From Self Punishment to Abundance

Recently I made a mistake in my schedule.  I scheduled two people at the same time.  The client that left without a session was the last client I would have wanted to do this to.  She is eight years old, does not talk.  She is beautiful and absolutely fascinating.  I feel so honored to get to work with her.

I felt devastated and frozen in fear. What if her family is so angry they do not want to come back?  I was so angry at myself!  What if all of my clients get angry at me and never want to see me again?  What if I lose my credentials to do this work?  What if I lose my house and the only place I have to live is in a culvert?  What would my mother and father say, think of me?

You can see where this was going.  My fear and shame was going stronger and stronger.  Everything we think has a vibration.  If we repeat a thought coupled with strong emotions—for better or worse—those thoughts take on a form, a vibration.  Sure enough, the next day, several of my clients did not show up.  Things were definitely headed in the exact direction that I feared.  My mind was manifesting my thoughts very rapidly.

So many people are having problems now.   We are manifesting what we think faster than ever before.   My trauma is small potatoes compared to what others are experiencing.

It is my opinion that at this point in our human evaluation everyone knows that things are changing.  In fact, two things are happening:  First, we are now living in a time in which—at a faster and faster rate, our negative thoughts are creating our experiences in our world.  Of course, at the same time our positive thoughts are doing the same.  And second, we humans are changing our unique vibrational patterns.  We are in a process of changing from being in the dead end  a mode of  “survival of the fittest” to a glorious mode of  “sharing to survive.”    Instead of taking from others, instead of priding ourselves on what is ours and those who are of our group, we are developing the qualities of tolerance, honesty, cooperation.  More and more of us understand that for us to survive and thrive on this planet, we must share what we have with others. This transformation will occur over the next ten years until only a very few of us will be in the first group.

Each of us are very much like snowflakes, we each have a very unique vibratory pattern.  We each have a very unique piece of the gigantic puzzle that is necessary to create our new Planet Earth.  The tsunamis, volcanic eruptions, and floods are all a part of the Earth shifting into this new way of being.   Just as we humans are shifting, the crumbling of institutions and wars are a transitionary phase of our shift.  Every creature on the planet; and Earth Herself is shifting.  Our Mother Earth is going through birth pangs in the process of creating this New Earth.  Humanity is going through birth pangs as we create a new race of humankind.

You and I are shifting.  And this shift is going to happen to everyone sooner or later.  Sometimes we think we are doing something wrong.  Maybe, for example, there is something I am very good at and do all the time.  I know how to do it.  Then all of a sudden, it’s not working any more.  I am not achieving the same results.  The challenge can come when I judge and blame myself.  Self-doubt can sap the energy that I have for going from one level to the next.

What is happening?  The Earth is making changes in order to provide space for humanity to change.  Because Earth and everyone on it is changing, things that worked in the past just don’t work any more.  People are loosing their jobs, moving, relationships are changing. It may be very painful, but things just don’t work anymore.

We all knew this was going to happen.  But the time is now and we are here.  This is not something to worry about.  No!  It is something to be happy about–even though it is difficult to remember when tragedy and stresses happen.

So what can we do while going through this transformation that we are now experiencing?

We can be gentle and loving toward ourselves.  What seems to be big mistakes could possibly simple be our adjusting to changes—just as is happening with our Earth.  When we appear to be making mistakes, it could be that things happen for a purpose.  Take my beautiful client who’s appointment I missed—she, too is going through huge changes.  She has just changed to a new school that is 45 minutes away from her home.  She feels overwhelmed and over stimulated.  Perhaps giving her a break, a much needed break, from our work together was unconsciously mutually agreed upon to give her what she needed most—rest.

Sometimes we mean to give out one signal and others understand something else.  As we adjust to the changes around us, it is very helpful to share with others—with our words—our fears and difficulties we are experiencing.

If you have a talent, if you have found a technique that works really well, share it.  Why?  It’s not because everyone is in such a bad place, but because we have evolved.  Have you noticed that in the past, time after time, you have struggled and were not heard?  You were not able to get your message out, because people did not have a high enough vibration to listen or understand.  Now you are here and you have something to say and you have something to do that will make a difference.  Now is the time for the longed for miracles to happen in your life.  You can now manifest what you have always dreamed of—even if you don’t know exactly what it is.

In summary, treat yourself and others with great respect.  Support others on the path and get help for yourself when you need it.  This is a wonder planet we live on and it is a most joyous time to be alive.

