What Would Love Do Right Now in Your Formative Relationships?

As a newborn baby, you smell so good and feel so soft. You are kissable and huggable. You express yourself fully, holding nothing back. Even when you fill your diaper, others see it as an accomplishment.

Newborn babies are so miraculous. They are fresh, untouched, and unscathed by life, love, boys, girls, parents, school, other kids, or siblings. They are pure and precious. Each of us enters the world in this state.

So, what happened? When does this begin to change for us? What happened is life in its fullest measure with all its giving and taking, its longings, disappointments, pleasures, pains, hurt, trauma, abuse, and even death. Over time, we become hardened, dry, unexpressive, angry, bitter, and mean; sometimes we even get abusive. You may not know any other way to be; you may take things out on others around you, especially those you love the most, and the cycle continues. You may be asking, “Is this all there is? There has to be more to life than this.” I am here to tell you…there is!

Your Relationship with Your Parents

Loving and being loved fully starts by healing your relationship with your parents. It’s never too late, even if they are deceased or no longer in your life. Most of your current reality stems from unresolved past experiences while growing up with your parent(s) or primary caregiver(s).

As a young child, the world was all about you and you believed everything bad that happened was YOUR FAULT. For example: if your mother was crying, it was your fault; if your father was angry, it was your fault; if your parents divorced, it was your fault. As a result, you may have thought, “If I were more helpful, my mother wouldn’t be sad,” “If I were quieter, my father wouldn’t yell,” or “If I behaved better, they wouldn’t get divorced.”

As a teenager, you may have shifted the blame to your parents believing every bad thing that happened to you was THEIR FAULT. For example: if your boyfriend broke up with you, it was somehow your mother’s fault; if you didn’t make the team, it was somehow your father’s fault; if you failed your driver’s test, it was somehow your parents’ fault. As a result, you may have thought, “There’s something wrong with me,” “I’m unlovable,” or “I can’t count on anyone.”

As an adult, you may have come to understand that your parents did the best they could, and yet they were less than ideal parents. Like you, your parents were once children. They also experienced many unmet needs, disappointments, hurts, betrayals, and feelings that were never resolved. Like you, out of these unresolved experiences, they drew negative conclusions and developed beliefs about themselves, others, relationships, finances, and life in general, such as: “I’m unworthy and don’t deserve anything good,” “Men hurt me/Women smother me,” or “Life is unsafe and scary.”

It’s important to note that your parents behaved as if these conclusions, beliefs, and judgments were true—they could not be or act any other way— and neither can you.

However, if your inner child is still harboring feelings of hurt and betrayal, or any experiences of neglect, abandonment, or abuse, resolving them— putting them in the past where they belong—can free you to be the person you know you can be.

It’s important to identify and change your resonance with the earlier experiences, the unresolved feelings, and conclusions you came to about yourself, others, and life that are currently keeping you from attaining the extraordinary life you are here to live.

It is never too late to have a great relationship with your parents.

Your Relationship with Others

While you were growing up, in addition to your relationship with your parent(s), your relationships with other people also continue to have an impact on how you relate to others in your day-to-day life.

Consider, as a child, there were moments in your relationships with your playmates or siblings when you may have felt jealous, superior, protective, rejected, shamed, etc. Also, you may have felt forced to interact and be on your best behavior with other family members—grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins. During your school years, how your teachers and coaches related to you may have had a significant effect on your beliefs about your own intelligence, capacity to learn, and ability to compete. All of these relationships continue to affect how you relate to yourself and others, your self-confidence, as well as your view of life today.

This is where Resonance Repatterning® comes in. This method, developed by Chloe Faith Wordsworth, releases the resonance with unresolved harmful experiences, the unmet life needs, along with the resulting feelings and beliefs. You may want to consider going to the Repatterning Practitioners Association website and choosing a certified practitioner you feel guided to working with and give them a call. You’ll be amazed at the results.

May the wisdom inside you take you on a journey into your heart where your greatness abides. Now, that’s living a heart-centered, extraordinary life!

Lovingly Submitted,

Victoria Benoit, M.C.                                                                                                          

Healer, Speaker, Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, What Would Love Do Right Now?  A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life.

Author: Victoria Benoit, M.C.

I’m Victoria Benoit, Healer, Speaker, #1 Best-selling Author and Publisher, residing in Phoenix, Arizona. I am a fun-loving, optimistic woman living an extraordinarily rich life, filled with passion, love and enthusiasm. Along with my professional life, I enjoy ballroom, country, and west coast swing dancing, singing, biking, hiking, spending time in nature, and traveling to beaches around the world. My friends and family are especially dear to me, no matter what we’re doing. I was raised in Milwaukee with my three siblings who I helped raise. At 20 years old, I seized an opportunity to move to the big city of Chicago, knowing no one, relying solely on my own sense of adventure. Over the next 18 years, I began my spiritual journey of personal growth through the study of metaphysics, had a very successful career in medical ultrasound, and was married and divorce twice. In 1989, I decided it was time to move on—from the Windy City to the Valley of the Sun. Shortly after moving, I was forced to change careers due to a physical injury. In examining what to do next, I saw that through my work as a neonatal ultrasound technologist, I had experienced my natural ability to provide a space of profound love and compassion for couples in the initial stage of grief over the loss of their baby. I applied this insight to create a new career in supporting people through tough times. The next step in my journey was to attain my Master’s Degree and begin working as a Licensed Professional Counselor. I was quickly frustrated with my clients’ lack of progress using traditional methodologies. I decided to study other approaches to support people in creating lives they loved. This guided me to become a Certified Practitioner of Resonance Repatterning®, Soul Memory Discovery™, Spiritual Healing for Indigo's, Grigori Grabovoi Method, and Spiritual Healing for Indigos™. I found these methods to be highly-effective in restoring my clients’ physical, emotional, mental, financial, and spiritual well-being. In 1996, I opened the Center for Extraordinary Outcomes. Now, with countless clients experiencing extraordinary outcomes, I was again able to enhance the difference I make in the lives of others by moving beyond providing individual sessions to include teaching Resonance Repatterning for 15 years and conducting group repatterning sessions. Out of my passion and commitment to help people achieve their goals and dreams, I then developed and facilitated my ‘Heal Your Birth Journey-Heal Your Life’ workshop for over twelve years which has made a huge difference in the lives of many. I’ve been offering my, ‘Heal Your Family System – Heal Your Life’ workshop for over five years. While the Center continues to expand, I’ve created yet another way to make an even bigger difference—with even more people—I published my first Amazon #1 best-selling book, What Would Love Do Right Now? A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life. In this step-by-step guide to living an extraordinary life, I share my philosophy about the power of love, forgiveness, making amends, and emotional healing in those areas and relationships that effect one’s quality of life today—family, career, romance, health, finances, and self-expression. The readers—themselves—are able to release and heal the pain and suffering from past heartaches, disappointments, and failures that undermine their ability to manifest their dreams and that prevent them from living the life they were born to live. I’ve also penned six other books which are in the queue for publishing: "Living on the Skinny Branches of Life", “Relationship - A Sacred Journey to Your Greatness", "Three Magical Words for a Magical Life", "Conversations with the Fairy Realm", "Adventures with the Fairy Realm", and “No Weeping Widow Here.” I absolutely love the difference I make in the world! I am committed to helping people live a life they love—one that is overflowing with love, joy, passion and fulfillment. Contact Information: Victoria Benoit Victoria@ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com www.ExtraordinaryOutcomes.com 602.864.7662

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