One of the main concerns I’ve heard during my twenty five years of working with clients and especially when I had the privilege of talking with elderly people at the end of their life, was whether or not they fulfilled their life’s purpose.
I would ask them what they thought their purpose was. I reminded them that not everyone was going to be an Oprah Winfrey, Deepak Chopra, or Chloe Faith Wordsworth-developer of Resonance Repatterning®, and that their purpose was very unique to them. They did not have to be famous or up on stage, have books and CD’s out, be wealthy, married, or whatever they thought and believed might be a worthy purpose.
I would have them do what I call a life review. Starting in childhood, I would have them name all their accomplishments as well the qualities they embraced as they influenced all the people in their lives. From this inquiry, they would discover on their own, the theme, consistent quality, or way of being that really made a difference for them and the people who they positively affected both personally and professionally. Some of them commented that they were loving, patient, generous, understanding, compassionate, and/or kind-hearted. Others said, “I was a good mother–helpful and supportive.” or “I was a good father–generous and a good provider.” As you can imagine, the list went on and on. I then helped them see that what they accomplished in their lives and the qualities they exuded was their life purpose and that it was enough. Being a loving mother was enough. Being a good provider was enough. Taking a stand for peace and being peaceful was enough. Being light-hearted, humorous, and optimistic was enough! Knowing this opened their hearts, and a sense of peace and calm came over them. It actually brought them to tears–tears of knowing that they indeed did fulfill their purpose and lived a purpose-filled life!
I would not recommend waiting until the end of your precious life to discover your life‘s purpose. Sit down when you have uninterrupted time. Light a candle if you wish. Fill the room with your favorite scent. Close your eyes, take some slow deep breaths and do your own life review. Start when you were a child. What qualities or attributes did you radiate back then? Then continue by listing your accomplishments as an adult and use them to determine the qualities you’ve used to make a difference in those around you. You will be amazed at what you discover. Keep breathing. Keep writing. You will see a theme emerge. Now, go into the quiet of your inner essence and allow yourself to claim your life’s purpose. You may even experience that you are already living a purpose-filled life!
Victoria Benoit, M.C., Healer, Speaker, Bestselling Author of: What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life