Sally Herr, MA

Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner

sally@maine.rr.com

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Book Review: The Power of Luck, A User’s Guide by Dolokhor and Gurangor

Resonance Repatterning Practitioners are in the business of supporting life changes.  We tap into the unconscious minds to identify the core issues, what is holding those issues in place and then we, again, using the unconscious minds, identify how to release those stuck issues that are now understood.

We glean from books the exact right pieces of information that is needed to use to support our clients.  I have found that we don’t need to refer to the Resonance Repatterning books; we can use other books.  Books that list possible problems and then list solutions work very well in the Resonance Repatterning paradigm.

The Power of Luck is a book that fits in that formula. It uses signs that occur in life, humor, stories—such as earlier experiences and fairy tales–and imagination to identify and release the core issue.

The authors call themselves magicians.  We are magicians, too.  Their mentors are skilled shape-shifters, including Lewis Carrol, Richard Bach and Carlos Castaneda.

Of course, you will need to read the book yourself to fully grasp their techniques; however, I would like to give you a taste of their approach.  They ask us to imagine that we really are immortal magicians who have created this world to just amuse ourselves.  In the first section of the book there are chapters describing strategies to identify the root issue and to change it around.  One is called renaming.  For example, a woman went shopping to choose a nightstand to match her furniture.  She and her friend drove all over the town, but could not find an acceptable piece anywhere.  She decided to re-name herself to help free her self of this confusion.  She immediately noticed a sign advertising:  “You know everything will happen in time.”  She gave herself the name:  “I am that which you know will happen in time!”  She saw a sign at the Department of Motor Vehicles:  “Every child on the road is your own!”  She became “I am someone else’s child who’s never on the road.”  She was just playing with names.  It made her happy.  Then she saw in front of her an astonishing sight:  An old man smiling from ear to ear, his grey beard flowing and carrying skis under his arm.  At that time, they were in front of a department store with a sign, “Furniture for Sale.”  Because of the sign of the old man, she knew that was the store—but wondered,”What if I am wrong?”  Inside there were the perfect nightstands at a very cheap price.

The second section gives stories about how people used their techniques to transform their problems.

I know that I am a magician.  I know that my imagination creates the life that I manifest.  I like this book because it gives me added techniques for becoming an even better magician.  I find this book helpful as an optional resource to address both my problems and those of my clients.

The Power of Luck,  A User’s Manual,  Dolokhov and Gurangov, Translated by Mark Havill, Deep Snow Press, Ithaca, New York

Sally Herr, MA

Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner

sally@sallyherr.com

Abundance Consciousness Police

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Abundance Consciousness Police

Ask me what is essential for an abundant life and these four are my response.    

  1. Awareness born of fearless, honest self-reflection.  
  2. Self-acceptance.
  3. The will to change.
  4. And faith in the power to do so.  

Some ideas promoted as abundance consciousness run contrary to these essentials.  Granted they are well intended.  But perhaps the road to well is not paved with good intentions.

Like many good ideas, abundance consciousness has fallen victim to the sound bites of popular advice.  Similar to what has happened to religions throughout time, popular culture has extracted surface meanings, removed thought-provoking depths, and served up pointless palaver.

The first law (according to the consciousness “experts”) is to avoid “I” statements that express negativity.  Here is a direct quote from the number one ranked site for the keyword ‘abundance consciousness,’

“Watch your language! Make sure that what follows “I” or “I am” is what you                  want to manifest. If you say “I am poor,” the Universe will answer you with its              only response: yes!”

Oh honestly!  Well, for one thing, that advice would omit every statement of non-coherence in every Repatterning!!  There is a quality of unquestioned authority around these teachings, a culture of blame growing like mold in a Petri dish.  The message is,  “It is not ok (to not be ok) and it was YOU not being ok that created the problem.”

I have a client who couldn’t finish her sentences.  The consciousness police taught her to fear manifesting an even worse reality through authentic expression. It was often 45 minutes into the session before she’d admit her real issues with the caveat, “I shouldn’t feel this way, wahhhhhh!”  I’ve had clients balk at saying the words “I need (fill in the blank)” for fear of manifesting more need.

While intended as a method for increasing awareness around the power of one’s thoughts, the unfortunate outcome is often an edited, judged, shamed, blamed, and frightened awareness.

