a delightful repatterning.  Try it.  You will like it.

Sally Herr

Sally Herr is  a Certified Member of RPA and is Chair of the Journal Committee.  She is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner in Portland, Maine, and provides sessions in person, by phone and in groups.  She can be contacted at www.sallyherr.com.