What Would Love Do Right Now in Restoring Your Power?

A loss of personal power often occurs when you have what is called a triggered response. This happens when you are going along great in life, then someone comes too close, says or does something unexpected, you see/hear/ smell something, and—BAM—you have an emotional reaction that feels out of proportion and/or inappropriate relative to what just happened.

These triggers call up negative or hurtful experiences from the past, which impact your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors in the present. Your response can be big or small, immediate or sneak up on you slowly—it usually comes from traumatic, upsetting, unresolved, or suppressed memories. When you are reacting in this way, you have less power to be present and take appropriate action.

Since I have introduced Bernie to the question ‘what would love do right now?’, when he notices I’m triggered, he reminds me to use it. He simply looks into my eyes and says, “Honey, what would love do right now?” That brings me to the present and I say, “Oh, love would relax and take a deep breath. I’m going to take some time right now to figure out what this is all about. See you in a bit.” He kindly replies, “I’ll be here when you’re finished. Let me know if you need anything from me.” Then I use the Restoring My Power process to explore the incident that triggered me, release the past, and heal my heart.

I recommend you do this for yourself when you are triggered. It will set you free to love again. It will also set others free. I was able to resolve one of my recurring upsets triggered by Bernie’s behavior, through inquiring into what caused it, then choosing to make my needs a priority, and restoring my power.

I used to get quite angry and feel disrespected on the many mornings that Bernie left a mess in the kitchen before going to work. When I examined what bothered me so much about it, I remembered the first time my mom got home from work before I had cleaned the house to her strict standards. She started yelling, “I can’t believe you didn’t do what I asked. You are so ungrateful. I work hard to keep us in a nice neighborhood.” I concluded right then that being accepted depended on knowing the rules and obeying them to the letter, and that people who don’t clean up after themselves are ungrateful slobs. I was then able to share with Bernie in a new way. I let him know what I had discovered about the rules I have for being socially acceptable, and how I saw his behavior as being disrespectful and dishonoring me, whenever he left a mess in the kitchen. This provided us with the opportunity to lovingly work together to express our needs and desires and create a plan that worked for both of us.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, can identify the event that is triggering you, the conclusions you came to, like I did above, and the pattern that ensued. It then allows you to shift your resonance and heal the wounds from this past harmful experience. Once you heal what triggered you, your power can be restored!

You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choose a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.

 Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life and Three Magical Words for a Magical Life.

Author: Victoria Benoit, M.C.

I’m Victoria Benoit, Healer, Speaker, #1 Best-selling Author and Publisher, residing in Phoenix, Arizona. I am a fun-loving, optimistic woman living an extraordinarily rich life, filled with passion, love and enthusiasm. Along with my professional life, I enjoy ballroom, country, and west coast swing dancing, singing, biking, hiking, spending time in nature, and traveling to beaches around the world. My friends and family are especially dear to me, no matter what we’re doing. I was raised in Milwaukee with my three siblings who I helped raise. At 20 years old, I seized an opportunity to move to the big city of Chicago, knowing no one, relying solely on my own sense of adventure. Over the next 18 years, I began my spiritual journey of personal growth through the study of metaphysics, had a very successful career in medical ultrasound, and was married and divorce twice. In 1989, I decided it was time to move on—from the Windy City to the Valley of the Sun. Shortly after moving, I was forced to change careers due to a physical injury. In examining what to do next, I saw that through my work as a neonatal ultrasound technologist, I had experienced my natural ability to provide a space of profound love and compassion for couples in the initial stage of grief over the loss of their baby. I applied this insight to create a new career in supporting people through tough times. The next step in my journey was to attain my Master’s Degree and begin working as a Licensed Professional Counselor. I was quickly frustrated with my clients’ lack of progress using traditional methodologies. I decided to study other approaches to support people in creating lives they loved. This guided me to become a Certified Practitioner of Resonance Repatterning®, Soul Memory Discovery™, Spiritual Healing for Indigo's, Grigori Grabovoi Method, and Spiritual Healing for Indigos™. I found these methods to be highly-effective in restoring my clients’ physical, emotional, mental, financial, and spiritual well-being. In 1996, I opened the Center for Extraordinary Outcomes. Now, with countless clients experiencing extraordinary outcomes, I was again able to enhance the difference I make in the lives of others by moving beyond providing individual sessions to include teaching Resonance Repatterning for 15 years and conducting group repatterning sessions. Out of my passion and commitment to help people achieve their goals and dreams, I then developed and facilitated my ‘Heal Your Birth Journey-Heal Your Life’ workshop for over twelve years which has made a huge difference in the lives of many. I’ve been offering my, ‘Heal Your Family System – Heal Your Life’ workshop for over five years. While the Center continues to expand, I’ve created yet another way to make an even bigger difference—with even more people—I published my first Amazon #1 best-selling book, What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life. In this step-by-step guide to living an extraordinary life, I share my philosophy about the power of love, forgiveness, making amends, and emotional healing in those areas and relationships that effect one’s quality of life today—family, career, romance, health, finances, and self-expression. The readers—themselves—are able to release and heal the pain and suffering from past heartaches, disappointments, and failures that undermine their ability to manifest their dreams and that prevent them from living the life they were born to live. I’ve also penned six other books which are in the queue for publishing: "Living on the Skinny Branches of Life", “Relationship - A Sacred Journey to Your Greatness", "Three Magical Words for a Magical Life", "Conversations with the Fairy Realm", "Adventures with the Fairy Realm", and “No Weeping Widow Here.” I absolutely love the difference I make in the world! I am committed to helping people live a life they love—one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment. Contact Information: Victoria Benoit Victoria@ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com www.ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com 602.864.7662

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