They say that what you focus your thoughts on is what you manifest.  Maybe.  Yes.  And, well… no!  Maybe I can sum up by saying that gratitude and appreciation seem to work wonders.  But equally important is the simple truth that when I’m not there, I’m not. I’m just NOT.

The solution is not to deny my authentic feelings, not to pretend I am enlightened when indeed I am not. Abundance consciousness can lead to denial. Denial is formidable.

The hidden treasure in my negative situation is my process, my evolution towards more coherence.  It is an opportunity to discover unmet needs and negative beliefs, hurt feelings and unresolved relationships.  It is nothing less than the opportunity to see where my soul is ready to grow and in order to do so I must feel free to speak my experience, fearlessly trusting in the power of bringing truth to light.

When all IS well in my world, it is not because my mind has created wellness by pretending all is well!  When I am in a bright, clear space within, I don’t get there by “shoulding” my feelings.  When I am in peace and acceptance, when I am “attracting or manifesting” the positive, my focus is on taking action around my “problems”– what I have that I don’t want/ what I want that I don’t have.

In an Energy Constriction Release, I  support their “I need” statement by noting what a wonderful world it would be if everyone had that particular need met.  I say it is a healthy need, worthy of taking a stand for.  This response to their need is often in stark contrast to their feeling guilty and broken for having the need.

Abundance consciousness type solutions are what people resort to when they don’t have Resonance Repatterning.   (The poor impoverished dears!)

Suppressing fear creates a mind at war with itself. A mind that is in fear of its own fear. A mind that insists that its own lack of power is stronger than the power of bringing truth to light.

“I’m trying to change reality with my thoughts,” said another client, owner of a once thriving real estate firm.  “My company is losing money and I can’t pay the bills.  But I still go on trips and take cabs because I’m afraid of poverty consciousness.”

She was trapped in mental turmoil, looking for the blame inside herself.  “How did I create this?” she pondered sleeplessly, believing that if she performed the correct mental gymnastics she would undo the voodoo hoodoo of loss.   She was not fully present to name problems and take positive actions.

How can unmet needs be resolved with love and communication when there is fear, blame and belief that speaking the truth will manifest more of the same?  
Unquestioned belief in “thought manifestation” can result in fear of being.  It is a terrifying idea that you cause your troubles if you are anything other than a bliss ninny.

Naming a lack does not create the lack!  If it did, how could we create anything?  If I say I am thirsty, am I manifesting more thirst?  Am I not more likely to build a bridge if I notice that I need one?  Does putting locks on your doors manifest burglars?  Does using birth control manifest unwanted pregnancies? Does responsible stewardship of resources equal poverty consciousness?

How does abundance consciousness explain the occupation of Tibet or AIDS or genocide or abortion?

The planets are in constant motion, ever changing relationships to one another.  Does the moon not wax and wane and the sun rise and fall?  One must see oneself –not as cause–but as transcending the fickle winds of fate.

Fearing the shame of one’s own negative thoughts is like fearing the gas gauge on the car that indicates it is low.  Obviously, the potential power of the car is not determined by the amount of gas — but it does require gas.  Similarly, our thoughts are merely indicators of an underlying condition that requires healing.  What needs Repatterning is not the thoughts so much as the fear of the thoughts, the  lack of positive power attributed to the experience of  thoughts.  I genuinely ask how this level of consciousness is different than a small child thinking they caused their parents divorce?

Thanks to Resonance Repatterning, which includes the non-coherent within the healing process, both of these clients have turned things around.

They are:

  1. Expressing ALL their feelings, recognizing their needs and facing reality responsibly (awareness born of fearless, honest self-reflection.)
  2. Letting go of blame and forgiving life (self-acceptance.)
  3. Facing and acting on the ‘harsh realities’ of life (the will to change.)
  4. And in the process they are gaining faith in their power to do so.

Necessity is the mother of invention.  Let’s invent ways to perceive needs as the seeds of abundance.  Let’s spread the idea that recognizing needs or lack is what activates our power to create and manifest.  Let’s take a stand for UN conditional awareness.

When we resonate with the power of bring the truth to light, we will finally stop fearing (and denying) fear itself.

What about you?  Have you grappled with these questions in your life?  How about your clients? We’d love to have a discussion about this, feel free to comment.  The more voices heard from the better.

Laura Frisbie

laurafrisbie@gmail.com

http://www.beat-depression-naturally.com

Health is an Inside Job

To be healthy is to be happy on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. And to be happy is to be healthy on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It sounds like an easy remedy and the good news is, it can be. You can start right where you are, just the way you are.

It all starts with self-love. It is easy to love yourself when all is going well and according to your plans. However, can you love yourself when you just lost your job, or your partner chooses to leave the relationship you’ve been in for ten years?? Can you love yourself when you’ve been diagnosed with arthritis, cancer or any aliment?? How about when someone close to you makes their transition?

These are the times when you need to rely on the reserves of love you have for yourself. Remember the time you succeeded in achieving your goal? You got the job, finished running the 5K, or sold the first pair of earrings you made? What about when you really wanted to move and you did, or when it was best for you to leave a relationship you have been in for a while and you did. How about when you took your first Resonance Repatterning® seminar and you said to yourself, “I am going to go for my professional certification”, and you did. Remember the energy you had when you accomplished your goal? Remember how you celebrated?? This is the energy, the love within, that you can rely on now to help you when you need it the most, for your health.

For the past year, when I have found myself in a growth opportunity, I have used the simple phrase, ‘what would love do right now?’ I may not have been able to do what Mother Teresa would do; however, I’d always do something more loving than I would have done before asking the question. I have shared this phrase with several of my clients, colleagues and friends. They have all shared amazing stories of the difference this inquiry has made. You too can apply this to every area of your life.

Let’s start with physically. What would love do right now? Love might look in the mirror and say, “I love you and accept you just the way you are, and I want to live a long healthy life. To do that I will find a food plan that supports my well-being, I will go for a walk out in nature every morning, I will get my teeth cleaned, take up yoga, get my eyes examined, etc.” Be sure to follow-up on these ideas or they are just that, ideas.

Emotionally, what would love do right now? Perhaps, love would apologize for something you said that you really didn’t mean to say during a recent argument. Love would forgive someone who you perceived harmed you. Love might take the risk to love again, to share your deep feelings. Remember the quote, ‘I would have rather have loved and gotten hurt, than to have never loved.’ What are you waiting for? I have a quote on my refrigerator by Erica Jong that says “If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.” Wow, how true. What are the steps you can take to open your heart again? Who would you feel safe having a Resonance Repatterning® session with? Call them, make an appointment and keep the appointment. It is never too late to have a fabulous love life if that is something you want.

Mentally, what would love do right now? Love might take the time to focus and get really clear on your goals and write them down. Don’t forget the ‘by when’. Love would get the support you need to accomplish your goals. Love would ask for help. Love would change your attitude and be more optimistic. Perhaps love would write down on paper all the lists you have in your head to create some free moments in your mind. Then love would make a plan to complete the tasks on your list.

Spiritually, what would love do right now? Love might take time each morning to connect with your inner Divinity, even just for twenty minutes. It would also be beneficial to do the same thing right before bed; being grateful for the day with all its wondrous moments and even the less than wonderful ones. The more peaceful you are before sleep, the more restful and rejuvenating your sleep will be.

Every moment you are being given an opportunity to be happy and healthy; to grow and transform. When you engage fully in life, life can fully engage with you. I sometimes tell people that I live out on the skinny branches of life. It is not always easy however, the rewards are extraordinary.

You are responsible for the quality of your life. Take time to nurture yourself. Be good to yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself to wholeness.


Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses. Victoria has just completed her first book, “What Would Love Do Right Now?” It will be available on-line and on the stands in July of 2011.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662

 

 

Try Humility for More Prosperity Power!

The root of the word humility is “humble.”  In its traditional meaning, which we associate with Christianity and other religious teachings, being humble implies modesty and being unassuming, or even the kind of self-debasement where we make ourselves less than others.  Take the expression “Eating humble pie”–yuck! How on earth could a quality like that be part of creating abundance and prosperity for yourself?

Our mainstream American culture says that anyone can succeed and better themselves, and in fact, there is something wrong with them if they don’t.  The dominant model of success—which is fortunately beginning to shift in the age of the conscious entrepreneur – is about getting attention, standing out, and dominating in the marketplace.   It says we will succeed only by tooting our own horn and the louder the better!   What could be less humble than that? That is if we  define humility as being modest, small, and making oneself less than others.

Two other spiritual traditions I know address the link betwen humility and prosperity—the teachings of Hinduism/yoga, and also Sufi teachings that I’ve absorbed through Mark Silver and his Heart of Business materials.

On the yoga path, a key teaching is “You are not the doer”.  That means that while you may act and serve in various ways, you are a conduit through which Source energy is flowing and expressing itself.  You are not the ultimate cause of what happens, yet you are also responsible for your part in things.  Your results come from a blend of self effort and grace. Humility is there to help us take credit for our achievements and our failures too, while staying  aware that we are also actors on the cosmic stage of life, playing a part in larger trends and  in our individual and collective destinies.  So we can relax and surrender to the fact that we aren’t completely in charge.  From there we can see that everything is part of an interconnected web that takes into account the greatest good for all souls–not just our personal needs and desires.

In the Sufi way, humility is actually a quality of the Divine, and it has to do with accepting a larger, unknowable destiny or grand scheme of life.  So when someone has a great shift after a Resonance Repatterning session, we stand in awe and amazement, we may even be humbled by the wisdom and resilience within our client, or by the power of the work itself—but we don’t take all the credit.  Similarly, if we say something in a session that we later realize wasn’t so skillful, or we realize we haven’t been marketing our business well, we also understand that this is part of our journey and our learning, these seeming failures or disappointments, and we can correct our course at any time.

In terms of money and prosperity, again, humility can help us to be at peace with what is.  We learn to accept what our current situation is and flow with it, even though we may prefer and work towards more prosperity.  Humility here helps us to acknowledge when there appears to be a defeat or setback, that there is a bigger picture, even if we can’t see what it is in the moment, and also to ask for help to change what we can change, and accept and live with what can’t be changed—the serenity prayer.

That brings us to the other aspect of humility–the basic human condition of neediness. As the Sufis remind us, we are creatures of need, right from the beginning.  A baby needs feeding, care, touch, attention, etc. for its very existence. Our entire life is a continuous process of needing things from other people, from the earth and from Source.  We need food to eat, air to breathe, clean water, loving touch, and much more, that we cannot provide for ourselves.  It takes humility to accept that we have needs.  Yet if we do that, we can ask for help when we need it, and we recognize that we are not self-sufficient, that we are truly interconnected.  I believe this kind of humility is more realistic and helps foster working together and a happier world.

As a practitioner, being humble could mean admitting if we were wrong or less than skillful, or being willing to allow and learn from other perspectives.   At times we might need to apologize for not communicating our fees or boundaries clearly.  Humility could also be standing in awe of our clients, or being compassionate and empathic rather than feeling responsible for, or judging their progress or stuckness.   When we have more understanding and compassion for our clients, we become better practitioners and more successful marketers.   Think of how much humility it takes for you—or your clients—to get the point of asking for help with a problem or pattern.   A person generally goes to a healer or coach when they are in pain, are stuck and need assistance with making a change.  So when you are talking to a new or returning client, when you are composing your marketing messages,  remember how humbling and vulnerable a place they are in, and address that with your nurturing Earth element, your appreciative Metal, your optimistic Wood, your empowering Water, or your Fiery warmth and humor.

As a business owner, humility might mean looking closely at what is and isn’t working, and perhaps acknowledging where there are knowledge gaps about marketing or accounting, or even in your skills a as a practitioner.  Humility helps us see when it’s time to get help from a mentor, coach, friend or healer, learning program or an office assistant. Humility helps us be compassionate when things take longer than we expect them to, and to accept that we are imperfect and don’t always know what to do.  Humility helps us step back from time to time and ask “is it time to change course here, or what else is needed?”

One final way humility contributes to prosperity is that it’s a close cousin to acceptance and forgiveness.  As we release our ideas that “this shouldn’t be happening” or our resistance to what actually is—we can be more spontaneous, and more open to creative new ideas and solutions.   As we forgive or give forth, we yield to the way things are, to our feelings, and to the state of the world as it is.  We are more easily able to let go of pride, denial, resistance, our ego identification with outcomes and our judgments about ourselves, our clients, our businesses, lives and the world we live in.

Ironically, humility and acceptance allow us the clarity to see what needs to be addressed and the strength and motivation that comes from being in alignment with our higher purpose, all of which enable us to create greater prosperity.   May you be inspired to cultivate humility and be profited and  blessed by its many gifts!

Ellen Shapiro

LAUGHTER

What a gift ! ! ! It is part of our inherited abundance and available to everyone–at no cost and at every age! Starting out in this world, we laugh before we learn to speak words. At age 92 the Boston marathon runner Gladys Barrow was asked prior to this Patriot’s Day race, her 8th consecutive participation, how she managed to compete? She said she stays fit and always finds things to laugh about. Laughter connects people–to others and to themselves.

There’s more energy and benefit in sharing laughter than laughing by yourself. The bonds created in laughing together with someone act as a strong buffer against stress, disagreements and disappointment. And you don’t need a sense of humor to express laughter, just a willingness to risk some loss of control. Who hasn’t been on a belly-laugh roll and tried to stop because the occasion seems to call for less than hilarity–for some of those present?

Where does laughter come from? It comes from stress that accumulates in the body-mind system–and it seems as if there is more than enough of that to go around. Yes, it comes from stress and it deals with stress most effectively in myriad ways.

Physically, “the diaphragm, thorax, abdomen, heart, lungs, and even the liver are given a massage during a hearty laugh,” according to Dr. Marvin E. Herring of New Jersey’s School of Osteopathic Medicine. Laughter brings more oxygen to the body and brain, increases the count of natural killer cells which help the immune system destroy cancer cells and resist disease, improves blood circulation to the coronary arteries and dilates the blood vessels to help reduce blood pressure (from the work of Dr. Michael Miller of Maryland University), and  Dr. Lee Berk’s study confirms that “laughter therapy significantly helps to bring down blood sugar levels, thereby controlling diabetes.” Ten minutes of healthy laughter is equal to 30 minutes on the rowing machine was established scientifically by Dr. William Fry from Stanford University, who sees it as the best cardio workout with benefits similar to jogging, swimming and cycling.  Through relieving tension and stress, muscles relax and pain is diminished, or at least we are less overwhelmed.

Mentally, laughter affords a different, healthier perspective to problem solving. Not only are the physical benefits supporting the laughing individual, but the person can apply a more playful approach to a challenging issue, increasing the possibilities. It enhances resilience and helps defuse conflict. People practicing Laughter Yoga report higher energy levels and improved mental attitude, and Laughter Yoga groups are springing up all over the country.

Emotionally, laughter impacts the number one sickness in the world–depression–by lowering stress hormones, helping to release neurotransmitters from the brain cells,  lifting mood and increasing intimacy. It brings people to the present moment, eases anxiety and fear, adds zest and joy to life, and promotes a positive, optimistic outlook through difficult situations. That hearty laugh can help you relax and recharge, increasing energy and your ability to stay focused. Making a conscious effort to incorporate more humor and play in your daily interactions can improve your relationships at every level. As Enda Junkins says in her book We Need to Laugh More, “Laughter is feeling deeply which allows us to live fully.”

What do we laugh at? It could be anything and everything that gets our attention and doesn’t fit our expectation. In an effort to break away from being overly serious, laughing at yourself is often suggested. However, being laughed at can carry a negative connotation. So laughing with yourself is a more comfortable approach for me.

I offer a meta exercise, which Chris Belanger defined at his Laughter Meditation workshop as a “loving kindness” exercise. He started the group with everyone giving him/herself a big hug and laughing with self. It doesn’t take long to get really swept up in the laughter roaring, bubbling, chuckling, giggling, snickering, and/or snorting. After many minutes, we were silenced with a chime and instructed to close our eyes and notice what was going on inside our body, how we were feeling. Following the time to integrate that first part, we continued the cycle in sequence: with eyes closed and arms crossed over our chest, we envisioned laughing with someone we loved; with elbows bent and hands raised facing forward, we envisioned laughing with someone we knew casually but not well; with arms extended upward, we envisioned laughing with someone with whom we have had a difficult relationship; with arms extended outward, we envisioned laughing with the world. It was a profound experience for me, one in which during a silence I felt completely at one with the room and all it embraced; there were no boundaries, no limits. I felt the ultimate in peace and calm.

We’ve all heard that laughter is the best medicine AND it feels fabulous! So laugh out loud, look and listen for ever more opportunities to express your feelings in helpful ways and bring others along with you.

Laughter is an instant vacation – Milton Berle

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. – Victor Borge

What soap is to the body, laughter is to the soul. – Yiddish Proverb

Laughter gives us distance.  It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on. – Bob Newhart

The most wasted of all days is one without laughter. – e.e. cummings

Seven days without laughter makes one weak. – Mort Walker

Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face. – Victor Hugo

By Nancy B. Martin

Resonance Repatterning® and Abundance

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about and working on Abundance, so this month’s Journal theme is right up my alley.  Twenty years ago I had a moment of clarity and realized that I was living in a state of scarcity, lack and poverty consciousness.  I worked seven days a week, had no vacation time, put in 67 hours between two jobs and was out of my house about 85 hours each week.  Having the moment of clarity was a miracle in itself since I was so tired most of the time I was simply on autopilot, moving from point A to point B and completing whatever task was in front of or assigned to me.

So in this moment of clarity I see that I’ve been looking at life, resources, and myself from one fixed position.  There’s never enough.  I was like a satellite dish only receiving this one signal.  I needed to know what other signals might be out there and then I needed to figure out how to become a receptor for them.  This was years before my first encounter with Resonance Repatterning, but intuitively I understood that once I’d identified my problem, “I live in a state of scarcity and lack,” I needed to identify a new way of being–specifically and in detail.

I decided to look up the opposite or antonym of scarcity because I wanted to flip the coin and live at the other end of the spectrum.  What I found was abundance.  A·bun·dance, according to dictionary.com is:

          an extremely plentiful supply, a great or plentiful amount, an overflowing fullness. 

That was a good start, but I wanted more detail so I looked up the synonyms for abundance and found:

         affluence, wealth, ampleness, bounty, copiousness, fortune, myriad, opulence,
plenitude, plenty, plethora, profusion, prosperity, prosperousness, riches, and thriving.

YES, I thought, Yes indeed!  THESE are the signals I’d like to be receiving, but how do I become a subscriber to these signals of abundance, where do I sign up?  How do I become a receptor and turn myself in the direction of nurturance, plenty, prosperousness and abundance?”

I did okay for a while by simply changing my focus, but once Resonance Repatterning came into my life, answering the questions above became much easier.  The first time I used Resonance Repatterning to work on abundance or prosperity issues was during the three and a half years I participated in Kenya de Rosa’s weekly group for creative artists.  Kenya created this group in 1999 with the intention of helping creative artists clear away blockages that kept them from achieving all they desired for their creative selves and lives.

In Kenya’s group we worked with Catherine Ponder’s classic book The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity.  Using Resonance Repatterning to literally shift ourselves ON so we were resonating with the affirmations we found in the book was a revelation for me.  Doing this work taught me how resonating or being aligned with a thought or action manifested in me, physically, emotionally and mentally.  When I’m resonating with something everything is lined up inside me, there’s ease in my body and an upward flow of energy.  When I’m not resonating with my thoughts or actions, I suffer from that push-me-pull-you tension of wanting something with part of me while another less visible part pulls hard against it.

Working with Kenya inspired me to take classes to learn Resonance Repatterning for myself.  I began my studies in 2002 and in 2007 achieved my certification.  From the moment I completed Fundamentals, I’ve been using the tools of Resonance Repatterning to get my satellite dish pointed in the right direction so I can be receptive to the signals and frequencies of abundance.  Resonance Repatterning is an ideal tool for switching our systems ON for thriving and taking in the richness of life.  After Kenya’s group, I’ve been involved with many different groups using Resonance Repatterning to support an alignment with Abundance.

I participated in a prosperity group in 2004 offered by my dear friend and fellow practitioner Carol Cannon.  Carol is a Reiki Master, and so we used Reiki, principles and information from Debtors Anonymous and Resonance Repatterning to clear issues and intentions related to Abundance.  This was one of my favorite prosperity groups, as I won a free trip to London while I was in it.  Man, I LOVE manifesting!

Early in 2010 I spoke with Liz Tobin about the upcoming Annual RPA Conference and while we were chatting, I said I was in the process of launching my private practice.  She told me when she began her practice someone recommended she try offering a 100 Days of Prosperity proxy package for $100 – just a dollar a day.  She said it worked quite well for her and recommended I try it for myself.  This was like receiving a signal from an oracle, as Liz is a master of the proxy group.  Check out her “Transforming Money Archetypes and Karmic Contracts” series.  I joined and highly recommend it.  Being able to receive regular sessions in this manner has had a powerful and profound effect on me, on my life and the work I do.

Liz’s suggestion for the 100 Days project created a world of new possibilities for me.  Not only could I use the tools of Resonance Repatterning to become a receptor for abundance, I could offer this to others as well.  I could be a receptor, and a transmitter.  I could launch my business, share Resonance Repatterning with more people, helping them to create positive change in their lives, and continue to explore the myriad facets of abundance. Doing this 100 Days project was so successful that I’ve offered it twice already and my clients are eagerly anticipating my next session.

As I said, I’ve thought a lot about abundance since that moment of clarity twenty years ago, so this is a topic that’s not only close to my heart, its something I’ve learned quite a bit about.  I’ve come to understand that in working on abundance we work on the full spectrum of life itself.  Delving down and identifying the blockages we have when it comes to giving and receiving, creating coherence regarding our energy, power and success or working with our feelings of being safe and deserving touch core patterns that exist across all features of our human landscape.  I’ve learned that in working to align with abundance we must chase our every feeling, belief and experience of scarcity, lack or shortage out of the dark and into the light.  I’ve learned that we need to be fearless and to be gentle, compassionate and passionate, we need to empower and to allow ourselves to flourish and to thrive.

Having the opportunity to learn and the ability to use a system like Resonance Repatterning supports all of us in becoming an abundant source of coherence, comfort and service for our clients and in our world.  Being a source, as well as receiving from Source is, so far, the best way I’ve found of aligning with and experiencing abundance in my life.  But this is far from the end of my road; I always want to know more.  Tell me about your experiences with abundance and Resonance Repatterning.  Let’s all of us work to align with “an overflowing fullness” of all that life has to offer.

Joie Jacobsen
Holistic Practitioner
Resonance Repatterning®, VortexHealing® Divine Energy Healing, SOURCE Integrative Heart Awareness, YOUR Story: Allegory Healing Meditation, and Tarot

Transformation

Transformation

What is it really to transform something or someone?? What are we really doing when we facilitate sessions?  I love to begin with Webster: Transformation: 1. to change the form or outer appearance of, 2. to change the condition, nature or function of – to convert, 3. to change the personality or character of, 4. to change one form of energy into another.

He continues to say that transformation in the broadest scope of these terms, implies a change either in external form, inner nature or in function (she was transformed into a happy girl). From its earlier use in alchemy, it suggests a change in basic nature that seems to be miraculous, like from being shy to gregarious. To convert implies a change in details so as to be suitable for new use, like converting an attic into an apartment, or from not being in an intimate relationship for years to dating and enjoying it. It is like a metamorphosis, suggesting a startling change produced as if by magic, like a caterpillar into a butterfly.

How exciting it is to know that what we are doing with people is in the dictionary! This is exactly what we do. Each session we provide change, helping someone become distinctly different – a transformation of character and replacing it with something better. As I follow up with clients after their session, it continues to amaze me what they experience: “My father called me after 30 years of no contact.”, “My breast lump shrunk.”, “I passed the Bar exam after not passing 3 other times.”, “I created and found the job of my dreams and I start tomorrow.”, “My boyfriend asked me to marry him and asked my father for my hand in marriage.” “I won my court case. I’ll be receiving my check for $100,000.00 next week.” I could go on and on and on. Thank you Chloe for developing such a profound transformational system that we can help ourselves and others!

As practitioners, I believe we have a responsibility to encourage our clients to look for how life is different because they did the session and they will see it everywhere. I remind them that what they look for in life is what they see, so rather than waiting for some results to show up, actively be aware, notice what is different and acknowledge it. This is actually part of the transformation. Then when I do my follow-up call with them, we celebrate their results and what they are noticing that has improved. I find this especially effective with my clients who are having their first session.

As I contemplate how this process works so well, I am reminded of the sessions I have had with different practitioners and what they did to facilitate such a profound transformation in me. I would have to say it was their ‘presence’ that made such a difference. I felt safe to go deep, safe to reveal, safe to be vulnerable. They had the ability to get out of their world and a genuine interest to get into mine.  I felt heard, acknowledged and ‘gotten’.  There is nothing quite like getting ‘gotten.’  Consider this a reminder to do the same with your clients and do the personal preparation you need to do before each session, so you can be fully present for them.

Receive sessions from other practitioners yourself. Do sessions on yourself as a part of your routine, your self care.

The more the client feels safe and taken care of, the more they will trust you with their friends and loved ones and the more personal referrals you will receive from them.  The results speak for themselves, but the caring healing space you create speaks volumes. How exciting it is to be in the business of transformation!

Lovingly,


Victoria Benoit, M.C.

Victoria has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner since 1994 and Teacher for fifteen years in Phoenix, AZ. In 1996 she opened the “Center for Extraordinary Outcomes”. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, she has used Resonance Repatterning® and five other methods, rather than psychotherapy, with her clients for the past 16 years. She is available for in-person and phone sessions for individuals, couples, groups, families and businesses.

Work Phone:  602-864-7662